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The guy i like is really shy about girls, hes never had a gf before, and we are really good friends. ive liked him a long time, and i figured it was just time to tell him. I guess he really had no clue.. yesterday i talk to him alone after school, and said you know i like you and he was silent scuffing his feet and half smiling and he said THANK YOU.. tell me what is that suppose to mean? thank yOU!? and then he said wow this really caught me off guard i i.. and his friend walked by and siad lets go, i need a ride home, so hes said well i guess ill talk to you later and left...do you think maybe he jsut didnt know what to say, usually he'd say oh well lets jsut be friend or somthing like that but he said thank you, and its such a neutral comment... plus most people i know think he likes me.. so do you think maybe he was jsut caught off guard and didnt know what to say or what? (link)
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When he said "thank you", that's just him expressing how he feels. Obviously, he was flattered that you would consider him that way, and so he's telling you that he's flattered - "Thank you". It could mean that he likes you back, or it could mean that he was flattered - but doesn't like you back. It could mean that he didn't have time to compose his thoughts.
Bring it up later. In a few weeks, just say something casual about your liking him. If you do this on the computer (AIM, E-mail) you'll be sure to get an answer because he's not looking at you (important for shy people) and he has time to compose his thoughts. I'm not making any promises, but if he has time to think about it, he might find that he has underlying feelings for you, too.
Pray without ceasing about this situation. Perhaps God will give you some guidance as to what to do.
-FunnyCide
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well..ther this kid i reeely like . hes gaven off so many signals that he lieks me more than a friend..i give off the singnals to.. and he hasent done anything about it..ive had a friend tell him i like him .. i feel so uncomfertabel arounf him.. but ther times wher we eing rely stupid like he pushes me against that wall and stands ther for like a minet just stnding ther... and we have gym class together and b.c of him i have SOOO much fun in gym!i dont know what to do. i reeeeely like him.. alot!help! (link)
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Well, not to steal your thunder, but the word "there" has an "E" on it.
You've basically answered your own question. If you feel uncomfortable around him, you don't need to push this. If it's a nervousness that is mostly anticipation and excitement, I can relate (he he..) but if it's an uncomfort as in "you're pushing me too far and too hard", then you need to drop this like you would a hot coal.
If you're just nervous because you're with him, then try and talk to him. The best way to start a relationship is to be friends. If you and he are compatible (get along very well etc.) then you might make a good couple with him. Just start as friends, talk to him as you would a normal friend. Get his AIM screen name (or YIM, MSN etc.) and/or his E-mail address, and talk to him. Get to know him; find out what he is really like. If he's going to push you too hard, pressuring you to do things that you shouldn't (such as sleeping with him, doing drugs, drinking underage etc.) then lose him. That kind of guy is nothing but trouble.
Not all guys are that way, though. I know many respectable young men, and they would be appropriate for respectable Christian girls. One guy, who is my best friend, is ... just a super guy. I love him. (and he knows it, too) But, before I could love him, I had to be friends with him. It's pretty cool; having a guy for a best friend. Considering that my best friend of seven years is a girl, and then a guy comes into my life - boom! Lol. But, that's how I would suggest that it work. It's just alot easier to be honest with each other, to talk about 'personal' things, and to express yourself to the other.
If you're too shy to ask for his contacts (AIM screen name, E-mail address etc.), get a gal-pal to do it for you. Don't scare him away by telling him that you like him as soon as you're talking to him. Get to know him better, know the 'little' things about him. Know about his family, his pets, his fave colors, fave subject, least favorite subject etc. Then, when the time is right, suggest (hint) that you like him, then a little later (a few days) tell him. You'll know when the time is right. If he likes you back, he'll hint as well.
Flirting is optional, and something that you'll do without thinking about it. Don't overdo it or you'll seem interested in only one thing - the physical aspect of the relationship.
Pray about your relationship before you do anything. This is essential - how else will you have His help if you don't ask?
-FunnyCide
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ok to day i went to a bible study at school, I used to go to church and youth group but the youth minister left the church and i havent been back since....but anyway today when i was there things where really emotional...people were crying and they asked us to bow our heads and asked who wanted to be saved...the asked us to raise our hands and then the leaders came over and prayed over them...But I felt scared to raise my hand....Im regreting it now....I want God in my life but I'm afraid Ive missed my chance.
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No way man! You haven't missed your chance. I'll lead now, and I'm sure others have, too. Don't listen to skeptics who say "You take this too seriously, lighten up". They are wrong. I am on the winning side of the battle, and soon you shall be, too!
First, there is one way to Heaven. This is salvation through Jesus Christ. All you must do to be saved is say a simple prayer. The one that follows is acceptable:
"Dear Heavely Father, I know that I'm a sinner. I know that I've done things that I shouldn't have. I'm really sorry. Please forgive me. I know who You are, You are the Living God; and Your Son is Jesus Christ. Please, Jesus, come into my heart and be my eternal Savior. Thank you, Lord!
In Christs' name I pray,
Amen."
If you pray that prayer, or one similar to it, with all your heart and soul - and mean it, you shall be on the winning side of the battle with me!
Do not let Satan get you down. He will try. Stand fast in your faith, raise your hand now and become one of God's children! A child of light! What a beautiful thing that is!
You have never missed a chance to ask God into your heart.
I can image your being scared to raise your hand. I know I was when I became a Christian. I was only seven years old, and I was so afraid. But, I suppose that when you're younger, things such as fear don't matter that much anymore.
I beg of you, pray that prayer. Ask Jesus to be your Lord and Savior forever.
-FunnyCide
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hey everyone,
i'm getting a new puppy this year. she is going to be a schnoodle (miniature schnauzer + toy poodle) and i am trying to think of names for her. i'm pretty sure that it will be Chloe, Elle, or Ella, i'm just not sure which to choose...help! also if u have any suggestions for other names tell me! (link)
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Ella. Becuase it sounds... enchanted, mystical, far off, of a different world.. very cool. If not Ella, then Chloe. Chloe is my dog's name, but I didn't name her that - her first owner did. (she's adopted) She's also much, much bigger. A Golden Retriever. But it'd be cute for a Schnoodle too. But I like Ella better. :)
-FunnyCide
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Hi I was wondering if anyone knows of any free online sites that have ADD tests. Like tests that ask you questions and tell you wheather or not you should go to a doctor about it. Thanks. (link)
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This link:
http://add.about.com/cs/diagnosis/tp/sitesdiagnosis.htm
will give you many options of places to go for a free online ADD or ADHD test. They are not to be used as a diognostic screening, but just a test to allow you to guess if you should get further testing from a professional - in a doctors office. My sister was recently diagnosed with ADD, and she has to take medicine every day now. The medicine she's taking is too big for her to swallow (or so she thinks) so we put it in yogurt or apple sauce. Perhaps this will not be your fate. It's not so bad, once you get into taking the meds. My sister did experience severe mood swings and was very grumpy and irratable alot when she first started taking the meds. But that's just a side effect. Does ADD/ADHD run in your family? My grandmother and uncle both have it; which is a good guess why my sister does. If ADD/ADHD is in your family, you might have ADD/ADHD.
-FunnyCide
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my prom date asked me what the color of my dress was. i am curious as to why he would asked does anyone have a clue?
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Hmm... probably because he wanted to get a matching corsage. If your dress was yellow, you wouldn't want a yellow corsage. He might want to have the same color tie as your dress. Maybe he was just curious. There's one way to find out - ask him. Just ask him why he asked what color your dress was. But it's probably one of the listed reasons.
-FunnyCide
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my friends keep making fun of me,but i know there are just joking but it makes me feel bad, can anyone help (link)
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Do they know that it makes you feel bad? If they don't, just tell them that it makes you sad. Just say something like, "I know you're just joking, but it hurts my feelings when you tease me that way. Would you please stop?" You have to be nice when you say it or they might get mad at you. I imagine it hurts your feelings that your friends tease you. I know that it hurts when anybody teases you. I've been there. But, I have true friends that I can joke with. And we only make fun of each other a little bit. (ha ha you're such a dork!) Lol. But, besides telling them, tease them a little too. All in good fun, of course. Laugh at yourself. That is really hard to do, but if you learn, everyone will respect you more. If you can crack a joke on yourself, and laugh, you'd be amazed at how people will look at you. They'll think you're something special - which you are.
-FunnyCide
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What is the difference between vegans and veggetarians?
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A vegetarian does not eat meat such as steaks, hamburgers, bacon etc. but they will eat by-products from these animals (milk, cheese, yogurt, eggs etc.) and will eat meat that isn't 'bloody' such as fish and poultry. Vegans do not eat any kind of meat at all, nor will they eat the by-products from animals (milk, eggs, cheese etc.) and they will not wear animal furs or skins.
-FunnyCide
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i am the same person that wrote witch/devil with the thoughts in my head. well kately i have thought about it a lot and all that, well in class i kind of fell asleep and i was aware that i had my eyes closed and all that, anyway i had a weirdish dream and it was a dream that the devil was dragging this guy i have never seen before in my life under the bed and killed him. this woke me right up but i hnever had a dream like that and now all i can think about is that dream and that guy i didn't even know and the fact that i might be a satanist what should i think about instead of this? (link)
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Having a dream like this isn't going to make you a Satanist. But, believe me, that's the last thing you want to be. A Satanist worships the ground the Fallen Angel (Lucifer, Satan, the Devil..) walks upon. You DO NOT want to be this way. It's an awful thing. This dream is from Satan. God has given Satan permission to torment you with these dreams. For reasons which I could imagine, the Devil is trying to scare you into worshiping him. He knows your soul is at jepordy, and he knows where he's going to end up - he wants you to come along. That place is Hell. You'll burn and be eaten by worms. Not a pretty sight, and what's better - you never die. It's eternal. I know that's a thought that you and I have trouble imagining because we are so used to time frames. "6:00 am, four hours, twenty-three minutes etc." But this has no time frame - it's f o r e v e r.
But you have a better choice. It's called Salvation through Jesus Christ. I'm not going to preach at you, that doesn't work. But, I'm going to tell you how awesome Heaven will be. You'll never have to sleep; you'll never cry another tear. Satan will not be able to tempt you, and you'll not have such awful dreams. We'll walk on golden streets, you'll see a crystal sea. We'll spend eternity worshiping Him who made us, living in humongeous personilized mansions. The moment you're born again, your mansion is constructed. The more work you do for the Lord and the closer you are to Him, the bigger and prettier that mansion gets. We'll have crowns, but all we'll do is throw them at the feet of our Creator. There is only one way to Heaven. That is by putting your trust in Him. All you have to do is pray a simple prayer, tellng God that you love and trust Him, you're sorry for what you've done, and that you know Jesus died for your sins. That's it. It's so simple, and so rewarding.
Think about what I've said, think about how awesome it would be to live in a mansion built for you, worshiping your Maker, walking on gold! You'll never cry, never be hungry, thirsty or cold. Think about everything that is good, righteous, upright, pure, lovely and holy.
If you have any more questions, feel free to ask. I'd be flattered.
-FunnyCide
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is it weird if someone ((a guy)) rights a song for you ((he likes me ALOT)) and sings it to you on the phone? it seems weird to me
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Uh... I don't know. That's kindof sweet. Is he a good singer? (lol) I guess it's kindof weird if you don't like him back, but that's still sweet. (aww.. he's serenading you!!) Lol It's kindof weird, but still kindof sweet. Be happy that he has enough courage to sing to you.
-FunnyCide
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hi, im 15 f and i really want a bf. but everytime i go near a boy i get all shy, is this normal? please help
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Confused,
This is totally normal! I'm this way too. If you want a boyfriend, start with a boy - friend. Just a guy who is your friend. You'll get more comfortable around him, you'll hang out, you'll start to like him.. he'll like you.. and presto - easy made pizza! Well, maybe not pizza, but it's about that simple. Just be nice to them. Guys are normal people! (most of the time.. lol) As the cliche says, "To have a friend you have to be a friend" I suppose that's true, but in ways, it's not. If you're too shy to say something, smile and nod, smile and nod. Laugh at the jokes, smile and nod. Stop focusing on having a boyfriend and focus on having boy - friends. Guys are awesome people, and they really know how to listen. They don't have as much drama as girls do, and most of them wont hit a girl! (there are acceptions to this) If you do end up with an abusive boyfriend, ditch him. I have a great-grandmother who physically abuses her husband... and he's 93 - he can't defend himself. It's sad. If you end up with someone like this - get rid of him. Most guys are nice, and want to be your friend - but they're as shy as you are. Sometimes you have to 'make the first move' and say hello. That's all it takes. Remember: smile and nod, smile and nod. Laugh at the jokes, smile and nod.
-FunnyCide
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This boy admitted to liking me a while ago and I have recently told him I think we should just be friends. He wanted to go out with me during the summer. He doesn't listen and I think I need to run it by him again in different words...will this do?...."I need to talk to you, about this summer, I have to be honest, I don't think we should go out because I like you but not in that way and I don't think it will work out. You deserve someone who can return your affections for them. I just want to be fair with you. I'm sorry, but I want to be upfront." What do you think? and also, if u have anymore advice feel free to share the love. (link)
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Hmm... very good. You could also try something like,
"I think we need to discuss something again. You know how you said you liked me? Well, I think that's really sweet, but... I only like you as a friend. I don't want to be unfair with you, and that's why I have to tell you that I don't think we should go out this summer. There are girls that would return your love and you could be happy with. It's not fair for you if I fraud my way through. I'm really sorry, but I have to be honest with you."
It's basically the same thing, in a few different words. That's an excellent idea, good way of putting it. It's awesome that you don't want to lead him on, just letting it run it's course. That would hurt him worse, you know? Remember to be kind, polite and understanding when you tell him this... it's going to be a huge reality check. Believe me... I know what you're feeling. It's not easy, because you don't want to hurt him, but you don't want to be unfair to him. Be fair. He's a man, he'll get over it. He'll thank you for being so honest with him.
Godspeed and good journey!
-FunnyCide
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Today my friend and I were sitting together in the gym and we were getting in our groups for our graduation trip. We promised each other we'd stay in the group together - just us, we actually even needed 2 more people in the group -since about three months ago. Well, we wanted to be in a group with 3 other girls, but you were only allowed four per group, but they made an acception of five if you really had to. My friend and I asked if we could room with them- they said no - two of the three girls like me.
About 5 minutes later.. she gets called over by them. I'm sitting there by myself talking to other people and she "sends a message down" saying that she's gonna stay in their group. Luckily, I found another friend to room with.
Do I have the right to be pretty ticked off, and if she apologizes or not, should I say it was rude? (link)
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Look, I'm not gonna go and say that you have 'the right' to be ticked off, because you really don't. You should be hurt, offended maybe, but that's not a right. It's a privilege. Tell your friend that it kinda hurt your feelings that she did that, but that you've got another place to stay, so she doesn't have to drop that other group. Yes, it was rude... but think about how you'd react if you were in her shoes. If they asked you to room with them, you'd probably JUMP at the chance, right? ... just think about it from her point of view.
I understand that you're upset, but try and make the best of it. Have fun, hang out, spend time with your other friend (that you're going to room with). Tell your friend politely that you are hurt at what she did by staying with the other girls, but that it's ok. Keep the friendship. Don't get mad. Be polite, sincere, caring and quiet. It will be alright. Have FUN at your graduation trip!
-FunnyCide
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ok, i'm am in love with this one girl. and we've went out before but she said that she wasn't ready. (that was about a year ago)ok lately i've been hearin that she hates my guts and that she likes one of my friends.and me and her haven't talked since last year. so wat do i do? (rate very well)
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TALK TO HER! Get her E-mail address, IM screenname, something! Talk to this chick, and just take it slowly; just as being friends. If she hates your guts, it'll show. And if she DOES hate your guts, you'll know she wasn't the right one for you anyway. When you're talking to her, if she 'flirts' a bit, that's normal, and she probably still has feelings for you.
All you can do is follow your heart and talk to her.
-FunnyCide
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I have been involved with "Louie" for a while now and his family has been going through some really hard times. I have been there for him, and have even help his family to raise money for some of the problems they are having. Once everything settled down, everyone sort of turned on me. I have helped them financially, and emotionly. Now, they are accusing me of stealing money. I have never taken anything from them, and never would. When I was growing up, I was always taught to work for everything, nothing in life comes free. Before this situation "Louie" told me that he loved me and that he would never turn his back on me. I realize now, that he is listening to all the gossip that his family and friends are telling him. He hasn't even given me the chance to tell him how I feel. I live a few houses down from him, and it is very painful to pass by his house, knowing that he is home, and probably talking about me. My family says to just let him go and don't see him anymore, my heart is telling me to run over there and talk to him and straighten out this problem. I haven't seen him in about a week, so I guess I'm listening to my family. My question, should I go and see him and defend myself, or do I just forget him and let it all go? (link)
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Wow... Louie is listening to the wrong side of the 'conversation'. I can imagine how you feel, hurting, knowing that you've done nothing wrong, yet you're being accused. I think that there are three things that you can do:
1. Take your family's advice and just ignore him, dump him, don't see him.
2. Write his whole family a letter telling them your feelings and your side. Be respectful of their hardships, but explain that you love them and would never try and hurt them. Remember, this would be an open letter to all involved, so be polite - you've only got one chance to do it.
3. E-mail, IM, telephone, face-to-face - just talk with him and tell him your side (the truth)
If you choose option 2., then you'll need to think about what you want to say, how you're going to say it, and what makes it sound convincing. Be sincere, truthful, don't stretch it, and - if at all possible - be fairly brief; but not so brief that you come off as cold.
If you choose option 1., then all you have to do is E-mail him and say that you're tired of his lies and you don't want to see him again; and that's it.
I would personally try 2. first, because - obviously - you put alot of hard work into this guy and his family. You helped them out in their time of need, you helped them raise money... then you're accused of stealing. I would try and explain that I'd never ever do something like that to someone I loved. If that doesn't work, then, unfortunately, all you've got left is to let him go.
Don't just 'let it all go'. That's not justice to you. It's unfair to you because you did nothing wrong, and you're being wrongly accused. You're being violated here! Stand up for yourself, but be polite and caring while you're doing that.
Ask God for wisdom and guidance; if you follow His plan, all will work out.
-FunnyCide
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ok, me and my boyfriend have been going out for a little over 3 months, but we havent made out yet. we hold hands and kiss, but not open mouth. we've said that we love each other, and idk. is there a problem with this? i mean we talked about it and said we're ready, but like we just cant find the right time cuz of school and stuff. (link)
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Uh, yeah there's a problem! If you think that holding hands and kissing at three months isn't enough, you need a slap upside the head. Gah, I can't be the ONLY person with half-a-lick-of-sense, can I? Look, you're lucky to have someone to hang out etc. with. Pray about it, don't push the line. Don't have sex. The time will be made if it's meant to be. Be happy with what you've got. You'll realize that what you have is alot more than what other people have, and you need to be thankful. I know this is pretty blunt, but, it's the truth. Be glad that someone loves you. It's really special when someone loves another human; we're so imperfect, it's amazing that someone could love us.
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Okay...well...I'm a thirteen-year-old girl and I like a guy. He gives off all of the signals that he likes me as more than a friend. One problem:
He's eighteen.
I know I can't be with him at least at the current time, whether he likes me in that way or not, but it just hurts sooo badly. Worse than I've ever felt about a crush.
Why do I feel this bad, and what can I do to get over him, if there's anything I can do?
Has anyone experienced this?
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Wow. Tough luck. The 'oldest' guy I've ever 'liked' was two years older than me... and that's really not that bad, considering that my parents are four years apart. But, it's probably really not a good idea for you to go out with this guy anyway. He's alot older than you, and obviously would want something different out of a relationship than you would. If you were to do anything with him (especially sleeping with him - which is DEFINITELY not a good idea - EVER) then he could get in big trouble because you're a minor and he's not. I've never experienced it, no. But, the only thing you can really do is focus on someone your own age. Find a cute guy that's thirteen or fourteen, hang out with him, get to know him.. you'll find that he's just as awesome. (if not more so) Sorry about your trouble. Life is hard. If you and him were meant to be together, it will work out in the end.
-FunnyCide
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when ever i watch a love scene in a movie or show i kinda of think of me and my crush and then i suddenly feel so depressed . but it last for a long time (link)
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I suppose that would be considered normal. When I hear songs that talk (sing) about people who have it alot worse off than I do I get the same way. I think it's just an expression of your heart. ;) Nothing wrong with that. I actually know what you're talking about. Wow! We're so cool. Yeah, it's actually a good thing that you have these emotions. It's all part of the bonding and learning and growing process.
-FunnyCide
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ok, i was just looking at my fingernails and i noticed on a few i have white spots.I seem to always have them.What are they?Is there any way to prevent them? (link)
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They're either Calcium deficiency spots or places where you slammed your hand in the door or drawer and bent the nail. I have those too, sometimes. If it's a lack of calcium, then you need to eat more calcium-rich foods (cheeses, yogurts, milk etc.) and take a daily vitamin. If it's a mark from slamming your hand in a drawer... stay away from drawers. Lol.
-FunnyCide
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I can record videos on my digital camera. Is there any way to get those videos on the computer so I can share them through email, or whatever? (link)
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Yep, there is a way. Connect your camera to your computer, transfer the video file from the camera onto a file on your computer. Once you've done that, all you have to do is create the E-mail, attatch, and send. You DO have to have certain wires and connectors, which can get pricey, but it's worth it in the end.
-FunnyCide
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