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I am a 14 year old female going into my freshman year in michigan. I have found out that i would like to go into nursing and i would like to be a pediatritian, i am looking for a job that i could do after school at Beaumont Hospital starting off as a filing person then working my way up, i would like this job to last until my senior year of high school or for longer. Would this be possible and if so who should i contact? Please help!

Teenagers are able to volunteer at many hospitals. It is known as "candy stripping" at some hospitals. Call the hospital you are thinking of working for and ask if they have this program. I do not live in Michigan, so I do not know who to contact. However, if you just call the front desk I'm sure they will direct you to who you should speak to. I volunteer at a hospital and it is quite fun.

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okay so ive liked this guy for a year now. we dated last summer, but he broke up with me for different reasons. im still not over him, he meant a lot to me and still does. were best friends and he knows that i like him. hes bisexual and he has a girlfriend, whom hes been dating for 3 months now. she lets him have sex with other guys and she doesnt count that as cheating. the only thing is he had sex with me twice while going out with her. he acts like he likes me and he gives me mixed signals. for the past year he has liked me on and off but weve never done anything about it. generally he does want to have sex a lot with anyone that will give it to him, but im still trying to figure out if he had sex with me because he likes me, or just because he thinks its fun and just wanted it from someone. its really confusing. i cant ask my friends about it cuz theyre friends with him too. so if anyone knows please help me!

He sounds like he's using you. He knows you like him and is using that to his advantage and getting you to sleep with him. If he really liked you he would've broken up with his girlfriend by now. Forget about him.

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can anyone,pleasee help me make an outfit around these jeans? http://www.tillys.com/tillys/variants.aspx?ctlg=020_Girls&prod=125487320&ctg=080_Girls_Jeans&parentctg=080_Girls_Jeans&rank=23&size=-1

nothing to funky, i just can't think of anything!
thanks

A white shirt would look good. Possibly with some details the same color as the pants. Solid color shoe would do unless you can find details of that color within the shoe. Maybe just a simple pair of flip flops. Accesories that color or a neutral color.

Shirt examples:
http://www.tillys.com/tillys/Variants.aspx?ctlg=020_Girls&prod=123762380&ctg=010_Girls_TeesTanks&parentctg=

http://store.delias.com/item.do?categoryID=463&itemID=48170&sizeFilter=&colorFilter=&brandFilter=

Shoes:
http://store.delias.com/item.do?categoryID=1039&itemID=47876&sizeFilter=&colorFilter=&brandFilter=

https://shop.vans.com/webapp/wcs/stores/servlet/ProductDisplay?langId=-1&krypto=N2x6xrUqr1qMyHqr0DyTvshu%2F3iEBeh%2BsBML6AH6xI1xVqvY6F8eQNTqNO3S6%2FvDOIReJw%2BxpO66%0A9MMtLPD33dLOBL8TRo1bN%2FvppvRcOxyTfwdQtCw4fnI0gHLbaZxBxNXvdoJZHKIwM5fsdLNhbjK%2B%0AbXkRE%2Bcw&ddkey=ClickInfo#

Accesories:
http://www.forever21.com/product.asp?catalog%5Fname=FOREVER21&category%5Fname=Accessories&product%5Fid=1028748563&Page=all

http://www.forever21.com/product.asp?catalog%5Fname=FOREVER21&category%5Fname=Accessories&product%5Fid=1039528448&Page=all

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if you could give me any more advice on it, that'd be amazing, and maybe tell your friends about it? thanks so much :]

You need a lot more detail. It sounds like you're just telling one of your friends this story not actually writing. If you notice all the top stories go really into detail on every situation annd explain the whole thing. This would help the reader get a better picture.

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i know i'm PMSing since i'm going to get my period in a couple days, so i'm starting to PMS. i'm REALLY irritable and i am mad right now for no reason. i could scream and cry i'm so pissed, even though it's for no reason! i'm in such a bad mood and no one wants to be around me because i can be such a bi*** when i'm PMSing. what can i do to not be so aggrivated?

You may be expericing PMDD. You may want to talk to your doctor about getting on some sort of medication.

However, if you do not suffer from this, writing is a good way to get out your emotions. Deep breathing while counting to ten always seems to work aswell.

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My Best friend recently joined advicenators.com. She's an awesome person and devotes her life to helping others, but the only one she really needs to be helping is herself. She has so many problems to be 17. well i guess if your going to help me help her your going to need to know everything. She's anorexic. She only weighs 97lbs and she's 5in. 5ft. obviously that's not healthy. But she claims not to be anorexic. She says she doesn't eat when she's stressed out and she's alwasys stressed out.What should i do?

Show her this video:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wr1KYNMlqk4

Then get her help. Talk to her about it and let her know you plan to tell someone if she doesn't stop. Chances are she will not stop due to the fact it is a mental illness. Tell her parents, your parents, a guidance consuler at school, or another adult you trust. They will help her find help.

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how do i take a screenshot?

Hit the botton that says Print Scr over Sys Rq on it. It's located next to the Scroll lock button. Then, proceed to go to paint or whatever image program you use and paste it.

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So me and my bf had sex a couple days ago and we only used a condom... he didnt ejacuaculate in me but what are the chancedd of pregnancy??? HELP

Technically, there is a 2% chance that you could be pregnant. However, I highly doubt you are. Kudos on being smart and having sex safe.

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sorry, i dont know how to reply to your other answer, so do you know the pay @ baskin robbins? sorry, im asking alot. i know. but i found stuff about mcdonalds... so i dont know if it's the same as baskin robbins.

It will most likely be the same. Since you are just starting out it will be minimum wage, which I believe is about $7.50, but it's probably more.

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Okay, if I could choose either one, overall, which one do you think would be better? I know it's a large question but this is advicenators :)

It really depnds on the managers. My brother has worked at McDonalds and Ben and Jerry's (similar enough to Baskin Robins) and told me both sucked. Haha.

But overall I'd say Baskin Robins. The smell of French fries will get to you after a while when working at McDonalds, however, ice cream does not have as strong of a smell. Also, at McDonalds you learn things about food that you never wanted to know.

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I haven't been having much more then one meal a day lately, simple because I haven't been very hungry. Well, now I've noticed when I actually eat a real meal, I get really sick. I get a stomach ache with horrible dirreah. What should I do?

Seek immediate medical attention. Unfortunately, we cannot diagnose this over the computer.

Nevertheless, it is important to go to a doctor ASAP. There obviously is something wrong with you currently. You most likely will be prescribed some sort of medicine. You will get better.

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15/m
Okay so I'm bulimic.
Please dont tell me that it will hurt me,
and to not do it.
Its my choice.
I take meds for my acid reflex (for the throat erosion caused by the stomach acid.), and im getting procelain venieers, and I brush my teeth after I do it every time (about 3x a day.)

Anyway is it easier to throw up if you let your food kinda dissolve in your stomach after you eat it. Like wait an hour or two then throw up.
I drink lots of water before I do it.

Helpful advice would be apperiated.
Thanks.

XCody*X

I was eight years old. My mother sat me down. Tears were streaming down her face. I was so worried. Wouldn't you be if you were only eight and saw your mother crying hysterically? "Christi. she died."

And that was I needed to hear to start crying as well.

Christi was a close family friend. I had known her my whole life. Sure, I was only eight, but that doesn't mean she didn't affect my life. She was an aspiring model. However, like any model, she constantly worried about her weight. My mom told me she was bullemic. Obviously, I was too young to know what it meant. I then found out that it was when a person made themself throw up to become thin. And that it can destroy your throat and kill you.

Eight short years I knew her. She was one of the most kind people I've ever met. I'll never be able to talk to her again.

Don't for a second think that I have no idea what you're going through. I'm not proud to admit this, but I once would have done anything to be thin. Many people go through this. You are not alone.

However, this does not mean you should have an eating disorder. You claim it's "your choice." So you are choosing to kill yourself? That's ridiculous. Please do not continue with your eating disorder. You have no idea how many people would miss you.

Watch this and think: do you really want to look like this?
http://youtube.com/watch?v=wr1KYNMlqk4

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well. what are some signs that you're in love?

You know when you're in love. There aren't "signs." Yes, you will feel certain things when you are in love that the person below me stated. However, you can feel those things even if you just realy like them. Love is that reach for the stars, I'll die for you feeling that words can't begin to describe. It's knowing that no matter what happens you'll always be in love with that person because true love doesn't die. It's feeling infinite and not being able to explain why. And you can never be 100% sure of what it is until you feel it (hence why my ramblings are a tad odd- I've never been in love). When you're in love you'll know. I'm not talking about highschool "love" here. I mean real love.

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I need to get a lot of clothes in the next month, by the time I start school. Where can I get nice clothes that aren't too expensive, so I can get more of them?

Thank you!

I like stores such as Wet Seal, Forever 21, and Delias. Those are generally pretty inexpensive. Also, I really think thrift stores are pretty cool. They contain a lot of things you won't find in any other stores.

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what makes a kiss great? and what makes a kiss bad? please be your personal opinions thanks =)

A great kiss: Not trying too hard and having it end up perfect. Something gentle, yet full of passion. Spontaneity is a major plus. Kisses that are planned up usually are boring.

Bad kiss: Bad breath. Too much tongue. Too much slober. Not letting a person break away from the kiss. Kissing someone who doesn't want to kiss you. Basically, the worst kiss is one where someone is pushy about it.

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I'm trying to come up with as many creative reasons I love my girlfriend and I need ideas please. I'm trying to come up with 365 reasons I love her. Our 2 year anniversary is coming up and I thought that I'd make a cute little book with 365 reasons why I love her. I know this is something personal and I obviously know why I love her, but I just thought some cute creative ideas from someone else would be nice too. But please help me out and share your stories. Please be creative in your answers and give it some thought. I'm already to 240, so I only need about 125 more to go. Haha.

ps.
i'm a girl, and im 16
if that helps anyyy

pleasee & thankyou (:

That's a great idea! I'm totally going to steal this from you =].

Anyway try these:
You always understand.
You think I'm beautiful no matter what I'm wearing.
A hug from you really does make it all better.
Your smile makes my heart skip a beat.
Everything I do makes me think of you.
I always know I can be myself around you.
Laughing is 10 times more fun when you're around.
The stars shine just a little brighter because of you.
Even when you're angry you're adorable.
Your kisses lift me up to a place where we belong.
You make my heart break out in song.
Without you I don't think I would be able to feel.
A day without seeing you is a day wasted.
I can't sleep at night unless I know you're safe.
I never believe in love at first sight; then you walked in the door.
I didn't think love was real, however, you were able to prove me wrong.

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Sorry, I asked this before but it wasn't answered. So, FOR SURE, baskin robbins hires at 15? and what age does McDonalds hire at? Thanks.

Most Baskin Robbins hire at 15. You could always ask in case the one you works at doesn't.

McDonalds hires at 14.

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OK, so the other day my friend Megz and I were hangin out with these 2 guys, Paul and Dave. Well, Megz has pretty big boobs. She was wearing yellow. We heard Paul and Dave whisper to each other, "She looks like a banana.. a JUICY banana muahaha." I thought they were talkin bout her boobs, but Megz got upset cause she thought they were calling her fat. Which one is it?

Most likely they were talking about her larger boobs. Juicy doesn't mean fat. However, it was still rude of them to say and degrating.

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14/f. Preppy and a little skater. Freshie.

I have a slender, curvy figure. I like skater shoes, but they're too clunky for my figure (sucks.).
I also wouldn't like to spend more than 60 on shoes, if possible.
I'm just having the hardest time finding sneakers for school, so could someone please tell me a cute brand, or give a link to a cute shoe, or tell me a place where I could find cute sneakers, slip ons, or anything of that sort?
And also, I kind of like these, but are they ugly?
http://www.zappos.com/n/p/dp/23614139/c/28580.html

Thanks!

Those aren't ugly. I like them.

However, if those are too chunky try Vans Slip Ons. They're so comfortable and cute too. They come in many different patterns.

Examples:
https://shop.vans.com/webapp/wcs/stores/servlet/ProductDisplay?langId=-1&krypto=N2x6xrUqr1qMyHqr0DyTvshu%2F3iEBeh%2B1%2B3Nm56qvP%2BN25CqyO7C8iRiY%2BOh7u8oAo2lR1qpcDED%0AmxtTL%2F5nJuJ6Q9k4JMCqaA6cvCvdSFwQiQs1%2ByZkv3UGBicAxk1QlNCwSwjtlqRkMkUxRhai2iq5%0AivOiAF87&ddkey=ClickInfo#

https://shop.vans.com/webapp/wcs/stores/servlet/ProductDisplay?langId=-1&krypto=N2x6xrUqr1qMyHqr0DyTvshu%2F3iEBeh%2B1%2B3Nm56qvP%2BN25CqyO7C8iRiY%2BOh7u8oAo2lR1qpcDED%0AmxtTL%2F5nJuJ6Q9k4JMCqaA6cvCvdSFwQiQs1%2ByZkv3UGBicAxk1QlNCwSwjtlqRkMkUxRhai2iq5%0AivOiAF87&ddkey=ClickInfo#

These are a different style of vans, but still cute too.
https://shop.vans.com/webapp/wcs/stores/servlet/product_10001_10101_351051_-1

Go to vans.com for more styles.

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