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Hi, I'm Courtney. I want to become a pre-school teacher :] and I've been though a whole heck of a lot, so feel free to ask me anything, i'll do my best to help ! xxo.
"i refuse to sink."

advice

wat shuld i do
i really love this girl but she keeps lying to me and i think without honesty and trust a relationship cant work.
ive been with her for one month and it was love at first sight i just dont kno whether to stay with her because she keeps lying
wat shuld i do
x

Well, first of all, what does she keep lying about?
I'm going to assume that her lying is about things you need to trust her with, and she is not making this easy for you. A girl who lies is never good to stay with. It means that they are either insecure, or willing to use and abuse you. She thinks you will always be there no matter what she does even if she lies to you. And if shes ALREADY lying to you after a month, that is SERIOUSLY not a good sign, it means that she probably will cheat on you secretly and you'll never know about it. Sneaky girls liek this are ones you should stay away from.
If I were you, I would get out of this relationship while you can. It'll be upsetting for a little bit, but why put yourself through this? She doesn't deserve you. She LIES to you. What kind of a girlfriend lies to their wonderful boyfriend? a bad one. You deserve so much better than that, you deserve the truth. So I suggest talking to her about this. Tell her how you feel, straight up; no beating around the bush. Tell her that you can't stand her lies and that unless she changes her ways, you don't want to be with someone who lies.
But remember, if she says she'll change her ways, she most likely won't. once a liar, always a liar. This is a hard habbit for her to brewak because she thinks she can lie to you and get away with it. Wouldn't you rather being in a relationship where you can trust her and not be calling her out on her lies? Think how much more easy and fun it would be. This girl isn't worry. But it's totally up to you. Everything is up to you. Although, if you decide to break up with her [which would be very smart of you :)] you don't have to cut he rout of your life completly, you can still be friends, just not the ones who date. One day she'll relaize that her lying is wrong. And maybe, your not being with her anymore will give her a dose of a reality and she'll see the worng in her ways.
But I promise that there are WAY better girls out there who you deserve. You deserve the best. And she isn't the best.
Hope I helped, and if you have any other questions or anything at all, even if you just want to talk, don't hesitate to inbox me. I hope this all works out for you, keep me posted ! xxo :] good luck !

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hi my name is chelsie. over the summer I met this guy in Cancun. we really hit it off. and we talk to each other all the time. I'm from west Virginia and he's from arkansas. I'm pretty sure we really like eachother only thing that's keeping us from being together is where we live. I like him a lot I just don't know what to do. long distance relationships never work. maybe it could be different. :/

Of course it can be different ! Not all long distance relationships work, but a good amount do. It just depends on what you both are willing to do and how you will contribute to the bad times and the good. It's not going to be easy ... unless you make it that way. You have to be commited to this relationship, no wanderign eyes, nothing, just you and him. Talk to him all of the time on the phone. I mean, my friend is in teh SAME exact situation as you. except she lives in Boston and her boyfriend lives in California. They are always on the phone with eachother, wether it be texting, talking, IMing, facebook, e-mail .. anything. They are ALWAYS communciatong with one another and that is key. They also make dates and stuff to look forward to, so they have somehting to keep them going strong.. like anniversaries and the time he visits her or she visits him [which is usually during the summer]
They also write letters to eachother, so they can be like, "did you get my letter yet ?!" [yet another thing to look forward to] and they also send eacvhother cute presents or gifts. like little surprises. Once, he sent her this vase filled with 6 roses for their 6 month anniversary. [he moved on their 3 month anniversary] it's very cute and shows you just how far a people will go to keep their love strong. It's not impossible, and I'm sure you'll be able to do it, just talk to him about your fears and you will work through this together.
This will work out for you, it's not as hard and horrible as a lot of people make it out to be. Trust me. Oh and speaking of trust ... you NEED to trust him. and he NEEDS to trust you COMPLETLY. no trust = not going to work at all.
Keep this in mind and everything will be fine and you will ahve a wonderful relatonship with this guy :] I promise.
good luck ! if you ever need anything, even just to talk, inbox me. good luck girl ! you guys can do this. have fun :] hope i helpedd.

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Oka you see there this boy that i like and there is also these other two gurls that like him. They are both after him and both trying to get at him. And so am i, but you see i dont know if he likes both of them or one of them. Also he knows i like him and ive been liking him for like almost 2 years. Whithout really doing anything about it untill now. So these two gurls i guess they are like figting over him and stuff. And they are telling him how much they like him and all that stuff. And i guess he is falling for it. I just wanna know how can i make myself stand out to him, im not going to fight over him like all the others. But i do want him bad. And i really really like him. What can i do to make him understand. Also i dont want to be like oh i like you so much cause i bet he heard that alot of times. I want him to see that im different from all the others. How can i show that to him.

Maybe, he hasn't made a decision yet because he wants to hear what you have to say? Yes, he knows you like him, but maybe he wants to know that you are willing to fight for him and what you want.
If you want to stand out, then don't act desperate. Desperation is a huge turn-off for guys, and it makes you look pathetic. Obviously, those girls are being pathetic. So here's what you do ...
-tell him that you like him [not drmatically and everyday like those girls are doing]
-say that you've liked him for a while and that you don't want to wait around forever for him because you've been liking him for what seems like forever and that you wish he would just like you back.
-tell him that you don't want to sound wierd, but that if he started going out with another girl, you'd be jealous because you have strong feelings for him [i don;t know why, but guys love it when you tell them you'd be jealous.]
-also mention to him that you'd never hurt him because you care so much about him and only want whats best for him and if that means being with 2 girls who are throwing themselves at him in a desperate attempt to get a boyfriend, you'll still always want him to be happy. and that you'll always be there.
If all else fails, move on. If he wants you to compete for him, than he's not worth your time. Although, he could be trying to make you jealous ... either way girl, I hope you get the guy :] you deserve it.
hope i helped ! good luck and keep me updated ! xxo

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i keep getting purple lines down my knuckles and have no idea what it is;
i am also getting red blotches with really pale rings round them.
I am only young and at first i let it pass but now it keeps coming back and looking at my knuckles make me feel sick.

Soo; does anyone know what it could be.
It is probably something pathetic and me just taking it to far
but BETTER SAFE THAN SORRY ;)

thankss...
xx

You may have a form of ringworm that is called ...

Tinea corporis: When fungus affects the skin of the body, it often produces the round spots of classic ringworm. Sometimes, these spots have an "active" outer border as they slowly grow and advance. It is important to distinguish this rash from other even more common rashes, such as nummular eczema. This condition, and others, may appear similar to ringworm, but they are not due to a fungal infection and require different treatment.
http://www.medicinenet.com/ringworm/page2.htm
-look at this website and compare it to what happens with your skin. I suggest telling your parents or go to a doctor, just to be on the safe side.

your purple lines are probably caused from stress and anxiety, but nonetheless, I would make your parents aware of this and see a doctor. But don't worry I'm sure you're fine, no worries. Just talk to you parents :]
hope i helped sweetie ! xxo good luck

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Yeah I've asked you questions before and we broke up today. My friends came up to me and were like, "He's gonna break up with you and you need to do it before he does, ect" I was like okaay...they were way more mad than I was. He asked one of them, "If I weren't going out with her, would you go out with me?" She told him no, its gross and ect. It didn't really bug me knowing that we were going to break up soon enough and yeah. But the thing is was that I was mad because of everything he told them and he was flirting with my friend in front of me. So they wanted to get back at him and of course I wanted to also. Now his friends were sitting there like, "do it now, ect" My friends and I planned to say something stupid like he would say, "We need to break up" I would be like, "what? we were going out? Crap then I need to tell my boyfriend" Because it got all complicated and it did make sense. So what happened was when he was about to tell me my friend said, "ok, I need to tell you something, she thinks you guys were never going out" He said, "ok.." The thing was that he questioned it but we wanted to make him feel really stupid. I know that's bad but trust me there was more to it. She said, "She has a boyfriend" His face was like..wow so great. It seemed like he didn't take it hard but idk what was in his head. I think he was shocked. His friends were like, "dang I feel sorry for you" We made him look so stupid. I don't know why I'm not upset about this break up and why I'm not sitting here crying like I would expect it. I went for the wrong guy and I know that but now what? How do I forget about him and what I did to him. He deserved it and I don't feel bad...which I think is bad considering who I am and you wouldn't expect it. It got all complicated and stuff about everything and he was confused if we were really going out and I've thought that too because lack of communication thing. What am I supposed to do now? I don't know if I still like him especially after this. Sorry this was long and was kinda confusing. Thanks

It's natural for you to want to get back at him, and make him look like the ass that he is. I mean, he DID deserve it, and you gave him exactly the medicine he needed because he has a serious case of stupid. Like, flirting with your friend IN FRONT OF YOU is a really low blow. And okay, sometimes in the spur of the moment, we hurt people we care about most beacuse they hurt us and you want them to feel your pain so that you can feel better. I know that you don't feel remorse right now, and I'm not saying that you definetly will, I'm just saying that you'll most likely want to apologize to him sooner or later. Right now you are just shocked that you could and were capable of doing that to him, but think about it, YOU didn't actually say anything to him. It was mostly your friend, so maybe you should talk to him via e-mail or phone or something. The reason you did this to him was because you were hurt which means that you did like him alot, and the only way you can determine if you still like him is to wait a couple days and cool down. If you can't get him off your mind and you feel really bad about what you did to him [even though we both know he deserved it] then talk to him. Try to make it civil between the both of you. You might not think this now, but he's probably as confused as you are. It happened pretty fast. Just because he is a complete jerk, doesn't mean he doesn't have feelings, yuh know? We're only human, and sometimes the heat of the moment takes over us and we over-react. So just slow down, take a breath, and anazlyze your entire relationship with him. The good and the bad. And when you're done, talk to him. It's all you can do, because that's the only way things will get solved.
Hope I helped ! keep me updated ! good luck girl :] xxo

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can i practice putting tampons in when i dont have my period?

You REALLY shouldn't do this, but you can.
Number 1: It will hurt REALLY bad when you try to take it out because it's not wet or anything and trust me, it's not pleasant.
Number 2: if you are dead set on trying to practice with tampons when not on your period, put some water on the tip of the tampon and insert it. It might go in easier if you lubritcate it.
Number 3: don't leave the tampon in, take it out so you don't have the risk of getting TSS.
good luck, hope i helped, xxo !

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ok i went on a date with this girl i met on myspace and she thinks i'm cute and stuff and she very pretty herself she said she wants to go to know me but anyway the date was awesome i like to take things slow so all i did was just hold her hand and put my arm around her and the whole night she couldn't stop smiling but she said she didn't feel anything and she sees me as a friend i kinda wish i did more what i'm asking is if we go out again could this change?

Wow, you are like the perfect guy haha, no joke. And it's her loss that she's just not into you. Going out with her is unfortunatley not going to change anything, because if she didnt feel a connection, it's just not going to be there next time. But it takes a really cool and mature guy to not make a move and to WANT to take things slow. No joke. If she sees you just as a friend, then that's okay. Keep talking to her and maybe one day her feelings will change, but don't waste all of your time on her to try to figure her out, there are plenty of other girls out there who would be less of a challenge and totally into you.
Hope I helped ! xxo good luck !

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okay so my winter formal is in two weeks and i still dont have a dress ! my mom is letting me order one online since the dress stores around here dont have anything good. well im a bigger girl, not plus size, but like a large or extra large in regular sizes. and i need a dress that would flatter my figure, like one with an empire waist. so if anyone could give me some awesome sites or direct links to dresses like that, that would be amazing! my budget is under $100. thankyou!!

so you should definetly go to a thrift store, because they have awesome deals on awesome dresses. Go to TJ Max, Kohls, Mandees, debs ... but here are some websites I found for you to look at ...

http://www.edressmeprom.com/promdressesunder100.html
-this is the best site. liek seriously. so pretty, and so cheap. love it !

http://www.squidoo.com/promdressesunder100
-scroll down :]

hope I helped ! xxo good luck ! :]





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Ok I'm 14 and i have looked up stuff on this subject and haven't found anything for a guy my age. The only reason I'm pursueing this subject is I have liked this girl for nearly a year now and how found no way to make her interested in me we are very good friends but I can't seem to break that barrier. Thank you to whoever responds to this question.

If you wanna cross the line from just friends to more than friends, you're gonna have to work for it. Since I'm a girl, I know that we can be VERY complicated, but we are also very smart when it comes to signals from guys ... as long as they aren't mixed ones. Make sure you DO NOT give this girl mixed signals. Making it evident that you like her will surely get her intrested. Trust me.
-do you text her? if you do, then start getting flirty. If you don't text her, start doing it. or get her number if you don't already have it.
-Have you hung out with her? Because asking her to hang out with you is a MAJOR plus, it shows that you're intreseted and if she says yeah, she's warming up to the thought of you 2 being more than just friends.
-You should compliment her and maybe what shes wearing or her hair ... anything :] just don't over-do it. yuh know?
-Are you friends with her friends? if you're not, you should try to get friendly with them because if you're nice to them, her friends will tell the girl you like how sweet and cool you are. and if you're approved by her friends, that's another HUGE plus :]
-Playfully tease her from time to time. Maybe if she trips or is clumsy say something like, "do you need help down the stairs miss.clumsy?" and then smile. she'll like that, and will probably tease you back.
-and if you're really daring you can actually tell her that you are starting to have feelings for her and hope that she feels the same.
-don't be cocky. major turnoff.

hope I helped ! good luck ! tell me how it goes, and if you have any other questions, fee free to inbox me ! xxo :]

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Ok i am 16 years old and i am still in high school and i make about 25 dollars a week thats all the time i have to work and i have saved up 200 dollars so i want to get a tatoo for i long time i have wanted one i want to know opinions i want either the chinese symbol for passion behind my ear or angel wings on me some wear now i dont want big angel wings they will be small but i'm not sure if i should get them on the top of my back or on my lower back or if i should just get my nose pierced but i want one of these things done so whats everyones opinion on this is it a good idea or a bad idea

In my opinion, I think you should just get your nose pierced for now. Like thelaura said, it's not permanent, whereas a tattoo is. and what happens if you get a tattoo and a few years later you're like, "shit, why did i get that?!" you can't take it back or take it off and it'll just go away. So wait a while before you get a tattoo.
good luck, hope i helped ! xxo

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I'm going to prom this year and i want a unique but stylish prom hairstyle but i do not want it to be a complete updo i want some hair to be down so if you have any ideas please share and if u know wear i can find some nice hairdos please let me know
Thanks

http://www.prom53.com/wp-content/uploads/2008/01/prom-hairstyles2008.jpg
-really cool and cute !

http://www.aaa-fashion.com/wp-content/uploads/2008/10/prom1.jpg
-so unique :]

http://www.zimbio.com/Half+Up+Half+Down+Prom+Hairstyles/articles/10/Prom+Hair+Styles
-veryy pretty :]

http://celebhairstyle.files.wordpress.com/2008/06/prom-hairstyle-amanda_bynes.jpg
-pretty prettty :]

http://www.keepandshare.com/graphics/lp/prom/bluepromdress_small.jpg
i LOVE this hairstyle !

good luck, have fun, hope i helped ! xxo

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Hey i'm a junior this year and this will be my first year going to prom . I want to look absolutly beautiful i'm looking for a unique but beautiful dress it can be skinny or puffy but i dont want a short dress If you know of any dresses or of any websites that have lovely dresses like i'm looking for please let me know thanks

here are some sites you'll enjoy ..

http://www.unique-vintage.com/
-for this one, just scroll down and you'll see really really gorgeous long dresses that aren't over priced :]

http://www.cinderellasgowns.com/
-they have all types of beautiful and unique prom dresses !

http://www.promgirl.com/
-basically perfect :] haha

http://quizfarm.com/quizzes/new/xwhiterose08x/which-beautiful-prom-dress-is-right-for-you-with-pics/
-this is a quiz that'll show you the perfect dress for you :]

have fun, hope i helped ! xxo good luck

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16/f please please read this and help me..

well, you may have seen many posts about this situation i keep mentioning/bringing up. but here is something a bit different. if you havent already read about this, i met this guy at my friends house, hes chill. but hes kind of an asshole who only wants sexual things from me.

anyways, we talk on facebook and lately hes been asking almost every week for me to send him a picture. first, he wanted one of my chest. i never sent it. then he wanted one of my thong. so i did send a picture of my thong just by itself on the floor, it didnt matter. then last night i saw he sent me a text. it said hey are we still gonna do those sexual things still? and i responded, yeahh haha why do you ask? and he said, i dont know lol so send me a pic of you in your panties.
..hes asked me multiple times for this. hes really pressuring me..i feel like i cant say no because then he wont talk to me anymore or want to do those things with me and he'll find some easy slut who will. i know im being stupid but i dont wanna lose him like that..but i just cant say no..i dont want to send one though. 1.) he will most definitly show it off to his friends.
i know this because when he was texting me last night, he said he was chillin with people. and i said, so you ask me to send a pic while your with people..? and he goes, haha no im leaving now but send a pic i want it bad
..i feel so slutty talking to him. i cant believe i even say half of the things i say to him. he pretty much asks if he can play with me and asked me to give him a lap dance and moan and all of this other perverted shit like that and i said yeah i would. i dont know why im being so stupid. i do somehow still want him though..but i dont want to send a picture. people could find out..even if its just of me wearing a thong, only down there though. but still..

:/

I see what you're saying, and I can tell that you don't want to send the pictures, but you want him to keep liking you. This guy seems like he only wants you for your features and not the real you, stay away from those kind of guys. Being stupid and making mistakes is part of being a teenager, but if you KNOW that what you're doing is wrong, then don't do it. I used to have a best friend who knew everything about me, and she told me that she was desperate for a guy, and I felt bad because I knew that in the future she would do anything to get with a guy, we're no longer friends anymore, so I don't really know. But sometimes, girls feel like we have to do stuff to get guys to like us, or keep liking us ... and its not true. at all. I really hope I can help you through this, so inbox me!
hope I helped ! xxo

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14/f

Ok so I've asked you a question before and everything went fine. We have been going out for almost 2 months now. Valentines day will be 2 months. Like before, I said I only see him twice a week. He started going to a new school because his parents didn't like the last one. I knew everyone in the school he use to go to. Now he goes to a totally new school. He has been going there for a week. I don't know if I want to break up with him now. For one thing, we haven't talked to each other for the last 2 times we've seen each other, haven't sat by each other or anything. Which I think is stupid. The most he did today was come up and stand by me and he was talking to his friend, who is also my friend. So my friends always complain to him about not talking to me and yeah. Then later I talked to his friend and he said, "you better watch your guy, those girls at his school are wow" So yeah, I want to break up with him but then I don't. I mean you know what I mean. I seriously don't want to lose him. Especially not before valentines. But I don't know...like last week it was all fine and he was acting completely normal and talking to me and stuff. What am I supposed to do? and actually thinking this kinda hurts. Please help me. Thanks for any help and sorry it was long.

I know EXACTLY what you mean when you say he's acting wierd and not talking to you, when he's RIGHT next to you. He's just being immatue and trying to get you to notice him and chase him. His eyes might be wandering to other girls, I wouldn't take that chance ... if you want to be with him. But from what you've told me, you know in your heart that you don't want to be with him and it hurts thinking about that because it is very emotional. I'm assuming that he is your first "real" boyfriend, since you are only 14, but if it's not working, it's not working. yuh know? And also, it's a proven fact that some boys get weird and tend to become distant or break up with their gf/bf before a holiday. It seems to eb alot of pressure for them and they get scared. Sometimes, biys are easily influenced or intimidated and mixed signals confuse them, so check yourself ... are you sending him mixed signals or implying that you don't want to talk to him? I think that you should talk to him about this. You really need to say something to him now even before Valentine's Day, because if you don't feel like you're not in a relationship then there are much better fish in the sea. Trust mee.
And you feel like you want to break up with him one minute, but then next you don't want to because the truth is, you're scared of being alone. You probably think that no one else will ever like you, which is so not true. Go with your first intincts, and yours would be to break up with him. I was in the same exact position as you and we broke up with eachother, it was a mutual decison. We didn't talk or hang out or ever see eachother, so .. it ended and for the first few months, I was sad that it was over, but after that I've realized how much better off I have been without him. I'm so much happier, and the relationship wasn't worth the complications. We turned out to be MUCH better off as friends. I think you should SERIOUSLY consider that option. You won't lose him, you'll just be friends instead of girlfriend and boyfriend. It gets better I promise. But you really need to talk to him. face to face, over the phone, on the computer, anything. But you both can't dismiss or ignore the fact that there is something wrong and not right about the situation you are both in, and the only way yto figure out what's going on would be to talk to him yourself.
good luck and hope i helped ! dont hesitate to ask me anything else, I'm always here for you ! xxo :]

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okay so i just got out of the hospital after having my 2nd surgury for a collapsed lung. i have all these scars along my right ribcage and on my breast..is there any brand of cocoa butter that works?

I don't suggest cocoa butter, but I do suggest mederma ...
http://www.mederma.com/

this cream really works, not even kidding. it's pretty much a lifesaver. no joke !
hope I helped, xxo good luck ! :]

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ok well me and my boyfriend just broke up, we went out for about 5 months.
but anyway, i am still not over him.
and what helps me the most to get over a guys is to listen to music and get my emotions out with the words of the song.

so i was wondering if anyone has any good sad\love songs for me to listen to.
i am into about any kind of music,
so plz give me some ideas!!!!

thanks!

Beyonce: halo
Beyonce: if i were a boy
The spill canvas: all hail the heartbreaker
Mayday Parade: Jersey
Mayday Parade: miserable at best
Mayday Parade: jamie all over
Kelly Clarkson: behind these hazel eyes
The Myriad: a clean shot
The veronicas: all i have
[any taylor swift song]
Motion city soundtrack: Broken heart
Motion city soundtrack: it had to be you
Kanye West: heartless
Carolina liar: I'm not over
The pussycat dolls: i hate this part
Bleed the dream: just like i remember
Jojo: too little too late
K-Ci and jojo: all my life
vertical herizon: best i've ever had
evanescence: sober
red jumpsuit apparatus: guardian angel
lifehouse: broken
Avril Lavigne: my happy ending
No doubt: simple kind of life
hope i helped, if you want more, just inbox me :] xxo good luck ! it'll get better :]

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Is it embarrassing for a woman to wear maternity clothing when they are not pregnant? I've seen some really cute maternity clothing that I would love to wear but.. I am not pregnant.

Any advice would be awesome!

My friend actually got a really cool shirt from a maternity store, and she's the skinniest thing ever, Nobody even realized what it was, it's kinda like her little secret. And she got a lot of compliments on it, so yeahh, I vote for wearing it :] it's your style, wethere you're pregnant or nott :]
have funn ! xxo hope i helped

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Ok so i recently had sex with a jerk who i don't talk to anymore now i am still sort of interested in my very first love he goes to high school with me but is a freshmen because he failed but he has always been thier for me and did love me at one time i would like to have him back in my life but of course he has new girls and has moved on also so should i send him a myspace message because i don't have his cell anymore and tell him how i feel and see if we could rekindle what we had or should i not and just let it be

Go for it ! reach out to him and tell him how you feel. That you'd like to start talking to him again and see how it goes from there. Trying won't hurt, somehting good can come out of it :] Send him a myspace message, talk to him more and more and get taht comfort level back, first loves never go away, but you can always try to get them back :]
good luck ! hope I helped ! xxo

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hi i'm 16 years old and i am done with my life i see no hope i have gone through lots of pain in my short life my dad puts me down and is constently critisizing me and i fell in love very young when i was 12 in seventh grade i found my first love he ended up failing and having to move and because we wear young and it was a secret we lost eachother that emotionally hurt me a lot i became very alone and in high school i started to loose my friends and now have very few and i am very alone also i ended up falling for another guy he turned out to be a jerk took my virginity and called me and said horrible things about me and moked me about when we had sex it has made me very self causious i don't have any pride in myself i hate myself everything i do isnt good enouh i think i'm ugly i just need something nuthing i try every makes me happy please someone help me what can i do to get my confidence and self worth back so i will stop doing horrible things lieing and having sex with random guys because of my sadnees

I am also 16, and I have learned that to get through your highschool years, you have to grow a tough skin and not let people get the better of you. You're not done with life, your life has only just begun. I know everyone is going to tell you that you should forget about those people who hurt you, but don't. Don't forget about them, learn from them, know how to be NOTHING like them, because you are a MUCHHHHHHH better person than them. No matter what any jerk says, you will always be better than them. Don't forget the past, learn from it, you've experienced its lows, but now you're going to experience the highs :] One of my favorite quotes is ...
"we're all in the gutter, but some of us are looking at the stars." -Oscar White
it has helped me think on the bright side in many occasions, and i'd just like to say, that you need to look at the stars. Honey, you've been through things no 16 year old should ever have to go through, ever, and I'm here for you, and you're not alone. You don't have to do this alone. Don't let these jerk-offs win or get you down, show them who's boss. Don't start to think of less of yourself because a couple of assholes were created on this earth. They are just going to grow up unhappy and friendless, don't follow their paths. Branch out, go out there and involve yourself in activities. find something you absolutley love to do ... like drawing, or writing, or playing a musical intrument or sport. If you busy yourself, you're bound to find yourself and who you really are. You're going to get your pride back. Sure, you've made you're fair share of mistakes, and aren't a virgin anymore, but there are people out there who have done much worse, much much worse. However, today, you are starting over; a fresh start. It'll be like your own little new years. Time for a resolution. what's yours gonna be? well, whatever it is, make it a promise to yourself that you will not break.
I know you're saying that because you have a low self worth, that you are having sex with random guys in result of your sadness, but this is just an excuse to hide your pain. You think that sleeping with a bunch of random guys is going to get you anywhere? or happy? then you have to stop. Because it's not. Don't prove what those jerks are saying about you is true, change your ways now. It's never too late. never. You are a great person, who deserves so much more than what you have gotten. Just think, once you get through this dark, and hard time, you're going to be one of the strongest people out there. And I want you to know that no one is ugly, not even you. There is a unique beauty in all of us, it's just how you present yourself and those spectacular qualities. What's your best feature? [and don't say nothing, because everyone has a beautiful feature.] look yourself in the mirror and stare at your best feature. Tell yourself that you're ot ugly. Say it over and over again, out loud or in your head, and you'll believe it just like the people around you do.
I also suggest talking further to someone about this. Like a guidance counselor at school, or your parents to try to get help from a therapist, or go to one yourself. Talk to a friend or teacher or family member you trust. This can't just stop here, you need to get back on track because you have gotten a little off path, but no matter how many forks in the road, you'll find your way :] I promise. and I never break promises. Don't give up just yet, give it anither shot. Pick yourself off the floor and start over :] write in a journal or diary about how you feel, don't let anyone use or abuse you. You are wonderful, and you most liekly won't feel better with the snap of your fingers, it'll take a little while, but I know you want help, so I know you have the strength to get through this. Don't worry. You'll be fine, I'm always here for you, to help you through whatever you need, whenever. Don't give up. You have the rest of your life to try. Never stop trying. You go girl, I believe in you.
good luck ! inbox me if you ever need to just talk or anything. :] xxo

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I know this isn't exactly a deep advice question but I'm stuck here. I love to read, I'm a total bookworm. I was wondering if there were any suggestions out there of a good read.
I enjoy Jodi Picoult books a lot, and I've read all of hers. I like books like that, that have plot twists and shocking endings. I also like heartbreaking stories; I know that sounds weird but I like books that have unfinished endings that leave the rest up to the readers.

Anyway, I'd really appreciate some suggestions. Thanks =]

http://www.whatshouldireadnext.com/search

this is a brilliant site and it will give you ton of reccomendations on similar books you should try reading :]
hope i helped ! good luck ! xxo

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