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"We make war so that we may live in peace." -aristotle"If you judge someone right away, you will not be able to learn to love them."
I'm Hayley, I'll try to help you as best I can. I'm 18, and a senior in high school. I like art, music, and clothing. I'm a vegetarian abd have been consistent with it for four years. I have two dogs a westie named misty and a Maltese/poodle mix named mally. I know a lot about dogs because any time
my dogs get a scratch, I research and call the vet haha.
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Ok well, there's this guy who I really like. We flirt quite a bit, he hugs me and becomes very playful when we're alone and we seemed to get along really well from the beginning. He also opens up about very personal things and we've only known eachother a couple of months! Does that mean something? He's always telling me that he thinks I'm cute and sexy. I mean, the other night, he told me that if my sister wasn't with us, he would of kissed me! Now the thing is, he keeps bringing up one thing: the age difference. I'm 16, he's 30. Now, I know that's quite an age gap but we really like eachother. Do you think the age thing is what's stopping him from asking me out? He's friends with my parents and he knows that they don't have a problem with the age issue. Also, he just got out of an 8 year relationship. He hates his ex but could that be another problem? He keeps telling me about his little girl and he shows me pictures of her. He asked me if I like kids so was he hinting at something? Just recently though, he told me that he's not worth a girl like me. Maybe his insecurity's a problem but I don't think he knows just how much I care for him. Again, like I said, he tells me all the time that he likes me but I just wanna know if things are gonna progress. Plus, he's moving in like a month and I don't wanna let what we have go to waste and he feels the same. Please help me!!!
Female, 16
Thats kinda disturbing, that a 30 year old guy, can't find someone his own age, & hes liking a sixteen year old. Seriously, this guy is like weird. When he was 14, you were like just born, or whatever. I most deffently think thats the reason hes not asking you out, atleast he has a little bit of common sense. He has a kid too? My god. You should ask your parents.. if they'd care if you dated him, & if they say yes... then uh okay, tell him that like, its not a big deal & such.. When he was asking you if you liked kids, he was probaly just asking & making conversation. But, since he does like a 16 year old.. then eh maybe he does want to marry you & start a family. Even though thats tottaly weird, because you two arn't even dating yet? But, ok. I'd see if your parents even really approve on it. I know there is no age on 'love' or whatever... but a decade, is a pretty big difference.
so i went to this camp with my best friend alexa. we started hanging out with a bunch of guys.in our bunk at night we were talking about who we liked and we realized we both liek the same guy steven. a few nights later we found out steven might like alexa. but she told me she wasnt gunna go out with him or anything cause i liked him. throughout camp he made some moves on her but she did nothing. then i told her i didnt like him so she would have her first hookup. towards end of camp she still did nothing with him. then he told my other friend christina that he would have rather gone out with me. i do still like him but idk if i should go out with him cause that would be really mean to alexa.
please help =]
Shes your best friend.. you don't do that to her. That would be tottaly mean. Think how long you've been friends with her.. or how long you will be. When that guy, will only last a month or two.
I'm a columnist on here and have been for about a year or so. I've noticed hundreds of questions dealing with depression. While I understand that it seems to be more common in teenagers now, why is it that it is mostly girls? Is it the way they are raised? Is it imprinted in DNA? I'm interested in the psychological aspect of it and hope to major in it someday, but I've looked it up everywhere online and can't find a reliable source. Anyone know the causes of this or where to find it? Thanks.
Well, I know that depression is caused.. by chemicals in your head, not even or whatever. I forget. I took a class on it. But, its not caused just by that, its also caused by stress, & presure, & media & such.
I think girls get more depressed then guys, because guys don't care about things as much as we do. Like have you ever noticed boys in school.. they come to school, not matching, hair not brushed & so on. Then, you will see most girls, in nice little outfits, makeup, hair straightens/neatly done... whatever. Girls care alot more. They care if they are skinny, pretty, popular, & boys. All that stuff. I think the media has ALOT to do with that. Like Abercrombie & like Hollister.. really like make it a big deal if you shop there or not.. like if you don't shop there, then its like "Whoa, your not cool" or whatever. You know what I mean?
Ehhh. I hope I helped, kbye
I had only been dating my bf for a couple of weeks. Normally he is pretty nice to me; but this one time he yelled at me and said I wasnt listening to him. He was really good for about a month after that. Well a couple of nights ago it was one of his friends birthdays. We all went out for drinks. His friends were all being really crude and disgusting so I left the table. My bf followed me and I told him I wanted to go home because his friends made me uncomfortable. Well he got mad; stuck his face inches from mine and slowly but loudly said in an angry voice "I"M SO SORRY". It kind of freaked me out. Do you think my bf has potential to be violent with me?
Hmm. I think he has thee.. potential. But, I don't really think he will be. Because, it seems, hes just getting angry with you. He probaly has a temper. But, does he cool off right after then? If he does.. I don't think you have much to worry about. But, if he like storms off, & like doesn't talk to you or something.. then, he most deff. has the potential to be. But, I don't know. Talk to him, & be like.. "Why do you get like that?" or whatever. If he does get abusive, leave him for sure.
K hope I helpedd. bye
Im about to start school soon and im going to a new school.How do i deal with bullies?please answer this question.
Stick up to them. Bullies only pick on people, that are weak. & easy to push around. I know this because, I usta be mean to people. & my whole group is still, though. So, I know for a fact, thats why they do it. So stick up to them, just give it right back to them. & they'll leave you alone. I gurantee it. Also, make some friends in your new school. & it will be fine.
OMG my bf is a total dick, like after we had sex he couldnt stop talking about this girl and I was like wtf I just had sex with you and all you can talk about is another girl? I like cant believe he would do this to me! I'm in love with him!! And I know hes in love with me, how can I make him realize that I'm the one for him, I mean I've given him everything! Like before we met I was a virgin, and then he wanted to have sex so I gave in because I love him and I didnt want him to break up with me! All he talks about is other girls, and he just laughs when I get upset, What should I do, how can I make him realize I'm the only girl he should talk about!!!!
You can't make him believe, your the one for him. & love, it doesn't seem like you are. You don't love him. Love is a bond between two people, that feel the exact same, have a passionate feeling & care deeply about eachother. Its like peanut butter & jelly sandwich. you need both.Not just the jelly. You obviously, made a mistake. But, now you know. To make sure the person cares the same about you, & just doesn't want to have sex with you. You most deff. shouldn't have given in, to having sex with him. Do you have no confidence in yourself? You should have enough confindence, in yourself.. to know that you shouldn't have to do those things, just to make a boy like you. Remember that the next time too. You have to realize, you should be good enough for them, that you don't have to have sex with them. I would talk to him again, in person. Tell him you don't think its funny, when he laughs about it, & that its really hurting your feelings... & so on.
I hope I helped. & pleasee take my advice about confidence & everything. & don't regret, what you did with him.. because, everyone makes mistakes. & now you just know better.. right?
ok well in the second season of laguna beach kristen was the leader right? and in season 3 kyndra is the leader. and in season 2 lauren was kinda like the second popular girl and so is that what tessa in season 3 is? lol sorry if its a little confusing but im really confused about it. thanks
Uhm, I don't think tessa is. I think her & her friends.. are kinda the losers. haha. Well, I think Tessa is like the coolest in her group, but like i don't know.. I think the whole mean group, is basically the popular people. =)
hope I helped kbyee
hi there. i'm a 15 year old girl, 5'2, with a 36DD bust. i also weigh 142lbs. the thing is though i dont think i look that heavy. i'm bigger framed than most of my friends i guess you could say, but i dont exactly have like..a HUGE stomach. i'm in proportion with my chest, haha. i was wondering if this weight was normal for my age. i've been to doctors and they all said i am overweight..but if i work out i'll gain more by building muscle. i want to get down to about 135lbs by october or sooner. so my questions are.
1. am i overweight? and by how much?
2. does anyone know of any good diets?
thank you all so much
Hmmm. I don't really think you are, because you have such a large bust. Lose 5 pounds & see how you look. If you think you look fine .. then who cares, like what the doctors think. 5 pounds, makes a big difference.
I don't really know any good diets, persay. But, i know great ways not to gain any weight & probaly lose some =)
-Get enough sleep. People, without enough sleep, tend to eat more.
-Go for an hour long walk every single day.
-Drink 6-8 glasses of water per day [OMG. YOU'LL LOSE SOOO MUCH WEIGHT]
-dancing for an hour burns up 300 calories =)
-not eating alot, ha duh.
-dont eat any junk food. & youll see a huge difference.
i hope that helped. kbye =)
they are going to show this episode on a three year old obssessed with her looks...and I was just wondering what is normal age that many people start getting concerned with how they look?weight,height,etc...etc...
I think 7th grade was when its a reallly big deal, for everyone. But, I started caring.. when I was like in 5th. Because thats when I started dating alot. =)
ok whats the difference between making out and french kissing?...i always thought they were the same thing...thanks
Some people consider it the same thing, I usually do. But, I think most people [where I live] think of Making out, just for alot longer, then just kissing. Because, Kissing is quite short. I made out with a guy for like 10 minutes. =)=) & then french kissing, well obviously, they stick there tongue in your mouth.
I hope that helped.
kbye
I really really REALLY want to get my ears pierced. However, is it a problem that I've had them like....5 times before. Would they get really infected if I got them again? I also wanted to know if getting a piercing below the cartilage hurts. If I get it there, will it hurt?
Please help me!!!
5 times? You can only get the max like 3. Or, your gonna have serious ear infections. Thats what my doctor told me. I don't know though, because I always like forget to put earrings it. I haven't this whole summer. & then now, you actually just reminded me. hahaha & I could tell I went through some skin. I don't know. 5 times is alot though. Ask your doctor or the lady, that pierces the ears about it. & i'm sure piercing below the cartilage hurts. I don't have it done, but I can tottaly see it hurting.
So yep, hope i helped. kbye =)
ugh.. i don't know what to do! there's so many things that go wrong in my life, i just don't know how to handle it all..
first off my friends are making me feel like poop, just because i've messed up. they call me a slut and stuff too.. when i don't see how i am..
then there's this guy i like, and he just acts so mean to me, even though he knows i like him, and he told me that he doesnt want to be like all the other dick face guys that just use girls and be mean to them
also, there's this guy that i've had tiny feelings for since last year, and i just recently got over him, because he was so mean to me, and just used me. and then this girl told me that he never liked me and stuff.. but he's being so nice to me, and i'm afraid of liking him again, because i know that he'll just end up making me feel terrible again.. and i don't know how to stop myself from liking him
I just dont know how to handle life.. i used to not have anyfriends, because i was different and out there, and i was overweight and annoying.. but now that i have friends, and relationships, everything just seems to go wrong, its like once one problem is fixed another one pops up..
can someone help me with what to do to help straighten my life out?!
Well, it kinda does sound like your a slut. If these guys, are using you. & your friendds are even calling you a slut. If you wanna know if your a slut or not.. think how they act around guys, if you see a difference in what there doing, then you'll know. & what you could do is either, like that one guy & take a risk. Or you can meet some new people. That don't know very well. Thats what I'd do. Then, if you also realize your a slut, tell your friends, that you realize you are. & you wanna change or something. I don't know something like that.
I hope that helpedd.
kbye
Ok, the thing is I've become pretty good friends with my crush. We've hung out many times, and I've brought my friends at times too and he's met them. But now school is starting, and I'm afraid of him meeting some of my other friends, because honestly, I'm afraid he might start liking them. A lot of them are prettier and have good personalities. I know it's an insecurity of mine, but it's really bothering me. I don't know what to do, any advice will be helpful.
Yeah. I feltt that way too, but the guys usually ened up hating my friends, haha. So, then I always get him =) But, what you could do is, well thee obvious -> tell him you like him. orr, you could flirt with him alot. Do you know if he likes you by any chance? Do you get any like signs of him liking you? What you could do is be like.. yeahh, this kid likes me (just like make up a name, or soomeone who really does like you) but i dont like him. or something like that.. so your on the subject, of people liking people. i usually do that. & then i end up finding out if the person likes me or not. Thats what I think you should do, or something along the lines of that.
mmmk bye =)
I have big boobs and a small waist. So I have a problem with buying shirts. They either don't fit over my boob and the shirt ends up looking short. Or they do fit over my boobs but its all saggy and too big around my waist.
Does anyone know any stores or styles that could help me out here?
That happens to me too. Wear longer shirts. Abercrombie & fitch, I know they have all those long shirts right now. Layer your shirts. Basically, what everyone else said is good advice =) I layer my tank tops alott.
My friend lies about EVERYTHING and do I mean everything. Most of it is just stupid! When I told her I got my first period, (about a year or 2 ago) she told me that she got hers 3 months before that & so did her other friend, Anna. Well it turns out that Anna didn't get it for the first time until December of this year. She lied about her parents getting divorced and moving to another town to get attention about 8 months ago. I know it wasn't true because my mom talked to her mom and said it wasn't, and I drove by her house the day after she said the for sale sign was up, and nothing was there. It's so annoying! She even lies about having a threapist for emotional problems! It's almost as if she wants people to think she's crazy! I don't believe anything she says, and I don't trust her at all. It's really hard to talk to her because we've been friends since kindergarten, but I can't stand all the lies!
She obviously wants attention. I hate when people lie too. Just talk to her, & be like "You've been my friend since kindegarten, if your trying to impress me, or make me like you more, then don't. Because, you are actually making me like less & less. So just stop" Just say something like that to her. Just talk to her about it. & hope she stops.
I hope I helped, kbye
Hey ya'll.
About three weeks ago, my friends went to the mall and I bought this sweatshirt. Well my one friend really likes it and she keeps saying she is going to buy it.
Then today, me and the same freind went back to the mall and she was buying this skirt and I liked it so I was like do you mind if I buy it but in a different color? And she just nodded her head yes but only a little bit.
Why did she get mad about that?
Why can she buy the clothes I have but I can't buy her clothes?
thanks and i will rate
I donn't know, I hate that. I don't really ever care, when my friend buys the same thing as me. & then if I want something.. then she tottaly freaks out. I usually buy it anyways though. But, she probaly does it, to get her way. & because she wants to be the one & only wearing it. Some people are like that. She may want all the attention, like say you wear it first, & everyones telling you .. "OMG I LOVE IT" & everything, & then she goes and wears it.. & everyone just says.."doesnt whatsherface have that?"
i hope i helped kbye
when my friend is telling me something online, sometimes i will just be like, "alrightty" or "kay". i dont do it alot, either. then she thinks i'm mad or annoyed, when im not. there's just nothing else to say. what should i do? i tell her im not mad but i dont thinks she believes me.
OMG! i hate that. like sometimes, i just dont feel like talking. & my friends tottaly freak out on me. i dont think theres not much you can do, besides just not saying.. & be like "lol sweet" or somethingg. & if she doesnt believe you, that yerr not mad.. then oh well. yano?
hope i helped ! kbye
i need advice on moving back with my mom.. i cant take this anymore.. i need answers from people with ideas of excaping my parents ..im not trying to say anything bad.. but i am really depressed unless im with my mom again!!!!! i know this sounds kind of bad because i want to get rid of these people in my life.. but let me explain:
they made me get adopted to them 3 years ago when i was 12..ive been on hold with my life ever since..so i need help..major help!! i dont want any answr about trying to get along with my adopted female and male guardian....i just want to know if there is any way to excape...without being in trouble...if there is no way you can help.. my life is totally ruined...i rather be dead than to live with these people..just saying.. I CAN"T TAKE IT!!!!!!!!!!!!
Why are these people your illegal guardians in the first place? If your mom, doesn't have the money to take care of you or anything.. then I can't really help you. If shes ok.. & wants you.. then I would like call her up, or talk to your guardians about it. What the heck could your guardians do to you, that you can't take? If there not abusing you, treating you unfairly, or cruely or whatever.. then.. I don't understand why your complaining. If they took you in, because you need a roof over your head & food on your plate.. then I think thats awfully shelfish of you to be complaining. If all they are trying to do, is take care of you .. & be there for you.. then, you have alot of issues to take care of. But, if they are abusing you in any way or anything like that.. tell your teacher, the police, your friends mom, anyone at all. & get help immediatly.
If not, I hope you start being a little more grateful.
should i get surgery on my nose....i really hate how its kinda up pointed...and should i get surgery on my ear..cause one of my ears got messed up.. when my dad abused me..when i was little..btw i dont live with him........sum people tell me my ears look fine but i can tell where one is messed up...should i get surgery..im probly gonna get surgery any way i just wanna know what you think?? 14 almost 15 in a month=D/f
I really wouldn't if I were you. Atleast not both places. Surgery can be pretty dangerous. If you do get something done, get your nose. Your ear isn't as big of a deal. So, yeah that what I would do. =) K bye
Im turning 18 in a month && im going to start taking diet pills. Dont tell me why i shouldnt because you probly wont change my mind.
Does anyone take any diet pills or know someone that takes them. Which kind would you recommend?
i need something can buy at cvs or walmart. none of that sutff you have to order off the tv or online.
thank you.
Ha, I know plently of people, that tried that cheap stuff. You know how it says.. "Gurantee you'll lose 20 pounds.. in the next...." hahahhha. It should clearly say, "Gurantee you'll gain 20 pounds.. in the next.." That stuff, usually makes you gain weight. I know 4 people, that it has happened to. So, instead of trying to take the easy way out, & also risking health issues, why don't you start exercising & eating healthly, like the rest of us?