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marriage
hey, me and my boyfriend, were both 18, want to get married, and his mom has absolutely no problem with it, because she already considers me her daughter, but my dad is totally against it. what should i do
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I mean, I know you feel guilty about it all, but if you're in love you should get married. I mean it's not like you're a minor. You're an adult..you should be able to get married. I understand where your dads coming from because 18 is a pretty young age to get married compared to how old people get married these days, and I understand he may want you to go to college and such..
But if you feel it's best..you should go through with it. But also keep your dads point of view in the back of your mind, in case you reconsider.
Even if you get engaged and married after college, that could work too. But ultimately it's up to you now. You're an adult.. if you're in love, why wait?
*hug*
good luckkkkk =)
`jeSsie
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Jus go ahead and get married your both 18 he cant control you... most likely after its done he will probably except and if he loves you he will for you..but also talk to him bout how you feel bout the whole thing..much luv dez
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well, your an adult. your dad has no say in it. i saw what you wrote in feedback, that he doesnt like your boyfriend. well thats just bad parenting. no matter how much you dont like someone, you should support them. i mean, i didnt like my uncle at first, i got to know him, and god i love the guy. 7 yeats? thats crazy. it might be true love, no one knows but you.
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Since you are 18 years old, you are old enough to legally get married without your parents consent. Talk to your dad and tell him that your boyfriend is the one for you and that you love him a lot. Tell him that you are old enough to decide what you want to do and he shouldn't be against this.
-Karen
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Talk to your dad about it. Eighteen is a bit early for marriage, I'd usually say 20 is the minimum. But depending on the situation, just talk to your dad about the whole ordeal. You're not going to make him happy by marrying against his will. I don't really know what's going to take place here, or what the situation is, but just sit down with your dad and make the best of it. Tell him how you feel about it, then listen to his take of it all. That should help.
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tell your dad that he cant tell you what to do because your old enough to take care of yourself and if he still says no then run away and get married in las vegas
love kelsey
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Yes, you're 18, a legal adult... but are you ready to live independently? Are you and your boyfriend ready to support yourselves financially? Marriage is a big step- do you have a job, the ability to buy or rent a house or apartment, finances to buy food, clothes and other monthly necessities?
If your answer is no, then you should probably listen to your dad. Yes, you and your boyfriend are in love, but until you're ready to move out of your parent's homes and support yourselves, you shouldn't be getting married.
On the other hand, if you think you can handle all the responsibilties of living independently, then talk to your dad. Show him that you're mature and responsible, and that you and your boyfriend have a plan.
Or just run away and elope. ;-)
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Your dad is not the one getting married. Personally, I would not get married right away and I think you should try living together for a while first to see if you can really handle marriage. But it's your choice, and your father has no say in it.
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My parents got married at 18 years of age, now i have a 21 year old brother, 29 year old sister and a 15 year old brother. It was hard for them, my parents had no money, bc they were poor. They had to work, and work, and work, and it was really hard. Things go good and bad, wait at least till your 19 or 20, bc then you'll be more mature. Get a good job, but if ur in college save up for a house and money for the famiy at least wait a year or two.
goodluck and wen u do get married congrads!! x0o
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i would wait at least 2 years. you have you whole life ahead of you and see if you are still together by then. just remember your young. youll probably get divorced anyway unless it is really true love.
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Make sure you have enough money to start a marriage like getting ahouse, paying for food etc. Let your dad know how much you love ur bf. How long have you guys been together for? Good Luck.
~Brina~
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do what you think is the best thing for you. talk to your dad about it again and tell him that you are in love with your boyfriend and you absoloutley have no doubts about this! try to convince him and maybe if he got to know your boyfriend a lil better maybe he would change his mind! x0
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Well you are 18 and can make your own choices. Since your 18+ you can do whatever you want, sooo if you want to get married, get married. He cant stop you. But of course, I think that would start problems and he wouldent come to your wedding, and stuff. And whats a wedding without your dad giving you away? So think about..getting married and not having close people with you at the wedding...or waiting until your dad is okay with it and trusts the guy! I would wait, its your dad! he only wants whats best for you. :)
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Maybe try to change your dad's mind by showing him that you are ready. Make a financial plan and make sure you have job opportunities and try to go to college if you want. Your dad may think you're too young, but maybe if you prove him wrong by being more responsible and more ready for life, he'll look at you as the adult you already are!
Love Always,
Maria
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