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Hey everyone!My name is Brina,I've been on this site for a few years, after not being on for a while, I figured I'd start up again, having more knowledge then before! I'm 19 years old and am going to be a sophomore in college this coming fall! Please feel free to ask me anything!


I'VE BEEN VERY BUSY WITH SCHOOL SO MY APOLOGIES IF I DON'T GET TO YOUR QUESTIONS RIGHT AWAY!

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Evcer since i was littel. .everyone hads been calling me a duck because of the way that i walk. . .i really just need help0 to learn how not to care what people think. .sometimes i wish i could just be someone elese or something. . .

Everyone is unique in there own way. Your uniqueness is that way you walk and theres nothing wrong with that. If people are being immature by calling you a duck thats just stupid because some people have problems with walking and they shouldnt be made fun of they should be praised with kindness. You just have to member that not everyone is perfect. I sometimes wish i could be someone else sometimes to see what it would be like to look different and act different. Your probably going to be one of the most safisticated people out of your grade when you get older and they will all regret being mean to you because good people go a long way and mean people dont get anywhere in life.
~Brina~

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Hi. Me and my boyfriend (now ex) started going out in May 2004. I am a person that doesn't trust easily, but by June, I trusted him. By September, I was convinced I was in love.
We went to the same school, and were constantly by each other, and he always was to my house on weekends. He was a perfect guy.

But in December, someone in his family died, and his family had to move far from here. So we had to break up. We both cried together on the phone and everything, he was telling me that I wouldn't be able to see him until next year, when he'll have enough money to buy his car. After he left, I broke down.

I thought it would just take time, but it's March, and things have only gotten worse. I told my mother that I want to see a counselor or something.

Do you have any other ideas for this? I'm not looking to get over him, but I want to control my thoughts and feelings because they're taking over my life, my grades are dropping, and my friends tell me I look horrible( from crying myself to sleep) I often think this isn't fair.
I would greatly appreciate your help. Thanks in advance.

Its deffinitly not fair when a friend or boyfriend moves away. You just have to member that he'll probably always be a friend to you no matter what since he seems like how you explained a really nice guy. There will be boyfriends in your life that you might break up with and you'll probably feel the same way. Deffinilty go to a counselor he/she could most likely help you a lot. You dont have to get over him right away, it'll probably take time to actually be over him. Get his address/email and chat with him, even though its not the same as him physically being by you he will still be there for you to talk to and express your feelings towards him. Good Luck hun.
~Brina~

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Again this boy Roshon has been bothering me. With all the touching me and walking me to class things. I mean he is cool and everything but in the hall I see him doing it to other girls to just not as much as he does it to me. And he still talks about me. This morning when he tried to walk me to class. The only way he will get his hand off me if I pull away and say I will talk to you later. And the bad thing is he is only. I don't know how to say it but he goes up to my chest. What I mean by that his height. Do you know how weird that looks? Anyway help please!

That could be harrassment if he keeps on doing that to you. You have to tell him to get the heck off you and if he doesnt talk to your schools counselor. No guy should make a girl feel umcomfortable.
~Brina~

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ok look i kno this chick and we've been goin out for about 9 months and she wants to do stuff really bad and dont get me wrong i do too but i am not done with puberity and i am shy about it i dont kno what to do what do i do? what do i say? should i just go for it and see what happens or should i just wait?

P.S. we love each other VERY much!! :)

If she loves you then she shouldnt have a problem with it at all. Go for it if you want to and if she says something mean then thats not right.
~Brina~

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I'm 26 and have been with my boyfriend for 5 years next month. We've talked about marriage on and off and it's always been a positive conversation from his point of view, I've always been more hesitant but have realised I really do want to marry him. So! I am thinking of surprising him and popping the question!

Even though it isn't leap year is it ok for girls to propose to boys and if so what do you get them!?

Guys and gals I need your help!

I think you should take him out to a fancy dinner and just ask him. I think he'll probably get you a ring after you purpose. Good Luck!!!
~Brina~

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hey, i need some help. i'm a 16-yr-old girl, 110 lbs, and 5'6. i'm really skinny. i guess there's some good from that, like not worrying about eating something yummy with a huge amount of calories in it. but still, i want to gain some weight before i go to college next semester (i'm graduating early). the thing is, i will probably be one of the yongest people there and i'll look very small among all those 18-20-something-yr-olds. what can eat that's healthy and rich in calories at the same time? and how can i make myself look a little older without being fake? i know, its silly but i already feel like a baby in my senior class, i don't want to feel like that in college.

Ok so you said you want to gain weight right, well you shouldnt have to gain weight to fit in because your weight is normal even for a 18 yr old also. Anyways, start getting some more safistacated clothes, there probably some at filenes and Old Navy. You will probably be more mature then a lot of the college students believe me because my sis is in college and there are college students in there 3rd year who are really immature. Just get the right look and act more responsible { you probably are already} and you should be fine. Good Luck in College!!!
~Brina~

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is it normal to every so often not have your period for a month? i have never had sex and im 14 thanks..

Yea its normal. Sometimes girls who just get there period and only have it for like a year or so dont get it regulary.
~Brina~

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How do u ask a girl out?

Ask her if she wants to hang out like on the weekend at ur house or ask if she wants to go to the movies with you.
~Brina~

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Friday night I was at the movies. Me,my 2 friends and this guy that likes me took some pictures. I sat on his lap. I have a boyfriend of 3 months. Is that cheating and is it bad and should I tell my boyfriend? I feel really bad! Please help!

I dont think it would be cheating cuz you just sat on his lap to get the picture right?.... If you did more then just sat on his lap like kissed him then, that would be cheating but by sitting on his lap that wouldnt.
~Brina~

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Ok so I'm 15/m, and I was at a school function, and some girl that I didn't know danced with me. So after I left she got my AIM screen name from one of my friends and went home and asked me to the prom and and asked if I would go over to her house Friday to have dinner and a movie and all that stuff. Problem is, I really don't like her, and I don't really know her at all either. What should I say?

Well, if you would feel umcomfortable going then just tell her that you dont think that you can and you have other plans for prom. Who knows maybe if you hang out with htis girl you could just become friends.
~Brina~

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May 1st I'm going to have to wear a white dress for this really REALLY important thing of my entire life. I've been eatting like a pig beause... I guess its anxiety. Well I want to loose weight. Also, avoid the things that make me gain weight. I was thinking of diet pills but I hear they are REALY bad for you. Anyway, any tips to loose as many weight as I can in less than 2 months? Im not exactly looking for permenant diet plan just... an emergency one. Maybe if I only ate a certain amount of calories... or didn't eat or drink nothing but water... or... did a certain excersice. I don't know. Please pretty please HELP ME! Thank you sooo muh for your time!

Hey. you have to eat and not just drink water!!! Do about 70 crunches a day. Eat veggies and protein and cut your meal down like split what your eating in half. Dont forget to drink lots of water. Go running with a friend and do some exercises. It'll keep you in shape and hopefully help you out.
~BRINA~

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I woke up this morning and i've had it all day and this monday i have to sing for a competition...wat are some good remedys for a sore throat and is it safe??

Drink lemon tea with honey or just drink a teaspoon of hunny. Drink water and eat cough drops. Feel Better.
~Brina~

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OK when i first learned about sex back in middle school...i said to myself "im waiting until marriage" right away. I want to wait..because i dont know if i can deal with the emotions..but then again i want to do it (not now..definately not ready) in the future..you know when i find a bf when im like 18 + ..probably more like in my 20's though. I dont know..i just cant picture myself only havving sex with one man..plus im only 15 and im so curious about it now..im scared that what if i dont get married til im 30? I dont know if i can wait 15 more years..it seems to distant. How do i know for sure if im going to wait? or if im not? Do any of you out there have premarital sex..or have done it with a few people? Was the emotion too much for you when you broke up ? Or a one night stand..was that too much for you? I'll rate 5's

Well, i've never had sex before and i dont want to have it until im older. Think of all the possibleities of haveing sex at your age you could end up getting pregnant {not saying you are going to have sex}. I would say that in the 20's is a good age to have sex if you want to because you'll be more mature and if anything bad does happen then you'll have a living and can take care of the baby. It wouldnt be wrong to have sex with a guy that you've been dating for like 8months when ur older.
~Brina~

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Hey guys, I always have to have a book to read for my reading class. My teacher calls it our independent reading book. Anyways, I was wondering if any of you could give me the names of some really good books that you've read before. I love reading, and I can't seem to find any good books right now, so I was hoping someone could tell me some good books. I like to read fiction books, mysteries, or something that has to do with romance/relationships in it. If you can, please helpt me out! Thank you so very much! :)

Hey, i love reading! OK umm Utten and Plummley, Goodnight Mr.Tom, Harry Potter series, Ella Enchanted, Anne Frank Diary. :)
~Brina~

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What is a good way to ask a guy out? I really want to, but i'm not sure what a good way is.

Dont have a friend ask for you cuz that would just be immature like how like 10 yr olds ask out guys. Just go up to him privatly and say i was wondering if you wanted to hang out one night. Maybe have him and a couple others over and then plan a night to hang out with just him. Good Luck!!! Dont be afraid to ask the guy out.
~Brina~

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today my friend was over at his grandmothers house which is only 5 houses down and after school we went for a walk with my dog. well he grabed my hand and pulled me or should i say dragged me and my dog into the woods. he slung me down on the ground he pulled his dick out and wus rubbing all up on me with it. he wanted me to give him a blow job but i didn't want to thats just nasty. so he was like forcing me too then i pushed him against a tree then he looked like he was about to slap the crap out of me i was so scared. i don't know what i should do i want to tell my mom but then she will never let me near him again but i don't want to be friends with him anymore and if i tell her shell like be all overpertected and she already is. so what do i do i'm so scared and confused.

sorry this is so long

Dont hang out with this guy ever again. Serioussly, you should tell your mom so that she trusts you more cuz u told her about it and dont be afraid to tell her your ma has the right to know about something like that. I think thats messed up that he would do that.
~Brina~

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Okay I know its not for a while but me and my friend are going to dress up totally crazy for school. I need some cool ideas for my hair, makeup, and clothes! I dont really want to dye my hair green so idk what to do with it. Any ideas will be great!

Get some funky colored knee length socks. Cut in half two differnt shirts and so the other side to the other so its like half one type of shirt and the other a differnet type. Put stickers all over ur face. Green eyeshadow. And put ur hair in a mowhawk now tha towuld be crazy. Have Fun!!!
~Brina~

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Ok so there is this guy that i really like. And i really wanna tell him i like him, but i don't want to risk the friendship if he doesn't like me back (even though everyone says he does) what should i do?

Hey one of my friends went through the same thing. Make sure you've liked this guy for a while like at least 5 months so that you know its the real deal. Just let him know that you like him and then walk away. Dont listen to what people say about him likeing you because he might not like you { i wouldnt know im just saying} take a chance. I dont see why he wouldnt be your friend after you tell him cuz my friend and the guy are still friends after she told him she liked him and theywent out for a lil bit.
~Brina~

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im a 21yr old single parent, amd am in love with a married man with two kids, we have been together for 4yrs this would be the 5th now, he tells me he loves me we always argue about our relationship for weeks but eventually amke up and all he teells me he is having major problems with he wife and wants to divorce her i dnt know how true this is or whether he just says so to get what he wants and it has worked for all these years, he doesn t not agree for me to see anyone else but he is married, i love him but im not sure whether it is worth waiting for he says he also wants to have a baby wiht me but what ifheruns away denies it my parents dont know about this relationship but my mum has emphasied never to go out with a married man what do i do, he also expects me to do all the contacting callin smsin and if i dont its a big story does he really love me is heworth the while????

You should get out of the relationship. First off he has a wife and could be just useing you. Thats not right that he can have a wife while seeing you but you cant date other people. It seemse like he's telling you what to do. If he says hes going to divorce his wife for the past 4 years you should know that obvioussly hes not since its been 4 years. Think about his wifes feelings what if she finds out. You dont want to be the bad person in all this for being the girl her husband cheats on with.
~Brina~

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hey, me and my boyfriend, were both 18, want to get married, and his mom has absolutely no problem with it, because she already considers me her daughter, but my dad is totally against it. what should i do

Make sure you have enough money to start a marriage like getting ahouse, paying for food etc. Let your dad know how much you love ur bf. How long have you guys been together for? Good Luck.
~Brina~

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