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I'm 28 years old. I graduated from Michigan State University with my Bachelor of Science in Chemistry. GO GREEN! Now I'm a high school chemistry teacher in New York City living with my husband in a small studio apartment we pay way too much money for.

I've been on this site for 14 years as of March 23, 2020.
You may have seen me as CuxMiBeckNow7, but I've since shortened my name.


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--Jack

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This is some lyrics from the song Build God, Then We'll Talk by Panic! at the Disco....

"Between her and the badge
She spilled her purse and her bag, and held a "purse" of a different kind."

Hahaha...yeah... I don't understand what the "purse of a different kind" means...I mean I have a couple ideas, but I want to know for sure....

It's a stupid question, I know, but I'm just wondering!!

thanks!!

Purse of a different kind = Black book. black book: a little note pad often used to write down names of clientel, or important dates and times. " Along with The people inside "



From:

http://ph.answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20070921185019AAgG9W9


The "best" answer gives a FULL explanation of the song if you wanted it.


--Jack
(17/m)

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on my myspace..how do i make it where the comment automatically goes on my page?? instead of me having to approve it??

i've tried looking in my account settings and stuff but i cant figure it out.

thanks!

http://profileedit.myspace.com/index.cfm?fuseaction=accountSettings.spam

Go there.

Third section.

Uncheck "approve comments before posting".

--Jack
(17/m)

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i am 15 and i have a friend and we have been talking for about a month now and i think he likes me but i know he has a girlfriend he loves to talk on the phone with me sometimes after 2 in the morning he comes to see me and dont see her he says things that a male would tell their girlfriend he takes up for me and before we always hangs up he tell me he love me and gets mad if i dint he won't hang up the phone unless i tell him what should i do because i have a crush on him to?

He has a girlfriend. There's nothing that says you can't be his friend, but he's kind of crossing the line.

I would stay away from him, because he's really got no regard for his girlfriend's feelings or your feelings.

--Jack
(17/m)

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16/f

Has anyone here worked at best buy before? I have an interview with best buy on monday and I would really like to know what to expect and what the questions will be like
-thanks.

They'll probably ask you for your previous teamwork experience, or what you would do in certain situations.

Really, they are all generic.

only search advicenators.com


--Jack
(17/m)

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im 13.... ummmm so like what are the odds of me getting pregnant from like not a guy. because i've been in bible school my whole life and apparently god can make you preggers? like how likely is this and what kind of birth control can i use against god? and is this blassphemyy if i use protection because like you know... it's god. you know? okay thanks!

I'm pretty convinced this is a joke, since your "About the Questioner" says you're an 18 year old male.

But, you can't get "preggers" without having sex. I mean, I'm pretty religious, but I don't believe God is going to spontaneously make you pregnant.

--Jack
(17/m)

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My friend said something about a guy looking really, "Ghetto." I just pretended I knew what she was talking about because I don't want to look really stupid. I'm curious though. I want to be able to use this slang (I assume it is slang...right?) with her. Does anybody know?

From: http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=ghetto

1. ghetto

1. (n.) an impoverished, neglected, or otherwise disadvantaged residential area of a city, usually troubled by a disproportionately large amount of crime
2. (adj.) urban; of or relating to (inner) city life
3. (adj.) poor; of or relating to the poor life
4. (adj.) jury-rigged, improvised, or home-made (usually with extremely cheap or sub-standard components), yet still deserving of an odd sense of respect from ghetto dwellers and non-ghetto dwellers alike



It's like.. poor basically. The definitions from above are really helpful.

--Jack
(17/m)

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my question is are the nutrition facts on the back of a package always accurate?

for instance i always buy these shrimp vegetable egg roll type thing from shop rite, but there is no name brand
however, on the back on the package it says 80 calories per 141 grams
but for most other food that sound like that the calories per size are totally different

even if there isn't really a name brand and its just out of shop rites sea food department is it still right?

Are you sure the other serving sizes on the other products aren't just larger, so they have more calories?

I'm pretty sure the nutrition facts label isn't wrong. If it is, it's MAYBE only off by a maximum of 10 calories.

--Jack
(17/m)

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ok. So tonight it was like 11:35 and my bf and I were making out in his car at a park. We are both 18. All of a sudden a cop comes up to the window, and to make a long story short, took our IDs and then gave them back after going to her at for like 5 minutes and then told us to leave the park. R the cops going to contact our parents?? I will be DEAD if they do.

You're fine. They were probably just checking your IDs so that they could make sure you weren't out past a curfew your town/city has, and, like someone else said, to scare you.

--Jack
(17/m)

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Will jumping on a trampoline everyday help your weight problems? Please and thank you.

Yes it will, and if you do that as part of a healthy diet, you will start to lose weight.

Start your exercise plan out slowly, and work your way up. You don't want to start off too strong.

--Jack
(17/m)

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hello! i just touched the head of my pennis on the flap over the vagina but not cummed over her....can she be pregnant?????

If you had pre-cum on your penis, then yes, there is a chance she could be pregnant.

The chances, however, are slim to none.

Please be more careful next time.

--Jack
(17/m)

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haha oh sorry heres my old question

how do i find out if a boy likes me or not? i mean its really confusing cuz i have a major crush on someone and little crushes on other people and some people say they like me but i dont know if they do or not. how can i find out if they do or not? im too much of a coward to ask them.

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Cux answered Monday June 22 2009, 6:25 pm:
I'm going to give you a list of what guys tend to do when they like girls:

1. They don't call you "sexy". They call you "beautiful", "gorgeous", "amazing", etc.

2. They make an effort to hug you. They might high-5 instead, but it really depends on the guy in question.

3. They DO find any reason to touch you in some way. Mostly it ISN'T in a sexual way. Its more of just an excuse to remember what you feel like, I guess. Its hard to explain...

4. He is always smiling around you. If you're feeling bad and he's around- he'll be smiling because he knows that he's there to help you- and that's like brownie points for a guy if they can help a girl out. That, like the above, is hard to explain.

5. He'll tell you things about himself that he normally wouldn't tell everyone. He opens up to you. Guys don't get a chance to do that when pressured to "be manly".

6. If you have a feeling that a guy likes you- you're probably right. Guys aren't the best at hiding it- and girls are even better at figuring these type of things out.

If you like this guy- and he does all or most of those things- my best bet is that he does like you. That means one and only one thing: Ask him to make sure, and then try the relationship out. Who knows- it could be great!


--Jack
(17/m)

If the guy is really hard to figure out, then try to find some constant in his actions from day to day. There has to be SOMETHING the same each day.

If you still can't figure him out, just ASK him.

--Jack
(17/m)

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Can you lose weight without exercising, like by just watching what you eat? I was diagnosed with a spine disease 10 months ago and had to quit all physical activity including the 2 volleyball teams I played on that kept me in great shape. I cannot run, walk excessively, lift weights, or do crunches etc. Of course, I've gained a lot of weight since I can no longer exercise. Can I lose that weight with food or do I just have to suffer?

You can lose weight if you eat less than the calories your body needs in a day. Not drastically less, but less.

You won't lose like pound after pound, but it can somewhat help.

If you cut out certain foods and drinks, like unhealthy things, then you can start to lose weight.

I know my grandpa and grandma stopped drinking a glass of milk everyday for like.. two months, and they both lost ten pounds or something like that. My grandpa lost over 50 pounds just from diet alone.

So, it's possible, but exercise is always a nice complement to diet. But since you can't, that's understandable.

--Jack
(17/m)

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im a girl im 15
well i went out with this guy n i really liked him but i cheated on him i know i did wrong and i regret it he broke up with me as soon as he found out i still go out with the other one but i still have feeelings for the first one
wat should i do

If the first guy doesn't like you, then there's really no chance of getting back with him. You cheated on him, so it's understandable that he wouldn't.

Go out with the second one, but not to get over the first one. If you genuinely have feelings for the second one, try it out. But don't cheat on this one.

--Jack
(17/m)

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thank you for giving me the advice but i do have one more question. what if this guy is really difficult to figure out? he acts differently practically every day around me and it makes me confused.

Hello!

While I appreciate you sending me an inbox question, I have NO idea who you are or what your previous question was.

I could "See more questions from this user," but I might not know which question you're referring to.

Send me another inbox question with the link to your previous question and then re-ask the question.

Thanks you =]

--Jack
(17/m)

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I have had a MAJOR crush on this guy for like 6 YEARS!!!!!!!!! I thought I was over him, so I got a b/f, and now I'm seeing the other guy more, and I feel like it's not fair to my boyfriend that I like someone else. The big problem is that my b/f and I are really close, and I feel that if I break up with my b/f for the other guy, I wouldn't have a chance with him. What do I do? I'm a 15/f

You need to talk to your boyfriend. You're right; it isn't fair that you like someone else while you're dating, no matter how close you are or aren't.

Talk to him, and maybe he can help you out. If you don't communicate, your relationship will fail no matter how close you are.

I wouldn't break up with your boyfriend just to date the other boy, but if you going to like both at the same time, it isn't fair to date either of them.

--Jack
(17/m)

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how do you speed up your metabolism?

Working out is probably the best thing to do.

http://www.wikihow.com/Increase-Your-Metabolism

That website gives 8 great tips. Check it out.

--Jack
(17/m)

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im almost 15 and been with my gf for 5 months
and recently she said she wants to do more not sex but other stuff and she wants to see me naked im a little worried my penis is not real big
not sure how she will react does it matter that much if its smaller do girls care?

If she cares about the size, then she really doesn't matter; it shouldn't matter, and most girls don't even care.


--Jack
(17/m)

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So me and this guy went out for 2 months, we knew eachother for 2 years almost 3 before we started going out. Just a couple weeks ago though he broke up with me because his friends were telling him i was flirting with them, which is complete bs. I left him alone for a week then talked to him about it. I told him the story which is that his friend was flirting with me and would do stuff like not let me go and say i can fuck you better than your boyfriend, so basicly rude disrespectful things. I couldn't ever get away from him so i would just smile and say anything to get away. I know that sounds bad but its cause hes my ex-boyfriends friend and i didnt wanna be the reason they werent friends anymore. Well i told him that and he will not believe me because another one of his friends told him some more bs. Hes all mad at me and i got one of my friends to tell him they were lieing but hes just not believeing anyone. I dont know what to do i love him and just before all this he finially told me he loved me to. This whole thing is stupid its not like i cheated on him. How do i get him to believe me or take me back?

Well, if you've tried talking to him, and he's not believing your story, there's no way to magically get him back.

For now, move on. Eventually he'll come crawling back to you, but by that time, you will have hopefully moved on to someone who is mature enough to trust his own girlfriend when she says something. And he said he loved you? Right. How can he possibly have loved you if he didn't trust your side of the story. I'm frankly appalled that he didn't even ASK for your side of this story. That's what a GOOD boyfriend would have done.

So, get over him; he's really not worth it anyway. There are plenty of guys out there who won't do this stuff to you like this guy did.

--Jack
(17/m)

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I really care for this girl, I love her. we text or r with each other from the time we get out a school till we go to sleep, and its not like average talking, its pretty deep we get in each others heads, know how each others thinking. I can tell her anything n she can tell me almost everything but she’s had an extremely hard life she wants to tell me but she already told me a lot n thinks its better if I don’t know the rest right now n I’m perfectly fine with that. We trust each other. I can’t imagine how my life was without her, I’ve only known her for about a week though but we both say it feels like our whole life. She’s such a strong girl for her situation I know id be going insane. Every time she starts to love or trust a relative they die to cancer, it’s been over 20 of her relatives she says their almost gone, now the doctor thinks she has cancer and is going to the cancer lab to be tested soon. She keeps saying its fine, but she’s the coolest girl I have ever met she’s so sweet and nice n cares so much she’s the strongest emotionally iv ever met. She doesn’t want me to tell anyone and I won’t. I really care for her I want to be with her forever but I don’t know what to do, I don’t think she wants a bf she just broke up n had me give her the strength two days ago. In every way she is the perfect girl, we talk till we both fall asleep all day long and it never gets quiet or dull. She comforts me, n helps me w the smallest things n she says I help her sooo much to but I just cant imagine n it depresses me so much that stuff like this happens to the best people, n she keeps telling me she is ok n she doesn’t want me to feel like this because of her. idk if i could live with myself if i wud hurt her in any way, she just got outa a bad relationship, if i would go out w her, i dono. She is different than all the others at our school, i love it, and wer new freshmen n both 14. She is so hurt inside, shes a recovered cutter but she doesnt know that i know it about her, she says she hasnt told me the worst parts of her life, but how can it get any worse! I can go on forever about her but she is perfect in every way n just does not see that, i dono what to do I can’t get my mind off it im texting her right now as always, I miss her sooo much. What should I do to help any of this?

Have you told her how you feel about her?

That's probably somewhere to start. If she never hears how you feel, you're never going to know if it could have worked between you two.

Honestly, that's the only thing I can see you being able to do. I mean, you could spend a lot of time with her in person, but that's not really going to solve your problem.

Be supportive, talk to her, be with her.

--Jack
(17/m)

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whats cum may i know?

http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=cum

1. n. Semen
2. v. To orgasm


--Jack
(17/m)

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