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19/f
so my boyfriend and I have been together for 8 months now and we're so in love. We trust each other and that's a big deal with us. Except I screwed up...

Today I snooped through his computer and found a lot of upsetting things. Not too serious, no cheating, but I'm still really upset and I feel played. I don't want to talk to him about it, especially because I was in the wrong to snoop. But I can't get over this feeling and he knows something is wrong.

I don't know if I just ruined my relationship bc this is the kind of thing thats hard to get over and I can't look at him the same. But I love him so much, so how do I forget it and move on?

Please help, I'm lost.

P.s. Girls learn from me, DON'T SNOOP. I just wish I never saw any of that :(

Well, it really depends on what you saw. Otherwise the advice of myself and the hardly post-pubescent girls below me isn't worth anything.

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I am caucasian/white and I really don't want to be any more. White is the worst "color" skin to be, in my opinion. Everybody thinks I'm racist because of MY skin color! It's annoying and I feel like I owe people of different races something simply because I'm not of their race! I know that sounds so messed up but it's so true.

I see it on TV a lot so I know I'm not the only white person like this either. I see all the time people saying, "If I was white you wouldn't be..." in situations that don't even make sense even. I never try to make somebody feel bad because of their race but I've been accused of it before at school.

I'm tired of my race. I want to be something different. I know Michael Jackson changed his racial skin color. Is it possible for a white person to become black, asian, or hispanic colored? Can I change my race or my skin color? What about other physical features like nose and eyes? Can a person get those facial features changed without surgery?

If this is your outlook on the world, you're more than welcome to leave.

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Let's say I bought something on Ebay, but didn't want it anymore. Is it legal for me to sell it on Ebay again? I already looked at their site and couldn't find the rules for that.

Is it legal? Why would it not be? It's now yours; you're free to do with it what you will.

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how do u give a guy head and how long do u give him head

My lady friend says;


However long it takes.

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This guy was telling me i was conceited and not modest for thinking im pretty. Then i told him after years of eating disorders and low self esteem i deserve to be happy with who i am so I AM pretty. he then changed his mind and acted all sympathetic.

Can someone tell me why guys are so absolutely harsh until it comes down to such a serious topic? Why cant they be a little nicer to begin with? :/

I don't really see a problem with him.

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my boyfriends 21st birthday is tomrrow...so this is super last minute but i just had an idea. It may be cheesy..so let me know if it is.
But i bought him 6 shot glasses (as a set) but my idea was to individually wrap each one..kinda like wrap some tissue paper around each one..but have a little gift in each one...is that cheesy? should i just give him the shot glasses

but if i do it..i don't know what i would but in them...help..fast! please :)

I think that's a good idea.

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I want to break up with my long distance relationship. There's no real reason..I honestly just don't feel like being in a relationship anymore. I live in the US, he in the Uk. I'm 19, he's 21. We've never met yet, been dating 8 months. He wants me to visit this summer.

I like him, but I don't love him. He LOVES me, he's actually obsessed. It freaks me out in a way. I tried breaking up with him earlier this week by using excuses about school, and he started crying for about 2 hours. So, I gave in. He told me he couldn't breathe, and that he'd come down here immediately and such. I don't WANT that, I'm scared if I break up with him that he'll show up at my door.

He's a very fragile guy, it took him 2 years to get over his ex, and he still talks about how he never thought he'd love again, blah blah, but then he found me. :/ I do like him, but I want to be free. I hate staying inside all day on the computer to talk to him, I want my life back. I know if I tell him this that he'll have some solution, like: you can go with your friends, or spend less time with me!

Basically, I don't want to be sucked in again. I want to break up with him, not lead him on with false hopes. Can you PLEASE tell me how to go about this? I've been struggling with it for about a month. I want to end it, cut all contact. But, what do I do when he starts crying? I'm not a heartless person, I don't know if I can just hang up on him. Ahh, please help!!!

I don't have any good advice to give, and I'll save us both the trouble of half-assing it.


http://www.advicenators.com/column.php?u=Razhie


What you should do is ask her.

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if you have sex with someone bigger then your boyfriend.... can they tell?

i have been with this guy for 3 years and made a drunk mistake with someone else who was alot bigger then my boyfriend. so he fits perfectly inside me...can he tell i cheated on him the next time we have sex?

i heard you could.

No, but you should tell him anyway. Having sex with another guy puts his health at risk, condom or not. If you love him, you'll tell him. If you're a coward, you won't.

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What happens to a boy during a physical?

The usual. They check your blood pressure, weight, height, ears, eyes, mouth/throat, etc. Then they stick two fingers behind your testicles and have you cough. It helps not to look down.

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the teacher suposly asled me to spit my gum out and i did but she wrote me up and she said that she had asked me more than twice and that i still refused to spit my gum out

Cool story bro.

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my best friend was a druggie, he was practically my brother we hungout everyday. but on december 14 he was sent to jail and put in rehab across the country and got out right before my birthday but is still on house arrest. he called me twice even though he is not allowed any communication with people other than family but he snuck it. i miss him so much it feels like im broken into a million pieces still. he doesnt deserve that, i dont know what to do i feel so cold and i dont even know why or what i could do for either of us. im 16/f hes 16/m he was always the happy go lucky guy and no one could ever even be sad around him, he was proud to be bi and in love with music.

He's been in jail and rehab to turn his life around. This is an ongoing process.


Don't make this about you.

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Hey everybody quick question. Is it normal to love 3 different types of music equally? and to dress in three different categories?. For an example i listen to really heavy metal, club music like house euro jumpstyle etc... and i also listen to rap. and i dress like all those at different times during the week etc... depending on where im going. i love all 3 types of music but is this normal?

I guess, though I'd question your "love" for the genres.

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How do you get that little white heart tattoo thing? You know the one I'm talking about right? It seems like more and more girls have them right above their pelvis? It looks like a white outline of a heart and I don't know if it is a tattoo or what but I think it is adorable and I want one really bad!

How do I get this done? Does anybody know?

You stick a heart shaped item on your skin and tan, like a sticker.


My lady friend says...


"Dumbass."

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Hey everybody, can anyone suggest a cool MySpace display name for a guy? I guess I am not very clever because everyone I've come up with just doesn't sound quite right.

I would like it if it wasn't perverted in any way because heck even my grandmother has a MySpace these days! :-)

Thank you everybody! You will be rated!

Too coo foo faceboo

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Can anybody tell me what it means if someone always hugs you really tight?

Does it mean you are more than friends? Does it mean they want to be more than friends? For real, what does tight hugging mean?

Anybody?

My lady friend says...


"It means they really like you... they really like you as a friend."

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I'm curious. When a man pulls out, where does he cum? For example, do you have a towel ready or does he cum on you? thank you!

All over your hair.

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ive never used a tampon before but id like to try it, but im worried about puting it in and take it out. has anyone got any advice about tampons ?

My lady friend says...


"Just do it. It won't get stuck as long as you keep the string out."

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My best friend is a boy and I am a girl and like all love stories everyone thinks we are going to fall in love, get married and live happily ever after. So, what does it mean if his good friend started a rumor around school that I like him? The whole school thinks we like each other, because of his friend. Does that mean my friend likes me if his friend did this? Thanks!

It most likely just means his friend is a douche bag.

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15/f

Okay, odd question I know. My friend lost her virginity the other week. She orgasmed and told me it felt amazing. She said she couldn't remember much because she "passed out from pleasure". I was mad at her for losing her virginity, she's only 16. She assured me she took all of the precausions, condom and the pill so I forgave her. I was interested when she was discribing what it felt like to experience an orgasm, but I promised my parents I would save myself until marriage. So, embarassed to say, I rubbed myself with a pen, but only my clit. The result was out standing pleasure.. to the point where my back arched and I almost screamed. So, my question is, what does an orgasm feel like? I want to relate your answers to my experience.

You probably orgasmed, so you tell me.

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Okay So Me And This Guyy Have Hadd Sexx A Couple Times And We NEVER Use A Condom. But Theres No Need Forr A Condom If He NEVER Cums, Righhtt?

I Askked Him Why He Neverr Cums And He Saidd "I Cann Handle Mines" ;
Is That Evenn Possible? Cann Youu Reallyy Stopp Yourselff From Cumingg?

His Friendd Toldd Me It's Because He Doesn't Have Balls. But I Thinkk He's Just Sayingg That To Mess Aroundd. But At The Same Time I Kindaa Believe It. But I'm Not Sure If It's Possible For A Guyy Not To Have Balls.
Andd I Know I Shouldd Knoww If I Hadd Sexx Withh Him Like More Thenn 10 Times But I've Neverr Actaullyy Payedd Attentionn.

Fuck your schooling and fuck the answers below me.


He NEEDS to wear a condom. Just because he doesn't cum doesn't mean you won't get pregnant. There's precum coming out of him that he has no ability to control; there is sperm in that. Sperm + egg = chance of pregnancy. You've been playing with fire every time you've had sex with him.


Why doesn't he cum? I don't know. It doesn't really matter. I'm sure he has two testicles. I'm sure his friend is just screwing with you because you're clearly screwable in more ways than one.


Please stop having sex until you're ready to have a child, or know legitimate ways of preventing one.

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