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snooping
19/f
so my boyfriend and I have been together for 8 months now and we're so in love. We trust each other and that's a big deal with us. Except I screwed up...
Today I snooped through his computer and found a lot of upsetting things. Not too serious, no cheating, but I'm still really upset and I feel played. I don't want to talk to him about it, especially because I was in the wrong to snoop. But I can't get over this feeling and he knows something is wrong.
I don't know if I just ruined my relationship bc this is the kind of thing thats hard to get over and I can't look at him the same. But I love him so much, so how do I forget it and move on?
Please help, I'm lost.
P.s. Girls learn from me, DON'T SNOOP. I just wish I never saw any of that :(
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I made the mistake of getting my boyfriends password to FB and Myspace. BAD IDEA. you start making up things in your head, and it is nothing. Trust is a big part of a relationship. Your boyfriend is probably a good guy so cut him some slack :)
NO MORE SNOOPING.
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When you snoop you sometimes find things that you really don't want to find. And I agree with some of the others. How long have you guys been togeather? And what exactly did you find when you snooped around? Was it something about him or something he has done recently to make you not trust him? Because theres a reason for it all.
What's so familar about you is really like looking in the mirror. You know I use to do the same exact things and I got my feeling hurt everytime. Sometimes you just have to leave well enough alone. Because odviously you do not trust him. And something you shouldn't ever do is tell him that you been snooping threw his things because nothing will upset a guy more and he will loose his trust and respect in you.
And if you don't mind going into more indept details maybe me or one of the others can advise you more properly... And I understand exactly what you mean about not snooping. Because trust me I would never do it again. And the way you sound it seems to be some bad things he's been doing behind your back. Maybe flirting with other women perhaps...
I know you're hurt and I'm really sorry for you but, If you feel that you can't trust him maybe you should consider moving on but... If you feel that maybe it was a little harmless flirting and maybe you can get over it than maybe you should just forget about it and move on... Either decision that you make I wish the best of luck to you...
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I'm not exactly sure if you should move on only because you really didn't go into details on just how bad it was.
If it was petty stuff, Example: Your boyfriend looking at porn well the hun I hate to too tell ya that really isn't all that great of a reason to think about leaving someone.
On the other hand, If he was sending some love notes online to another person well hey in my mind that is just as bad as cheating, You might want to sit down and have a stern talk about it after all communication is the key to working things out. You stated that you feel played, Ask yourself one question "Just how bad is it" Did he cheat? If so, Dump him. No girl deserves disrespect and betrayal. Looking at porn? Well, I can understand you'd be bothered by it but again talk to him about it. If he chooses to peek at porn over you then again bye bye don't stand for that crap. Sometimes snooping around gets the truth out of people
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Well, it really depends on what you saw. Otherwise the advice of myself and the hardly post-pubescent girls below me isn't worth anything.
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Okay so you did nothing wrong. If you found out something like that it is your business.Especially when you guys have been together for that long. I know its hard but talk to him about it and tell him what you found. The most important thing in a relationship is communication. You might love him but if he is being untrustworthy then that needs to be fixed.
Hope i helped (: If you need anything else feel free to ask me personally!
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