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My boyfriend again
14/f
Ok so I've asked you a question before and everything went fine. We have been going out for almost 2 months now. Valentines day will be 2 months. Like before, I said I only see him twice a week. He started going to a new school because his parents didn't like the last one. I knew everyone in the school he use to go to. Now he goes to a totally new school. He has been going there for a week. I don't know if I want to break up with him now. For one thing, we haven't talked to each other for the last 2 times we've seen each other, haven't sat by each other or anything. Which I think is stupid. The most he did today was come up and stand by me and he was talking to his friend, who is also my friend. So my friends always complain to him about not talking to me and yeah. Then later I talked to his friend and he said, "you better watch your guy, those girls at his school are wow" So yeah, I want to break up with him but then I don't. I mean you know what I mean. I seriously don't want to lose him. Especially not before valentines. But I don't know...like last week it was all fine and he was acting completely normal and talking to me and stuff. What am I supposed to do? and actually thinking this kinda hurts. Please help me. Thanks for any help and sorry it was long.
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I know EXACTLY what you mean when you say he's acting wierd and not talking to you, when he's RIGHT next to you. He's just being immatue and trying to get you to notice him and chase him. His eyes might be wandering to other girls, I wouldn't take that chance ... if you want to be with him. But from what you've told me, you know in your heart that you don't want to be with him and it hurts thinking about that because it is very emotional. I'm assuming that he is your first "real" boyfriend, since you are only 14, but if it's not working, it's not working. yuh know? And also, it's a proven fact that some boys get weird and tend to become distant or break up with their gf/bf before a holiday. It seems to eb alot of pressure for them and they get scared. Sometimes, biys are easily influenced or intimidated and mixed signals confuse them, so check yourself ... are you sending him mixed signals or implying that you don't want to talk to him? I think that you should talk to him about this. You really need to say something to him now even before Valentine's Day, because if you don't feel like you're not in a relationship then there are much better fish in the sea. Trust mee.
And you feel like you want to break up with him one minute, but then next you don't want to because the truth is, you're scared of being alone. You probably think that no one else will ever like you, which is so not true. Go with your first intincts, and yours would be to break up with him. I was in the same exact position as you and we broke up with eachother, it was a mutual decison. We didn't talk or hang out or ever see eachother, so .. it ended and for the first few months, I was sad that it was over, but after that I've realized how much better off I have been without him. I'm so much happier, and the relationship wasn't worth the complications. We turned out to be MUCH better off as friends. I think you should SERIOUSLY consider that option. You won't lose him, you'll just be friends instead of girlfriend and boyfriend. It gets better I promise. But you really need to talk to him. face to face, over the phone, on the computer, anything. But you both can't dismiss or ignore the fact that there is something wrong and not right about the situation you are both in, and the only way yto figure out what's going on would be to talk to him yourself.
good luck and hope i helped ! dont hesitate to ask me anything else, I'm always here for you ! xxo :]
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