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Okay this guy at my work, lets call him Jake, I've been really into. So last time I invited him to go bowling wit my friends and he said yes when I asked him and then the day came and he totally bailed. So no call, no text, nada. So yeah I was bummed but whatever things happen. So than like 3 weeks ago I texted him "Hey,sorry this is out of the blue and feel free to say no to this, but do you maybe want to get drinks?" Than he "I would love too, but I can't 2nite, because of a midterm due at midnight. When were you thinking of going? So I said how about saturday night? Didn't text back. Than at the I texted him when I got out of work and just so do you want to go when you have time? and said "yes defintely." I said "when?" NOTHING!! So ever since than, he hasn't text me at all. And we recently run into each other, and I kinda go the other way because I'm embarrassed because I feel he just blew me off. Like the other day, I was coming back from dropping of the mail and, he comes out of the door and we look at each other for awhile until I looked away and went back upstairs. And than today, he smiles and says hi as he holds the door open for me. So me being polite I ask how he was, he said good, than he asked me how I was, I said "pretty awesome". Than awkward silent, I couldn't read him cuz I was not looking at him. But than he's friend showed up and I went to my next class. So here's my thing, like its when I take step forward, he takes a step back? Am I too forward and direct? But like seriously I just wanted to hang just get to know each other better, it that so hard!! Jeez, he's giving me mixed signals and Idk what to do anymore because being direct is not working. And there's my cases in the past where he's been flirty and I think were on the same page, and switch goes on and he disappears. So I'm crossroads and I want be done, but I don't want to bail on whatever this is with actually trying to figure it out I guess, but I don't know how much patient I can be. So any help would be great. (link)
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In this situation, I'm first going to tell you to straight up talk to him in person about it. If you text somebody asking if they want to hang out, they have a choice to respond or not. If you talk to them in person, and ask when, he'll give you an answer. Depending on that answer, you'll know whether he really wants to hang out with you or just doesn't know how to turn down someone properly.
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Can i get pregant if I masterbate (fingering) with vaseline and there was possibly sperm in the vaseline. Im only 15 and DONT know what to do! please help!
And Ive missed my period!! Im scared,please help. (link)
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No, sperm doesn't stay alive that long.
But you shouldn't use vaseline to masturbate. It can end up leaving you with an infection which can be extremely embarrassing to have to explain how you got that.
So you should go to the store and buy actual lubricant. They sell it at almost any store.
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Ok, so I have a boy friend (a frie d thats a boy) that im having trouble with.
You see, I have a crush on him, but so does my bff, who he likes back. To add to the mess, she sees him in 3 diffrent classes this quarter (last quarter was when i met him.)I only see him in 1 class.
My bff does not know and neither does he. I encourage them to date since my bff deserves it and they would be cute,but its a bit saddening for me. Plus I don't know how to at least show some friend to friend affection when I don't even see him. And I always turn into a puddle when he actually glances my way.
HELP ME WITH THIS MADNESS! (link)
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Since his eyes are on your friend, you just have to move on. It's normal to be sad when the person you like, likes someone else, especially when it's your best friend.
So to be a good friend, and to help yourself, you need to move on.
Like Dragonflymagic said, look at the qualities of what you liked in him. You can find them in another guy. There are so many guys out there, so just keep looking and see if you can find those qualities in other guys.
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hi, are single father worth to date? because they're so defensive of their childs and even though they're not with their exes anymore but they are so defensive. they don't love their exex still, do they? especially the ones that who already has a girlfriend of 4 years. thanks. (link)
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Even though it is possible for the man to still have feelings for their ex, it's not always the case especially when he has a child.
The only way to tell if he is worth dating is your personal opinion. If he is a good guy, takes care of you and his child, loves you, is a hard worker, ect, then you need to decide for yourself if you want to be with him and if he is worth it.
He is going to be defensive of his child and his child will always come first. You need to know that and if you can't handle that, don't stay with him.
They will be defensive if their child's mother, you will have to accept that and you shouldn't be talking bad about her anyways.
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I'm a 14 year old girl. I've always been insecure of my weight so I was just wondering if I am over weight. I am about 5'4 or 5'5 and I weigh 165. Is that over weight? (link)
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It really depends on your frame size, your bone structure, and genetics. So our answer is just going to be a guess. The best person you should talk to would be your doctor since they can see you and see how large your bones are and take into consideration of your genetics.
I did some research online so once you figure out your frame size, this is what I got..
Small-126-138
Medium-136-149
Large-146-160
A way to tell what frame size you are is by measuring your wrists. The easy way is if your thumb and middle finger overlap, you have a small frame. If they just meet, you have a medium frame, if they don't touch, you have a large frame. Obviously, this is just an estimate and to really find out if you are overweight is to find out your BMI and all that so it's best to go see a doctor.
I don't think it's really accurate because my frame size is small and it ended up telling me I was underweight and I'm not so it's really just giving you an idea.
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If I eat healthy, drink water and work out an hour everyday can I lose 80 pounds by June/July? (link)
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It might be, you might be able to get close to it.
You should shoot for losing two pounds a week, because that's healthy. Obviously, every week you might not lose that much so that's why I'm saying you could get close to it.
I'd suggest going to talk to your doctor and maybe see a dietitian or nutritionist. They'll give you a better idea on what you will be able to do.
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Ok, so my friend Kathrine was texting this fairly-goodlooking and fairly-cute and really girlish boy named Brad. So, anyway, she later showed me the text that he said he liked me. He flirts with me all the time, and I simply act like the text is no big deal. But I'm confused. Do I wait for him to say something, or do I ask him? And, he is very girly and strange, and not very handsome (hes...cute?) but im flattered and try to be attractive but my feelings are mixed since I already have 2 crushes that are very handsome and im debating over the 2 that are handsome or the kinda handsome who is girly.
Please help! What do I do? (link)
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Figure out who you actually have feelings for.
I think you should get to know them all more. I mean all you're describing is their looks, absolutely nothing about their personality.
So get to know them, become their friends and see who might be a better match for you.
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Me and my boyfriend broke up earlier about a month ago andlast week he agreed to see me and gave me the chance to win him back? And so we ended up showing our feelings for each other and he told me he loves me and missed me. And when i asked why cant we get back together right now he said that it doesnt work like that. And we ended up being intimate like how we have been so up to third base with each other. And i guess im just kinda confused as in why we cant be together right off the bat after we broke up eveen though we clearly have feelings for each other. So what does this mean? (link)
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I agree with the other advisers.
I don't understand how "it doesn't work like that". That's exactly how it works. If he wanted to move slow and try things out, that's fine but you guys have gotten very, very intimate so it just looks like he wants the fun but not the commitment.
So if you are trying to win him back, that's not how it works. Of course, if something you did was the cause of the relationship, you work on that. You don't jump through hoops and do every thing he asks for just to win him back. The only thing you should be doing is showing you care about him and being there for him.
Just don't mess around with him until you guys are back together.
If you do plan on spending more time together, make sure it's just hanging out and talking. At that point, you'll be able to tell whether he wants you or if he just wants to mess around.
But honestly, it doesn't sound like he's very serious about getting back together with you.
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So I'm a junior and I've been talking to this freshman for quite sometime now. I decided to ask him to my prom like a week ago through a letter and he replies through a letter saying no but maybe as friends and then later on says that he's not the prom going type of guy. I told him that I wanted to go as friends so I know I should've put that into the letter. but anyways, we haven't talked since he declined my prom proposal. I still like this guy a lot but he's been hanging out with another junior girl a lot. Should I wait and see where things go or should I move on?? If I don't move on, should I ask him to prom later on in the year again and see if he changes his mind?? I don't know what to do. (link)
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I'd move on, especially if he's talking to another girl. If he does like that girl then it would look bad if he went to prom with you.
I would never wait around for a guy to change his mind. He had his chance, he missed out, so just go find someone else
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Hi. Ok so i was on my boyfriend instagram today and i came across some girl that his friend was dating. He liked 12 of her pictures and on one of the pictures my boyfriend asked her for her facebook. I don't know why he would ask her for that and especially liking all her pictures. I dont wanna talk to him because then hes going to think i was snooping around his instagram. What do you think about this or what would you do if it was you. I know if i did it he would be mad :( (link)
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I'll admit that it's odd that he is liking all her pictures and asked for her Facebook. Obviously, the first thought would be that he's interested in her.
Obviously, you don't want to talk to him about it because you ARE snooping around on his instagram.
If you're not willing to talk to him about it, then there isn't anything you can do except trust him.
You can't have a real relationship without trust. You went through his instagram, which will make him think you don't trust him and now you're suspecting something more since he asked for her Facebook. So it's either you talk things through with him, you don't do anything and learn to trust him, or you break up.
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alright so i know this question might be a little immasure and a little dumb, but i always get this feeling that im pregnant, i get scared, nervous and stress... it has happens a lot and im honestly tired. so yesterday i was over my boyfriends house and we were making out, things got a little bit hot and he had an erection, he got on top on me and his penis was touching my vagina for an amount of 10-15 seconds the most (maybe less) of course i was wearing clothe, he was wearing boxers and jean like pants, just a tiny bit thinner than jeans, like school pants. and i was wearing leggings, shorts(n0t jean shorts)incase my leggings were to thin so my underwear wont show and my underwear. i know about pre-cum and that it comes out, and that you cant get pregnant if sperm makes direct contact with virginal fluid and penetration. anyways i decided to touch his pants and i felt a cold spot, i checked and it appeared to be something like a small drop of water but then there was nothing there.then he decided to check his boxers and there was nothing there, when he pulled the skin of his private part back, a clear thing came out(pre`cum)of his penis.(the whole. not the side of his penis) but only when he was pulling it back(it happen twice.... I've been told not sure of its right, the whiter your semen is the more sperm it contains........ well is it possible that i can get pregnant with clothe on, and can you please give me advice on how i can stop this thought.( please dont say yes just to get me scare or just to say it, theres people who do that) its really sad how this issue takes a huge amount of my life, and im going cray if i keep stressing it. (link)
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I doubt you're pregnant. It's not exactly a common thing to get pregnant while wearing clothes.
You're just stressing out and overthinking. That would be the cause to miss your period.
Other than that, I'm going to advise you to not do this stuff with your boyfriend until you learn everything you can about sex and pregnancy.
Better than that, you should get on birth control. This kind of stuff can eventually lead to sex and you obviously don't want to get pregnant. This kind of stuff does and can escalate into more so you need to be careful and it doesn't seem like you know very much about this subject.
So you're not pregnant. It's a very, very unlikely possibility. But you do need to learn more before you keep doing things like this.
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I feel so quilty saying this, because God might be mad that I am questioning him, but im so scared. I never touch the Bible but I should. And when I hear a voice in my head I think its just my imagination. Im scared of dying, cause its just so scary. I know its part of life, but there is so many things out there that can kill you, it makes no sense. I wish I could ask what happens when you die, but I can,t. I ask and pray for God to show me something like they do in the Bible but nothing happens. The stuff in the bible is so awesome, but none of that stuff has happend. Im just so scared. Please tell me what you know. (link)
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It's faith. No one can prove to you that God exists. Like Rahzie said, no one can prove a lot of things.
I do personally believe in God. If you do read the Bible, you'll see God won't be mad that you're questioning him. Even the best Christians will question God.
It's fine to be afraid of dying. That's natural. But at some point you need to not be so afraid and come to accept that everyone will die someday. You can't live your life in fear.
You can't expect things to happen in the Bible to happen here. It's a different life we're living so God will show you in a different way. A more practical way.
Honestly, you don't need Him to show you some big way that he's real. You pretty much need to have faith.
Anyways, in the end, none of us can tell you if God is real or not. Some people believe, some people don't.
I think a good way to find out what you believe is to learn more. Don't just sit there and question it and simply look for other people to tell you the answer. Read the Bible, ask your pastor questions, pray and figure things out.
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I am a 23 year old female. My boyfriend of over 4 years broke up with me over a week ago. I am beside myself upset.. I would to cook, clean, do laundry, take out his dog, feed his dog, got him a job, made him lunch everyday, even paid for our dinner or drinks sometimes.. the whole 9 yards..
He broke up with me because he said that it was unfair to me that I did everything, and he wasn't fully in on our relationship anymore. This came out of no where for me which is why I think I am so upset..
He has been involved with drugs, and really bad crowds as well so I think it's probably a good thing this happened, because I was able to get out while I still could.. but the pain is severe.
What I really need is someone who doesn't know me, my boyfriend or anything else about our situation.. to try and help me with advice, through this time..
All I want is for him to give a damn about me, and to be upset over this, I mean 4 years is a long time.. and I feel like I'm the only one upset..
Please, somebody give me advice or tell me what I should do.. I know if I ask if it's worth it to try for it again, it's probably gonna be a bad thing.. and I know I'm young, but it doesn't help how I feel.. (link)
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Every time someone gets out of a relationship when they loved that person, they're going to be very upset. It's natural.
In the end, he broke up with you. He chose his drugs over you. Whatever it is, he just isn't choosing you anymore. And that's why it hurts so much and that's why you want him to be upset.
He probably is upset, but you know it's not best to try to get back together with him. Especially when he's hanging around the wrong people and doing drugs.
Give yourself some time to get over the pain. Give yourself some time to move on. If you want to talk to him again by then, do so and see if he's changed and stopped with the drugs or even wants help.
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Before our breakup, things were great. We would talk everyday, when I had a problem, he was right there for me and vice versa. We said "I love you" everyday, it was just perfect.
One day I got really depressed, and I do stupid things....really stupid...
So, I broke up with him for what I thought was good reasons, but now they are nothing. He didn't get over us for like 2 months or so.
Now, I made my move to get him back, I played our song and asked him. He was "happy" when we got back together. We said "I love you" the first day...but...well things aren't the same.
Now, we don't talk everyday, hes not really there for me. When I text him, he takes FOREVER to respond, or doesn't even respond at all. It's really killing me, what should I do? I have strong feelings for him, and I told him I didn't wanna lose him, and he agreed but, what should I do?
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I agree with Zane. You hurt him and it took him a long time to get over you.
You see people who get back into a relationship with the same person but they don't really trust them or try to get too attached because they don't want to get hurt again. It seems like this is the case.
How long have you guys been back together? If it hasn't been too long, then give it time and show him you care about him and that he can trust you.
If it's been awhile and you've been good to him. Then sit him down and talk to him. Tell him how you've been feeling, don't blame him or anything but express that this, this and this is what you need.
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My 'friends' are really mean to me lately, patricularly two guys. Granted, one is my ex and I turned down the other, but they're both really very mean to me. They call me things such as sl-t, b-tch, and lesbian (obviously I'm not, I dated one of them, though I do have a pixie cut) every day, usually in my homeroom, where they both sit next to me. I try talking to my best friend (who is dating my ex) but she tells me its my fault. I tried talking to them today at our lunch table, and I called them mean, and they acted shocked and told me I'm the mean one, and everyone agreed (I almost started crying ), except for my best guy friend, who told them to shut up (love him). ...
The thing is, is that I /can/ be really mean. But I don't try to, really. I have bipolar disorder, and have struggled with depression since I was little, and anorexia at home and bulimia at school (I'm a mess). I think I'm pretty sometimes, though, so when they call me ugly I'm not too annoyed. It's just when they say I'm mean. I want to explain why and say that I'm sorry, but I obviously can't :( How do I deal with this? Because even though I hate them, I would die for them. (And yes, I do therapy, and blah blah blah, etcetera).
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I'm NOT a sl-t, because I've never even held hands with a guy, let alone kiss one, and I havn't had a boyfriend for two years. The guy I kindof turned down tells me that I'm really desparate, but I never even speak to guys, I'm so insecure!!
Can you guys and gals and men and women please help me with this whole problem? (link)
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They're not friends.
The thing is, you don't act one way just because someone acts that way to you.
I knew a girl in high school who was in our group of friends. She was mean even if she didn't mean to be. I didn't really care for her, but I wasn't going to act like that right back. It just makes you just as bad as they are.
No one deserves to be called names, especially by people who you consider your friends. If they do that, they aren't your real friends.
Your best friend is wrong by saying it's your fault.
So the best thing to do in this situation is talk. You're bipolar, but obviously you can't go around being mean to people and then using it as your excuse. I know your not trying to do that, but I do know some people who do. Anyways, it's going to be extra hard for you because of this disorder. You need to work ten times harder at treating people right. They'll never understand because they're not going through it. So you're going to have to try really hard to do this.
This is what you need to do, you need to go apologize to these guys. Tell them you know you're mean sometimes, you never meant to hurt them, and you're sorry. Obviously, they should also be apologizing but I doubt that will happen since they think it's justified. So after that, don't hang out with them anymore. You don't need people in your life who talk to you that way and make you upset. Find friends who treat you right.
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So Im 18 years old, and female,and have a boyfriend. But there is a friend at school who I hangout with. He is always flirting with me and when Im at my locker he is always looking at me. He is really cute, and I kinda like him too. But I still have a boyfriend. I don't want to break my boyfriends heart, What should I do? (link)
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You need to figure out your feelings. You obviously can't have both so you need to find out what you really want.
Take time and space to figure all this out.
If you really care about your boyfriend and you want to stay with him, don't spend a lot of time around your friend.
If you realize you like your friend and you don't care for your boyfriend anymore, then break up with your boyfriend. It's not right to stay with someone when you don't feel the same anymore.
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So could u loose your virginity by using a dildo, and sticking it up your vagina? (link)
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Virgin is a term for someone who has never had sex.
No, you can't lose your virginity that way. Only by having sex.
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its been 2 months since i haven't seen him, and if i don't see him soon then i wont see him till february which is in two more months. i am crazy about him, i know he is my life, and im willing to skip 4 days of school and a lot of money to see him for a week and a half. all my friends tell me its stupid, but i want it so badly, my heart is telling me yes yes yes!
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Of course you want to see him. When I went to college in another state, I was about as desperate as you were just to go spend a weekend with him.
But I didn't do it. I decided to be smart with my money.
You'd only get to see him for a week and in my opinion, $1000 isn't worth it. I believe that you can hold off till February. Just keep texting, calling and skpying.
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Hi! I live in Melbourne, Australia and I am a 14 year old girl. My boyfriend and I had a blue the other day and now he's backstabbing me and calling me the b word on wheels. What should I do? (link)
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Break up with him.
He doesn't sound like a true boyfriend who cares about you. Guys should not call you names at all, even if they are mad at you. It is no excuse and you don't take that.
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Ok, so I have been dating this girl that I love and such. But my freinds, literally, all of them, hate, her. And I have been freinds with them for my whole life, so I thought about just dumping her, then I noticed that she had been getting a little clingy lately, and finally, we got In bed, if you know what I mean. Then I had to stay with her, but I just don't know what to do! What should I do, stick with my freinds, or stay with my girl? (link)
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If you love her, why would you break up with her because your friends don't like her? That's not what love is.
Honestly, real friends won't make you choose. I have friends that have girlfriends who I don't like, but you don't go around nagging them and telling them to break up with them. In fact, I don't even tell them that I don't want them to hang around us. That's not what real friends do.
There shouldn't be a choice. You should be able to keep your friends and your girlfriend. If your friends are making you choose, make you should take a different look at your friendship.
If your girlfriend is making you choose, then take a look at the relationship.
A real reason to break up with her would be if you don't have feelings for her anymore. Not because your friends don't like her. If you like her, that's what matters.
Another real reason is to realize that you guys just don't mix. Your personalities don't click.
Things like that are reasons to break up with someone. Not because your friends don't like her. They have every right to not like her, but to make you choose is wrong.
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