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How do I deal with life?
ugh.. i don't know what to do! there's so many things that go wrong in my life, i just don't know how to handle it all..
first off my friends are making me feel like poop, just because i've messed up. they call me a slut and stuff too.. when i don't see how i am..
then there's this guy i like, and he just acts so mean to me, even though he knows i like him, and he told me that he doesnt want to be like all the other dick face guys that just use girls and be mean to them
also, there's this guy that i've had tiny feelings for since last year, and i just recently got over him, because he was so mean to me, and just used me. and then this girl told me that he never liked me and stuff.. but he's being so nice to me, and i'm afraid of liking him again, because i know that he'll just end up making me feel terrible again.. and i don't know how to stop myself from liking him
I just dont know how to handle life.. i used to not have anyfriends, because i was different and out there, and i was overweight and annoying.. but now that i have friends, and relationships, everything just seems to go wrong, its like once one problem is fixed another one pops up..
can someone help me with what to do to help straighten my life out?!
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Maybe give some free advice about: Friendship?
Ok I know the feeling, and I'm not just saying that to make you feel better. Let me give you an example. I liked this kid for about 6 years. Well for the last 2 and a half, he's been sweet talking me, getting me to do shit with him, and then as soon as I'm done he goes out with a different girl and treats me like shit. All my so called friends called me a slut, but I didn't understand because even though I wasn't going out with him, I liked him for soooooo long. He was my first kiss, make out and first bj. I didn't think I was that big of a slut.
Well anyways, he basically kept pushing me to the side making me think I wasn't skinny enough, or pretty enough, or popular enough for him.
All I know is that no matter what you do, people will try to bring you down.. People are fake and only care about themselves. If you don't see how you are being a slut, then you most likely aren't a slut. Don't listen to them... they are assholes anyways.
And if this guys keeps being mean to you, chances are he's like every other guy. Tell him how you really feel and tell him if he isn't gonna be straight with you, then you're gonna have to let him go.
And don't fall for this guy.. he's being nice because he knows it works. If he used you once, he will use you again trust me.
The first time you let someone fool you, its their fault... But the second time around they fool you.. It's yours.
To help you feel better, try to find some new friends that are supportive and caring. Boost your appearance by getting newer and prettier clothes, go on a diet or exercise more if you think that will help, do different things with your hair, and try to make your make up look natural but gorgeous for more people to notice you. It will help you have better confidence.
hope I helped <3
sincerely, Abby
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In continuation to holahayley56's answer:
You sound like you've got some self-esteem issues. I think it stems from your "i used to not have anyfriends, because i was different and out there, and i was overweight and annoying" stage.
Sounds like you need a guy to make you happy and feel accepted so you do anything (including have sex with him) to make him like you. Well honey, take my non-expert advice; you can't MAKE a guy like, muchless love, you. It has to be real & natural-comin' from his own heart. Especially guys who "act so mean" to you.
And that guy that told you that he "doesnt want to be like all the other dick face guys that just use girls and be mean to them" might actually care. He cared enough to tell you that much & he passed up the chance to take advantage of you.
Personally, I think you should be complete as your own person before you get in a relationship with someone else.
I think you should start practicing self-respect & learn how to raise your self-esteem.
Do it now! If you need help my inbox's always open.
LadyJade
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Well, it kinda does sound like your a slut. If these guys, are using you. & your friendds are even calling you a slut. If you wanna know if your a slut or not.. think how they act around guys, if you see a difference in what there doing, then you'll know. & what you could do is either, like that one guy & take a risk. Or you can meet some new people. That don't know very well. Thats what I'd do. Then, if you also realize your a slut, tell your friends, that you realize you are. & you wanna change or something. I don't know something like that.
I hope that helpedd.
kbye
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