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mah future huband and best friend!!!
well ok i was seeing this guy for almost a year and i loved him so much and still do and mah best freind who has been mah best friend for leterally mah whole life was gonna go out with him shortly after we broke up...mah question is that even though they didnt why do i still feel mad at them, is it the fact that they even thought about it i wana get over it but it so hard ya know what should i do???
yours truly CeCe
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what you should do is... just move on in life.. dont think about it go out and have fun..... be yourself and dont think about it..if oyu need anymore advice then holla at me
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Hi There,
When you split up with someone that you still have feelings for it's tempting to let them make all the rules in order to keep them in your life. The problem is, if there's no hope of reconciliation, you're just prolonging the agony - and it will take even longer for your broken heart to mend.
This is so difficult, but until you accept that the relationship is over you'll probably keep reading 'secret' messages into everything connected with your ex. It's particularly hard to believe you really have been dumped if you're still seeing each other. The best way to get over a relationship is to sever all connection - even if just for a while. Of course this is very difficult if you're in the same job or at uni together - but the less contact you have the better.
If your ex has said something like: "Of course we must stay friends", be wary. Do you need this person as a friend? Well, perhaps it would be good long-term, but right now you want them as a lover - and being treated simply as a friend will prolong the agony of coming to terms with the split. The truth is that it will probably help your ex's guilt about dumping you, but you're the one who needs help right now, not your previous partner. The best thing to do is to keep your distance for a few months - and after that time, decide whether or not friendship is possible or even desirable.
Takecare
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Even though they did not go out together I am sure you felt the way you did because emotions run high at the end of a relationship. Who broke up with whom? If he left you for her then you have a right to be mad. If you left him then you should let him be with whoever he wants to be with. If it was mutual because the relationship had run its course then you should remain friends with him and not blame your friend. It is always hard leaving someone you have cared a great deal for and although their romance never got off the ground the potential was there. Don't be too hard on yourself or your friend, take a deep breath and let it go. If you are still feeling mad at them both take some time out and give yourself the space to work through the emotion. There is no right or wrong way in dealing with all this but time does heal. All the best.
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