Hi. Ok so i was on my boyfriend instagram today and i came across some girl that his friend was dating. He liked 12 of her pictures and on one of the pictures my boyfriend asked her for her facebook. I don't know why he would ask her for that and especially liking all her pictures. I dont wanna talk to him because then hes going to think i was snooping around his instagram. What do you think about this or what would you do if it was you. I know if i did it he would be mad :(
[ Answer this question ] Want to answer more questions in the Relationships category? Maybe give some free advice about: Love Life? A_perspective_mans_pov answered Wednesday November 20 2013, 8:18 pm: First of all, never asume, I'm not saying that you are, I'm just saying that you should not, freak out on him about it, and it seems like you haven't so that's a good thing. You should also look for some sort of phisical proof of this, you shouldn't assume that he's cheating on just because he likes another girls pictures on Facebook, it just isn't very smart to base a relationship on something that little, however if he starts, consistently spending time with her, and less with you, then you may want to check in more with that, and become a little bit concerned. You should always analyze your problems source, maybe try to get to know this other girl, if possible; you could even try to just simply spend more time with your boyfriend, that will give you more assurance, and if he denies your request, which I highly doubt, then you know that he, just is not the,"one," for you, I recommend this, and it is, highly, effective, in relationships, typically, love relationships.
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Teen2TeenHelp answered Monday November 18 2013, 7:18 pm: I know its hard to think everything is okay when this is what he's doing. I'm 21 and I would personally feel it's a little crazy for that to be happening but you know what, you just have to take it with a grain of salt. Just let it be until you have physical proof that your boyfriend is actually cheating on you. It's not easy to ask him because it makes you look insecure, but just keep your head up and keep your relationship strong. [ Teen2TeenHelp's advice column | Ask Teen2TeenHelp A Question ]
Razhie answered Monday November 18 2013, 12:21 am: Well, his instagram is public, right? It's not like you hacked into it. Right?
If my boyfriend did this, I'd ask him who she was, because I'd be curious about who it was.
But obviously you aren't just curious. You are suspicious. You think he's doing something shady. You also think he'd be angry with you for asking about it, so he probably knows that you think he is doing something shady.
I don't know what you should do about this. I don't know you or your boyfriend.
I do know you shouldn't be in a relationship with someone you can't trust. If your boyfriend has never given you reason to doubt him, and him making new female friends on Facebook is enough to freak you out, then you might need to take some time and not date anyone for a while. [ Razhie's advice column | Ask Razhie A Question ]
lightoftruth answered Monday November 18 2013, 12:01 am: I'll admit that it's odd that he is liking all her pictures and asked for her Facebook. Obviously, the first thought would be that he's interested in her.
Obviously, you don't want to talk to him about it because you ARE snooping around on his instagram.
If you're not willing to talk to him about it, then there isn't anything you can do except trust him.
You can't have a real relationship without trust. You went through his instagram, which will make him think you don't trust him and now you're suspecting something more since he asked for her Facebook. So it's either you talk things through with him, you don't do anything and learn to trust him, or you break up. [ lightoftruth's advice column | Ask lightoftruth A Question ]
thatweirdgirl answered Sunday November 17 2013, 8:25 pm: It's instagram, calm down honey. Even if he did ask for her facebook, I think you're just over-thinking way too much. If you don't trust him, then it's sort of waste of time to be together. Without trust, you're not really going anywhere. If it bothers you that much, maybe you shouldn't be snooping around his instagram. If you feel like he might be looking elsewhere for attentions, then talk to him about it. Getting paranoid and checking all of his things will get you nowhere. Be open and honest with him, after all he is your boyfriend. Take care and be safe. [ thatweirdgirl's advice column | Ask thatweirdgirl A Question ]
okay123 answered Sunday November 17 2013, 5:50 pm: Hmm, that's a tough one. My feeling is that communication is the only way to a healthy relationship...which means I think you just need to be honest. Tell him the truth, you were just looking at his photos, but noticed he'd liked her photos and that it makes you uncomfortable. You haven't given much info on your relationship, do you have reasons to feel like you can't trust him? Just curious. [ okay123's advice column | Ask okay123 A Question ]
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