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So today my boyfriend was saying something about only 2 girls have ever seen him naked, one of them being me. Is it safe to assume that he has only slept with one other person than? thanks

Don't jump to conclusions. It could have been a friend.. and you don't have to get naked to do the deed anyway.
Just ask him. It's not a bad question to ask. Every person I've been with, I have asked how many sexual partners they've had, 'cause curiosity got the better of me I guess. It's always nice to be open and talk about things with each other.

My boyfriend and I were driving to his families house on saturday with my son. For a late Thanksgiving dinner thing. Well two seperate flocks of birds came together over the car and and went with us for a little bit. Does that mean anything?

If you want to believe it meant something, then that's absolutely fine.
If it was me, I wouldn't think it meant anything, but it would be a nice moment to look back on.
It's all about personal opinion and for each individual, there's no right or wrong answer.

i know that there are flavored condoms
but is their such thing as flavored lube?

Yeah, there's such thing as flavoured lube. Alot of flavours, infact.
They have different "sensations", too, like "tingly" for example.

everytime me and my boyfriend is using a condom it feels good till it get all dry and the pleasure goes away what kind of condoms that are good.

Even if you use a lubricated condom, it will still get a little dry, which is why using lube is good - you can put as much as you like on and top up if you need to. They come in a huge rage of flavours and sensations too. Have a look next time you're out.

everytime i keep going back to my ex boyfriend who always keeps cheating on me and stands me up. and today we finally started talking again since the summer. i dont know if i should go back to him or not. this would be the third time i went back if i did.

People can make mistakes and I, personally believe, everyone should be forgiven the first time (depending HOW serious it is).
But this is the 3rd time. You need to learn to respect yourself more and not give into his lying, cheating ways.
Tell him where to stick it.

ok well i had sex last tues and we were safe we used a condom with spermicidal lube and i am suppose to get my period around the 8th of Dec.
well i am so worried that i am making myself sick.
i have the normal symptoms that i get when i am about the start my period. Should i be worried?

Why are you worrying?
1.It's not the 8th.
2. You used protection correctly, so being pregnant isn't likely.
3. You have symptoms of coming on.
Chill out. If you're that scared, maybe you should refrain from sex for a while?

what are some other sites like myspace and facebook?

Give Bebo a try?
www.bebo.com

I just got my labrit peirced and when i eat the ring gets caught on my tooth is that suposed to happen what do i do?

When you first get pierced, they use larger jewelry to accompany swelling. You should get used to it within a few days and find it easier to eat and once your piercing is healed, you can change it to smaller jewelry which won't get in the way.
If, however, it's preventing you from eating and is causing a threat to your teeth (such as chipping etc) go back and have them take a look the placement of your piercing is correct.

i have a sleeping problem and my whole family even thinks i have on too.
im 16
i cant go throughout the day without taking a nap
and like when i mean nap, there about 4 hours
im alwayssss tired during the day, but yet when its like 10 pm im all of a sudden not tired. and then i can stay up till like 3 in the morning.
i can seriously sleep the whole day and still be tired. but if i get like 4 hours of sleep on a school day i function 5834329x better then i do with like 9 hours of sleep.
i really dont know whats wrong with me. helpppp !

Too much sleep can leave you feeling sluggish and more tired than you started out! So, if you sleep 9 hours for example, cut it down to 7 or 8 and see if that feels better.
It seems to me like you need to get yourself into a proper pattern. It's inevitable to feel tired if one day you get barely any sleep, the next you sleep for ages, take random naps, etc etc, because your body is becoming messed up.
Pick a reasonable time to go to sleep and set your alarm for when you need to get up. If you do this every day, within a few weeks, your body will become used to it and hopefully, you should start to feel a bit better.
If you aren't tired when it's time for you to go to bed, you can help yourself - have a hot relaxing bath about an hour before, make sure you don't drink any drinks with caffeine, don't eat heavy meals at night, turn your computer off at least an hour before you sleep...
I used to be like you before I started a full time job and within days, I was in bed by midnight and up at 6. It helped alot!

when make up artists say "tap off the excess on eyeshadow from the brush" wont the pigments in the color go away and the color wont have pigmentation on the eye cause you tapped off some color duhhhh

wont it

...No.
If you happen to accidentally put too much eye shadow on, then simply tap some off. Not all of it, obviously, but enough so it doesn't sprinkle onto your eyelashes and face and create a bit of a mess.
Also, if you didn't quite get the desired look first time round, go over it again. You don't need to pile the eyeshadow onto your brush.
Practice and you'll see.
Have fun.

I don't know what I want to put on my christmas list. I'm 14/f. I like fashion. I don't want an ipod,t.v,camera,laptop, or phone or computer. No money or gift cards. No clothes either. I don't know what i want because of all these limitations. What should i get?

You like fashion - so go shopping and pick some things. I know you said no clothes, so what about jewelry?
I know money isn't exciting, but if you pick that, you can get whatever you want.
Just an idea - if you really don't need or want anything, why not tell whoever is buying you the presents to give the money to a charity of your choice.

I have a question obviously, but I would really appreciate answers from people with experience.

Are guys all the same? Is the main goal of their life to have sex? I mean I see these guys and they're gorgeous, know they're gorgeous, and use it to their advantage to get EVERY girl possible. ARE THERE ANY THAT DON'T TRY TO GET WITH EVERY GIRL? THAT TRY TO FIND SOMEONE THEY LOVE? like real love, not lust.

-thanks for your help.

Of course they're not all the same. There are some genuine guys out there - it's just a case of finding them.
Use your brains. If you like a boy and you think he's using you, don't give him what he wants and see if his attitude towards you changes.
It's not just the boys - it's the girls who are to blame for letting themselves be used as alot of the time it's blatantly obvious, they just don't want to admit it.

People have said that you can not get pregnant from having anal, is that true ?

Also I would like to know if you can get prenant from giving blow jobs ?

1. If semen somehow manages to drip down into your vagina, then yes, you can get pregnant. but if semen doesn't come into contact with your vagina, then no.

2. No.

how would u guys treat a back stabbing friend???? especially she spread nasty rumors about you??
also she take your friends away??????

Cut them out of your life and ignore them from now on.
Don't stoop to their level and spread rumours or try to get revenge.
If you don't give them a reaction, they will see they aren't getting to you (even if they are - you shouldn't show it).

Okay, so I just turned 18, but I don't want every creeper out there on the net to see my profile, okay? So I lied and said I'm 15, but I feel a little weird doing it, but I'm worried that if I change it to my real age, then I'll get some strange stalker dude or I won't be able to access the profiles of my under-18 friends. What should I do?

You don't need to set your age as below 18 to get a private profile. Mine states my real age but I, too, didn't want just anyone seeing my profile, so I changed my privacy settings. It's under account settings on the home page, then click privacy (at the top).
You can change it to make your profile viewable to those who are 18 years old and above, or, only viewable to your myspace friends.

I got my navel pierced about 3 weeks ago. When do you think I can get 2 more? (triple navel piercing)

Could I get it done asap or when I hit the 3 month mark or what?

You could have got them all at the same time if you wanted.
If you feel comfortable with having other fresh wounds, then go for it. Just be prepared for a longer healing process - you've been warned!

what are some good things to say when you want to like talk dirty to someone? i just thought itd bring some spice to me and my boyfriends relationship haha.

thanks!

The answer below has seriously made my day! LOL

Okay, on a serious note, we don't really answer questions like this, for obvious reasons (minors use this site)

Here's a few websites from the above search which you should find helpful:
http://sexuality.about.com/od/talkingwithpartners/ht/dirtytalk.htm

http://www.cosmopolitan.com/sex-love/sex/how-to-talk-dirty

http://www.askmen.com/dating/heidi_150/189_dating_girl.html

You don't have to talk dirty if it's not your thing - there's plenty other ways if you use your imagination.

ok, my boyfriend gets an erection just about everytime we make out, is it normal for that to happen every time? thanks

Totally.

Okay so saturday night i had sex. i've been on the pill since september of '07. So saturday when i had sex, there was no condom used. He came inside of me and i hadn't taken my pill that night yet. But the thing is i slept at my friends house that night and forgot my pack of pills so when i got home this morning i took my saturday night pill. Starting tongiht-sunday- are my sugar pills, the week i'm supposed to get my period and all that. So my question is, is can i be pregnant since he came inside of me last night and i didn't take my pill until this morning? Please and thank youu!

Yes. Even if you took your pills bang on time, there's still a chance of being pregnant.
It isn't 100% effective, so it's best to use condoms as well.

15/f
i went out with this kid last year for about 2 months. i broke up with for no specific reason, i just didn't feel a connection. now were really close friends, and we hang out a lot and alone sometimes. we started hooking up when we hung out.. and we agreed were just friends with benefits. he fingered me last weekend, and i had no problem with that.. but i know he likes me and that i don't feel the same way, and he understands that. is it wrong of me to fool around with him as friends if he still has feelings for me?

Yes. You know it's hurting him - so put a stop to it please.

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