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I'm obviously an male, but I like to take an fare approach to sexual life varieties, now don't get me wrong, I love my pleasure, but I know that my partner wants hers too.
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Hi. Ok so i was on my boyfriend instagram today and i came across some girl that his friend was dating. He liked 12 of her pictures and on one of the pictures my boyfriend asked her for her facebook. I don't know why he would ask her for that and especially liking all her pictures. I dont wanna talk to him because then hes going to think i was snooping around his instagram. What do you think about this or what would you do if it was you. I know if i did it he would be mad :(
First of all, never asume, I'm not saying that you are, I'm just saying that you should not, freak out on him about it, and it seems like you haven't so that's a good thing. You should also look for some sort of phisical proof of this, you shouldn't assume that he's cheating on just because he likes another girls pictures on Facebook, it just isn't very smart to base a relationship on something that little, however if he starts, consistently spending time with her, and less with you, then you may want to check in more with that, and become a little bit concerned. You should always analyze your problems source, maybe try to get to know this other girl, if possible; you could even try to just simply spend more time with your boyfriend, that will give you more assurance, and if he denies your request, which I highly doubt, then you know that he, just is not the,"one," for you, I recommend this, and it is, highly, effective, in relationships, typically, love relationships.
--A_perspective_mans_pov
Hey guys!
So this weekend I watched the movie Flight, the one with Denzel in it. I love his movies so I had to watch it :)
Anyways the song "Ain't no sunshine" was a good song and I loved it in the movie. Lately I have been feeling down in the dumps, similar to Whip in the movie (played by Denzel) and the song fit the mood good in the movie. Anyways I was wondering if you guys knew any songs similar to Ain no sunshine or songs that would fit the mood of being down in the dumps. I normally don't listen to that type of music but I love songs like that. I'm quite young so don't judge :)
Well it would be helpfull if you woul specify the genre, but is what I'm wondering is if you want a song that is going to change your mood from sad to happy, or if you're looking for a song that is going to, fit, your mood of disparity, but ill tell you one of both, happy-Christmas-songs. Sad-against all odds, by Phil Collins.
Okay this guy at my work, lets call him Jake, I've been really into. So last time I invited him to go bowling wit my friends and he said yes when I asked him and then the day came and he totally bailed. So no call, no text, nada. So yeah I was bummed but whatever things happen. So than like 3 weeks ago I texted him "Hey,sorry this is out of the blue and feel free to say no to this, but do you maybe want to get drinks?" Than he "I would love too, but I can't 2nite, because of a midterm due at midnight. When were you thinking of going? So I said how about saturday night? Didn't text back. Than at the I texted him when I got out of work and just so do you want to go when you have time? and said "yes defintely." I said "when?" NOTHING!! So ever since than, he hasn't text me at all. And we recently run into each other, and I kinda go the other way because I'm embarrassed because I feel he just blew me off. Like the other day, I was coming back from dropping of the mail and, he comes out of the door and we look at each other for awhile until I looked away and went back upstairs. And than today, he smiles and says hi as he holds the door open for me. So me being polite I ask how he was, he said good, than he asked me how I was, I said "pretty awesome". Than awkward silent, I couldn't read him cuz I was not looking at him. But than he's friend showed up and I went to my next class. So here's my thing, like its when I take step forward, he takes a step back? Am I too forward and direct? But like seriously I just wanted to hang just get to know each other better, it that so hard!! Jeez, he's giving me mixed signals and Idk what to do anymore because being direct is not working. And there's my cases in the past where he's been flirty and I think were on the same page, and switch goes on and he disappears. So I'm crossroads and I want be done, but I don't want to bail on whatever this is with actually trying to figure it out I guess, but I don't know how much patient I can be. So any help would be great.
You shouldn't be waiting on people, if he really would had wanted to spend time with you, he would have done it already! Now, don't take this too harshly, but I recommend you to either come out strait with this guy, meaning go and tell him how you feel, truthfully, and if you don't want to then don't, but I personally think that you should find someone else. But, YOU, do what, YOU, want to do.
15/f and he's 17 I've had a class with him since last year and I didn't really pay any attention to him. I know he thought I was attractive last year and still does and him and all his friends would talk about me. He's physically not my type but the more I get to know him the more I find him attractive. Our personalities are very similar and we do get along well and I would say were friends. I'm supposedly one of the few girls that he actually likes (whatever that means according to his mom) and he had all his friends over for his birthday and did not personally invite any girls except me. His mom really likes me and suggested inviting me and she told me that he was scared to ask me so his friends told me I could come and I did and I even gave him my number and this was a month ago and he Never texted me but I still went and we talked and shit but he we didn't really spend any time together alone because his friend wanted to hook up with me so he kind of just left us. We still talk in school but he is kind of shy and I feel like he feels that I could get any guy I want so why would I want him but I'm not a bitch like that. Like yes I like the jocks but I also like his type. Ever since his last relationship he has been like over girls cuz she broke up with him twice I think. But I really don't like to make the first move but I still wanna see if something will happen
Well you should try to get to know him more, by the way it looks, try to spend more time with this guy. Once you get to know him then you should try to show who, you, are, that's when you will be able to make the decision, of wether he likes you, vice versa.
14/f So I had this friend let's call her "Jo" and since we got in a huugeeee fight after we graduated Elementary school, she's been messing up my life... She stalked me on social media and talked shit about me.. But now that highschool has started, I barely see her so when my friend (let's csll her Amy) came up to me and said Jo was gossiping about me I grew concerned... Obiviously in life people are going to talk behind your back, gossip and spread rumors and no matter what anyone says about them not being affected at the end of the day, they are. So when I heard Jo was talking about me, I told my mom who wanted to solve this problem once and for all, She called Jo's mom who arranged for us to come over and talk.Long story short, Jo said she wasn't talking shit about me (she's a liar btw) and her mom believed her. But after another friend had a party this weekend and didn't invite me bc maybe it wss last minute but anyways I'm not convinced she's stopped tskking about me and I feel like she's out to ruin my reputation... am I being paraniod or a narcissist?
Well first of all, you did the right thing by telling someone, but you should probably find out, yourself, what she/he, is saying about you. If you can't well then just ignore, in the long run, as long as she/he is not hurting you In any way, then you should really worry about school itself, learning, instead of reputation, that's just my opinion though.
-I am female
My boyfriend conner and Me are both 16. He was my first kiss only recently, We have been dating for about a month (ONLY!). He is sooo sweet to me and wants to make sure he doesn't upset me... But I know that he is not a virgin (and he drinks) and that he has been VERY sexually active (one night stands, etc) I am a virgin, never been touched by anyone or anything. Im christian, and previously was/am planning on saving myself for marriage, or at least until I'm older. I am (was?) as innocent as i could be, honestly. My parents are very very strict, an are putting a ton of pressure on me from the opposite end. Recently he has pushed me toward getting more physical. At one point I told him that we were moving too quickly, and he backed off for a while, but then continued to push farther. I really like him, I don't want to ruin our relationship... He is very involved/ dedicated in the relationship and has made it clear he is looking for a long lasting relationship. We have discussed some of the points above...
I feel like we are sooo so so early in our relationship. He understands that I was to move slowly, but I don't think he realized how slowly I want to go! I'm not prepared emotionally to give myself away, especially to someone who I wouldn't yet say that I love.
The main problem is that I'm horrible at saying no. What my body and heart tells me is contrasting directly with what my brain says. We have gone farther than I care to go, mostly because Conner is pushy after I tell him no... And I don't know if it's to late to backtrack? Im sure he expects sex eventually, but I don't know if I will be ready for that huge step ANY time soon, probably not. I'm not good at communicating my feelings out loud, and it's making me anxious.
Just in case you want to know, we have gone as far as: making out, him touching me over (minimal) clothing, and basically dry humping... (Yikes)
I'm acting on impulse when I'm with him like this, and I feel a little different about this situation when we are apart. I do like him a lot, I feel like I want to have sex much later (even when we are apart), but I think the guilt of my parents and religion would ruin it for me? What if it doesn't work out?
HELP!!
This is a huge step, and a very crucial step of which in a relationship, but if you're not ready to take it then, DON'T take it, and if he is pushing this decision upon you, to a point of which is uncomfortable for you, and your beliefs, then maybe you should consider other choices, because long term relationships, are called long term for a reason, and that is that, it is a huge commitment, that both partners, need to feel and have, in order to make it a long term relationship. And if you don't click then you don't click and that's that.
is it bad to have sex with ur broher..
Well it all depends, now don't get me wrong it is immoral to have sex with your own flesh and blood, but it would also help to know your age but, anyways, you should defenitly reconsider your thoughts on this, and now I don't know of you did this on purpose but you did spell brother wrong, but this is oblivious to the fact and matter of which we are talking about, and that is that you had sex with your brother, and I he is forcing you, phisicaly, or mentally then you should probably contact a parent or guardian, but assuming that both components were mutual, yes I do personally think that, if you are happy with him, then, now again I am not approving of this, but I'd say go for it, but only if both are genuine, and true.
Hi everyone, well i am confused and id be grateful for some advice :) sorry if this is long! Well i knew this guy for a few months, (lets call him joey) we got a long really well and became close friends.. and i started to like him and i guess he started to like me too, we used to always act like we were a couple and it was pretty obvious there was something going on between us, but when we actually talked about it, he told me that he feels like were two different people and that our lifestyles dont clash and that we should just "give it time" honestly that didnt work out for me because it was kind of a hit or miss situation for me and i dont like to wait on anyone, so i told him to just give me some space to get over it and he agreed that was for the best. So a month went by and we started talking again, ofcourse not like we used to..we were just casual friends and honestly the fact that he gave me my space to get over it made me realize how much he didnt feel for me because if he did he wouldnt have let me go, or let go of the situation.. right? Now,i started getting closer to one of his best friends, he used to hang out with us in our group but we were never so close but now we are.. his best friend really likes me and told me he did, and i told him im not sure how i feel about him and we shuld just keep things going with the flow right now and he agreed. Now joey doesnt talk to me at all, and is always giving his best friend bad attitude, i wrote joey a few days ago and he was normal till he ignored me half way through the conversation and he NEVER does that with me, ever. And like hes been weird with the two of us, i dont understand why though.. he told me it wasnt going to work out between us and now hes upset that im just hanging out with his best friend? am i doing something wrong? i honestly dont think i am but any advice would be great, thank you all!
He could feel as you had been trying to,"turn him on," and hang out with his friends for no apparent reason. But he also could had been scared to tell you that he actually does like you. Honestly I think that he's not happy with your specific decision, not to be of any offense, I'm just saying.