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"We make war so that we may live in peace." -aristotle

"If you judge someone right away, you will not be able to learn to love them."

I'm Hayley, I'll try to help you as best I can. I'm 18, and a senior in high school. I like art, music, and clothing. I'm a vegetarian abd have been consistent with it for four years. I have two dogs a westie named misty and a Maltese/poodle mix named mally. I know a lot about dogs because any time
my dogs get a scratch, I research and call the vet haha.

advice

Everyone is always saying i am too sensitive, even my friends! Once i was playing cards with my friends and then we played a joke on a friend taking away her card and she slapped my leg at least 5 times. So i told my friend and this boy was listening and said what you going to go cry about it. I get sad so then people say to me i am starting drama. I really need help on this!

How old are you?
If you're 12 & up.
Then, yes you're causing drama. I mean get over it. Hit them back. You shouldn't get so worked up about little things. You need to go with the flow more. Like, I mean.. you can always tell the girl to stop? If its leaving a red mark, or something. Or it actually hurts. Or you could be like in a silly voice & say the girls name, & give her like a face. I do that alot, & everyone just laughs. & the person stops.

If your under 12.
Then, I don't blame you for getting upset. And all you gotta do is, just tell them to stop & that its hurting your feelings. & if they don't like that, then oh well. Life goes on.

Hope I helped! bye =)

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okay i normaly eat like an avarage amount of food but a little more cause i have breakfast, lunck, snack, and dinner okay well i haven't been eatting breakfast or snack and i haven't been eatting much at dinner its weird bcause i am always hungry but im NOT fat (im 13, 5 feet 1 inch, and 90 lbs) so what do you think this is about its kinda weird because i eat a TON and i haven't been hungry for like anything what should i do? Please help

Well, have you had your period yet? When I started mine, I didn't eat anything hardly at all, I never do when I have it. Its probaly that. If not, it could be like, I don't know.. your body changing. & you're just not hungry as usual. Like when you go to eat something.. & like right before you put it in your mouth, you decide your full? Or when you take a couple bites? Thats how I am, when its that time of the month. Is your stomach like making noises? you know.. when you're hungry. If it does, then try to eat a little. But, if its not, its either the time of the month, or your body is just changing.
If it last for like a couple weeks..I'd maybe see a doctor. Or you could call those people, over the phone, where you tell them your symptoms, & they tell you what you have.

Hope I helped bye =)


& thats not fair, that you only weigh 90 pounds, you must be really skinny. I weigh 105 & i'm 5 foot. =P haha & i'm 13 too. actually almost 14, but whatever. In the next couple of days i'll be 14. lol

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hey everyone... im a 15/f && i have been getting bullied since 8th grade by this girl && some of her friends... && this girl in 8th grade started IMing me on the internet and started cussing me out.. && then in 9th grade she got my cell phone number and started prank calling me along with her friends... && she also would say im ugly and i try to hard to fit in... she told me this when i talked to her eariler today!!! i wuz like im not ugly && i don't try to hard to fit in && i don't care what u && yur firiends think of me... but she was like fuuck you && go to hell && don't tell me what to do... do she's going to keep bothering me!! so how should i prevent her from bothering me? i've tried to ignore her && that didn't work... && i've tried standing up for myslelf

Alot of my group of friends, are mean like that.
They are very insecure. When there just with like me & there other friends. They always say how ugly they are or whatever. But, when there around other people, they act like there worth a trillion bucks. They also, I remember, they'd pick on this one girl, I don't know you, so I can't say your just like this girl. But, she wasn't lets say, the most popularest person alive. & so she was easy to pick on, because she would never stand up for herself. Then, one day.. they'd say like, you're so skinny, you'll break in half.& she would be like "Awww thanks." They probaly pick on you, because they want you to get hurt, & they want to make themselves feel good. I suggest, when they do, joke around & just go with it. If that doesn't work, tell them off. & about them calling you.. thats harrasment. They could get in big trouble for that

Hope I helped! bye =)

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I am 20 years old and I am sexually active. About a month ago I was diagnosed with a yeast infection and treated it with a 3-day Monistat treatment. Now I am pretty sure that I have one again with all the same symptoms (white discharge, odor, severe itching, redness, and painful intercourse. I heard that it is uncommon to get repeated yeast infections and that it is possible that my boyfriend had contracted it from me last time I had one, and keeps infecting me with it every time we have sex now. Immediately after we had sex a couple days ago the severe itching started. I'm just wondering if he is going to keep infecting me if that is at all possible and why I might keep getting yeast infections. Thank you!

WELLLL. i was at the doctors today,& i was waiting for the doctor. & they had this thing, that showed like symptoms if you have like STDs or something, & it said, somethings called vagintis [sp?] something like that, & it had all those side affects. So, I'd just go & see a doctor if i were you.

hope that helped. bye =)

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i have blue eyes and brown hair well how can i make my eyes look bigger .. everyone is always saying how pretty my eyes are ... but i want the to stand out more what can i do ? and how can i wear my hair to compliment my eyes && i have really gross eyebrows i hate them they like curl and there wayy long.. HELP PLEASE

Do you have bangs?
That could hide, your eyebrows.
Or you could get them waxed.
Pulling your hair away from your face, might make them stand out more.
Also, makeup makes your eyes like 1000 times bigger

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well... i was really close to this girl, we were good friends and then like one day we was planning to do stuff like goo to the movies that day then she rang back later and said she couldn\'t do anything the next day so im like oh ok.. and then i was on msn and herd from my boyfriend and his cousin that she had invited them over to her house the next day.. i was stunned coz she lied 2 me and said she couldn't do anything and that she didnt even invite me or her own boyfriend to her house instead she invited my boyfriend and his cousin... her little sister and her were only going to be home the next day and her mum doesn't let her have boys over when she isnt home...my boyfriend was at his house with his cousin and they were saying to her on msn like would you have sex with me tomorow(the cousin said that) and she was like no becoz i have a boyfriend and i wouldnt wanna cheat coz i love him and all... i was pissed off at her for inviting them over already.. anyywayz it came the next day and i was like mehh stuff it im gona go out so me and my sister went shopping.. then when we got home at like 4 my boyfriend called me and him and his cousin were going on like guess what i had sex with your friend annd all i was like wtf coz shes 13 and my boyfriends cousin is 17 annd she has never had sex before (she told me she wouldnt until she was ready and had atleast been going out with the guy for more then 4months or something) anyway i was soo shockked i was like omg wtf.. annd then there like nahh were only joking and im like ok annd didnt really believe them anymore.. annd then later on msn they go to me were sorry yeahh my cousin really did have sex with my friend and i was like noo you told me before they didnt.. and there like well it did happen.. then i decided to message my friend and ask her.. so i did, and she replieed and said no it didnt really happen i only hookedup with him as a dare and i was like wat you cheated on your boyfriend coz you hookedup with another guy (this was the first time she had met my boyfriends cousin) and she was like it wasnt cheatin it was a dare.. then i messaged and asked was that all and shes like yess i wouldnt do anything else... then at that moment my boyfriend and his cousin were like to me nahh it didnt really happen and my friend just messaged me and said sorry i take it all back it really did happen.. i had sex with him and i was soo shockked i couldnt not believe it.. and my boyfriend and his cousin still denided it and said it didnt happen.. (his cousin has a fioncee) annyways and i rang my friend and she was like crying on the fone and i go who else knows and she said my mum and im like well tell me everything that happend.. (this was her story) \"we went into the bedroom and your boyfriend (my boyfriend) and my little sister were out in the lounge watching movies and while we were in the bedroom he asked if i wanted a hug coz he said i looked cold so i said ok and then he started hooking up with me (making out) and then he asked if i wanted to hop into the bed soo it was warmer so im like ok and then we hopped in and he started un-dressing me..then he asked if i wanted to have sex and i said yes and then we had sex and after 5mins i said stop becoz it was wrong and it hurt so much\"... i was soo shocked i was like i gtg annd hunng up!! then the next day came and i woke up to a fone call from my friends mum.... she said to me that it really did happen and that she had taken my friend to the docotors and all and i was like im soo shocked i cant believe she even did that becoz its her first time and she goes and does it with a 17 yearold and there not even going out!! and it was the first time she had met him.. and her mum told me to be supportive and like stick by my friend and all and give her sympathy coz she isnt in a very good state at the moment.. i was like ok.. then yesterday i was talking to my boyfriend and he was telling me the truth that really happend.. and i found out that my friend had also given his cousin head and he licked her out!! i was shocked even more soo as she had not even done this with her boyfriend yet.. i was also told that his cousin and her had also had a conversation over the fone the day after it had happend saying that she would doo it again!! i was like STUNNED.. becoz as if she is proud of what she did.. she lied 2 lots of people eg.me she cheated on her boyfriend and she broke her mums trust... i dont think i can be friends with her after she is trying to get sympathy from people but then telling other people in a way thats like she is proud of wat she did!! i dont think i can be friends with a person like that.. she lied to me and it really hurt me and i was already angry at her for even inviting them over and telling me she couldn't do anything.. she also told my other friend yesterday that she got raped!! and that is no where near true!! she agrreed 2 have sex with him and she was happy with it becoz they were going for over 30mins (which is what my boyfriend said) annd she also did other stuff which means she didnt plann on stopping.. she also agreed to doo it again!! her and her boyfriend have broken up now and im glad becoz she does not deserve him at all!! she should be ashammed of what she did and its nothing to be proud of!! i dont no how i can not judge her even thoo she is ment 2 be my friend.. but i dont no anymore becoz i still cant get over what she did!! this is gona stick with her for the rest of her life and your virginity is not something you can just throww around you want your first time to be special not with someone that you had only met for like 30mins and that you dont even no annd your not even dating.. can you please help me and give me some advice im sorry this is so long i just wanted to give you the whole story.. please helpp i need some advice... should i still be her friend ?? or should i tell her how i really feel?? what do i doo??

Congratulations.
You have some common sense.
Your right, it shouldn't be with a person you just met, & all that. If I were you, I'd never talk to her again. Because she could suck you into & make you be just like her. & you don't want that. She just about messed up a big part of her life. Shes a slut, you don't want to be friends with that. Tell her how you feel, & tell her you don't want to be friends with her.

Shes bad news.
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im 14. i REALLY REALLY need money and i never get asked to babysit and personally i dont even like babysitting. is there any real jobs i could get? and i dont mean walking dogs or anything like that i mean a job with hours. oh and if anyone knows any place that hires 14 year olds thatd be great!

There really isn't many jobs that hire 14 year olds. Accept like carnival things.. Since its summer, I'm sure you can find one. But, you'll only beable to get that job for a few days. & i doubt it pays much at all. A good like job for a 14 year old, is a paper route.

-I did it, & i made 100 dollars, a month. But, I had a big route. But still.
-Its only of the most, an hour of your time, one day a week..[usually thursday]
-You get 100 dollars or whatever, every 4 weeks. People that work in target, for fulll time, make about 100 dollars a week.

so, i consider it a pretty good job.
hope that helped bye.

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I'm 13 years old and I like fashion but I really don't have any style. I really wanna be a model when I get older because I'm 5'6 and only 105 punds and alot people tell me that I'm pretty. Does anyone have any advice on how to become more of a fashion expert?

Magazines. =)
I love teen vogue.
You'll know whats in & whats out, on the back of your hand. reading that stuff.

Hope that helped.


& curse you, i weigh 105 & im only 5'1 =P=)=/

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Ok...I have this issue...I am SOOOO bored... I mean..I am basically a loner so I dont go anywhere...now I am dog sitting so if i do go somewhere I have to take hte puppy with me...I just got a new cell fone but ive already explored it to the fullest and i have nothing to do. I cleaned my house yesterday and I am dead sick of the computer...does anyone have anything on ideas of what I can do...??? Plz help!

Make some friends.
& you'll never be bored again.
Just go online, maybe send someone an IM saying hey lets hang out. & there yah go, you'll have plans for friday night. =)


& everyone has bored days in the summer.

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okay, seriously.. i must be an insomniac. it's 5:27 am and i cant sleep, i cleaned my whole room, bathroom and kicthen to give me something to do, and im hyper as ever still, for the past 2 months i have not been able to sleep, and when i do sleep i sleep to much, what is rong with me? am i going insane???

Do you have alot on your mind? Thats one of the main reasons, why people can't sleep. Because, something is usually bothering them. Whatever you think about at night, like if you've done something wrong in your past, or whatever. You need to fix it. If thats not it, then try drinking a warm glass of milk. Still doesn't work? Try counting sheep. & those methods. Have you told your mom or someone? That you have this problem? You're sleeping habit might be messed up. Because, for awhile I had trouble sleeping, because I was inlove with this one boy & thats all I ever thought about. So I had trouble falling asleep. & I would like go to bed at like 3, & then wake up at 12 the next day. So try getting your sleeping habit better. The days that you sleep for a really long time, thats probly because, your getting rest for all the time you missed sleeping, when you stayed up. If you try those things & it still doesn't get better. You might want to see a doctor or something. Hope that helped! bye =)

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Im 14yrs old almost 15 and my height is 5'1,and too small for my age{i know}.My weight is 121pounds and I think im fat !.I dont want to eat anymore because I dont wanna gain weight.I exercise 3 TO 4 TIMES a week but is not working plz help me!

Your not fat at all. Your BMI is normal. Your fine. don't worry. Also, don't compare yourself to twigs in your grade. I used to do that, & thought I was fat.. & then I realized, I was normal.

I hope I helped ! byee =)

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do you think getting fingered or giving a handjob is to slutty for a 13 yr old? thanks♥

I'm 13. I know some girls who have done those things, & made fun of & called major slutts. You shouldn't be rushing to grow up. Once your grown up, your grown up. Its your decison though of course. If you want too, & you have no doubt in your mind, that its not a bad idea, then hey, what the heck.. go for it. If you do have just even one single doubt, wait. Besides, you can bleed from getting fingered, & such. =) So yepp. Its whatever you choose.

...Just remember the consequences.

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my one friend wants to help me with my imperfections..i mean she hasn't said it but i know she wants to.so should i be offended? or should i think its nice?

Depends what kind of friend she is.
Has she always tried to help you with your problems & such? If she has, be grateful she wants to be honest with you, & will help you fix it. Because, some friends, when you ask advice, & they lie to you, not to hurt your feelings, so its good she wants to help.

If she can be mean, or a backstabber or something.. then hmm, i might be offended.

But, hopefully shes not! Hope I helped! bye. =)

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Ok so im in dance and i have been for 10 years but like i am fat and and like a dance at least 8 hours a week and i was wondering y am i not getting skinnier and i do sit ups to get rid of my fat so what am i don't wrong?

You lose 300 calories, for every hour you dance. so your burning up 2400 calories a week.
so your only burning up that much. thats probaly how many calories you eat in a day, or if you really are like fat, then your not burning up anything. so yeah

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I'm 14.
To make a really long story shorter, my bff...Jane. Has an abusive boyfriend, also, she's only 13, which makes it even more weird. She's going out with a 15 year old.
And she says I'm the only one she told.
She says he doesn't like beat her up, he just hits her a lot..
I never noticed, but recently she's been wearing long sleeves. Because she's actually BRUISED.

But, Jane says she really has it under control, and doesn't want to break up with him because she apparently realllly likes him. And she says he likes her, but..

I said if I were her I would break up with him.
Then she said something like that I didn't know what love was, so I couldn't say that.
I've never really been in this kind of situation before.
Do I tell an adult?
If you were me..what would you...do?
ugh, I'm kind of confused.
And I want to help my friend.

A person who hits a 13 year old girl, is mental. & need help. That, or he has major anger managment, to a point where its not safe. If she has bruises on her arms, & after she tells him to stop.. & he still doesn't. Confront him yourself. But, don't wait on this. Do it right away. If he doesn't stop in about.. lets give it a weekk. & espically if hes getting worse, tell an adult immediatly. Why does he hit her in the first place? She doesn't need him. He doesn't truly like her obviously that much, if hes willing to hurt her.

-It also depends on how your looking at this situation, if you think he isn't nice, & you don't like him, & you know hes trouble, then tell an adult right away.
-If you think he just has anger managment, confront him first.

I hope that helped! byee.

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I have this swimming party on July 24. I weigh 147, 5'1, so im chunkey, or "fat". Well, I want a flat tummy. I will feel way much better. You know. Well this is what i have to loose weight, (my idea)



100 crunches, 100 calf phrases with 10 ilb. weights. go up by 5 every day.


eat only grilled chicken & fish. Salad, fruit, and drink water ONLY. Walk 15 minuetes after every meal. Smaller porportions. Skip exercise for only one day, that day only eat fruits & veggies.


So, does everyone think this is a fine plan? Thanks!


-Also. I want it to be REALLY flat. You know? soo, i meen im willing to do anything extra, i just dont have a bike and i CANNOT run. Thanks!

It sounds a little over done.
-Drink 6-8 glasses of water per day.
its important to be hydrated, espically since your working out so much.
-Its good that your eating fish, seafood like salmon, tuna, halibut, and bass are all rich in omega-3 fatty acids. These can help reduce cholestrol and may even improve your mood, thinking & concentration. & they help make your hair shiny. =)
-Don't have orange juice, have an actual orange. Fruit is healthier, less caloric choice. It also has more fiber , which keeps you full longer; even juices not from concentrate can't compete with that.
-Orange & yellow vegetables like carrots, butternut squash, and yellow summer squash contain carotenoids, which may be anticancer compunds, while red and purple berries like blueberries, raspberries, & cherries contain health-promoting antioxidants.
-Start squatting. That's how those bikini-clad celeberaties get terrific tushes. Stand with your feet shoulder lenght apart and your shoulders back. Keeping your head up and your hands at your sides, do a deep knee bend. As you come up, exhale through your mouth. Do three sets of 10 to start. Once it becomes easier, do more.
-Dancing for an hour makes you burn up 300 calories!
-Jumping rope is the best exercise for your money. It works a tremondous amount of muscle while offering a great cardiovacascular workout.
-Sit up straight, your abs will thank you. The better your posture the tighter your abs. Make a serious effots to keep your posture straight and your ab muscles taut, and you should see a difference in the near future.
-8 hours of sleep can help you get in shape. Your hungrier, when you don't sleep.


I hope that helped a little ! bye

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I am like the only person that doesn't have a boyfriend. And I have never actually had a kiss i mean i just turned 14 but it is so embarrassing. PLEASE HELP!!!!!!!

In my school, I'm one of the few girls who has had a boyfriend & kissed someone. I'm 14 too. Its not a big deal, when the time comes you'll get a boyfriend. Just start talking to guys more. & getting to know them.

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I am on a medication where your body retains water (predizone to be exact) I have been on it for a few years (if you on it short term for like poison ivy i dont think it affects your weight) anyways

I was wondering is there anyway i can loose the weight i have "gained" from this medication. I know alot of people that take it get really fat but I am only about 10 pounds over weight (well in my mind im 5'1" 115 pounds) but i have trouble loosing weight because of this. Besides around my waist my face is alittle on the chubby side from this too. (although most would think thats my natural face shape without even thinking.. its just rounder) but in the winter when i pack on about 5 more pounds than i do in the summer i tend to look as if i almost have a double chin



My questions is how can i loose weight without like stop drinking water and other beverage because I am very active so I have to have usually 1-2 bottles a day besides what i have with meals. Because for school i would really like to get closer to 100 pounds and be nice and skinny but no matter what i do i can lose pounds but not really size.


Any suggestions? (and please don't say I am at a fine weight my doctors and parents say I am "chubby")

Thats odd. Are you sure you are fat? Your BMI is normal. Are you sure you're really 5'1? Hmm. I don't know.

BUT.. a great diet is, the atkins diet.
You only drink 1-2 bottles a day?
You drink 8 on this.. well you don't have too. but it helps more.
All you do is eat protein & vegetables.
No bread, junk food, or fruit.
I take a walk everyday, & drink plenty of water.
You lose like 10 pounds in two days.
But, you have to keep at it, because it slows things down for awhile. Just for like a week. Check into it though..

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Hello, I'm fat, I weight 330 pouds roughly and like hm...

I have acne, but I'm pretty sure I can fix that with some facial hygiene and working out(after all, I'm only 18).

I wanted to know if it's still worth living, because I quit scroll and I'm about 4 years late on high school now, I should've been in college.

I deeply wish I could change all of that, but it gradually accumulatyed/piled up, now my life is a bad bad mess and it's going to take a GREAT effort to recover everything.

It sorta kills all my motivation to take it back when I think of how much it will be hard to heal, so I just sit and wait for my death to happen.

Is there anything I can do to decide to change? Because by sheer self esteem is impossible, I find myself worthless and unloved.

It will get better.
& then you'll back on this, & say.. "Thank God I didn't commit suicide"
Trust meeee.
I knew someone that lived through suicide, & they said.. there glad they did, because they realized that it wasn't worth it.

You need to get healthey for one.
Work out.
Theres a diet.. that makes you lose, like 10 pounds in 2 day, & then you have to keep at it for like 2 weeks. Its thee atkins diet.
All you do is eat protein, & vegetables. & drink plenty of water & take walks. No bread, junk food, or fruit. Just protein & vegetables.
.. Can't you also like get some thing, surgery wise, to lose weight? I forget what its called, but you probaly know.

Acne wise.
Proactiv is the best.

..Once, you just start to get a little skinnier, & your face clears up.. you'll already start to get happy, & hopefully that will motivate you.

Now why would you quit school? School is such a wonderful thing. What gave you the idea to quit?

You're quite deep in a hole.. but that doesn't mean, you can't dig yourself out.

A therapist, is a great person to see. Have you talked to your parents about this? About how you feel? Please do so. I promise everything will get better!

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ima 14yr old female and i just broke up wit my bf, and that same day my friend asked him out. I kno im the one who dumped him, but i still like him a little, and it sorta bothers me that their goin out. and she is 2 yrs younger than him, so it seems weird to me.

That is messed up.
Did she asked you if it was ok?
If she did, then theres nothing you really can do. You gave her the ok.

If you didn't...
then shes a fag. ditch her, & then go makeout with that guy.
ook. just kidding. You probaly wouldn't do that, I would.. but thats me, haha.
Why is he dating a girl 2 years younger then him?
fhdfh.
Make some new friends.
& move on from that guy.

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