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this bothers me
All of the other girls I know are always just SO happy and smiling all the time no matter what, it's like nothing could ever upset them.
I, however, am always frowning and mad/depressed looking and I can't help it. I just never feel happy. I have never been truly happy and whenever I do smile it's fake unless I'm laughing at something.
And the happy little perky ones are the ones who attract the most boys. Isn't it true that men are attracted to happy women?
I want to know how to be all happy and perky and cheerful and pleasant all the time. I've tried thinking happy thoughts but it just doesn't work. I only think about things that make me pissed, because my life is filled with them, and things about myself that I hate (plenty of those too).
please just answer.
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i know you know this, but you can't pretend to be happy! & sure its not cool to be pissed all the time either, but who knows, maybe if you stop trying SO hard, happiness will come! believe that you can make it happen! and i know its hard but don't think about the perky girls! you can be totally enjoying yourself and happy all the time, and not be like them! so make those girls be jelouse of YOU, not YOU jelouse of THEM! hope everything gos good! and it sounds like you have had a tough life, so make it better with getting God involved! that should make you MORE than happy! much lovee <3
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Wow! I don't know how old you are but I'm 14/f and I hate my life with a passion but I just act happy because acting sad doesnt get you anywhere and neither does acting happy. Because I'm always happy acting and I still cant attract guys but my sad sister can because she's two years older than me. So if you are 14 or 15 then just wait because guys will notice you! Believe me those girls that act like life is sooo fucking happi and nothing worries them at all are so fake, like me! Haha! But that doesnt mean you get b/fs becuz your happy! I still think that guys dont like me but I'll just wait for two or three years until guys are suppose to start going out with me because right now i'm just too young to hook up.
I really hope I helped you because I have the same problem!
~ Munchie!
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well some boys do like sad girls...
but if want to be happy.
try not thinkingn about the bad stuff and focus on a new hobby.
you only are depressed when you find time to sit around.
go out and do something(with friends)
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who knows they could be do the same thing your doing ... have any questions just IM me at HAPPY2HELPx33 or EMAIL me at HAPPY2HELPx33@aim.com
if you just wanna talk and get some things out of your system feel free to =)
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Believe me. They're upset. They're just not telling you.
From what you describe here, you know some people with something that I normally call "the gift."
They're always seeming happy and excited and this makes them confident to talk to anyone at any time, and when they're girls this means tons of guys.
They get depressed too. Either they have really good friends who cheer them up, or the people around them expect them to be cheery and lively and make sure that it happens. People like them for their liveliness and expect them to always be that way.
You can't make yourself happy all the time. This isn't the kind of "gift" you can go out and buy. It's just there if you got it. But you don't need it.
Just relax. Make yourself talk to people you wouldn't normally. It'll get easier. Don't be embarrassed to say hi to someone and then start talking about strawberry ice cream. You're trying to be nice, interesting, and funny, that's good. If someone thinks you're a freak for talking to them, than they need to grow up and realize that they talk and interact with new people every day, whether it be purchasing food at the grocery store, or checking out a library book. You have to make friends somehow, by talking to new people.
Most people, at least teenagers, feel like their lives are filled with shit, or hate things about themselves. It's easier to see bad things than good things sometimes. It's just something you have to fight.
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well first, what is making you so upsett? no one likes bein depreesed all the time. life is great, even when it's not. try doing things that make you happy. or go to a happy place in your life. be with the people that love, and forget about the rest. the past is the past.
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Most guys are attracted to sweet, happy, preppy girls. And you said you've tried to be happy by thinking happy thoughts, well, thats good, but you've got to live happy thoughts too. You need to make your life more happy. I used to be sad all the time and mad. Now, i've got a bright attitude towards most things. All I did was make my life happier by doing things I like to do. Like practice writing books for my future career as a writer, read, hang out with friends, and take a few risks. One risk was with me falling out of a tree, but it ended up being fun. You just need to do happy and fun things. I really hope I helped! :)
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To answer your first question about guys who are attracted to happy women, would you be attracted to someone who never looks happy? There is no sure fire way for you to be "happy" all the time, its something that is sewed into your personality. To be happy most of the time, you should think about all of the good things you have in life and not focus on the bad things. Find little things you can do that makes you happy. For me, it would be cooking something, or excersizing, or cleaning something. It makes me feel productive. Once you find these things, do them when you feel down and you will be instantly happy after. Sometimes you should distract yourself so you can forget about your life & live in the moment for a while. If this doesnt work, you should see a therapist because you might be depressed. Good luck :) & smile :D!
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