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Alright, I'm in a sticky situation because my BEST FRIEND likes me. (guy) and I really like him...but he was my friend first and I'm thinking that if I date him then it'll ruin our friendship. I've talked to him about it and he says that it won't (which on one hand I do believe him bc he's not one of those guys that tells you what you want to hear unless it's true) I love spending time with him, in fact I've been over at his house more this summer than my own i think lol. I also like the fact that he has seen ALL of my quirkey moments and still likes me for them. Like I said, I just don't want to lose my best friend. That would devastate me. What do you think that I should do??
love
mo
Well here are two things you should consider,
he is your best friend - but if it doesnt work out, is he still a best friend that would be able to keep things normal between you two?
I mean, it depends on the realationships, like if you two were to break up, are you two the kind of people that can shake it off, and go "wow, we definitly werent ment for each other.." and still be normal? If so, I'd go for it, If he makes you laugh and you like him alot, and he makes you happy! I'd say all for it :)
Ok there is this guy I like, lets call him Mike. So Mike is a year older than me (I am 15). So last week, he asked me if I wanted to go to the movies. We ended up going Friday with some of my friends and in the beginning I felt bad because I was kind of ignoring him. I was really like..scared which was why I was ignoring him (I know, it doesn't make any sense)
After the movie was over and everyone left but the both of us, we talked for a bit until my dad came to get me.
So then a day later, Sunday we talked for a little.
Then since he mentioned the day we were at the movies about just the two of us going next time, I asked him online and he was all like "It sounds like fun" and then said Wednesday would be the best and he hasnt brought it up since then.
It just seems like hes lost interest in me because a couple of days ago he would IM me as soon as I got online. He doesn't do that anymore and he barely talks to me. I asked him why he doesn't call me and he said its because his cell is broken or something. I don't know what I should do anymore. Any suggestions?
Ps. I rate 5's
I think maybe since you ignored him, he thought he was bugging you too much, so he is just cutting things down notch.
Anyways you can try calling him , and IMing him, the guy doesnt have to do everything all the time you know? :)
Just dont be afraid when you are with him, he cares about you it sounds like - especially since he wants to spend time one on one, if you like him, you should let him know, before he gets discouraged.
Does anybody know what i should get my b/f for his birthday? I already got him a pair of shorts from american eagle but i don't think thats even close to enough? does anyone have any ideas or advice? Thanx!
Well he's your boyfriend, so what does he like?
Get him something he's interested in!
What does he like doing? Golfing, playing sports? Listening to music, etc..
If you knwo what he likes than you ahve the answers :)
I'm gonna keep this short. I started sumerschool today, met a guy there- started talking. After school we went for a bite to eat and before I know it I'm kissing him and he's my boyfriend!! This is no not like me! Sure I had fun with him today but he is so not my type! Ot maybe he is but there is something that doesnt feel right. He is really sweet and nice and likes me alot (after one day, I know..) But I kinda like this other guy too and I don't know if he likes me but I think I have a chance...So now I'm torn. Should I give the guy I now have known for 10 hours and who is ´my boyfriend appeantly or should I dump him and try going for the guy I actually like??
PLEASE HELP ME!
Thank you!
Give the guy you have a chance,
but dont lead him on.
Dont underestimate his liking you though,
it only takes a day to fall in love with someone,
but you need to know a person as well.
You got yourself into this situation, just consider yourself not single, and see if things work out with this guy you know :)? It could :))!!
and if it doesnt, theres always the other guy.
Alright, I'm in a sticky situation because my BEST FRIEND likes me. (guy) and I really like him...but he was my friend first and I'm thinking that if I date him then it'll ruin our friendship. I've talked to him about it and he says that it won't (which on one hand I do believe him bc he's not one of those guys that tells you what you want to hear unless it's true) I love spending time with him, in fact I've been over at his house more this summer than my own i think lol. I also like the fact that he has seen ALL of my quirkey moments and still likes me for them. Like I said, I just don't want to lose my best friend. That would devastate me. What do you think that I should do??
love
mo
Well here are two things you should consider,
he is your best friend - but if it doesnt work out, is he still a best friend that would be able to keep things normal between you two?
I mean, it depends on the realationships, like if you two were to break up, are you two the kind of people that can shake it off, and go "wow, we definitly werent ment for each other.." and still be normal? If so, I'd go for it, If he makes you laugh and you like him alot, and he makes you happy! I'd say all for it :)
Hey Advicenators-
I was 10, and in the 5th grade. Then in January, some boy who I never knew noticed was in my dance/music class came up to me, did some freaky hand thing. I called him idiot, he gasped, and was left speechless. Since then, I have loved him.
After that, he did all sorts of things. If I was absent, the next day he would say "Oh, so you're here today." When our teacher told us to pair up with a boy, he asked me, and I said no and hid behind the wall, so I wouldn't dance with a boy. He asked me my name. I would never tell him. He found out, by grabbing my books. He walked me to class. I still never gave in to him. He got left back though, and me being in the top class, graduated.
I thought I wouldn't see him, since I went to Junior High (weird I know, we graduate in 5th grade instead of 6th). Our Junior High is only 3 blocks away from my elementary school. I saw him countless times on the bus. He went to sixth grade when I went to seventh. He always was looking at me, and I would look at him.
Now, I'm in 8th grade about to graduate in two days. After that, I don't have to come back to school, but I will. He has the same S.S. teacher as I did last year, so I'm gonna hang out with my teacher for the whole 4 more days of school. I'm gonna try to talk to that boy. Hopefully, he will still talk to me.
I still love this boy. I have loved him since 5th grade, for more than 3 years, and my love never dies, or wears off. Other boys I've liked come and go from my heart, but his spirit never leaves.
My questions:
1. Did this boy ever like me?
2. Do you think I have a chance with him?
3. If he does talk to me, how do I spill that I love him?
4. What do I do if he rejects my love?
Sorry that it's so long.
Please answer, and Alpha345 a.k.a. Ryan, please answer this question. You say you know what love is.
I rate high.
You know to be quite honest,
this is very cute :)
I think he does like you, why else would he have done all this stuff, bugged you, wanted to dance with you, its all so incredibly sweet, and especially at such a young age!
I think you havea chance with him if his feelings still hold the same as yours.
Okay, first if you do talk to him, dont gush your love for him, that freaks guys out, ask to hang out, and then just say.. if your confident enough.. "i really like you" heavy on the "really" part. If he rejects you, its okay, you dont go to the same school anyways anymore, even thoughe ventually you['ll see each other again when he finally does get to highschool, you'll have made new friends, met new guys, and your really young in the first place, so its not the end of the world.
hey! im 16/f and my cousin is 15/f! and well she really likes this cute guy (kevin) and he is also 15 but my other cousin (her brother) and me were talking to this gil (kristin) that kevin use to like and i guess he still likes her or would like to get back with her but you see kristin still likes kevin but said she would never go back out with him because she wants someone knew. this kevin guy seems really really nice too! but i dont know if my cousin has a chance..not to be mean to my cousin or anything because i love her to death but it just doesnt seem like he would go for a girl like her..!? it seems like he has different taste but im not gonna go tell her that she will get mad and it will break her heart. she always talks about kevin and this friday we are goin to one of his baseball games because he plays my friend. so me and her and my friend and her friend are gonna go.i said i wanna meet kevin. first because he is a hottie! lol and second because i wanna see what he is like and all. i mean im scared that i will kinda like him or whatever because to me he seems nice funny good personality. but i dont want to do that to my cousin!! i would never do anything to hurt her and let guys come between us. i really want to meet him and she knows that but she never talks to him when we see him "she is too scared" she says and embarassed and shy. im not just gonna go up to him either because she will hate me and also that would be awkward! since he doesnt know me. what if i talk to him and he like flirts with me or somethin? my cousin says he is a huge flirter. i would want to flirt back but i wouldnt because i gotta remember my cousin likes him! but as i said before i dont know if he is the right type for her. i can already tell that im gonna like kevin because he seems like my type and my cousin says me and him are alike..! and that im the type of girl he would go for. i would want to go for him or whatever or flirt but what about my cousin? we have had many talks about him but i just dont know. jokingly when we talk she is like "gosh you two are so alike you would love him! wait..you better not go out with him like not seriously but saying you better not because i want him" i know your gonna say dont let boys come between you two because friendship is the most important thing. but lately ive been guy crazy!! and lately there have been no guys around that are cute or that i am interested in and now kevin comes along. i just dont know sorry if this was long and confusing but if you understand will you please give me some advice on what i should do?!
thanks..i will rate 5
xoxo
Well I'm going to be honest..
I dont think you should go for Kevin,
no one has "types" and if your cousin likes him than you should just let her have him to like, even if nothing happens, because its not right to go after someone that you think is "your type", I mean honestly, Kevin could think that you arent his type because you dont meet or look his standards, you got to look at all angles of situations. And your right dont let guys come between friendship, if its not going to work out - than dont either of you have him. Its not like his is property anyways.
Just thought I'd give you some food for thought.
Hi I'm 18/f.
I get affected easily by what people say about me. (I know, at this age I should already be very confident) When I spot a new haircut, initially I'll feel really good bout it but when other people start to criticise it, I start to feel ugly and feel that my new haircut sucks too when i look in the mirror.
Sometimes I think I'm pretty , sometimes I'm not. I get upset when people don't think I'm pretty. I will try means and ways to get them to say I'm pretty. Or when I ask someone, "she's prettier or I'm prettier?", I'll keep bugging him or her to say them I AM prettier. I know its bad. Can someone help me to be less affected by what others say and be more confident bout wat i think of myself?
Okay, first dont let people critizise you, if they do think in your head.. and it matters what they think because? I mean, they arent the ones who got the haircut, or they arent the ones who spent money on the outfit. Its how what you do makes you feel! If it makes you feel good, just dont let them walk all over you!
Or when they are doing what htey are doing, like trying to critique you, confront them right on the spot, tell themm.. you know what, I really dont care what your opinion is because I like it, and if you dont, too bad.
You shouldnt try to get people to tell you your pretty, dont put them in awkward situatoins like you said "She's prettier or am I prettier?" because if they are your friend, of course they are going to say you are.
I mean honestly, I dont have a problem with my confidence, its always been pretty high.
Butwhats helps is when your happy with youreslf, the first step is learning to accept that your not perfect and neither is anyone else. With that being said, it should help, your not perfect, you are who you are, and you're not going to change to fit other peoples molds :)
ok today was my 1st day at driver tranning and we had a road drive already, and i really need to inprove my turning. Any tips??
Oh just keep practicing, and dont press too hard on the gas whilst turning.
;)
i have been friends with tisha all my life and suddenly she got mad at me. she got mad when kyara and i were over at her house and i was planning to spend the night. i later found out that kyara wasnt allowed to sleep over b/c tisha's parents wouldnt let her. i figured that i would go home and kyara could stay and spend the night. this turned into a big ordeal and tisha got mad at me for inviting kyara over. when i invited her over, i thought that she was allowed to spend the night b/c tisha didnt say anything when i told her that kyara was spening the night. so they were both mad at me. so i left without saying goodbye. kyara forgave me that night, but tisha is still mad at me. i have tryed saying sorry but she wont accept it. what else should i do?
If she wont accept your apology leave it alone, people need space when they are upset or angry, so try apologizing after a few weeks again, when you are sure she's calm.
i just graduated and im very worried about my old friends because im going
to high school next year and im scared that i not gonna see my old friends anymore..='( how do we keep in touch with ur old friendsand stay close to them? is it possible that if am lucky u get same class with my old friend?
Awww you will see your oldfriends, you'll see them in the halls, and you might have classes with them , or lunch periods!
Highschool really isnt a big deal, you meet new people, and make new friends, you gain some friends and you lose some friends, thats how it works, and by sophmore year you should know who your real friends are. :) And I wouldnt worry about losing your old friends! Highschool isnt as hyped up as everyone says, its actually really fun, and you get to see your friends everyday, just like in middle school :)
14/F
I like this guy from another school he soo awesome were gonna go 2 the movies soon but I donno it werid. I'm pretty sure he likes me. We hung out the entire time @ my schools class trip. All my firends know that I like him and some of the popular girls in my school know too. This kid im sort of firends with was makin fun of me cuz i never made out with anyone so my other firends was like you don't know what happened @ the class trip. He found out it had 2 do with this guy (who he knows) ugh im afraid hes gonna say that I was telling everyone we made out or something, I sent him a txt saying if he tells u anything ignore him but sence everyone know she gonna think im so werid prude kid who tells everyone how obssed I am. Ugh i just donno what 2 do.
Just ignore him, its summer now.
Also your fourteen, you dont need to be making out at this age, not a lot of kids seem to realize this, but you cant just makeout with someone for fun, without feeling anything afterwords, it does a lot to your emotions, and if you makeout with a guy you dont even like, you'll probably become attachted to him just because of that. so just ignore the rumor if they spread one, because ifyou give it attention it will grow, and jsut ignore the boy who is teasing you about it.
recently i have found myself connected to someone. she and i share very unusual things with one another. we can feel when the other is distressed in anyway or in pain. i can feel her heart beat over my own. it does not matter how far or near we are to each other. i feel as if i have known her always. we are close friends and i don't want to lose that, but these feelings are really hurting on the inside. is there a way to stop them with out me seperating from her? is there something i can do? also, i'm 14 years old, she's 13. any information would be greatly appreciated, thank you.
Well with age and maturity comes the answer to this, when you grow you learn to be able to be clsoe to people but not too close, so that you can protect your feelings. I'm not really sure how to make those feelings stop, maybe you should confront her about it, there has to be a reason you feel so strongly for her, talk to her.
Communication is key.
My Best friend has had problems with an eating disorder and with cutting for some time now. She is in therapy and recieving treatment for both, however she still sometimes relapses and doesn't eat or cuts. Her boyfriend seems to think it is apropiate to say things to her when she doesnt eat like "If you don't eat tommorrow then I'm not going to either" Or if she ends up cutting he cuts himself. I think that he is making her feel worse when all she really needs is support... What should I do...Opinions? Advice?
I think you should talk to her boyfriend, or have an ADULT talk to her boyfriend, thats horrible, and you're right, he doesnt seem to be making it any better. He's just telling her that if shes going to do something bad to herself, he is too. But its not going to have near as much as an impact on him as it will her, we both know that. Please tell someone whats happening, even though she is getting help, because just reading about what her boyfriend is doing, pisses me off.
blahh, I hope things start to get better for your friend, let me know!
what is the difference between pilates and yoga?
Yoga is more of a mind, relaxation exercise, that focus on various types of stretching and breathing.
And pilates, is more of toning your body, your abs, butt, etc, if you want more of an exercise do pilates, and if you are stressed do yoga, but both are really good!
I have a really bad sunburn...what should I do?
I'm very fair complected. Alot of it is on my arms and face. I've tried the mustard, vinager, and other crap that people say will bring the heat out of it but it has done nothing but irritate it, and make it look even redder. Help!
~Sunburnt in Ohio~
Put aloe vera gel on it, or cocoa butter lotion.
Aloe Vera works VERY WELL!
i feel very frusterated and my lower back seems to have a lot of tension i am also questioning everything i do my faith sexuality so on and so on i do not want to feel this way what is wrong with me? why am i getting this feeling? has anyone else had it? please help me i have been feeling like this on and off since april.
I want to say this is a phase, because for me it was. But its quite different for everyone else, we all question things some point in life, until we clarified what we are questioning we wont know. You need to ask yourself "why" .. why are you questioning thsese things? Because once you find why, you'll find how to fix it. :)
I am starting to hang out with new people, usually I would be outgoing with my firends, no matter who it is, but since my new friends are popular,I"m having trouble. How do I be more outgoing. These girls are very outgoing and if you're to shy you'll not be friends with them any longer!!! HELP!!!
Well be careful, you're usually outgoing with your friends because you are comfortable with them! :) Just I'm sure once you get to know these "popular" girls more, you will be more comfortable and more willing to be outgoing and try new things with them!
how do you pick fav. columinsts
If your at a columnist's page,
press "add as friend".
my cousin..which we will call Billy..always turns his back on me when my other cousin "JANE" or step-cousin "BOBBY". when hes with me...he laughs and my jokes and stuff i do. everytime we see each other we say this thing which is an inside joke. well the other day i said it in front of bobby and he was like... no that stupid.. then he always says embarrasing things that i have done to them or just says somthing mean about me. he always hangs around them and leaves me out so i have to just be a tag-a-long. hes a great guy and i love him to death!!!! but only when its just me. i dont know what to do. i have tried to tell him but he insisted that he doesnt. and i try to ignore it but it really acually bothers me. i know saying somthing mean back (which my bro told me to do) wont help anything. then i try just to not even talk to him or follow him when hes around jane or bobby. but then i feel left out and bored bymyself. please give me somthing other than this!!!
Okay in my opinion, I would ignore him.
When he is alone with you, be mean to him, thats so cruel of me to say, but if your mean to him, he'll ask you whats up? And you can tell him if he likes it when you treat him that way, and how he always treats your so mean when your with yoru other cousins, tell him its not nice, and you dont appreciate it and that it hurts your feelings.
But otherwise, try hanging out with other friends, or doing something else, that doesnt involve hanging out with him~