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my name is Rachel and iam a 17 year old girl and my dad died when I was 12 and sometimes I still find myself upset about it and it makes my grades go down when iam really upset how can I get over my dad's death?
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My mother died when I was 10. I'm 17 now. It's hard to deal with a death of a parent but I have to say that you will never get over your father's death and you may necessarily not want to. Whenever you feel sad, pray or talk to him. He can hear you. He's always there with you, helping you along the way. Just because he isn't here in the flesh, doesn't mean he isn't everywhere, being there for you. He's never left you since you were 12 and he never will. Talk to people about it, your family, your counselor, your friends etc. Visit his gravesite if that helps or hold something of his that you have. Sometimes just a good cry helps. You will always have times when you really miss your dad. I still do about my mom but remember the good times and remember that your dad would want you to succeed and do what you want to do and the best you can do in life. So whenever you don't feel like doing anything - think of your dad. Live for him. Do things for him when you can't do them for yourself, like when you are upset. Know that your dad is still there with you always and that he would want to you to dance instead of sitting in the corner. Know that he loves you, even now. He's never truly left. I hope I helped and good luck. If you ever need any help - just let me know. Let me know how it goes! -GC07
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I have never had to deal with a family death, but i can tell you how to deal with it. Discuss the situation with your teachers. Ask them if there is anything you can do to better your grade.
*Your father may be dead. But he is still alive in your heart!*
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You will never get over the tragic loss of your Dad. You will come to terms with living without him eventually but that will only come with time. You have the right to get upset because he was important to you. Try talking to him out loud in the privacy of your home. Tell him how you feel and ask him to help you feel better. He will never leave you because he loves you and I believe that he will guide you in your life. If your teachers do not know why you get upset it would be worth telling them. They can then help you with your work and help to bring your grades back up. I wish you all the very best for a brighter future.
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you will never get over it
ever
my older sister and i have different dads
her dad died right after her 15th b-day (on my 9th b-day, but not the point)
that was 5 years ago
look at old pictures of you too
write down what you rember about him or stuff you did together
make a box of pictures, old movies, what you wrote about him, and keep it in your room
remeber him
talk to your mom about him
if it effects your school work so drastically and that doesnt work, maybe talk to a school consoluer person (not a shrink, im not saying you are crazy)
but my sister talked to one for a while, and it made her feel a lot better she said
remeber him always, there will be days you are sad and upset, and that is perfectly fine. On those days, pull out that box.
I hope that helps hun! :)
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sorry to say, but noone cant get over death, no matter how hard they try. its okay to cry. if you fail a test say its becasue your father died when you were 12. its fine all teachers understand and give re-takes.
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he was your father..you will never fully be over him..it might get a little easier to deal with..but you will never be completely over it..deaths are hard to get over sweetie. dont let it drag yoour ggrades down..work reeeeally hard..make your dad proud up there..he will always be watching over you :)
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it is hard to get over any kind of death. tell someone close to you about your problem and have them find you a counselor. a counselor could cheer you up and help you a lot.
hope i helped = ]]
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I couldn't say you can get over your dad's death, especially since it's something hard to get over. Don't put yourself down and it's okay to have times when you get really upset. Try talking to your friends or family about it, talking to someone about how you feel can also help. Try writing in a diary, writing your feelings down also helps. Good luck and I'm sorry for your loss. <3
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I can really identify and sympathise with your problem: I, too, lost my father when I was 13, just slightly older than you were when you lost yours. Having said that, I didn't grieve as directly as you seem to be doing-my grade distractions took the form of obsessing over boys and angsting over my appearance, ie more regular teenage girl stuff. I think it's excellent that you still can feel such intense grief over your father-for one thing, it shows that you are fully and deeply in touch with your emotions. Having said that, I fully understand that you don't want your emotions to interfere with your grades: who would?
Really, I think that you need to see a counsellor, psychotherapist, or, just possibly, a cognitive behaviorial therapist. This last is someone who would identify the mental and emotional patterns which are blocking ypur performance at school, and help you to counteract them. In an ideal world, you would see both a psychotherapist and a cognitive behavioral therapist-I do however understand that you live in America, where nothing is free.You should however talk to your school counsellor, who should be able able to help further. Whatever you do, you should talk to your mother and other concerned relatives-they should act on your behalf, if the school is no help(which from my experience of U.S. schools, is a more than strong possibility). Whatever happens, know that your pain makes you a sensitive human being: as such, your path in life will be both harder and more rewarding than that of many others.
Take care, good luck ,and feel free to drop a question in my inbox (or IM me on lucrece_13@hotmail.com).
Lucretia xx.
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