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Ask me questions, and i'll answer them. I'm smart so usually I`ll know the answer. I`ll tell you the truth, like almost every person with an advice column does, so don`t be suprised. I love my friends & family, I just love life, but don`t worry it took me a while to get here. My life isnt perfect & i've had a lot of deaths. I have a good perspective on things, usually if you ask me a question i've already been in that situation. I know life is hard & i know things suck but i also know that life is amazing too.If I tell you to just buck up and do it, I really mean it & i'm not just saying that becuase i don't know what else to tell you.
Likes: mature people, skim milk, mac & cheese, making cookies, friends, my whole family, cats; especially mine, books, television, music, parties, boys, clothes, flip flops, lacrosse, soccer, running, traveling, those little trays on airplanes, hot chocolate in the morning, waking up when its raining or snowing, going to sleep during a thunderstorm, & taking showers in the afternoon & SUMMMERR 8D
Dislikes: People who hate cats, people who don't like to read, people who don't know anything about what is happening in the world or don't care, grilled cheese, slow computers, traffic, cell phones that break to easily, blind refs, people who think its cool to be stupid on purpose, people who invite themselves to things, people who think they can control everything, people who think they can`t do it, & people who dye their hair becuase you were made with the color hair you look the best in, and people just dont get that.
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All of the other girls I know are always just SO happy and smiling all the time no matter what, it's like nothing could ever upset them.
I, however, am always frowning and mad/depressed looking and I can't help it. I just never feel happy. I have never been truly happy and whenever I do smile it's fake unless I'm laughing at something.
And the happy little perky ones are the ones who attract the most boys. Isn't it true that men are attracted to happy women?
I want to know how to be all happy and perky and cheerful and pleasant all the time. I've tried thinking happy thoughts but it just doesn't work. I only think about things that make me pissed, because my life is filled with them, and things about myself that I hate (plenty of those too).
please just answer.
To answer your first question about guys who are attracted to happy women, would you be attracted to someone who never looks happy? There is no sure fire way for you to be "happy" all the time, its something that is sewed into your personality. To be happy most of the time, you should think about all of the good things you have in life and not focus on the bad things. Find little things you can do that makes you happy. For me, it would be cooking something, or excersizing, or cleaning something. It makes me feel productive. Once you find these things, do them when you feel down and you will be instantly happy after. Sometimes you should distract yourself so you can forget about your life & live in the moment for a while. If this doesnt work, you should see a therapist because you might be depressed. Good luck :) & smile :D!
my family is fighting alot lately. Ever since my aunt died (april 8) :( my dad has been smoking alot more, which isnt good. He trys to quit, but it doesnt work. Also like everyone just gets mad at everyone alot now and idk what to do
Ideas to make my family happyer?
We all miss my aunt alot, she was really close to us. But idk why is my family acting this way, so am i and i dont even know why. I think most of it is me, i dont know, but i always get mad at the simpilest things with my parents.
Help
You should all take a carefree vacation to the beach, or someplace peaceful. It will take your minds off regular life for a while.
dammit , i can't find Loreal color Pulse anywhere , i tried Target , Walmart , Walgreens , ever Sally's Beauty Supply , helppp i really need to find this. thank'ss bunchie's.:]
try ebay.
http://cgi.ebay.com/LOreal-Color-Pulse-Con-Color-Mousse-CoolBl-100-1-76oz_W0QQitemZ140126062300QQcmdZViewItem
^ i'm not sure if this is exactly what you want, but i gave it a try.
EDIT: you can use your parents credit cards & pay them back with money.
my mother thinks that tutors are very handy and indeed, they are, but I think that she is overdoing it with the tutors. i have three and for different subjects too. but, i find that they are not helping me. I don't even listen to them anymore. I've learned how to tune them out because they just keep talking and talking and I don't even understand what their saying. Sometimes, when I study in groups or when I go to the teacher to ask for his/her help, I feel a lot better about it and I understand it more. I've always been a pretty good student, but there has been one subject that I have not been able to master, and that's chemistry. Because I failed the final, that was the only reason I failed the coarse, because I was like borderline, but the school has chosen not to put me in summerschool because they don't think it's fair that for one subject, that I even started doing better in second semester, they should put me in summerschool, so I just have to study this packet and re-take the test. Well, my mother has schedualed appointments with this online tutor from India, and all she says is, I'm sorry, and she's so sarcastic!! Then, there's this other guy, who isn't an online tutor, but I meet with him at the book store and I always feel like he's hitting on me. I think he's trying to play footsies with me or something. He's so creepy and he says really creepy things. Like, one time he started asking me about bionic chemicals or something and I didn't know what they were and then i'm like there is no bionic ions is there? and he's like no and then he started talking to me about bionic people and my mom is like laughing at all of this and it isn't funny. It's soooo incfredibly disgusting!! I dont want to. I don't want to go have class with him to help me review. I'm so scared of him. what should i do?
Tell your mother how gross and creepy this guy is, she will understand & won't make you go to him anymore. Find one really good tutor you trust, and actually try to listen to them. If they are going to fast, stop them and ask them to re-explain it. Always ask questions. Find a friend who is really good at chemisty and study with them. If your reviewing, make it a game & compete with eachother for food & stuff. Or play like a dare game where each answer you get wrong, you have to do a dare. Tell your mom online tutors don't work for you and tell her that when you meet with a teacher or study group you learn alot better. She could probably help you find them. When your reading through your review sheet, star any questions you have and whoever you meet with to study with, ask them those questions. Hopefully you ace the test ! Good luck :)
Well my dad freakin took my autn to pick out my grad dress so it's freakin horrible.
My dad wont' take me to the salon to do ym hair which is as long as the girl from The Ring and needs the haircut. He's doing my hair! ARG
I thoguth it would be perfect..now it's jsut terrible.
I dont' know what I'm asking for..just..help me.
I don't wanan burst out crying at the grad
I feel very, very bad for you. Raise your own money & propose that you use your money for a salon to do your hair. As of your dress, take it to a friends house, put a cool sweater over it to hide some of it or just cut / add fabrics. Make it all your own. Look up dresses online and find some examples so you can re-do your dress. Add alot of accesories too & just look really good so people will focus on you, not your dress. You could also have your hair in a side ponytail curled hanging down the front of your dress to hide it a little bit.
do i get a guy that says he likes me, admit that he actully doesn't but instead is just using me?
what does "get a guy" mean, if it means go out with a guy or something along those lines, then no. He won't respect you and you won't respect yourself. He will end up dumping you & you will probably be hurt. Just don't do it.
Edit: Sorry, i didnt get it in the first place, but i do now. Try getting one of his friends that you trust to talk to him about it. He might also not be using you, so don't be disapointed if he says he really likes you.. ha ha . & sorry for the mix-up.
Mkay, I need some advice about my ex-boyfriend.
Over the course of 4 years we broke up several times and called it quits for a few years, abut 6 months ago we called me and asked me back out, i thought it over and answered yes. I was really happy at first..and so was he. Then my parents got really strict and wouldnt let me go out that much, then he started blaming my family and my friends for not being able to see me. It really hurt me. We spent an entire night on the phone working it out. One night he was at my house and we were watching the Notebook and talking, he kept telling me to kiss him to kiss him and all this, && i wouldnt because it didnt feel right, if that makes any sense at all. We worked all that out and i was really happy again. We had a big fight and broke up, we still talk about us all the time..and i feel like i love him. I know everything about him, all his deepest secrets and i think we are meant to be...I need some advice..should i just try and get over him? or should i try to get back together with him. Im so confused, i cry myself to sleep most of the time, and bust out in tears everytime i hear certain songs, and its been about three months since all this happened.
I am a thirteen year old female
You definitly still love him. I would not give up on your relationship. You guys seem like your good together. The reasons you guys broke up are not very important ones so it will just take some time to mature into eachother and stop breaking up & getting mad for stupid reasons, more him doing it than you. I get the whole "doesnt feel right" thing when he was telling you to kiss him. It just wasnt romantic with him asking you to kiss, it's supposed to just happen. He should respect what you want and not get mad. He doesnt sound very understanding, and if you love him, you should work on that with him. Try & get back together with him becuase it sounds like your miserable without him. good luck, :)
this guy used to flirt with me alot when he had a girlfriend and i was instantly drawn to him and i think he liked me too. he kept asking if i had a boyfriend and if i liked anyone. i didn't want to tell him who i liked because it was him and i was afriad things wouldn't be the same between us if i did. was he trying to ask me to be his girlfriend? anyway we were good friends for a while but now we don't talk at all because he doesn't like me or anyone else that goes to my school and he ignores me when i try to talk to him. what do i do should i not try to talk to him anymore and wait till he talks to me first or should i just ignore him completley even when he does try to talk to me?
I hate boys like that, like you one day, then ignore you the next. When he had a girlfriend, and he was asking you who you liked & if you had a boyfriend he probably liked you or was interested in you, but he wasnt asking you out. I think you should stop trying to talk to him until he comes to his senses and starts up a conversation with you, and if he does, talk to him back.
My profile got all messed up and i had to make a new. so here it is again.. And thank you for your answer i did read,(soundz like pink, i think thats who answered..)
Any way i was lucky i saved the question on my computer so it is the same.
I'm f/14.
I know this is really long, and probably confusing but please read it and it and try to answer! THANX!!
When I was little my biological father had to move to Kentucky.He never moved back. My mom was about 18. Well he was out of the picture for a while.Then theres the guy we lived with and he was ALWAYS called DAD!(His name is Charley) Then theres Mike my dad for 7yrs. (He was my bioloical father until i was 7.) Then there's Brad a guy who passed away, who i thought was just my mom's friend until today (6/12).then theres the current step-dad for the past 4-5yrs. Who is living with us, his name is Josh.
Your probably thinking 2 things!
1)What does this have to do with her life now?
&
2)Her mom is a whore.
Ok well this is affecting my life because:
my dad (not my real one the one i call dad) is moving, and always says something smart about my mom and her current b/f. (Current b/f was a druggie.)
Well he doesn't mean to hurt me but it does.
Then my real dad came into my life when i was 7, then left for 1-2yrs. Then came back around for 1-2 more yrs. then left. No surprise there. Well he called my cousin a couple a monthz ago and asked about me and for my number. Well he didn't call me, so my mom is going to search for his #, so i can call him and get his address, i wrote him a 2 1/2 page letter and a poem to send him.
Everyday it seems like my life gets harder, and i cry harder every other night thinking about it.
well when i lived with my "dad" life ALWAYS seemed so great and fun.Well we stopped seeing my moms friend Brad, I didn't see why but it didnt bug me then, well my mom told me later on because i asked her about Brad and she told me she stopped visiting him because my dad thought they were having an affair. I didn't think they were.so when Brad died me and my mom were upset because we could have been vising him before he died but my dad didnt want us to go. I hated him for awhile because of that.Today I was looking for my 1st letter that i had ever recieved from mr real dad, and instead i found for cards from Brad! They were addressed to my mom! i thought maybe they were from my real dad so i went ahead and read them, they were all like i wish you were here in my arms and i miss you and michelle (me), love always Brad!
It really hurts to know all of this. And i miss my life with my dad. Before Josh (moms current b/f.) everything was almost always great. Then josh comes my mom gets grouchier,madder, and cries a lot. But says she loves him but it hurts me REALLY BAD! And i don't know what to do any more.
What should do to cope with everything?
If you have any questions ask me!
I know this is really confusing and long but i really need help! Should i get a therapist?
Any advice is great right now.
Thanks in advance!
Talk to your mom, tell her what she is doing to you. She's your mom, and she loves you & once she finds out what her relationship with Josh is doing to your life, then I'm sure she will come to your rescue. If she doesnt then ask her if you could go to a friends house when Josh is there. If she doesnt respond to any of this get a family councilor, this way both you and your mom can see a therapist and maybe the therapist can help even more. Best of luck, and all our hearts go out to you! :)
Well i met this guy in school!!! he's in the 11th grade and im in the 10th grade!!! i started talking to him as he started talkin to me!!! everything was cool when i found out that i liked him because i felt jealous when he was around girls and wen he did other things!!! i also go tso mad that i even didnt speak to him like only for 2 to 4 dayz!!! and then i wan tto tell him that i like him so much that i dont even know what it is right now..if it's love or like!!! and i feel sad partly because i am not talkin to him still but he be stockin me and watchin me from far away because he kcks it in front of me for lunch!!! but im stuck because i dont know what to do and i need help!! im also scared because i dont want to make a mistake like if i tell him i like him and he dont like me..he can stop talkin to me when i wouldnt like dat!!! and in another part im scared because like im really like him..im scare dhe can break my heart and just play me!!because i do suffer alot because boys just play me all times bt this one like looks different cause hes more serious and like kinda like a shy person and you noe!!lolz butyea..so please ..can ya help me out!!im scared of losin him as friends and all types of ways and confused!!! thanks marina!!!
1) Don't get mad at him for talking to other girls & hanging out with them becuase he has no reason that he can't.
2) If you say this guy is different from all the others and that he wouldnt play you, then he most likely won't. If your judgement is good, you are probably right about him.
3) You should tell him you like him, I bet he likes you too. Bring it up casually and ask him to hang out, then while your hanging out make a move on him or at least talk to him about who he likes. If you make it casual, and not a big deal I'm sure you will still be friends with him even if he rejects you. Good luck :)
I took the morning after pill right a couple hours after having sex but I am suppossed to get my persiod in two weeks so I am afraid I could get pregnant I really can not afford to get pregant at such a young age. I am praying that I am not pregnant cause my family will not be happy. do you have any advise. When is to soon to take the pregnancy test I really want to know if I am pregnant or not. I hope I get my period early.
Your getting to excited when you really don't have to worry until you are supposed to get your period. Take the pregnancy test if you miss your period. & calm down, i'm sure if you used protection, and took the pill everything will be alright. Just go on with your normal schedule and forget about it. Any girl who has had sex goes through this and you shouldnt have anything to worry about.
I've been going out with my boyfriend for 4 years, give or take. We broke up a couple of times, longest being last year for 3 months. I broke up with him because I wasn't happy, as I felt he was being too clingy and I love my independence and space. Also, I was extremely attracted to someone else. After 3 months of constant drinking, and him being extremely devastated we got back together. A year on, he has really made the effort, and is less clingy, ie. lets me go out with my friends, and do things on my own without having to ask his permission. Thing is, a year on I think I still have strong feelings for that other guy, and I'm not sure if I'm still attracted to my boyfriend. We don't make love on a regular basis, because I'm never in the humour, and he's got a lot of silly little habits which are starting to drive me insane and they shouldn't. I feel frustrated and stressed when I'm with him, and sometimes relieved to be on my own. At the same time, I love him to bits as a best friend, and I don't want to lose that. I don't know what I should do. I'm so eternally confused by the whole thing. 4 years is a long time, and I don't want to throw it away on a whim. I'm 23 years old, and don't think I'm ready for this type of commitment. Please help me, I would love some good advice for this situation. Please!
You definitly need to sit down and talk with your boyfriend. Ask him where the relationship is going and see if you really want to be in for the long haul. I think you guys should take a break from eachother. Your getting so tired of him that you are irritated at him for very small things, and thats not fair to him either. while your taking your break you really have to access if you like being on a break or you want to get back toghether with him. Make sure you still talk to him though, so you can see if just being his friend is just as satisfing. Good luck :)
Ok so with summer starting and school approaching in August I want a new look. I don't want to be the image I am now. I want to have that hot & sexy look. I don't want to look trashy but I want to look sexy. What kind of clothes should i wear? I want short skirts, short shorts, cleavage you know. Have any ideas where i should shop? Or anything like that?
Abercrombie & Hollister have shortie shorts & tight shirts.
OK.
I'm going to have dinner with this guy I have huge crash with it.
The dinner is for both of our birthdays (we have birthday at the same week), and there're only going to be only two of us for the dinner.
Any suggestion where/what kind of restaurant we can go?
Ohh! i just went to an amazing fondue restaurant, called the melting pot. If you don't have one near you, go to a fun restaurant that will keep you entertained so conversation will flow and you won't be straining for topics. Hope i helped, and good luck :)
i started growing "boobs" in 4th grade, so i thought i was gonna have freaken huge boobs by middle school, thats deff. not the case. haha i kinda still have the same size from 4th grade there just a bit bigger. A instead of AA. anyways, my cusins are all c's && boys pick on me alot because im flat. [im going to be in 9th grade soon] is their any way to till wheather or not im going to grow anymore without seeing a doctor? >:p you probably can't help me. eh
Your definitly going to grow, so don't worry. Just live your life and forget what those boys say becuase they're jerks. Boobs don't make the girl, personality does.
Sometimes I have to hold my urine until I can go. During school, I never go during passing period only if the next class is close by. Otherwise, I go to the next class. Sometimes I have to go but I wait until I have lunch time. Once in a while I wait about 3 hours until I go use the restroom. Is this bad for my bladder? My counsin said it isn't good for me by holding it for that long.
-Confused
No, it's not good. I'm not sure exactly what it does to you, but its nothing drastic so if you do it once in a while it will be okay. Try to pee more frequently though. :)
okey, my friend lets call him [n] well hes wayyy to sensitive. here are some examples. last year, he was too afraid to ask out my other friend that when she was standing right next to him, he went behind a tree and called her on her cell from 3 feet away to ask her out!!! omggg, and also when ever im talking to him online, he reminds me like im talking to one of my girl friends, he just wayyy to sensitive. and hes going out with this other girl [l] and he wrote a 2 page note in her yearbook saying that he cant live without her, and he would die if she ever left him, "i love you more then anyone in the world and i know you dont love me as much as i love you, im just glad you love me at all" if you need more info, ask. so what should i do to man him up, what should i do?
You definitly have to talk to him about that. Say that your a girl & you would know best. Tell him that what he wrote in that girls year book freaks girls out. Inform him like a good friend what he is doing and how he should improve himself. Don't be harsh though, make it like constructive critism. And don't pile it all in on one conversation. slowly mention all the things hes doing over a weeks time. And definintly dont call him sensitive. Guys hate that. Just tell him he's too serious and clingy. But say your acting clingy and serious, not you are clingy and serious.
hey guys. i need help on one of my math problems, hope you can help!
A car traveled 42.9 miles in 0.75 hour. What is the car's speed?
Thanks x1894982898!
well since a cars speed is MPH (miles per hour)
you put the 42.9 over the 0.75 and divide. its 57.2.
Last weekend was really stressful for me. I vomited, and had panic attacks that only medication would fix.
Ever since then, i haven't been feeling well.
I didn't have an appetite on Monday and Tuesday, so I didn't eat much. Which resulted in head aches and light headedness. But i felt somewhat better today, at least when it came to eating. I had oatmeal in the morning, an apple in school, and fish and pasta salad when i came home with some snacks in between. But i still feel somewhat ligh headed/dizzy.
Why might this be and what should i do about it?
Your probably dehidrated. Drink 2 waterbottles & you should feel better in 10 minutes. When you go to school carry lots of water becuase it sounds like your sick and you are not drinking enough liquids. hope you feel better ! :)
ok well u say to get to know him...i talked to him almost every nite on aim for 2 hours about random stuff and we laugh and watch tv together...hes like the best friend that is a guy ive ever had...he tends to like be "flirtatious" with girls alot even if hes just friends with him.....i cant tell if what he does with me is true or just him being himself(he puts his arm around me and talks, tells me all eve ngirls he likes or if he is weird, i played chiken with him and he asked me...he grabbed my feet in the pool and pulled me towards him and he was like walking on my feet afterschool--weird huh? i really like him and im afraid to break up with my bf because ive never done it before i dont kno what to do and im nto sure if i shud just say J things have been slightly weird do you like me...what to do??
I think you just casually ask him who he likes, if he's tight with you and its not you he'll tell you who it is. If he won't tell you, thats probably a sign that it might be you, or he just doesnt want to tell you. If it's not you, or he says he doesnt like you, you should stay with your boyfriend. If he does like you, and you like him more than your boyfriend, you should dump your boyfriend and go out with him. Always follow your heart :) hopefully you get this situation figured out.