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I'm Christina, and I'm 27. I tend to be brutally honest when I give advice or an opinion. I don't tell people what they want to hear but rather what they need to hear. They don't always appreciate it at first, but I usually get a thank you in the end.


I have 15 tattoos, and 8 piercings. I'm married and just gave birth to a baby boy in May. I'm currently a SAHM so you can find me taking care of my son and binge-watching television while he naps.

advice

okay my boyfriend (we were dating for 6 months) and he broke up with me saturday! well he already has another girlfriend! and i want him back because i am sick of crying every night and i miss him! how do i get him back he already misses me he said but he said that he likes the other girl too! and so i want ihm to break up with his girlfriend now and go back out with me how do i make him realize he should break up with her for me? and how do i make him realize how much he misses me!?

Go out with someone else. It'll make him jealous & realize how much he misses you.

&TiNA;

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This sounds pretty odd but I have scars on my breasts from ingrowing hairs. It used to be only a couple here and there but now it's become an obsession - if I see an ingrowing hair I just HAVE to get it out, and obviously that breaks the skin and it causes scarring, as breast skin is delicate. Before I was always happy to get my boobs out when with a guy (as they ARE good lol) but now I'm so self-concious! What do I do? And is there anything I can use to make the scarring fade?

At a lot of stores, there's cocoa butter. Cocoa butter fades scars & makes them less noticible.

&TiNA;

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im 13/f. My boyfriend beats on me. I have marks and scars on my arms and legs from him. Im a cheerleader so they always show. I really like him but i hate him when he does this to me. What should i do?

**sleepiesheep**

Get out of the relationship. Someone who loves you shouldn't beat on you. That's not love. Abusive people tend to be clingy, needy & controlling. Just, get out of the relationship & get him some help with a counselor because if he gets with another girl, the same thing is gonna happen to her. This relationship is no good.

&TiNA;

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okay i am 13 years old...adn there is this guy that i really like and he likes me. the only thing is that hes 2 years older then me...to me it doesnt seem bad or anything but to everyone else it does. everyone keeps telling my that he does drugs and stuff but whne i ask him he says no. and people are telling my that he only wants to go out with me to make out and have oral sex. when i asked him about this hes like i would never make u do anything that you didn't want to. and i said good b.c i would never give you oral sex. and he said fine...
should i go out with him???

please help...thanxx

First off - get to know him.
And don't listen to other people.
Remember - Age is NOTHING but a number.
So, don't really worry about it too much.
Date who you want.
Why should other people care.
YOU have to date him, NOT them.
Tell them to get over it, they can't control you.
Or make your decisions.

&TiNA;

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I've almost been with my gf for 1 year and was wondering what i should do for our 1 year aniversary... thanks

Make the whole day about her.
Take her out - buy her things.
Or, take her to a really nice restaurant.
Make her a cd of all the songs that remind you of her & stuff.
Draw her a picture & buy her a ring.

&TiNA;

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i have stretch marks EVERYWHERE! any things to get rid of them. tell me if the things you are suggesting actually work and tell me where to get them! thanks you muchos gracias

Use cocoa butter. It fades them.

&TiNA;

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15/f

What does it mean if a guy wants to "holla at you?"
thanks

It means he wants to talk to you - and or call you.

&TiNA;

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ur myspace link doesnt work culd u link me it! thanks

I sure can.

http://profile.myspace.com/index.cfm?fuseaction=user.viewprofile&friendID=37182636

There you go.

&TiNA;

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16 f. sophmore likes sophmore guy as well. never had a conversation with him. hell i doubt he knows i exist. but i still want to approach him.

1) He is scene or w/e and is quiet. he seems almost depressed. he just sits there at lunch with a friend or two and does nothing(though he is kind of popular) hes medium height. super skinny. pretty smile :]
2) i dont dress scene or goth or punk or ghetto or preppy so ive no clue wtf i am. im very shy. not too quiet but a lil quiet. short. im a lil chubby and i have a pretty face(like that matters all that matters are a hot body)

when i approach him what should i say?? could we ever be compatible? should i just give up all together? and how can i get him to notice me?
Sorry its long i rate 5's, thanx.

Just walk up to him & say hi. Compliment him. It's not so hard. And continue it from there.

&TiNA;

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my sister when i was little used to abuse me! and also when i was little my dad used to hurt my sister! and yell at her it's been about 7 years later and i have a problem......................

i hate when people yell! when someboody yells i kinda have panic attacks not that bad but like i start to loose my breath and i cant breath
and if somebody pretend hits me (like in a playing way) i get all nervous!

does anybody know whats goin on?

Wow - that's sucks. I'm sorry.
But - now to the answer.
Since your sister did that to you - because no one told her it was wrong - you're now paranoid that people are going to physically hurt you.
And when people yell - though it's not at you - you freak out because of how scared you used to be.
This is perfectly normal.

&TiNA;

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How do you get text to scroll across the screen? Like say I typed:
I ♥ iCEP0PS!
I want that to scroll across the screen.
Thanks if you can help!

It should look like this.

[marquee] TEXT HERE [/marquee]

Just replace the brackets with the carrots [side ways v.]

&TiNA;

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hey i am 13/f and i'm trying to find a new hair color
i'm getting my hair cut like this picture:
http://imdb.com/gallery/granitz/3274/AshleeSimp_Pimen_5265256_400.jpg?path=pgallery&path_key=Simpson,%20Ashlee&seq=3

i have reddish hair and a pale skin tone. (this is a picture of my hair and skin color)
http://i36.photobucket.com/albums/e43/ooxSaRaBaRaxoo/screwup_jpg.jpg

i really want to change up my hair color and i'm not sure which way to go. i think i'm going to get some highlights but i'm not sure what shade and what color to make the base. any ideas? thanks a bunch! i rate

I think that hair style would look cute. Anyways - for your base color. Get a light brown. And then get light blonde highlights. This girl at school has that, and her hair looks really good.

&TiNA;

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recently, ive been cutting. i cut because i have so much emotional pain, it relieves me when i cut. it makes me forget all about my emotional pain because i focus on the physical pain. well, just this morning, i found myself thinking of suicide. this afternoon during health class too. We were talking about cutting in health class today and i just wanted to die. i was so uncomfortable. only 2 people knew about me cutting in my health class besides me but i still wanted to die. I dont have a boyfriend. I dont think im pretty enough to. My life is fucked up. no one cares about me. my parents are never home and when they are, they just yell at me. They always fight too. But the thing is, i wouldnt trade my life for anybody elses. its the way that i know life. I wouldnt trade it. and im serious. I wore a belly shirt to school a few days ago. Bad choice. some people saw my cut i made on my stomach and they said stuff to me. No one understands me. They think that i have the ideal life and they even tell me that. i dont. every one thinks i am perfect (or have to be) becuase my dad is a pastor of a small hick church... which i hate. I dont believe that shit. w/e. i wanted to stop cutting until today. i did it again today. its just a bad habit. any suggestions? anything anyone wants to say to me?? yes i have contemplated suicide. several times.

Okay. I USED to be a cutter - so I know this whole thing. Yes, cutting is very addicting, and yes, it's unhealthy for you. But - it relieves tension & stress which is kinda good but kinda bad. It's very hard to stop & you know this & I do too. But, you need to. One of these days - you're going to cut too deep & die. :( Not cool. You can do so much with your life - why waste it? You have temporary problems - why solve it with something that's permanant? Once you die - you can't have your life back, you know. If you keep this up, someone is going to find out - which 2 people do as you mentioned - but more people can find out. And then what? They're going to tell on you & get you help - wether you like it or not. Because it's happening to me right now. I suggest to see a counselor, or see a doctor for depression medications - because you're obviously depressed too. Talk to somebody - specifically a really close friend who you trust, or a counselor. And how do you know that no one cares about you? Most people care, but they don't say anything because they think you already know it. Wear a rubber band around your wrist - and when you feel like cutting - snap it against your skin. Or, you can read, draw, paint, or write. I write when I feel like cutting. Writing is a really good way to relieve stress & tensions because it gets all your thoughts and feelings on paper & then you feel better. Just, please stop before you lose yourself.

&TiNA;

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alright a while ago i was basicly raped and forst to give oral sex.. I went to get tested for stds and everything and they said if I get cold sores to come back for herpes testing.. well I have like dry spots on the edge of my mouth but i dont think its herpes! its just lik a lil cuts on the edge of my mouth but i dont think i have any stds..

what do you think?

It could just be dry skin, or a developing cold sore. But if it starts to get worse, get tested. Don't worry.

&TiNA;

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its gotten tot he point where I feel so low about myself I could crawl into my bed and never come out. I want to be with someone that makes me feel special.. Why cant i find that guy?

Ive never had a bf treat me good and for a long time now i havent had a bf.

Im a normal girl and I know im not realllly ugly.. I actualy sometimes think im pretty..

I have talents and yes I have flaws. But i think id be a really good girlfriend.

what can I do?

Well - don't take this offensively, but - no guy wants a girl who thinks low of herself. Think positive!

But other than thinking positive, start being positive. It's not really attractive when a girl calls herself ugly. A girl who's confident & proud of herself is a good thing.

Also - don't let your boyfriends treat you like crap! Stand up for yourself. Have some self respect, and stand up.

The right guy will come a long sooner or later. Stop looking & searching. Soon enough, he'll come out from wherever he may be, and just might find you.

Also - drop bad habits & friends. It'll give you a new start & it'll look good. Guys don't want a girl who seems to be a trouble maker because that's the type of kids she hangs out with.

Make some new friends. I'm hinting towards guys with this one. Get to know them, if you feel something, ask them out.

Don't try to impress a guy with makeup, or nice clothes. Although nice clothes are a plus, don't use it to get a guy. You're probably a very pretty girl, but don't just depend on your looks. Guys want more than that. Guys look for personality too. =)

Anyways, just wait it out & soon enough, Mr. Right will come around. =) Good luck!

I hope I helped you.

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