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Hey! First off, i'm going to start by saying I came here on this site to give people advice. Some people actually don't know the real meaning of advice. They think its the answers they want to hear. But i'm not here for that. I'll give you advice, and it might be something you don't want to hear. But deal with it! You may take my advice or not, its completely up to you and you are not gaurnteed a correct solution.

Ok so now that's clear, I'll talk to you more about myself. Hence the username... I play volleyball. It is my passion and basically my life since I've played for about 7 years. Most of my friends say i'm 50/50 tomboy and girly girl. I LOVE sports!! I play volleyball all year round, and then I go to the park during free times to play some soccer, football, hockey, basketball or baseball with my friends. But then again, I could be inside trying on my new Sephora makeup i'd just gotten, or reading the latest Seventeen magazine or even arranging my clothes for school tomorrow.

You can ask me just about anything and i'll be happy to answer it. You can count on a full and detailed answer.

Oh and another thing... I love getting feedback! Even if its a negative comment. It tells me what I need to work on or even what I did correct.

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Okay, i'm going to a "semi-formal" sweet sixteen tonight. I already know what i'm wearing "my homecoming dress", but i have no idea on how to do my hair. The best i can do, is put it up in a ponytail, and i have problems with that.

Does anyone have any good ideas, on how to wear my hair, that isn't too noticable, if nobody else has really fancy hair?

Please help, i dont want to look like a loser tonight...

A good hairstyle site is www.geocities.com/mka wonderland/
go to that site and then click on hair. They have some pretty good hairstyles that are really cool, but not too fancy!

I hope I helped!
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I am so confused. I liked this guy (let's callhim Joey) since 6th grade. After he turned me down for a school dance in 7th grade, I just accepted him as my guy friend and believed that I was lucky to have him as a friend who'll always be there instead of a boyfriend that won't last. But now that he's in 3 of my classes and at the school orientation I talked to him, I think I'm starting to like him again!

I mean he's really sweet and fun to be with. And he slightly likes me (so I think) because he kept on trying to strike up conversations and stared at me during the classroom visits. (We're going into hihg school now). Ahhh I'm just confused about him.

If you think he likes you, talk to him! If you are entering high school right now... 7th grade wasn't that long ago. But i'm sure he had a good reason to turn you down for the dance. Talk to him as a friend. Hang out with him as a friend. Then he'll grow into liking you. I say that he likes you but he was probably embarressed to go to the 7th grade dance with you. So just talk to him and see what's up.

I hope I helped!
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I don't think my friend understands that you can be best friends, do things with other people (seperately) but still be best friends. Any advice?

Make her get the picture! Talk to her and tell her "I think you are the best friend ever! But you have to understand that best friends will be able to let the other one go." She'll get the picture that you want to hang out with your other friends too. Try not to sound as if you are LEAVING her... just tell her that you will stay her best friend but you can also hang out with your other friends too.

I hope I helped!
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im 14/ m okay it all started at the beginning of the summer, there was this girl i had a crush on(a big time crush) so i decided to tell her and well i got rejected bt thats not the problem, after a little while i got over her but now im back in school ive started to get feelings for her again and i think that if i tell her sheel think im a stalker, what do i do>? help!

If she thinks you're a stalker... forget about her! Move on with you're life. There's somebody out there for everybody. If she is rejecting you, then you guys aren't good for each other. However... she might grow to like you. So what I say is keep your feelings to yourself and maybe instead of telling her you have feelings for her, just become friends with her. Then when you become friends, she might grow to really like you.

I hope I helped!
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i am basically content with my weight and everything, it's just there's a little.. i have no idea what to call it.. "baby fat" i guess you could say, in the area under my bellybutton [ lower stomach ]. i've been doing about 60 crunches every night to try and make it slim down and become a little toner before school starts, and it seems to work, but then i eat and it comes back so i have to do crunches again that night. is there a way to just keep it down?

Try to eat healthy foods such as vegetables, minerals, vitamins and stay off of the junk food!
Then after you eat you can do some more sit ups. Maybe increase the amount you do. Say if you ate 10 doughnuts ((unhealthy!!!)) do about 100 situps... but if you eat carrots and tomatoes ((healthy!!!)) you might want to do about 50 sit-ups... get it??

I hope I helped!
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im going to a new school and none of my friends are in my classes. how do you make friends without sounding awkward?

oh and i dont know the rules to any sports so what do i do in gym class? like i want to be able to participate without having guys and girls laugh and shout competitive stuff.

Well just like the other person said, be yourself! Don't try to act like somebody you're not. If you see somebody that looks like a good friend, go up to them and say Hi. Compliment them on something and just start off on an easy conversation about something simple. For gym, you can do the same thing, find somebody that's in your gym class and make friends with them. Then if you dont understand, you can ask that friend. If you can't make friends in gym, talk to the gym teacher about what you have to do.

I hope I helped!
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heya, i have a best friend called Laura. Shes great fun to be around and we are into the same stuff and its great coz we treat each other like equals. I do stuff with her that i dont do with my other friends like go straight up to lads and talk to them or go to nightclubs for under 18s and recently she treated me to a trip to alton towers.
Ive always been slightly jealouos of her because she is really pretty and she lives in a big house (in a different village) with a gorgeous dog and her family is quite rich and they spoil her a bit thought she doesnt act spoilt but now its all getting too much..

1.Recently shes been acting snobby and too good for my other friends and ive realised that shes quite 2faced too.
2.Whenever i go to her house i always come back wishing i was her or completely stressing out because of what she has that i dont.
3.She can afford to be what i want to be if you know what i mean its like shes living my life but better
4.She takes credit for my ideas and style
5. I introduced her to my friends at the skatepark and shes taken them all away from me
6.She is so pretty but its the products she can afford to buy that makes her pretty
7. I pointed out a bag i really wanted and she liked it too and was going to buy it because she had the money on her but i made it clear that it was mine when i got the money . i was really pleased because i had something against her but shes gone back and her mum gave her the money for the same bag in a different colour which made me want to kill her becuase my anger had built up so much over the year and it was like that was the final straw
8. Shes decorating her room the same style as mine but hers will be better because she can afford more and she'll take the credit for it
9.She has a ahem 'perfect' boyfriend that she keeps rubbing in my face anbut she dont realise shes doing it.
10. Shes moving down my street soon.........this REALLY PISSES ME OFF BECAUSE ITS A MASSIVE HOUSE AND I LIVE IN A CUTE LIL BUNGALOW BUT HERS WILL BE REALLY POSH INSIDE AND SHES HAVING THE WHOLE TOP FLOOR TO HERSELF AND SHES GONNA TAKE OVER MY NEIGHBOURHOOD. and she says shes gonna have loadsa partys but i wanted to be the one hu throws the partys in my town but itll be her now and ill have to live with it and be the 'other one' if you know what i mean. i could go on..
11.aaarrgghh i wanna die..or her to die...either way wud suit me...

If she's really that bad, don't hang around her anymore. Make new friends and just forget about her. If she's really snobby and spoiled and doesn't act like a friend, than she's not your friend. you've been hanging out with the wrong person. Try to find somebody new out there who will act loyal and be nice to you.

I hope I helped!
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okay so tomarrow im going to get a hair cut. i have its about 4 to 5 inches below my shoulder and its curly and i have layers. i want side bangs (if you dont know what those are there like long bangs that are kept to the side, or maybe theres another name for it but o well) so if you could find any pictures that i could show the hair salonist person i would appreciate it. thankx

Unfortunately angled or any type of bangs may not work on some types of naturally curly or super wavy hair without a lot of styling time. If the hair above your forehead has a whirl or prominent cowlick or easily curls up, bangs may not be a wise choice since they may be uncontrollable and definitely time consuming to deal with.
But I tried to find a picture and this is what I could come up with-
http://prom.hairresources.net/PromPonyTail210.jpg
http://www.womensbeautylife.com/albums/Long_hair/lg33.jpg

I hope I helped!
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my friend keeps say she goes "ddfd" or someting like that. does anyone know what it stands for?

I have no clue, but why dont you just ask her what it means?

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Ok I know this is a really stupid question but I can't seem to remember,what hand and what finger is the engagement ring supposed to go on?

If you live in Britian, Canada, or the US it goes on the left hand and on the finger closest to the pinky. But if you live in the Europian countries its on the same finger but on the right hand.

I hope I helped!
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Hi everyone. I was wondering if anyone could give me some cute pictures of hair styles to waer to school or out with my boyfriend and to my homecomming. i only wear my hair curly but i can straighten small peices if neccary. anyways- my hair isnt realy thick and is at my midback when STRAIGHT please.. hlep!

I'm not sure if i'm any help since I have straight hair... but I tried and I came up with this:
http://hairstyles.free-beauty-tips.com/curly-hair.html

http://www.hairboutique.com/images/tendrils200H.jpg

http://i.ivillage.com/BS/i/festive_hairstyle/617_ss.jpg

http://beauty.ivillage.com/hair/hsfinder/results/0,,6zrv2dh7-6tjqf8n4,00.html

I hope I helped!
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Well me and my boyfriend have been going out for quite awhile now hes going to the army and ina few days hes leaving for three months i dont know what to do im gunna be devasted any help?

The same thing happend to my brother. his girlfriend got into the army and he thought to himself for a very very very long time about this. He wrote her a long letter explaining he didnt want to be together with her anymore. He still told her that he liked her as a best friend, but not more than that. Because she wasnt going to be home for another 3 months and he thought, i'm not going to wait that long. ((plus she cheated on him, oops thats not part of this though)). But if you think that both of you are really meant for each other, you tell him that you will wait for him.

I hope I helped!
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Theres this guy, and we have been together for a year...this october it would have been two years. but just yesterday I broke it off. the reason is becuz Im looking for a serious relationship, something with a future. and i thought thats where we were headed, but it turns out his mother was very against the idea of us (even though she never met me or even gave me a chance)

anyways now im reaaalllllyyy heartbroken, and i mean i did it to myself. I've lost my best friend, the person I could talk to about anything, and the person i loved more than myself. but what else could I have done? he pretty much told me he couldn't go against his mother...

I guess I just need some comforting... :(

Its alright! there will be plenty more guys out there in the world looking for a wonderful girl like you. I bet that guy will be even better that what you expected and will want to spend the rest of his life with you. Next time you meet a guy, make sure you get a chance to see his family and that they are comfortable with you. If they aren't, dont throw him away!! They might grow to love you and will accept you.

I hope I helped!
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14/f. i'm going into 9th grade, which at my school is the last year of middle school, and i think i know what i want to wear for the first day of school, but i don't want to look like everybody else. this is what i was planning on wearing:

skirt:
http://store.delias.com/item.do?categoryID=648&itemID=46122&sizeFilter=&colorFilter=&brandFilter=

shirt:
http://www.hollisterco.com/webapp/wcs/stores/servlet/product_10251_10201_297743_-1_12628_12552

it is that but the stripes are light blue & brown. and i'd wear brown flip flops. i'd also straighten my hair.

what do you guys think? i don't want to look like every other girl there, so if this isn't a good outfit, then any suggestions will really help!

I think that outfit is really cool! I'm not sure how girls at your school are dressed so you actually have to make that decion. But what I can say is maybe do your hair in a really cool hairstyle so theres something different. Heres a website that'll have many lists of styles
www.geocities.com/mka_wonderland

I hope I helped!
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i made a mistake! jus one small mistak (choosing the wrong highschool ... where i live you choose which onwe to go to..everyone told me not to take this one.. but i did) and now my life is ruined! im miserable! i cry myself to sleep everynight, EVERY SINGLE NIGHT! i hate my life, and all i ever want to do is sleep, just cause crying as much as i do gives me a headache.. so what? i made a mistake! it happens, right? and ok ive learnt from it! "listen to my parents and friends from now on" - its on my "learnt lessons" list! so now howcome he doesnt make it better??! why won't he help me get back on my feet?? OR why'd he make so much depend on just one choice, how could he make my happynees depend on what school i choose? so i chose the wrong one, now i have to be miserable and suffer for it? help me understand because i dont want to stop trusting in him or become bitter towards him, or blame him for my sorrow.. not at all, so just please explain this to me.. if you know the answer.. thank you!!

Well i'm not sure, but i'm guessing he wants you to figure this one on your own. There's millions, even billions of other people in this world that also are begging him for help. You got yourself into this mess, i think he wants you to get yourself out of this mess. Instead of crying, ((which does not help, so stop it!)) just think very slowly about what you can do. Talk to your parents and see what they think. Crying does absoulty nothing to help, so stop it and just think about what you are going to do. Think of the pros and cons. There must be something good about changing schools.

I hope I helped!!!
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I really want to be known (in a good way) ...like know everyone,be friends with them..but the thing is,i've lost my self.i dont know what to say or do,im just locked up.i need a re-vamp on my style and personality. so i want to know,what are some good ways become more outgoing,what are some stores that i can mix and match from (to create a new style) and how can i meet more people (i feel like everyone hates me)

To meet new people, compliment them and start talking to them in a simple conversation. Smile and really listen to what they are saying. Its polite to lean your head forward with your ear, that usually means "yeah, i'm listening to every detail." Nod occasionally and say things like "yeah, thats true." As for the mix and match stores... maybe go to store that you have style in and that are in commen with each other. For example Forever 21 and Wet Seal have some clothes in commen. Or Abercrombie & Fitch with American Eagle.

I hope I helped!
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what some really cute hair styles? (either to get it cut,or to style it in the morning) i have light brown hair with natrual high lights,brown eyes and light olive skin. (dark eyebrows...if that matters :]) also i'd like to know the best concealer (that'll stay on alll day) for circles under eyes. what make-up would match my face to look natural and brighter? (colors of makeup,concealer,) i want people to notice it a litte,but not like i loo kliek i over did it.thanks

for your hair I suggest going to this site www.geocities.com/mka_wonderland they have good and many hairstyles. As for your make-up, I also have brown eyes and maybe a little lighter skin than you do. What makes your eyes POP for brown is a purple eye-shadow. If you think thats too much, try a goldish nuetrual color. You might want to put them right underneath your eyebrows to really highlight your eyes. Also to make tired eyes more awakening, you can put a highlighter pencil ((prefrebly beige or white)) on the inside corner of your eyes. And for the concealer I recommend Revlon Colorstay http://www.revlon.com/product.asp?ProductID=28642&Mode=catalog
it has many different color choices.

I hope I helped!
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im on a new club soccer team and i dont know any of the girls! i have to go to a party with them today, and alot of them know eachother! how do i make new friends without looking like a loser? THANKS IN ADVANCE

First, if the girls are talking... get in the conversation. Really listen to what they are saying and pretend like you know them. Being nice and talking is the main thing. Find 1 girl you think that has something in commen with you. Then compliment her and just start talking about something simple. If she thinks you are a loser ((which you are not!!!!)) turn to somebody else and talk with them. If somebody starts telling a funny story and all the girls are laughing, you should laugh too. That tells everybody that you are into their conversation and want to be part of the group. dont just sit there and do nothing, people will think you are a loser that way. Get involved!!

I hope I helped!
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AS my dream i want to become a singer and well it seems as if i might be on my way! this weekend i am being takin to a recording studio to see if they like me and my style. the problem is im not used to singing infront of people.

How can i prepare my voice so they like my voice? and how can i prepare myself so i sing with everything i have and dont get shy and quiet?! i rate high

Start off singing infront of a small group such as your parents or your friends. Then englarge the group by singing in front of your neighborhood or something like that. By then you should be able to get rid of your fears. Just take deep breaths and relax, also pretend everybody is in their underwear... haha. dont be nervous!

I hope I helped and good luck!
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i can't stand my mother. i really can't. i noe that everyone says that you should respect your mother and stuff, but there is no way that i can respect her when she's making my life impossible. i really can't take it anymore. she talks SO much crap! i just can't take it anymore. i don't noe where to go. i have no place to go. i have no one that i can talk to, because everyone ALWAYS takes her side for everything. i can't stand it! i mean, like for everything. like, no one knows the name she calls me and stuff. she's calls me all sorts of things. and, everyone says it's ok for her to call me hat, and then when she does something crazy, and i point it out to her, my whole family turns against me. i have absolutely no place to go. i dont have a dad that can help me talk to her. my grandparents are always on her side, my aunts, uncles are always on her side. i have no place to go, i have nowhere to turn. i just wish i could find help somewhere. can someone give me some advice. please help me

just talk to your mom. ask her why is she treating you this way. Tell her you want everything to be good between you guys but theres something there that's making your relationship really bad. What helps me is crying. Try to cry infront of your mom and she'll notice that somethings wrong. If this contines, I suggest seeing a school counselor and talking about this.

I hope I helped!
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