My favourite quote is 'Do unto others as you would have them do unto you'.
Life really is a roller-coaster with it's ups and downs and varying speeds. Yet no matter how hard you try to stay on an even keel, something always comes along to kick you in the teeth and remind you just how fragile life is. We are all trying to live the best we know how and to get along together. So take time to appreciate those around you and tell them how much you love them occasionally. A smile and a kind word speaks volumes.
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my name is Rachel and iam a 17 year old girl and my dad died when I was 12 and sometimes I still find myself upset about it and it makes my grades go down when iam really upset how can I get over my dad's death? (link)
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You will never get over the tragic loss of your Dad. You will come to terms with living without him eventually but that will only come with time. You have the right to get upset because he was important to you. Try talking to him out loud in the privacy of your home. Tell him how you feel and ask him to help you feel better. He will never leave you because he loves you and I believe that he will guide you in your life. If your teachers do not know why you get upset it would be worth telling them. They can then help you with your work and help to bring your grades back up. I wish you all the very best for a brighter future.
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ok
so i talked to this guy on myspace
and he seems really nice
well he is
and hes really beutiful
and he goes to my school
but hes downstairs
and im upstairs
or whatever
but i like never see him
and i dont know what to do
i have seen him once because he has my lunch
and we like eachother
but im to afraid to talk to him because hes so gorgeous and popular
but hangs out with the preps
and im scared of preps
PLEASE HELP
i rate 5 for trying (link)
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If he is genuinely interested in you it won't matter who he hangs out with. Suggest meeting up somewhere on neutral grounds like a coffee shop or mall. His preppy friends may not be so horrible if you got to know them. Take a chance and see what happens. Good luck.
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how one can be most success in ones life? (link)
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By making the right choices for you. Learning everything that you can about life. Getting the best qualifications available and above all taking every chance that comes your way. Success isn't just about making money, you can be a successful mother/father or sister/brother and friend. Helping others when they need you the most will make you a successful friend. Listen to what other people are telling you and grab every opportunity to become a successful you. You are most successful when you are fulfilled and happy. Have a good life and live it to the full. Good luck.
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Hi, I have a question about my shoulder.
I have this weird blue dot and it sticks out a little. Is this a pimple? Its on my left shoulder on the very top. I don't know what it is. But it has a grey dot inside of it. (link)
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Without actually seeing your weird blue dot it is impossible to say what is wrong. The best thing to do would be to go see a doctor or drop into a chemist and ask them to have a look. All the best.
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My ex b/f i love him so much. but last summer i made the mistake of cheating on him when i was angry and upset. I made a bigger mistake by telling him. We broke up and usually i can deal with rejection and break up but it was hard on me. I thought i was over him but now as the skool yr comes to a end we talks to me and he was bringing back my old feelings.So the last few days he is on my mind constantly.i wanna know is there a way i can get over him or make him realize how i feel? (link)
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You have to be honest with him and yourself. You cheated on him so it is only right that he was angry and upset. It is a big kick to anyone to have their partner go with someone else. What made you cheat in the first place? If you feel that you may have a chance of rekindling your relationship then you should take it. However, don't be surprised if he rejects you. Tell him how you feel and apologise for the way you treated him before. You can't promise either of you won't cheat again - that's a chance you have to take. If he feels the same way then take it slowly. If he doesn't want to know or won't listen to you then I am afraid it's a lost cause. I wish you the very best.
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I don't plan on having sex until two more years.
But I'd like to know what could be done so it's not as painful.
Since my boyfriend just fingered me a few hours ago and it really hurt... and he wasn't going in very deep too.
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It should not hurt at all. Do you use tampons and if so does it hurt to use them? Perhaps your boyfriend was a little too rough. Ask him to be a lot more gentle and to make sure his hands are scrupulously clean so that you don't pick up an infection. Try using your own finger and seeing whether that hurts too. You could just be a little tense or slightly more sensitive in that area. Good luck.
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oh, so i took my retainers out in school and put them in my pocket. at the end when i took them out there was a crack in it. i put it on my teeth and got scared becaue i'd have to pay for them. well when i went to take the retainers off the crack got bigger and i wripped a piece off. i am sooo scared. my mom would KILL me if she found out they were in my pockets. can someone help me thing of a good excuse? like getting hit in the face with a basketball or anything? is that a good one? ah im soo scared because i heard they are sooo expensive to replace..are they? (link)
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Be honest but sparing about it - they cracked and a bit broke off. If she asks you how then you will have to tell her. She may well get cross but take it on the chin and offer to help pay for the repairs. Making up excuses serves no purpose other than to get you into deeper trouble. Good luck.
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16/f...yesterday my right boob(the nipple) started to hurt REALLY bad. and i felt it...i noticed that my nipple felt like a round pepple/rock, and when i touched it, it hurt even worse....i ignored it, and today it feels like it got even bigger and it still hurts....does anyone know if this could be breast cancer...im soooo scared PlEASE HELP!! (link)
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Quick answer - go and see a doctor. Only they can tell your what is wrong with your nipple. Yes it is scary but be brave and get help now. Good luck
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hi..firstly thanks for da reply..
well i forgot to mention dat...
in da month of may ive had oral only twice...
and both da times my guy did not cum...all what he did was pre cum... so is there still a possibility..coz i dont really wanna take any test... ya it could be stress too..coz im about to get my results of my final graduation and im even takin alot of stress regarding this...
and moreover i always had this prob of gettin late periods at times i got them after 5 days or a week later than my scheduled date...
and i even suffer from white discharge prob since childhood... and moreover in between some months back..i did bleed between my periods da doc suggested me da tablet called PAUSE.. which stoped da bleeding but i got my periods ..
will there be a chance dat i could get my periods now in da month of june coz my date was 22nd may (but i skipped dat month)..so could i get my chums some time early now in this month? plz do lemme know
thanks a ton (link)
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Hi there. Unfortunately pre-cum can also contain sperm but if you have already seen a doctor then just relax a little and see what happens. You cannot get pregnant if your guy cums in your mouth. Stress can play havoc with periods and if you are worrying about them and your results, it is likely they will re-establish themselves eventually if you are not pregnant. If you begin to feel sick and your breasts begin to feel heavy and sore please take a test. I hope this helps but please do get back if you need more help. Good luck.
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Before I start dont get me wrong. I take a bath 2 times a day when I wake up and before I go to bed but here it goes.
My bf wants to finger me or go down on me but I am worried that I might stink down there because somes times I get discharge before/after my period so what can or should I do. (link)
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I just loved the answer amarriedguy gave and my husband would totally agree. It is a natural scent down there and as long as you wash regularly there is nothing to worry about. Enjoy being pleasured in that way and I totally agree to talking in private about your concerns. Lots of luck.
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tomorrow i am meetin my boyfriend of 10 months mom. i would like to know some do's and dont's about. i was wondering if it would be okay to wear make-up and what is something to wear. thanks 4 everyone who answers. i will rate (link)
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Some mothers are lovely and some mothers can be right witches. Until you meet her you will have no idea what she is like. Don't make judgements on the first meeting and treat her how you would like to be treated back. Be polite and honest and above all be yourself. Your boyfriend obviously thinks highly enough about you to want to take you home and if it helps, come up with a signal you can use if you start to feel uncomfortable. Wear what reflects your personality but obviously not if it reveals too much flesh. Wear make up if you are happy to but don't overdo it.
I have a son who 21 and as a mother I don't want my son to get hurt but I have to respect his choices. I hope the meeting goes well and you get on with his mum but don't take it too much to heart if she doesn't like you. Some mothers are reluctant to let their children go regardless of who they are. I wish you lots of luck.
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hi..
i really need ur help..
actually ive missed my period in feb i got it on da 9th and in april i got it on da 22 (dat is 13days late) and da whole of march i didnt get it...
well i havent had sex but yes me and my guy do indulge in oral sex..but he has never inserted it into me. all what he's done is..rubbed his penis onto my pussy on da top.. is it cozof dat i havent got my period...well lately we have even used a condom but not inserted..just for oral sex.. is there a way i could get pregnant and so ive missed my period plz let me know... (link)
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There is always the potential for a pregnancy if your guy has placed himself close to the entrance of your vagina. I can't tell you if you are pregnant or not, so the best thing you can do is take a pregnancy test. You can still have periods if you are pregnant and you can also stop your periods through stress. Take a test and make absolutely sure you are not expecting. Then for goodness sake take proper precautions using a condom and taking the pill. I wish you all the very best.
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well ok i was seeing this guy for almost a year and i loved him so much and still do and mah best freind who has been mah best friend for leterally mah whole life was gonna go out with him shortly after we broke up...mah question is that even though they didnt why do i still feel mad at them, is it the fact that they even thought about it i wana get over it but it so hard ya know what should i do???
yours truly CeCe (link)
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Even though they did not go out together I am sure you felt the way you did because emotions run high at the end of a relationship. Who broke up with whom? If he left you for her then you have a right to be mad. If you left him then you should let him be with whoever he wants to be with. If it was mutual because the relationship had run its course then you should remain friends with him and not blame your friend. It is always hard leaving someone you have cared a great deal for and although their romance never got off the ground the potential was there. Don't be too hard on yourself or your friend, take a deep breath and let it go. If you are still feeling mad at them both take some time out and give yourself the space to work through the emotion. There is no right or wrong way in dealing with all this but time does heal. All the best.
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Why do lambs have tails but sheep don't? I saw a lamb it had a tail, but it's mom didn't. What's the deal. (link)
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Lambs have their tails cropped when they are small. For some archaic reason it was found to be better for them not to have a tail. If that were so then they would not have been born with them. I think it is cruel and do not agree with the cropping of any tail on an animal. I hope that answers your question.
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ohkay, everyone is telling me that the world is going to end in 4 days (6-6-06) (the devil's number.) I AM REALLY SCARED OVER THIS. I CAN BARLEY SLEEP. im like pettrified. is what they're telling me true or is a myth? and do you believe it? and should i be scared?
thanks guys. (link)
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Life can be really scary at times, but I wouldn't worry on this occasion nothing is going to happen. The world has been doomed for centuries -it makes for great movies and books. There is no point in worrying about what can't be changed in the future - death and taxes!!!!!! Live your life with happiness and love. All the best.
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Last night a few of my friends and I were at the beach and this was like right behind my beach house. Two of them passed out and we didn't feel like dragging them inside so we just stayed out there a little while and we accidentally fell asleep on the beach.
Yeah, not too smart but when we woke up, three of us had this weird red bumpy rash. I was sleeping on my back and I got it on my lower back. Another girl got it on her arm and my other friend also got it on his back, but upper back.
Has this happened to anyone before? Do you think we should all go to the doctor and get it checked out or just wait and see if it goes away? The rashes all look the same so we're pretty sure it was from the sand or something.
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It's probably nothing more than sleeping on sand and it being a bit abrasive. However, just to make absolutely sure there is nothing wrong go and see your doctor or ask at the local chemists. They will probably just recommend an anti-allergy cream or a soothing balm. In future don't fall asleep on the sand directly - lay out some towels or something similar. Have a lovely summer.
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hey, okay this maybe confusing but i try to keep it short....
there is this girl i went out with and we did a lot of stuff, and we broke up actually took a break but after a month we still not back together, iknow i have to get bac ktogether becasue we both like eachother,
anywho thiere is this guy who is her friend who is always flirting with her, i dont konw how to overcome it
but i just cry
how should i deal with him? (link)
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The best thing would to be honest with her and tell her how you feel. If she wants to be with you she will - if she wants to be with the guy then so be it. They may just be good friends and you don't want to dictate to her who she should be friends with. I wish you all the best.
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well okay like me and my best friend nikole have been like friends since kindergarten and now im a freshman in highschool and she is too except we go to diffent ones cause i moved not far though just like 10 mins away. So till recently i would always go over her house after school or something and help her out with advice. But like people tell me that she uses me cause my mom is a reporter so we vaycay alot and go to screenings and i dont think that except that i did notice since school started that she always expected me to call her. So in the beginning of the year she started to go out with her first highschool bf and they were always on and off. The friday before valentines day they broke up for the 8th time or something so she asked me to talk to him for so i did but then like we became friends and stopped talking about her then in june she told me she missed him so long story short there back together but like for two weeks now she hasnt called but ive talked to her bf well so what i need for advice is if i should just forget about the way she treated me in the past and just call her or whatever (link)
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Real friendship is when two people put into the relationship on an equal basis. When there are times of trouble or heartbreak, the other person is there to help out or ease the burden. It works both ways. If one person is always ringing or texting and not being called back, are they being used? It feels that way to me. Call her if you feel like it, but if it becomes so that you are doing all the running you must ask yourself if you are prepared to keep on keeping on. If she valued your friendship as much as you she would be happy to keep in touch. However, you have both started a new life in different schools and she has had an on/off boyfriend to which she has put in a lot of time so you must expect her to have less time for you. When you find yourself in the lucky position to have a boyfriend you will find that your mind is more on him than on anything else. On a final note, are you interested in her boyfriend for yourself because you were talking to him instead of her? Nothing will kill a friendship dead faster than taking a boyfriend from her. I wish you all the best.
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OK so like my boyfriend is like absolutley in love with me but i am starting to lose intrest in him. The sad thing is that people are like you guys are the cutest couple i've ever seen. I reall miss being single, and i don't have a good reason to break up with him. i still want to be friends and stuff but i don't want him to hate me!!! He is also very clingy and its annoying, I'm 14 and so is he sp yeah i REALLLY need advice right now and i'll rate high! (link)
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It would be better for both of you to end the relationship now. You are far too young at the moment to be in a single committed relationship. You need to be out there having some fun. Tell him straight that it is not working out to be so heavily involved but would really like to go out in a group with friends. If he makes a scene just walk away. Try not to hurt him with words because once said they can never be taken back. It may be very difficult for him to remain friends so be prepared for him to walk out of your life. Good luck.
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would it be weird to talk to your dead grandmother portait about things? cause i know a friend that does it and it helps her or something (link)
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I firmly believe that those who have died have not gone for good. I talk to my grandmother on many occasions and I know that she can hear me. She will play tricks on the family like hiding small things and moving ornaments around. There is no explanation for how it happens so I am happy to continue believing in her. Voicing your thoughts to a portrait/picture is something that many people do and if it helps all well and good. Believe in what you want to believe. All the best.
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