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confused about premarital sex
OK when i first learned about sex back in middle school...i said to myself "im waiting until marriage" right away. I want to wait..because i dont know if i can deal with the emotions..but then again i want to do it (not now..definately not ready) in the future..you know when i find a bf when im like 18 + ..probably more like in my 20's though. I dont know..i just cant picture myself only havving sex with one man..plus im only 15 and im so curious about it now..im scared that what if i dont get married til im 30? I dont know if i can wait 15 more years..it seems to distant. How do i know for sure if im going to wait? or if im not? Do any of you out there have premarital sex..or have done it with a few people? Was the emotion too much for you when you broke up ? Or a one night stand..was that too much for you? I'll rate 5's
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Waiting is probably better... the guy im with now i lost my virginity too and like i know if we broke i know that i will be tore up inside he is mty first love basically my first everything other then my first boyfriend but the first person i did anything with.. i dont regret that i had sex with him cause i love him more then anything but i wonder what if i get hurt and that i should of wait but maybe i should of thought bout all that before.. but anyways i think waiting until your in love with somebody would be better.. jus make sure who ever you lose your virginity to is somebody that you wont regret it with...much luv dez
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well i think that it's best to wait!!! i think that sex is something that you should wait for!!!! i mean don't do it i mean i wouldnt'!!!!!! i know for a fact that i'm gonna wait!!!!
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I'm glad you realize that you are to young yet.That it a good sign! At 15 you're going to be curious it just goes with the territory.
The truth is you won't know until it happens if you're going to wait until your married.Sorry, it just kinda happens.
I'm older so I will leave the comments about young girls emotions to the younger advisors. I will tell you that it is an emotional roller coaster no matter what your age, unless you have a heart of stone there is no way around that one!
Curiosity and questions are perfectly normal at age 15 though so carry on as normal!
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You'll know when you're ready. Just don't do it for the wrong reasons and you'll be fine.
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I made up my mind to be Superman back in kindergarden.
...still waiting for those powers.
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Well, i've never had sex before and i dont want to have it until im older. Think of all the possibleities of haveing sex at your age you could end up getting pregnant {not saying you are going to have sex}. I would say that in the 20's is a good age to have sex if you want to because you'll be more mature and if anything bad does happen then you'll have a living and can take care of the baby. It wouldnt be wrong to have sex with a guy that you've been dating for like 8months when ur older.
~Brina~
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Please take this from someone who gave it up too soon, don't do it. I'm going to tell you my story, because everyone on this site has either only had sex with one person, or are still virgins. You need to hear it from someone who has been there, done that. When I was a freshman in HIGH SCHOOL, I was fourteen years old. I had known this boy for the longest time, and I knew he was a "player," a guy who just goes out with girls to get some. We were together for awhile, and I thought he actually cared about me. We had sex, and then afterwards, he dumped me. We were really good friends for awhile, but it was so painful. I felt used, and to try and make him jealous, I slept with his best friend. It made him jealous, but then the entire school refered to me as a slut. It got really bad, and I attempted suicide. I moved away, and then met the boy I am going to marry. He's never had sex with anyone, and I regret it so much, because I know he is the one I was supposed to wait for. I just rushed into it, and now he doesn't get a virgin when we do get married.
Just.. don't do it. Really. It's not that great, about 80% of women don't even climax during intercourse, and you could contract an STD, or a baby, and it's just NOT WORTH IT. Wait, because the man you marry will appreciate it.
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You're just 15, you have nothing to worry about. When you're 18, things will be different. You'll be a different person and you'll know different people. Maybe you'll have a boyfriend or maybe not. Deal with the situation when you come to it.
If the idea of waiting until marriage, which won't happen anytime soon (as in, it won't happen in at least three years), is so uncomfortable for you, how about waiting until you and your partner (whomever that may be) are ready to deal with a kid since no form of birth control is 100% effectibe?
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if your not sure, then don't do it. do it when you are sure, no matter how long away that is. if you are curious there are ways of fooling around without having sex.
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It's okay to change your mind, you were very young when you made that promise and you're still young now, you have a lot of life ahead of you! There is no law that says you have to wait until marriage, you could simply wait until you are in a long term relationship with somebody. And it does depend on what you count as sex, like powertrash said. It's your choice and nobody is going to think any less of you for having sex before marriage. However, they probably will think less of you if you go out with a guy once, have sex with him, and get pregnant. Though it doesn't matter what other people think, be responsible and don't ruin your life with sex. Sex is a beautiful thing, but so are fire and knives.
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Okay. Sex.
First, I'm very glad you know you're not ready now. That shows a lot of maturity on your part other girls (I assume you're a girl?) your age don't have.
I can tell you there is a chemical in the female body that is released when the female achieves an orgasm. This chemical creates a bond with the person who you're having sex with. HOWEVER
It is possible to have a cheap fuck. Before you need to know about girls who have had problems with sex, you probably need to find out what your personal feelings on the issue are. This can be as easy as saying, "I'll have sex when I feel ready." And what counts as sex to you? Just sexual activity? Fingering? Oral?
It's good to sit down and figure out how far you'd go before you're on your back, if you catch my drift. And it's okay not to know how far is too far. Just discuss it with your future boy/girlfriend.
You know you're going to wait, but what are you going to be waiting for? Love? Marriage? A long-term relationship?
I don't have sex because, honestly, I don't want to be involved with the damage it could do to my emotional state and reputation. That's my choice and my boyfriend respects that.
It's a personal choice, and there really is no wrong answer. And you probably will keep changing your mind about where you stand. Just stay strong and don't let anyone make you feel bad about your body and what you choose to do with it.
Good luck. :-)
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this is something that you should sick to.
im curious too, but i am commited to sharing those moments with my wife and only her. i understand that peerpressure is enormous now, but people repect you more when they know that, you know that people arent just going out with you for the sex, and it will give you a good feeling inside....
i wouldnt really know, b/c im so young, but just trust me.
irish
13/m
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some people do regret their first time, some dont. it really all depends on you and the situation. there is no way of knowing that you will wait until marriage. as is there is no way of nowing you wont. what if someone who you really care about unexpectedly came along and you were ready and wanted to give it up to him. you wouldnt know about it because you dont know whats going to happen in life. that is just something you have to wait and see for. there is no right age to have sex, just when you are ready. the emotions vary for people. some have really good ones and others have bad emotions. it also depends on if the person if a very emotional person or not. you will never know about you first time until you have it. you cant plan it either. because it will never work out that way. trust me, it never does. but hope this helps some and if you want to know anything else, drop one in the inbox.
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i dont think its that bad, isnt it better to know what the sex with a guy is like before you marry him and commit to him forever, maybe its not good with him, i donno thats what i think anyway.
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