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Super confused!! I'm about to give up on this dude
Okay this guy at my work, lets call him Jake, I've been really into. So last time I invited him to go bowling wit my friends and he said yes when I asked him and then the day came and he totally bailed. So no call, no text, nada. So yeah I was bummed but whatever things happen. So than like 3 weeks ago I texted him "Hey,sorry this is out of the blue and feel free to say no to this, but do you maybe want to get drinks?" Than he "I would love too, but I can't 2nite, because of a midterm due at midnight. When were you thinking of going? So I said how about saturday night? Didn't text back. Than at the I texted him when I got out of work and just so do you want to go when you have time? and said "yes defintely." I said "when?" NOTHING!! So ever since than, he hasn't text me at all. And we recently run into each other, and I kinda go the other way because I'm embarrassed because I feel he just blew me off. Like the other day, I was coming back from dropping of the mail and, he comes out of the door and we look at each other for awhile until I looked away and went back upstairs. And than today, he smiles and says hi as he holds the door open for me. So me being polite I ask how he was, he said good, than he asked me how I was, I said "pretty awesome". Than awkward silent, I couldn't read him cuz I was not looking at him. But than he's friend showed up and I went to my next class. So here's my thing, like its when I take step forward, he takes a step back? Am I too forward and direct? But like seriously I just wanted to hang just get to know each other better, it that so hard!! Jeez, he's giving me mixed signals and Idk what to do anymore because being direct is not working. And there's my cases in the past where he's been flirty and I think were on the same page, and switch goes on and he disappears. So I'm crossroads and I want be done, but I don't want to bail on whatever this is with actually trying to figure it out I guess, but I don't know how much patient I can be. So any help would be great.
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In this situation, I'm first going to tell you to straight up talk to him in person about it. If you text somebody asking if they want to hang out, they have a choice to respond or not. If you talk to them in person, and ask when, he'll give you an answer. Depending on that answer, you'll know whether he really wants to hang out with you or just doesn't know how to turn down someone properly.
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You shouldn't be waiting on people, if he really would had wanted to spend time with you, he would have done it already! Now, don't take this too harshly, but I recommend you to either come out strait with this guy, meaning go and tell him how you feel, truthfully, and if you don't want to then don't, but I personally think that you should find someone else. But, YOU, do what, YOU, want to do.
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