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I'm a bit confused. So like my boyfriend and i have broke up for a few weeks and weve been together for over a year. He said that like i can try to show him that the reasons why we broke up wont resurface again if we get back together. When id ask him if we could hang out then hed ask why. Then he'd hint that being intimate and like a couple wont make us magically get back together. And i understand that but then hed agree to go hang out with me but the two times weve hug out hed start out by kissing me once we're alone andeventually we'd both get to third base. He has told me that he still has feelings for me and missed me during the time we were broken up. But its weird that like he texts me saying that us being intimate wont fix the problems that we broke up but when we see each other in person it seems like we never broke up. Why is it like that? Like is he unsure about us or something that he says its too early to get back tohether again ppssibly because we both are scared to get hurt all over again? Im not sure whats going through his mind.
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A year is a good amount of time to be together. So who wanted to break up? If just one of you, have that one write a list of things they feel were issues in the relationship. If both of you, then both of you write your lists. Next you need to have conversation about it. Once you have pin pointed things you are doing that cause problems or things he's doing that cause problems it then becomes a bit easier to give advice on what to do to get past those issues.
Obviously, the sex was never the issue. The attraction is still there so that when in your presence, even though he feels there are things that you and he need to learn, change to have a healthier relationship, the sexual attraction of being near you overcomes him and he can't stay away until you've worked on other issues. He's not necessarily unsure, just strongly attracted sexually. He sounds like someone who is willing to try and work things out. There may be some common mistakes that couples make due to not understanding the differences in the opposite sex which cause misunderstandings, or it may be common mistakes made in any kind of relating to other people. Its best to learn what that is and work on it now. If you or he avoid getting to the bottom of the issue and run away from it by breaking up, then guess what, what ever it is that you and he are doing thats counterproductive in relationships, is still gonna be there, no matter how many partners you might in the future.
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