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I'm Christina, and I'm 27. I tend to be brutally honest when I give advice or an opinion. I don't tell people what they want to hear but rather what they need to hear. They don't always appreciate it at first, but I usually get a thank you in the end.

I have 15 tattoos, and 8 piercings. I'm married and just gave birth to a baby boy in May. I'm currently a SAHM so you can find me taking care of my son and binge-watching television while he naps.

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Why do you like your boyfriend/girlfriend?
Just your honest opinion :]

Something more than looks, please.

Well, for one, he's really cute. But that isn't why I'm with him/like him. [Although it's a plus! Haha.] I like him because he's sweet & treats me like a queen. He never wants to see me sad, & his personality matches mine. We're both goofy, but both know when to be serious, too. We do things alike, and he's just awesome. He's nice, funny, extremely smart & he's just a good person. He's my other half, and I've known him since I was 12. He's just...there is no word to describe how amazing he is. I just love him. He's everything I've ever wanted in a guy & so much more. :]

♥T!NA

my name is Rachel strickland and iam 17 years old and iam a speciaed student and i want to have sex with my boyfriend who's in regulared and is 18 could jesse get into trouble with the police for have sex with someone who has a disability like add attention defficence disorder while they are still in school?

Nope. Neither of you can get in trouble.

♥T!NA

Okay we know that it is alright for a black man and a white girl to date. But is it okay for a white man to date a black girl. If you are a white male, would you ever date a black girl. And if you are a black girl would you date a white man. If not,why? If yes, why?I am thinking about it, but I don't know.

I don't see why it wouldn't be okay. But if people say something to you or whatever, tell them to fuck themselves! :]

♥T!NA

Ever since break-up, my ex began to follow me wherever I go. He tries to get the information of everyone I associate with. Most outrageously, he hacked my e-mailbox, and intended to hack my laptop. WHAT THE HELL! I try every way to push him away but he's still clinging me like a dirty stupid parasite. I feel my whole life is monitored by him and that I have no privacy at all. Everything I do is watched by this sick bastard. How can I get rid of him?

Restraining Order.

If he comes within like a 100 ft of you, he can get arrested. :]

♥T!NA

16/m
I'm so sick of being alive. Everything is so hard. I can't stand it. It's like I'm doing something wrong. I have few friends, but it doesn't matter because I don't like them. I don't like any one. People don't meet my standards and they never will. And when it comes to girls I have no idea what I'm doing. It's like there's some secret technique that every one but me seems to understand. My problems with girls contribute the most to my loneliness and depression. I'm unmotivated in school, because I care more about trying to find a place I belong, trying to find some one who understands me. I can hardly sleep because I'm always worrying about all this. I'm scared I'll never have friends. I'm scared I'll never have a good job. I'm scared I'll never have my first kiss or have sex, and if I do it will be with some one I don't want to do it with. Somewhere between now and the next few years I 100% sure I'll be dead. I can't take it anymore. I've been to therapy and they even locked me up like a criminal in a mental health ward, but to no avail. I hate life. I hate myself. I hate every one, especially if they're happy. I don't see things ever getting better. Please help me. And don't post anything about God, Jesus, or religion of any kind, it will be an automatic 1 on your rating.

I've been exactly where you are. I used to be so scared to talk to guys, and I didn't feel comfortable in my skin. I had no friends, I hated like everyone because they had everything I didn't. They had the life I wanted. Everything for them was perfect, and my life was never gonna see perfection. Now, I don't believe in God, and I'm not gonna talk about him, just because I don't see him in a saviour way like everyone else does, and partly because you asked for us not to.

I've never been to therapy, but I have been to counseling at school. It sorta worked, but sorta didn't. I still hate just about everyone, and like you, no one meets me expectations or standards. Everyone to me is a disappointment.

What I think is bringing you down is your confidence. If you start liking yourself & you start telling yourself that you can do stuff, and you can get a girlfriend, and good grades & a great job, things will start to look up. I've always had low confidence, and what I'm telling you now is what someone told me when I was in your position. I actually did tell myself that I was pretty, thin & smart. And now I partly believe it. I'm still working on believing I'm thin.

All you need to do is just tell yourself that you're a great person. The reason why I think you have no friends is because you probably come off as bitter. Or maybe you rub off as a jerk, and it intimidates people & makes them not wanna be around you. But, if you start smiling & accepting people [that includes yourself], people will wanna be around you. And people probably do meet your standards, but you just think they don't because you don't give them a chance.

As for girls, this is the only thing I can say to you. Start off small. Say hi, or wave at them. If they give you a weird look or completely ignore you, then you know that those are the girls you should avoid. But if they wave back or say hi, just start a small conversation. Nothing big, just a "Hey, what's up" thing. And then when your confidence from this increases, compliment them, and talk to them more. Become their friend, and if you think things are starting to twist [like becoming more than friends] and you think they like you back, ask them out! :]

Give people a chance, give yourself a chance, & I'm positive things will start looking up. But please, don't end your life because you're capable of so much. Who knows, you could find the cure for cancer or AIDS. And that'd be amazing. I'm not sure if I helped, but I hope I did.

♥T!NA

I've recently started dating this great guy. The problem is, he's black and I'm white. I'm against racism to the full extent and so is my mom, but my dad and brother don't feel the same. I know they won't accept this guy and I'm afraid to bring him home. My dad will look down on me and I hate feeling bad for liking such an amazing guy. What am I supposed to do? (18/F)

Ignore them. You're an adult & can date who you please. If your dad & brother don't like him because of his skin color, then they're stupid. I would just talk to them about it, and let them know that if they can't accept him, then there is seriously something wrong with them. Bring him home anyways, you shouldn't care what your parents or siblings think of him. :]

&hearts'T!NA

What does it mean when someone says, "Jesus can't play music while nailed to a cross."?

I'm not quite sure, this is something you should think of for yourself, but I think it means that you can't do something such as play music or whatever, if physically obstacles [such as being nailed to a cross] hold you back, or are in your way.

♥T!NA

Basically, I used to be a really good child. Not always the nicest, but most of the time my parents could stand me, and I never did drugs or anything really horrible. Around the time of Feb. some things happened with my mom, and I basically crashed. I hated her so much, and my dad turned the whole guilt trip God thing on me. I started smoking cigs, and weed, I always lie to my parents when I go somewhere, and I'm a total and complete bitch. I take every oppurtunity to get what I want, so I take advantage of people. I'm behind on credits because I've failed so many classes. I just gave up being so good, cause it felt like no matter what I did, somehow I'd get bit in the ass for it. Well its december now, I have no relationship what-so-ever with my dad or mom. When I get home, I call my boyfriend, and go sit in my room, or sit at the computer. I used to be really into church, and now I hate it and don't really believe in it anymore because all the people at that church are full of shit. I'm constantly watched by the congregation because they think my boyfriend and I are gonna go off and have sex behind the buildings or down the street (which would never happen.) We have gone off and smoked a few times and got caught tho, haha. But I really don't know what to do, it's starting to bother me a little bit. My dad told my sister that basically I'm "breaking his heart," because of the way I've been acting. He knows everything I do, I don't hide it at all, because there's really no point in hiding stuff like this. What should I do? It really sucks because my dad is so stressed out right now. We may loose our house and have to move. My parents have worked really hard to get our house, but now we just can't afford it. And, I don't want to quit smoking, it really does help me to chill out because I get so stressed so easily. Along with being addicted, it's extremely hard to quit so whatever. The whole weed thing was getting bad though, because the last 3 times I've smoked it, were because I was upset and I wanted to get away for a while. So I'm trying to not do that, I don't buy it anymore so I'm not gonna really have a problem with that. I guess I feel bad because I'm upsetting my dad, I could care less about my mom, she's never home anyway. Her and I will never have a relationship because we never get along no matter what, and she keeps to herself and never really talks to me about anything. I know I should change, but I don't really want to. I'm not depressed or anything. I have amazing friends, i'm in love with my boyfriend who is one of my most incredible guys I have ever known, I'm somewhat fine with the way I look, and I pretty much get what I want. I kind of always pictured this time of my life to be different. I figured I'd have different friends, look more like a girl instead of a somewhat gothed out chick, I thought I'd have a different relationship with my parents, like more close. Idk, it's hard, I know its bad for me, but I don't care..but I do. That probably doesn't make sense, but I just don't know what to think or feel anymore.

Hey, I know exactly what you're going through. When I was around 12, I started to hate my parents more & more. I'm 15 now, and I'm horrible. I swear at my parents, do drugs, drink alcohol, and I'm dropping out of high school. Not to mention that, but I drive illegally, and just recently got arrested for it. I sneak out practically all the time, and skip school. I go do things I'm not suppose to be doing, and I love it.

Now here's my advice, the things you're doing are bad, which you know. But you need to stop, because you're fucking up your life by doing this shit, and you're digging yourself a really deep hole. The deeper you dig yourself in, the harder it is to get out. I realize you're happy with the way your life is [boyfriend/friends], but your relationship with your parents & whatnot HAS to be mended. It doesn't have to be with both of them, but you should try to work on things with your mom. Even if she's not home all the time, try talking to her. I realize you said she's not very open, but she has no reason to be if you're not open with her first. At this age, your relationship with your parents should be amazing. It doesn't have to be, but it should. You might hate them now, but as you grow up, you're gonna realize how much you really need them. And then when you need them most, they're probably not going to be there since you fucked them over like this.

I know you're not depressed or whatever, but I'd see a counselor to talk with them & see what you can do to get your life going back on track. :]

I hope I helped!

♥T!NA

hey guyss(: does anyone know any REALLY adorable make your heart skip a beat cute punk rock love songs? like hey there delilah - plain white T's. Emily - from first to last (especially like this one.) stuff like that(o:?

Okay, here are some songs you could download or whatever, because they're just what you're looking for.

The Red Jumpsuit Apparatus - Your Guardian Angel
The Red Jumpsuit Apparauts - Cat & Mouse
My Chemical Romance - Disenchanted
Hellogoodbye - Touchdown Turnaround
Hellogoodbye - Shimmy Shimmy Quarter Turn
Hellogoodbye - All Of Your Love
Hellogoodbye - Call & Return
Hellogoodbye - Here In Your Arms
Paramore - Emergency
Hinder - Lips Of An Angel
Head Automatica - Beating Heart Baby
Sugarcult - Memory
Sugarcult - Pretty Girl
Sugarcult - Do It Alone
Greeley Estates - Tear My World Apart
Cute Is What We Aim For - Risque
All American Rejects - It Ends Tonight
Motion City Soundtrack - Make Out Kids
Gym Class Heroes - The Queen And I
Gym Class Heroes - Cupid's Chokehold
Saosin - Voices
Saosin - Seven Years
Saosin - You're Not Alone
The Starting Line - Bedroom Talk
Taking Back Sunday - MakeDamnSure
Taking Back Sunday - Timberwolves At New Jersey

♥T!NA

ohkay well ive havde my period for a year now. and i dont get it every month why?
ive never had sex nothing at all with a guy.
why arnt my periods coming?

Well, since you just started your period a year ago, it's gonna be irregular for a while. It's not always gonna come every month. Sometimes it'll come one month & not another. It's completely normal & nothing to worry about. My period still isn't regular & I've had it for 2 years. So don't worry. It'll start getting more regular soon.

♥T!NA

My Boyfriend and I had sex right. Well he got done took the condom off and wiped his penis off with a towel I believe so. Well maybe like 2 hours after that we had sex unprotected. Do you think im pregnant? If so like what do I do an is it even possible?

Well, since you had sex unprotected, then there's probably a high chance you'll get pregnant. Especially if he came in you. That's why it's always better to wear a condom and use birth control because your chances to become pregnant won't be as high. If you miss your period, take a test.

♥T!NA

13/f

does anyone know where to get cheap conair &revlon straighteners that work really good??? and can u please send me pictures of them so i know what your talking about? thanks in advance

Well, I searched the site for Wal*Mart, and I found a 25 dollar Revlon hair straigtener. :]

http://www.walmart.com/catalog/product.do?product_id=4933847

And then there's the Conair hair straightener:

http://www.walmart.com/search/search-ng.do?search_constraint=0&search_query=Conair+Hair+Straighteners&ic=24_0

It shows all of the straighteners they have for conair.

I hope I helped! :]

♥T!NA

Hey!
I was wondering some places that have skinny jeans. I found some at Gap but they were like $50. I think I would like to pay less than that because I dont know how long the fashion is going to stay around for, and I dont want to spend alot of money on something that will be gone in 2 months. Thanks sooo much!!!

I bought some at Macy's for around $35 dollars. It's a 15 dollar difference, but it's still cheaper. :]

♥T!NA

not perfect category but oh well..

mmkay so my friend invited me to go to the mall with her and a couple of my other friends. the only problem is that my mom is worried about the fact that shes never met my friend of her dad (and her dad is driving me there) and shes not sure if she wants me to go. but the stupid me already told my friend that i CAN go cause i thought my mom would say yes.(yes, i know my mistake)

so what can i tell my mom to make her let me go??

thanks muchho!

Well, when your friend & her dad come over to pick you up, have your mother come outside with you so she can meet them. Or, have them call you & talk to your mom. :] If your mom talks to her dad or meets him, you'll have a better chance of her letting you go. :]

♥T!NA

ok guys answer this plleasse!

what is your favorite perfume on a girl? like what's your favorite smell thats like the most...seductive?

I'm not a guy, but I asked my brother, and he said that he really likes the Love Spell body spray from Victoria's Secret. :] It's about $10 a bottle, but it's well worth it. It smells amazing.

♥T!NA

I'm 14 years old and a female.
I have a boyfriend who I have been going out with for 4 months now and at first he was so sweet and really nice to me. Over time he started getting mad at the littlest things,, like how I dressed or did my make-up. He would call me a whore or a slut and other things, and about a month after that he bcame abusive. He would always loose his temper and hit me. Never in front of anyone though, and he just got worse and worse but I never told anyone. So after school yesterday I tried to break up with him, he got so mad and punched me. He said if I ever tried to break up with him again I would regret it. After he left I was just sitting in the hallway crying when this guy I really liked(I didn't know him that well but I like him even before I had a boyfriend)came p to me and knelt beside me and asked me if I was okay. I tried lieing to him, telling him I tripped and fell but he wouldn't by it.(I'm guessing my black eye gave him a hint) He asked me if my boyfriend did this to me and I said yes. He lives close to the school so he asked me if I wanted to go to his house to get cleaned up and I said yes. When we got there he helped me wash the cut and everything and we started talking. He asked me if it was the first time my boyfriend did this to me and I told him no, then I told him everything. For some weird reason I trusted him. He walked me home and when we got their he hugged me and then he kissed me. He said he would take care of my boyfiend. I ddn't really know what he meant but I let it go. I was to happy he kissed me. I was late to school the next day, but when I got their I was just in time to see the fight between my boyfriend and the other guy (Lets call him Matt). They were broken up by the police officer. They were both pretty beat up.Both of them got sent to the principals office. Matt got suspended for a week, and my boyfriend 3 weeks. (He has previos fighting records)I caught Matt as he was leavigng and asked him why he would get in a fight over me. All he said was "I love you and I couldn't stand to see you hurt like that" and he walked away. What should I do I really need help.

Okay, your boyfriend's a dick. End of story.

I realize he told you if you broke up with him you'd regret it, but I'd do it anyways. After that, just change your numbers and screennames & stuff so he can't get a hold of you. If you see him at school, ignore him. Don't acknowledge him. Let him know you're done with his bullshit.

As for "Matt", go out with him! He obviously likes you because he kissed you, cleaned you up, & walked you home. :] Besides, he even got suspended for you, which is really nice since he didn't have to do that. Matt is obviously the better choice, and he would treat you like a queen while you guys went out since he does it even when you're not together. :]

I'm sorry that your boyfriend does that to you though. No girl deserves to have to feel that shit. :[ Good luck though.

♥T!NA

Heyy.
does anyone know any myspace codes?
like ANYTHING? i know how to bold stuff and make it big, but i know theres some other stuff. sites are good too

I tried to put the codes, but it wouldn't show on my column, so it probably wasn't going to show up to you, but I can tell you them. Leave your email in my inbox & I'll send them to you. :] As far as sites go:

If you want other codes or whatever, go to this site.

http://www.createblog.com/tutorials/index.php?type_id=17

And for the color codes_so you can change the color of your font, go here.

http://www.webmonkey.com/webmonkey/reference/color_codes/

I hope I helped you out. :]

♥T!NA

My friend's are into druds, alcohol, smoking ,ans sex. I'm just not interested in any of that stuff at all! I think it's just wrong, but my friends say it'll make me look cool, but, i don't think it will. I think it'll make me look stupid. I'm afraid of giving in, what shoul i do?

I do all of these things, but sex. I wanna weight until it's with someone I really love. Anyways, I see your point. It won't make you look cool, and if you don't like these things, don't do them. It's pretty simple. I realize you wanna give in because it's gonna make you feel cool & look cool to your friends, but it's really not.

Remember: Stand up for what you believe in, even if it means you stand alone.

♥T!NA

Well there is this teacher...yes he's a babe...but that's besides the point...well my friend has been overly flurtatious with him and he's made hints to return them...like he always pulls her out of other classes about "projects" that don't exist...anyways...they're not havning sex or anything...but could this get my friend , the teacher or even me for knowing...in trouble?

They could both get into some serious trouble. I'd have a talk with your friend & tell her that she needs to end this flirting & whatever. She could cost him his job, and life if they continue to do this.

If they get found out by an authority figure [another teacher, principal, superintendent], he could be sent to jail, and lose his job. Also, it'd be equally as hard for him to find a new teaching job, or a new job at all.

As for her, if the school finds out, she'll be known as the slutty girl who hooks up with her teachers, and her parents probably will wanna homeschool her since she can't be trusted to control her hormones near hot teachers. So, she'll pretty much ruin her rep, his & get her parents not to trust her. That's embarassing. Not only that, but she'll never live it down because you know how teenagers are.

You won't get in trouble, but there's a possibility you might because they're gonna react as "You knew about this, but didn't say anything!? How irresponsible." and it is. I would tell someone you trust because they could get in a lot of trouble.

Explain this to her, and if she doesn't stop, take matters into your own hands. He probably doesn't see her for her personality anyways. It's probably just sex, since he is an adult & a guy. Hope things go well! :]

♥TiNA

Theres some guy who likes me and i only want to be friends. he asked for my number and I didn't want to be rude so i did and he texts me everyday and it kinda annoying since i don't like him. and he told me that he wished for me and yeah its sweet but I don't have those feeling for him.

Any advice?

Well, if you don't like him in that way, I'd tell him. Tell him that the texts need to stop. Maybe like one a day or whatever saying hi or what's up, but to tell you that he's wished for you, it sounds kinda obsessive. Anyways, just tell him you only like him as a friend, but his messages were sweet. Just, don't be a bitch about it, because then he'll get offended. Tell him you're sorry after too, it won't make him feel as bad that you don't see him in that way.

♥TiNA

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