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are they all the same?
I have a question obviously, but I would really appreciate answers from people with experience.
Are guys all the same? Is the main goal of their life to have sex? I mean I see these guys and they're gorgeous, know they're gorgeous, and use it to their advantage to get EVERY girl possible. ARE THERE ANY THAT DON'T TRY TO GET WITH EVERY GIRL? THAT TRY TO FIND SOMEONE THEY LOVE? like real love, not lust.
-thanks for your help.
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Don't be silly, of course not all men are like that. Although a lot of young men are trying to show off, or get as many as they can. Out of all my unmarried friends, I think only one of them is how you described. I think maybe you are hanging out with the wrong circle of people.
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Are all guys the same? Absolutely not. Is the main goal of their lives to have sex? Some, maybe. All? No. You know, it's funny how many girls say/think this. Some say this because they're looking into the wrong crowd of guys. If you're looking into the crowd of jocks who are handsome in every way possible and think they are handsome in every way also, it is definitely not the right crowd for you. It isn't the crowd for me either. Never was and never will be.
I will never fall for someone who's in love with themself. I'm not saying all jocks are in love with themselves, but a rather large majority are. Just like I won't make friends with a girl who's in love with herself. I think jocks are easily said to be arrogant guys who really are in love with themselves and looks; many who very well are and much, much more.
You need to look elsewhere. When I say "elsewhere", I mean look into another crowd. Get to know people from other "groups" if you aren't already acquainted with them.
See, you can easily find someone good-looking, intelligent, funny and friendly if you look. All guys are not the same and people who say they are, are the ones who haven't looked carefully enough.
There are soooo many guys who do not try and get with every girl. And those are the ones I respect the most. Unfortunately, guys at young ages are still immature and still growing. They will grow out of it. Hopefully all of them, but that isn't a guarentee.
Look outside the box. It's a good place to look. Trust me ;]
Hope I helped <3
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No, they aren't all the same, but it is really hard to find one that can be focused on all different things, not only dirtyness. I just recently broke up with a guy who was beautiful, but he wasn't nasty. He wasn't really too focused on dirtiness, but in the past, a lot of guys that i was with were very dirty, some more than others. So it just depends on the guy. They are ones that don't try to get with every girl. They are more older and mature. The ones that can give their love faithfully to one girl. The ones that can love. There are a lot of them, usually not the really super georgeous ones. Too much of georgeousness is bad. So If i were you I would look a little bit lower, not too georgeous because the georgeous ones know how to play.goodluck, i hope this helped :D
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Not all of them are like that. You just have to find the right one. They will trick you into thinking they are all nice and sweet but really in the end they only want one thing. You can tell when a guy wants you for YOU or for something else. If he calls you beautiful, instead of sexy or hott. If he kisses you on the forehead instead of always on the lips. If he finds some way of touching you (without being sexual) just to see the way you feel and remember how his skin felt to yours. There's a lot of little hints you have to catch in the guys personality to figure him out. Hope this helps!
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Of course they're not all the same. There are some genuine guys out there - it's just a case of finding them.
Use your brains. If you like a boy and you think he's using you, don't give him what he wants and see if his attitude towards you changes.
It's not just the boys - it's the girls who are to blame for letting themselves be used as alot of the time it's blatantly obvious, they just don't want to admit it.
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The answer to your questions are as follows:
1. No
2. No
3. Yes
4. Yes
Not all guys are the same. That's one of the most irritating things that I hear people say and then they hate all guys because of what ONE jerk did to them. We all have different ideas in mind, but there do happen to be a lot of guys [like myself, I like to think] that aren't just looking for sex and whatnot.
If you read my profile on here, you'll see that I want to stay single until college. Why? Because I'm trying to get out of the stereotype that all guys are hormonal beings just trying to use girls for sex. I'm not even going to have sex until I'm married to a girl who I love and who loves me, too. As a 17-year old guy, I try and pride myself on looking for girls who have personality, wit, humor, etc., not just the girls with looks. Sure, that's nice, but that isn't something that lasts like personality does. I don't try to get with every girl, because a lot of girls juts are nasty and mean-spirited.
But to answer your question, no, not all guys are the same.
--Jack
(17/m)
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