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teacher - student relationships...what's the limit?
Well there is this teacher...yes he's a babe...but that's besides the point...well my friend has been overly flurtatious with him and he's made hints to return them...like he always pulls her out of other classes about "projects" that don't exist...anyways...they're not havning sex or anything...but could this get my friend , the teacher or even me for knowing...in trouble?
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If there is anything going on, sex, relationship, whatever, it is a very bad situation. Let me tell you a story. If the facts aren't completely right, they're at least close.
There was once a young, beautiful English teacher. She was spunky and cool and destined to be a huge success. Then she got into a secret relationship with one of her male students. As soon as it was found out she was fired. After he graduated, she married him. She ended up divorcing him after a few years because he abused her. At one point, he threw her through a window in public. VERY lucky for her, my school gave her a chance and she kept teaching. Just in time for me to be in her class. The majority hated her because everyone knew what had happened. Students and teachers alike. Nobody respected her and she was just viewed as a dirty, stupid slut. Her life had been completely destroyed. She got it back together in the end though. She left my school, got an administrative position someplace else, and is married. She's doing very well now. Even so, all that drama and that low part of her life were all because of one STUPID choice. Teacher-student relationships are always a bad idea. The rules are there for a reason. To protect people from that type of thing happening to them.
Don't let your friend make that choice. I know the male female thing is opposite from the story, but that doesn't make it any less dumb. I mean, what if your friend got raped? Talk to her and make sure that your suspicions are true. Maybe they have more of a friendlike relationship, which is just fine if it's not taken too far. The fact that the teacher is lying about projects and stuff, though, makes me think that there's more to it than that. Get your friend to confess and tell her what could happen if she doesn't stop. I wish you lots of luck. This is going to be really hard for you. Your friend may feel betrayed and you might lose her for awhile. It's worth it though, to save her all that pain though isn't it? Be a good friend and do the right thing.
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They could both get into some serious trouble. I'd have a talk with your friend & tell her that she needs to end this flirting & whatever. She could cost him his job, and life if they continue to do this.
If they get found out by an authority figure [another teacher, principal, superintendent], he could be sent to jail, and lose his job. Also, it'd be equally as hard for him to find a new teaching job, or a new job at all.
As for her, if the school finds out, she'll be known as the slutty girl who hooks up with her teachers, and her parents probably will wanna homeschool her since she can't be trusted to control her hormones near hot teachers. So, she'll pretty much ruin her rep, his & get her parents not to trust her. That's embarassing. Not only that, but she'll never live it down because you know how teenagers are.
You won't get in trouble, but there's a possibility you might because they're gonna react as "You knew about this, but didn't say anything!? How irresponsible." and it is. I would tell someone you trust because they could get in a lot of trouble.
Explain this to her, and if she doesn't stop, take matters into your own hands. He probably doesn't see her for her personality anyways. It's probably just sex, since he is an adult & a guy. Hope things go well! :]
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You probably wouldn't get into trouble for knowing about it, but the teacher could seriously get into major trouble, and your friend too.
Your teacher'd most likely get fired if people were to find out that he's doing this, and his "good name", if you want to call it that, would be ruined and it'd probably be very difficult for him to get another teaching job. Basically, his life'd go down the tubes. Also, he can get arrested and thrown into jail for this also.
Your friend could get in trouble with obviously, her parents for finding out about this and also with just her feelings. I know your friend doesn't want to think this, but a student-teacher relationship isn't going to last between the two of them, if that's even the vibes he's sending towards her, so she's probably going to be crushed, which you need to be there for her to support her.
Also, she could be in trouble pyshically-wise. He's an adult, she's just a minor. He may be thinking one thing on his mind, and that's having sex with her. I'm not saying he wants to or is going to, but that's how student-teacher relations have happened before. The students usually get raped or molested by the teachers and are scarred for life, so your friend just needs to be majorly careful with this guy.
I would have a serious talk with her, and even though she'll probably get upset, be a good friend and explain to her this is wrong and all the trouble they'll both get into if they were to even start a relationship togehter. If she realyl does like him, she'll stop the flirting and stop possibly ruining his chances at a job and a future.
I hope I helped.
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Probably not you. She will be hurt I am sure by this
teacher, who is probably taking advantage of the situation. Her parents will probably get called about it and it could cause her a lot of embarrassment.
The teacher will most likely be fired. Jailed if it goes further than flirtation and favoritism.
If she doesn't stop...or even if she does. I think you should tell another teacher you trust about it and have them keep an eye on the situation. :)
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