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My name is Melissa. I'm a sophomore, and finally SWEET 16. So, I'll be driving on January 7th. I usually go by May or Mel. In the picture is myself and my AMAZING boyfriend Kyle. He's truly my entire world & I'm not sure how I got lucky enough to get someone like him. I don't like girls. They're fake, and I just in general dislike most girls. Little known fact? There are times I hate my best friend, I mean, hate hate. She drives me insane. When I'm close friends with a girl it's a big deal. As far as best friends go; I have Kyle, who's the most amazing boyfriend in the world; Jennifer Anne Reese aka: PIECUP.. she's one of the few girls I'm close to. I'm generally a nice person, if I like you. If I don't, you'll know it.

In college I want to major in psychology; with a minor in wedding planning or some type of organizational planning type thing. I'm a planning freak. I ALWAYS have a plan, and if you don't plan stuff ahead of time, I'll probably kill you. I tend to change my plan spur of the moment a lot, but I always have one. Lol, one of those weird things about me.


I'm not that much of a "laid back" person. In general, I have my opinion, and I'm going to win. Drama = stupid. But just like every other girl on the planet, I definitely start my share of the drama. I don't like it, but it follows me like a puppy, so I'll just admit I start stuff.

I like giving advice. I've been through a lot, and I want to help people in any way I can. If you'd rather email or IM me, feel free to ask. ♥

advice

does anybody have any suggestions on halloween coustumes..

I'm being "myself". Literally.

Lol my friends & I are making tee's that on the front say: "We couldn't find costumes, so we're being ourselves"

Then putting our "names" on the back. Mine's going to say "Dizty Blonde" or "No, I'm knot the blonde one."

Lol it's just something fun. I think we might also tie die our shirts, so that will be fun. Good luck!
♥ Melissa

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What is your favorite perfume? What perfumes do guys like best?

For girls to wear:
(My personal opinion from what I've been told)
-Venom by Dior
-Curve for Women
-Lucky (cheapest, and it smells good)
-Chanel (hey, it's a classic lol)

For guys to wear:
-Curve
-Axe in Phoenix
-AAC
-Lucky for Men
♥ Melissa

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Ok, so tomorrow I am trying out for my school's cheerleading squad. I know the cheer and the dance really good, but I always get nervouse while performing in a group less than 5 people. We audition 2 at a time. Plus, my friend who was supposed to audition with me has decided not to try out at all. Now, what can i do to make it less intimidating? And dont say ignore them because I have to look straight at the judges and smile! please answer quickly!!! BeLLa DaNieLLa

DON'T BE NERVOUS!!!! Nomatter what you do just remember to smile, and use your nervous energy to make your muscles tighter & motions sharper.

Also, I don't know if you have any tumbling, but if you do try to do that first. Normally that relieves stress, so you'll feel a little more confident after doing something you KNOW you have. Good luck hunn!
♥ Melissa

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I'm 16 and I've never been in love. I'd just like to know if anyone else out there has ever been in my position, because I really feel alone. All of my friends throw around the word "love" after having a 2 hour bf/gf relationship. But, I'm scared when I'm older that I won't ever have that one person to wake up and want to be with everyday! It like scares me. Had anyone else been in my position?

First of all, it's SMART that you aren't / haven't been saying you love everybody that you like, or date. That's intelligent of you. And if you haven't been in love, don't worry! It'll come eventually, and you'll be glad that you waited to have those special feelings. Good luck!
♥ Melissa

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my girlfriend is having a halloween party and i forgot about it and made plans with my friends to go to the movies. should i go to half the party and then to the movies or to all of the party. do you think my girlfriend will be mad if i dont go to the whole party

HELLO?!?! You're her BOYFRIEND. If you don't go to HER party, what do you think that says? Ask her if your friends can come too. Then you can hang out with both. But you need to go to her party, expecially since you forgot about it and made other plans.
♥ Melissa

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14/f so i've been with my boyfriend for half a year.. and umm we made out a little i guess... so we were lying on my bed...watching tv and whatnot. his hand was on my pants playing with the belt hoops and suddenly he put his hand down my pants slightly...then he went farther and i kinda jumped...and told him no so he was okay with it...soo its a couple of days later..and i'm hanging out with him... he has his arms around me from behind and then his hands drop around my stomach and lower..then he puts his hands on my legs and he moves his hands... brushing up against /there/ and then he suddenly moves his hands to my stomach again...then few minutes later he puts his hands against THERE again...and i kinda got stiff...and i told him not to do it again.. i dunno.... so im just confused. in my mind i wouldn't mind if he did it but my parents said that im too young to do anything below the neck so.. yea and thats stuck in my head so i'm just stuck in middle of wondering what to do.. so..

the next time he does that..what do I do? break up with him or seriously tell him 'NO'. yeah..

lately hes getting a little weird..or horny i guess? cuz when we hang out...he's always behind me pushing my ass into him and whatnot... or like..he pushed me up into a table and talked to people while he was between me..then he would come closer and kiss me while leaning over the table a little too much.. almost like the missionary position. yeahhhh. i dunno. i'm just..blah right now. i don't want to have sex because that ruins a relationship...if you dont get enough or if you do it too much. gah. i dunno!

Next time he does it, have a serious talk with him and tell him that's not something you're comfortable with, and if he can't stop you'll have to break up with him. That SHOULD scare him. He shouldn't be doing that if you aren't ready and don't want him to.

If that's the only problem, you SHOULD be able to fix that. It shouldn't be a problem, because he should take no for an answer. If you really don't want to break up with him you need to explain to him that you don't want to do that and you aren't ready, and he needs to back off.
♥ Melissa

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OK,i have a guy friend named Klint he is 16 right and we were friends until we started liking eachother.....we went out and i cheated on him he broke up wit me and we decided to jus be friends,but after that we started hangin out right well...this is the part that confuzez me...when i'm wit him hangin out he alwayz wants to be all over me lik kissy,kissy and huggy,huggy, i alwayz ask why he is lik this and i tell him were jus friends but he ignores it.another part that confuzez me is that we broke up and r friends but he still treats me lik his gurlfriend.... and i don't want that plz i need advice!!Thnx!

Talk to him. Just tell him that if you're going to be friends, ACT LIKE FRIENDS, and if you're going to ACT like you're dating, then DATE. Don't confuse them, it just makes things harder.
♥ Melissa

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Drama!!everygurl goes through this...but in my case i'am sooo..sick of it my new main drama case is a SCHOOL...it involves my friends and some close people,wat do i do when sumone tells me that they think i'm talkin shit about them when i'm really not and then they befriend me b-cause of it even when i diden't do it!!ADVICE PLease!!

If you didn't do it, you didn't do it. Tell them you didn't do it and then let them think what they want. Worrying won't do anything, talk to them and then let it go.
♥ Melissa

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i am a 14 year old freshman and i have a problem concentrating. i allow peoples opinion to rule me and get my off track.its so hard for me to concentrae because i want everyone to like me so i allow what they think of me to get on my nerves.i really need to concentrate this year because i heard that freshmans have problems their 1st yearand its hard to get back on their 2nd year.i wanna know what didi you do to keep focused on your school work and how did u keep peoples opinion from bothering you? can u contact me at ragingtaurus058@yahoo.com. Thanks! bye!

That was definitely my biggest problem last year. I wanted to be everybody's best friend, play sports, AND keep good grades. Plus, do stuff like clubs, etc. It was REALLY hard. One thing you need to remember is to put school first. School is, more than likely, the base of your future, and that's what should be MOST important.

Think about friends in this way, the more people that you're friends with, the more drama, the more fighting, the more people you think you have to please. If you have a group of really close friends, that's better than having a lot of friends that you don't talk to much or are as close to. It's nice to have a lot of friends, but that COULD mean more problems. (I don't know how dramatic your school is.)

First year isn't the hardest academically, it's hard to get adjusted. Through middle school they still remind you about every little thing, and pretty much hold your hand. In high school, it's pretty much a reality check. Here comes life, get ready. It's all worth it though.

Be confident in YOURSELF. Nomatter what. (= Everybody's amazing in their own way, and if you have close friends, you're luckier than some. Don't let people's opinions get in your way of having fun and being yourself.

I'm actually at school right now, but if you leave me your AIM screen name, I'll be more than happy to IM you when I'm at home. Thanks!
♥ Melissa

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Hey, So I screwed up really bad. I stole 3 pairs of pants from one of my friends. But then I gave them back, I said sorry and explained myself and everything. But now I don't feel like any of my friends like or trust me. What can I do to get our friendship back? PLEASE HELP!!

There's no good way to earn that trust back. You're just going to have to give them time and hope they forgive you. You did it, and now you have to deal with the consequences. Try being friends with them but if they don't trust you, there's not much you can do. Good luck.
♥ Melissa

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There's a girl that I've liked for about 2 months. She's just about my perfect girl, but had been going out with this guy since I met her. I gave up on her about 2 weeks ago cuz he friends said she always has really long relationships. I moved on to this other girl and her and I hit it off. I told the 2nd girl that I like her today, and she said she liked me too. But not 10 minutes after that I found out the first girl was finally single. I think I might like the first girl more, but now it's like the 2nd girl expects her and I to go out. What should I do? Which one should I pick? And how do I not make myself look like an asshole either way? I'll rate high for good answers.

If you've been waiting a long time for the first girl, you should take your chance with her while you still have it. Just tell the second girl that you can't date her right now. You might make yourself look like an ass, but it's probably worth it end the end.
♥ Melissa

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Ok, I like this guy and I am trying to figure out if he likes me. He isnt a giant flirt, but he is sweet. If I say I am cold he gives me his jacket. If he wants to talk he will come in to some of my classes during passing period to surprise me. Today before last period he waitied for me to come in to the class so we could talk and so I could give him his jacket back. But know it wasnt just for the sweater, because this teacher came out and was like "uhh, you need to get to class cuz you are going to be late. So he goes "Oh I can run a few extra laps" I love being around him and I like him so much! Please, does he like me or what?

*I rAtE hIgH*

It looks like he likes you. But nothing's definite unless THEY say it! So just ask him. Or slip a note into his jacket next time you borrow it. (= Good luck! Let me know how it turns out, pleaseeee!
♥ Melissa

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ok...im like one of the most popular girls at school but my friend is known as a "almost geek" and i love her to death shes like my sister...and i have been so popular since elementary school and i cant give that up but i also cant give my bestfriend up...Why is this so hard for me to decide on?What should i do give up popularity or help my friend become popular 2? please help!!
15
female

One part of being "popular" SHOULD BE being nice and being friends with a lot of people. That means that you can be friends with anyone you want. If you're best friend isn't "popular", so what? Ask her to hang out with your "popular" friends, if you're friends with all of them they can be friends too. Nomatter what, don't forget your best friend. She's been there for you, and it wouldn't be fair to abandon her.
♥ Melissa

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ok i have this friend...she's 17 years old and she was in this religion where you can only wear skirts and you cant cut your hair and all that kind of stuff and she got pregnant so now she's no longer in this "religion" but i found out last weekend she's pregnant by a guy that i use 2 be so inlove with...i want to still be friends with her because we grew up together and she's like my sister and she has had a rough life but then i dont want to get a bad name for being friends with her!! What should i do? And should i forgive her for messing with my ex boyfriend because we promised each other we would never date another ones ex or anything because thats wrong...what do i do...HELP
15 female

Okay, if she's your FRIEND, then you shouldn't be worried about getting a "bad name" by being a friend. That's ridiculous, and immature. Right now, she's going to need her friends. Don't abandon her just because you're worried about YOURSELF. If you're that upset about her being with your ex, then talk to her about how you're feeling.
♥ Melissa

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my mom is getting my back all the time about her husband he ain't my dad he is my step dad...she always be saying all this stuff i can't take it.. can some body help me...i will rate good

For future reference, because my guess is you're a teen who should be capable of typing a sentence:

My mom is always getting on my back all the time about her husband. He isn't my dad, he's my step dad. She's always saying stuff that I can't take. Can somebody please help me? I will rate good (well).

Anyways, talk to your mom about it? If you're living with them and not 18, there's not much that you can do about it. Good luck.
♥ Melissa

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Last saturday I went on a "date" with my guy friend Jake. After we went out to eat, we sat in his car for a few minutes and just talked. I've never hugged him, or anything. But we were sitting there, and I put my head down to pick something up when he touched my hair and said, I love your hair. you look so beautiful with it. After that I was like, omgosh he's the best guy ever! Is this normal? Like just from him touching my hair and telling me I look beautiful - like I think I'm really starting to like him.

Sorry if this sounds cheesy.

I personally would say that you liked him before, obviously since you went on a date with him, lol, but with him saying that you're realizing that you like him a LOT. Just take it as a compliment, and continue spending time with him. It's always nice to be complimented once in a while. (=
♥ Melissa

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ok...i have a problem i guess this involves school and friendship and relationship problems...but here it goes...last year i had this boyfriend that i loved to death but i felt like he was using me for sex and i always did what he wanted...well little did i know my bestfriend was going back to school telling other people what we did on the weekends and i was homeschooled for the first time last year and i went back to public school this year and a guy in that class was one that she told everything to and he thinks im easy and he tells all his friends that...well now i found out my ex boyfriend went back to school last year and told everybody what we did and everything and now all the guys think im easy but thats not true and alot of guys are wanting to go out with me but i feel like its because of that...what would you do? what should i do?
15/female

You know the truth, so don't let stupid guys bother you. Just make sure you don't do things to make you look easy. If they want to think that, let them. If they have nothing better to do than talk about is YOUR sex then they aren't getting any are they? [Lol feel free to say that to THEM. (; ] But really, don't worry about it. They aren't worth your time. And you can still date, just make sure they like you for the right reasons.
♥ Melissa

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Hey, well im gonna go to a 'party' on friday well i wouldnt call it a party cause my friend is haveing me and 2 other girls spend the night and her brother is haveing 4 freshman spending the night to.... me and my friends are 13 and 14 and him and his friends are 14 and 15...Well two of my friends already have 'dibs' on two of the guys..... so ive never met any of theses guys soo i dont know witch one ill 'click' with.... but like my friends are telling me ill like this one kid because we are both alike.... but thier telling me that he is 'sexually active' so like i dotn want to get like to close to him cause i have to sleep there.... so should i even go to the party and have fun but possibly do something i might regret or should i stay home and miss a great party and just being pariniod(sp)over nothing

thanks soo much!!!

p.s. im 13 and the guy their telling me i like is 15

First of all, just because there are going to be guys there -sexually active or not- doesn't mean YOU should miss out on a good party! Go, and if you don't feel comfortable don't stay. And remember, no IS answer. If you don't want to do something, don't. It's that simple.
♥ Melissa

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ok so i like this guy and for once a guy is taller than me hes 6 foot and im 5'8 so im thrilled anyways i have 2 classes with him and one of the classes i have lunch in and he eats with me and ill still his seat or he'll give me his cookies bc he knos i like them and he always gets to english before me on purpose bc he knows it bugs me only problem hes kinda shy and so am i thats why i think he might like me but i dunno i want him to ask me out does he like me as just a friend or is this flirting? should i give up or not? im not the kind of person to make a first move so i want him to someone please help! i just want to know what is going on if what im doing is right if i need to flirt more or whatever so yea help me somebody please! thanx bunches!

If he's shy.. you might HAVE to make the first move. He might not even know that you like him, because that's just how boys are. Good luck (=
♥ Melissa

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