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everytime I get a boyfriend and my dad hars about it he gose off , what should I do???!!!! he torments me!!!!!!

Hmm... thats always tough telling your dad you have a boyfriend. But when you do get a boyfriend or you like a guy, tell your dad. Sit him down and be like "Dad, I just wanted you to know that I like this kid name ______ I wanted to tell you so you didn't find out and you got mad. I hope you accept this because I really like him a lot." Just say something that will tell you you have a boyfriend or that you like someone. If you still need help, just ask! =D Good luck hun!!

xoxo Kourtney

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does size matter and if so wut size is good?

LOL. Why does everyone ask that. I think you're talking about the dick lol. But, some girls they like it big some girls don't and some girls really don't care. It just all depends on the girl you're with! And if the girl you're with really loves you/cares about you, she shouldn't care! ;)

xoxo Kourtney

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Hey see I knew this boyfor about 8 years now and he went away when we was10 years old then he finally shows up yesturday and expects us to re be friends...... and I hardly even reconize him.!
so what should I do?? PLZ HELP

Hey! Even though you guys haven't seen in each other in awhile, he's probably still the same person, just looks different. I mean after all everyone does change (look wise). So, just hang out with him and catch up on the good times and get to know him again. Who knows, you two may be good friends again. Atleast he remembered you!! Look on the bright side! =D So just go have fun and hang out with him! Have fun!!

xoxo Kourtney

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theres this really hott guy at my school and i already went out w/ him before but he dumped me...i still like him alot! should i ask him out or not?

Try talking to him first and finding out if he still likes you so you don't just go up to him and be like hey you wanna go out with me lol. Not that you would say it like that, but you get what I'm saying lol. Just call him up and be like "I know we went out once before, but I was just wondering if you still liked me, because I still like you ALOT" Just say something like that. And see what he says. Good luck hun!

xoxo Kourtney

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OKAY MY FRIEND J.B CALLED JOSH(B/F) AND J.B WAS LIKE MAN KRISTEN IS GETTING ON MY NEVEES AND J.B WAS JUST SAYING THAT SO JOSH WOULD BELIEVE HIM SO THAN WHEN J.B SAID THAT JOSH WAS LIKE YEA SHE IS GETTING ON MY NERVES TOO AND THAN J.B SAID SO U GOING TO BRAKE UP OKAY MY FRIEND J.B CALLED JOSH(B/F) AND J.B WAS LIKE MAN KRISTEN IS GETTING ON MY NEVEES AND J.B WAS JUST SAYING THAT SO JOSH WOULD BELIEVE HIM SO THAN WHEN J.B SAID THAT JOSH WAS LIKE YEA SHE IS GETTING ON MY NERVES TOO AND THAN J.B SAID SO U GOING TO BRAKE UPTO SMOKE SOME MORE AND I TOLD JOSH I DO NOT WANT HIM SMOKEING THAT AND I REALLY DO NOT WANT HIM LIEING TO ME AT ALL!!i really need help now can someone help me!

I dont like smoking either!! But, he is your boyfriend, so try getting him to stop. Thats what I always tried doing =/ Just sit him down and be like "I'm sorry if I got on your nerves, what did I do to get on your nerves?" And also say "You know I don't like you smoking, can't you just pleast TRY to stop, it doesn't get you anywhere in life and you can get in trouble with them if you get caught." (like probabtion and jail, etc.) Just tell him how you feel about him smoking and ask him why he said you were getting on his nerves. Good luck!

xoxo Kourtney

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ok theres this boy that REALLY likes me n i dont want 2 b harsh n tell him i dont like him n back off n i have already told him i have a boyfriend!!n he wont leave me alone!!in a nice way 2 tell him 2 back off n leave me alone!

Well, just be like "I'm sorry, but I have a boyfriend, there are other girls out there for you, I only like my boyfriend." And if he still doesn't listen you can always have your boyfriend tell him to back off (but of course in a nice way haha) Hope this helps. And good luck! =P

xoxo Kourtney

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today is one of those days where i feel like crying
Baby i know ur not trying
but the sadness really hurts
when i guess ur somewhere else
*Baby come back home*


i will rate

WOW! thats really good. Geez I'm all into reading poems today haha. I love reading poems. Keep up the good work because many people can relate to it. Keep on writting! Because I'll sure read it! =P

xoxo Kourtney

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My guy's away this summer and is supposed to call me every other day or something and it's been like ten days. Today's our 8-month mark. Just opinionwise - should I call him? I called him last time we spoke on the phone.
My mom suggested I make him wait - "let him miss you and call you." She put it this way: "If you don't call him and he doesn't call you, you'll be upset that he didn't call. If you DO call him, you'll still be upset that he didn't call."
Lol
So what do you guys think I should do? Thanks!

He is away on vacation, so he might be busy doing other things and getting distracted. But, today would be the day to call him since it is the 8 month. And just be like "Hey, I just wanted to see what was up. You haven't called me in like 10 days." And then be like "I just wanted to say its our 8 month anniversary and I didn't know if I would be able to talk to you or not, so thats why I was calling" Just say something like that and find out why he hasn't called you, but be positive about things, it may have been because he's been so busy! But good luck hun!!! And happy 8 month!! =P

xoxo Kourtney

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ok..there is this guy, and ive gone out with him a couple times now, but then he dumped me the last time for no reason. i tell people im over him, but im really not. and when im w/ him he makes it seem like he still likes me, but then online hes really mean to me and will just start yelling at me for no reason?? what should i do?..

-confused

Try talking to him about it. Like when you guys are hanging out, just be like "I have a question, why are you always mean to me on the computer, you always yell at me" And then also tell him "Well, I don't know about you, but I know I tell people I don't like you, but...really I do, I just want to know how you feel about me" And just tell him how you feel and ask him anything you want to know! Hope this helps, just ask if you need anything else =D Good luck!

xoxo Kourtney

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I am currently 14 at the moment and there is already a lot of drama in my life, with boyfriends. One of my past boyfriends wich I will call i (guy 1), I was really happy w/him. I've known guy1 since elementary and we didn't really know if we liked eachother so our realashonship kept going off and on. Untill this past year I thought we were going to stay 2getheer for a longer time, but he just went up to me one day and told me it was over w/no reason at all. I was really heartbroken b/c he made me feel so happy. Then another guy, (guy2) came along and made me feel happy for a while. But I broke up w/him after 3 months b/c I was wasn't so sure if I liked him, or if I was just in love w/the fact of having a boyfriend. I was w/guy1 7 differnt times and in between those times i was w/other guys to, but those realashionships never lasted long, they all cheated on me. Now i feel like i'm searching for another guy just like guy1. I have this dream now that guy1 calls me and tells me that he loves me and he wants me back. I still really love him and i've never finihed that dream so i never get to see what i say. I don't know what to do can n-e-one please give me advice?

Yea, there's a lot of drama in life huh? It sucks sometimes. I'm sorry there is so much. Boys create so much drama lol. But, I think you should call up guy 1 and tell him how you feel. Or you could write him a letter or something on how you feel about him. Just say "I know we haven't talked in awhile and that really upsets me because we use to be so close and I miss that. And to tell you the truth, I've never really stopped liking you, you made me so happy" Just say something like that and how you feel about him. And that you want to know if he still likes you too or still loves you. Because if you don't ask him how he feels about you or if you don't tell him how you feel, you're dream will never be finished. And what kind of dream would that be? So go and finish it! And make it a happy ever after! Good luck and tell me how it goes, if you need anything just ask! =D

xoxo Kourtney

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hey, well i was mad at my mom for something she did so i e maild someone something that said bad things about her. shes given me silent treatment so im not to worried. What should i do?

Hey! I would sit your mom down and (being serious) just say "Mom, I'm sorry for saying those things about you, I LOVE YOU, please don't be mad at me" She would probably love it that you are saying sorry and saying I love you in the same sentence. But, just tell her how sorry you are to her and just be serious about it and look her in the eyes! It should work. Good luck!!

xoxo Kourtney

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ok say ur boyfriend hasnt called u n like 3 months
what do u do?

I would call him up and be like "Hey Whats up, haven't talked to you in along time!" and then ask him why he hasn't called you in 3 months and anything else you want to know. And ask him whats up and what he's been up to and just catch up with him. But basically ask him why he hasn't called you in 3 months! Good luck!

xoxo Kourtney

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Well im 16 and so is my boyfriend. We've been together for 14 months and our love for each other is stronger than you could ever believe. Around our 11 month anniversary we lost our virginity to each other. I honestly don't regret it but im starting to believe that we are too young. I love him more than anything and it scares me how much i love him sometimes. Do you think we are too young to have this kind of relationship ?

You are NEVER to young to find love. You're just lucky you found it at your age. Sometimes it takes people forever to find the one they love. Yea, sometimes that feeling can get scary that you love someone that much that you would do anything for them. But, thats okay, its natural to feel like that when you're in love. And you guys seem like a really cute couple! Good luck with him I'm sure you'll marry him!! =P

xoxo Kourtney

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i have had a best friend for 3 years now...we have gone throught everything together...are 1st kisses..are ex friends...are heart breaks...u no all the best friends type of things...i recenetly got back with my ex...we have been togheter for 2 years on and off..but now its been 3 months str8..and i stil hang out with my best friend..just now i have less time since i have him and all..it seems like sometimes she gets jealous cause she says "come on u dont need ot hang out with him, he gets so annoying, how annoying u hang out with all couples" like i no if she got with the love of her life she would do the same wat should i do? i feel so bad

You can always have like one day you spend with your friend and another day with your boyfriend. Or have your boyfriend hook her up with one of his friends. And then you guys can double date and then you guys will be hanging out again. Hope that helped!

xoxo Kourtney

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You see there's this guy and I think he likes me but I don't know. He tried to put moves on me the other day and it kinda freaked me out. Like he kissed me on the cheek, put his hand on my leg. He did stuff just to get close to me. When a guy does stuff just to get close to you it means he likes you, but I don't really like him. Ohh...help! What should I do??

If you don't like him then tell him or give him a hint that you don't. Don't lead him on. So when he goes to put a move on you, like to go kiss you or to put his hand on your leg, push his hand away and back away. That should give him a hint. And if it doesn't then you're going to have to tell him and just be like "I'm sorry, I don't like you like that, I don't want to lead you on, thats why I'm backing off." Just say something like that. I hope that helps, just leave something in my inbox if you still need help. Good luck =D

xoxo Kourtney

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i feel like when im playing sports i have certain expectations to look up to cuz my sisters are all awesome at soccer and basketball and then there me and i think im not that good. but all my friends disagree. idk...wut do i do?

Don't play a sport you don't want to play. Play a sport you want to play and that you enjoy. Don't compare yourself to your sisters or anyone else. If you like a sport then practice it and try out for the team. You have to be positive about things, even though you may not think you're good at something, you may really be good at it, take your friends word for it. You probably are good at the sport(s). So, just practice it more and then try out for the team, don't do a sport just because your sister is playing it and don't compare yourself to them either! Have fun playing the sports =P Hope this helped!

xoxo Kourtney

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well. i have this really good friend. (a guy) and well he has this problem. this one girl he LIKED SO MUCH...acted like a total jerk and steppped all over him. i feel terrible first of all. and hes almost "scared" of liking ANYONE and 2nd of all...i like him and i keep hinting- HELLO?!!? I LIKE YOU!...how do i get him to notice me as more than a friend. and how do i get him to change his mind 'bout girls.

Aww girls can be so mean sometimes! Yea, you have to like strangle them in order for them to actually know you like them lol. Its a pain! =P But since he's your good friend, you can tell him things...right? So try talking to him face-to-face, on the internet, in a letter, or on the phone. And just be like "Not every girl is like that, she was just dumb, she doesn't know what she's missing out on, because you're a great guy." Say something like that and then after that say "And I've even developed feelings for you, I've tried hinting it to you, but you've never realized it, and I just want to know if you like me too?" Just tell him how you feel about him and that not every girl is like that, she was just dumb and is missing out on a great guy and that its her lose. If you still need help just say so, I'll be glad to help. Good luck! Hope this helped!!

xoxo Kourtney

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this guy i know wants to get back with me after he hurt me once got back with me hurt me again and then while i was getting over him he made out with a 12yr old girl when he is 18 and now he thinks everything is ok?

Boys will be boys! ::Ugh:: I wouldn't go back out with him if I was you. You don't want to get hurt again do you? Getting hurt doesn't feel good at all. And he made out with a 12 year old when he's 18, no don't get with him again. He'll just hurt you over and over, and if he can hurt you over and over he'll think he has you whooped or something (meaning you'll run back to him no matter what). You can get a better guy than that. A guy that won't do that to you and a guy who will treat you right! You just have to move on and get yourself out there. Go out and have fun and you'll meet a guy!! Good luck!! Just leave a message in my inbox if you still need help!

xoxo Kourtney

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me and my best friend got in a fight liek 4 months ago...we hav been best buds for 10 yrs...well we got in a fight bc her dad wouldnt pick me up and they just left me ther alone...after my mom gives her a ride to skool eryday so i got a little mad...but im such a hyper person i dont get mad like alot and so i juss wasnt really hyper around her nemore and hse got mad that i wasnt talking alot but it juss hurt my feelings bc she was hangin out with this new gurl and they would ditch me and then wen that happeend i juss got really hurt...well we stopped talking completely...she wrote stuff bout me on her xanga site n stuff and weve had arguments b4 that lasted like 2 days!! and they wer even WORSE arguments but wed get over them...this one is still going on...she is goin to another h.s nex year and stuff so we dont even c eachother..but i hav her sn and hav talked to her a few times and we juss apologize n she tells me "to remeber her as the gul who lived next door all her life, not the bitch who threw everything away" and we hav s0o many memories and pictures and i just really miss her and im starting to hav alot of bf's now and i juss wish i could share everything with her!! everytime she signs on aim i get really sad and wanna talk to her i htink of excuses like "o u left ur jacket at my house frum a while ago do u wanna come get it sumday" juss to talk toher and see how she is...shuld i tel her how i feel? wat can i say to her? its been so long and im scared tho...we wer BEST FRIENDS...help im so confused

I think when she gets on AIM you should talk to her and see whats up. Just tell her you miss hanging out with her and that you guys use to be best friends and that you don't want a stupid fight to take that away from you. And just tell her what you just told us. Or you can call her up, which ever one you want to do. And just be like "Hey, I know we haven't talked in awhile, but I really miss that" and then tell her how you feel, that you still want to be best friends. And just say you guys always over come fights but why was it so different this time. Just say stuff like that. I hope this helps, if you still need help, just ask!! =D

xoxo Kourtney

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ok i have been dating my boyfriend for 2 years on and off....i am 16 years old..we really love eachother...are parents know and everything...today i went to a physic and she said we have no future wat so ever together...and it was so weird cause he told me not to go cause i will start basing my life on her...and hes right cause now its making me think am i wasting my time...but me n him always plan r future together even though we r young...do u belive in physics wat should i do? how can i overcome this

Aww hun! I've never been to a physic, but sometimes (maybe all the time, not sure lol) lie just to get money. Don't believe them. Your heart has control of who you love. And you guys seem like you love each other so much! You guys have been on and off for 2 years and thats great. You know how to keep a steady relationship and 16 years old! And you guys even plan the future for each other! If you believe that you'll spend the rest of your life with him, then believe that, no one can change your mind on who you love. So don't believe those silly physics, they just mess with your mind =P Good luck with your boyfriend, you guys seem cute!

xoxo Kourtney

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