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if a girl like never stops talking to me on msn and facebook sometimes until 1am or later does that means she realy likes likes me and wants to go out?

( i have already asked her out and she said she needs to think about it. but i can tell she has some strong feelings for me.)

what do i do?

it sounds like she likes you but shes trying to play hard to get, or maybe shes trying to decide if her feelings for you are strong enough. as for the long conversations if shes staying up tell 1 am to talk to you, she must really like you and will probally end up going out with you.
(i would try getting her number and calling her)
pleasee keep me updated =D

I cant get a picture to upload on to my profile. It says all my pictures are too big or whatever. Is there a way to make them smaller. Because ive tried a lot of different pictures but they dont want to work for me! well thanx in advance

try tinypics.com its really easy.
just click browse
download your pic
(it only takes a few seconds)
then copy and paste
the little picture on the side of the url's

OK, im doomed! I stayed back last year and they think I dont shower, im gross and all this stuff.Well I do have friends and I hang out with this kid named Steven, and I like steven. Now kids know I like steven but I dont want steven to know.. Its not as easy and I ask him out everyone would lauph and it and it madders to me. And it sucks because we have to do tis inventors thing and he's my partner and he does nothing! and its hard to try and concintrate next to the kid u like I really need a good grade so how do i concintrate on my work and not flirting with him??

well first of all..it sounds like he likes you too. when a guy first finds out that you like him and if he likes you back he'll start getting really nervose around you andd thats probally the reason hes not talking to you and not helping you with the project. as for flirting and working i would try working then your there and maybe asking him to hangg with you afterwards. make your move =]]

Alrighty my situation is: making out. I jsut DONT get it. It doesn't come natural for me. So EXACTLY what do you do? Explanations please, because, I feel stupid. And please, don't say "its hard to explain, it comes naturally, once you being you'll know what to do"...not for me.

Take it Easy.
When it comes to kissing, keep your lips soft and gentle. Think of kissing something very tender. You can practice on the back of your hand! There are long kisses, and there are kisses made up of a whole bunch of short, gentle little kisses. Go with the flow, and let your partner take the lead if you are not sure which way the kiss is going. When you are in the middle of the kiss, concentrate on feeling the friction between your lips and his, the electricity when the surface of your lips and his match up, and how each of you are moving your lips in rhythm with each other. Getting out of your head and focusing totally on the physical sensation of the kiss can add some real power and sensuality to your kissing.

Tongue or Not?
Keep in mind that using your tongue is not required for kissing... if you are not experienced, save the French kissing (kissing using your tongue) for later. Lots of the greatest kisses are all about the lips. When you are comfortable kissing your partner, experiment with different ways to taste and nuzzle his lips. Nibble his lower lip lightly (DON'T bite), caress his lips by brushing your lips back and forth against them, lick the outside corners of his mouth, and try using different pressures and movements to gently explore your partner's lips. Notice how good his lips feel against yours, and try different things to make them feel even better!

The Eyes Have It.
As for your eyes, keep them closed once you are into the kiss. You might want to keep them open until you have actual lip contact, so you don't miss and end up with a mouthful of ear. But when the kiss has started, eyes closed is the way to go. It can really help you shut out the world and focus only on the kiss. Also, kissing with your eyes open can weird out a guy, if he happens to catch you doing it. A valuable Jellybean tip: guys who kiss with their eyes open are usually thinking of something else besides you. If you catch your partner kissing with eyes wide, be careful - he might not be good boyfriend material.

The Most Important Lesson.
That's all you really need to know about kissing... except for one more, very important reminder. ENJOY THE KISS. Staying in the moment and enjoying the experience has a lot to do with what makes a memorable kiss. The best way to kill a kiss is to dwell on how you're doing, concentrate too hard on getting the "right" kissing technique down, or let your mind wander to what your partner thinks about you. The single most important thing to remember about kissing is to BE IN THE MOMENT and enjoy the kiss for itself. This is what it's all about... the simplest and greatest of pleasures, the soft friction, the tender wetness, the heat of his face so close to yours... kissing is great. Possibly the greatest. So kiss with confidence... and have FUN!
hope i helped =]

Okay to start off,I'm going out with this guy Jason and he's told me I love you and all that and I like him and everything just not love.He always ditches me and never hangs with me or anything.And theres this guy Syd in my class and I think he likes me...I've asked him out already (recently) and he said no but me friend Heather said she overheard Nate (Syd's friend) saying that if he went out with me,he'd never talk to Syd again.That's probably why Syd said no.So me and Syd have had joke plans to you know *cough cough do it* and all this and we met to and we didn't have protection so I just gave him a h.a.n.d.j.o.b. with my shirt off.and f.l.a.s.h.e.d. him.We're not going out and we're both seeing someone.I know it sounds like a slutty thing to do :|.Also I put the .'s in cuz my dad has a keylogger and he can serch words so ya.And I'm 13 year old in grade 7 and he's 13 and PLEASE don't give me a lecture please.I know I shold have waited but I didn't and I already regret that so PLEASE no lectures.Thank you

im not trying to lecture you and i know this is something you dont want to hear. well your not a slut. but you really need to figure out what you want to do. you seem really confused and you really need to have some morals, seriously your only 13 and no matter what you think, YOU ARE NOT READY TO HAVE SEX. even if you really like this guy, its not worth it to have people think your a whore and totally ruin your reputation just for a guy, when you already have a boyfriend. it sounds like you have good parents that care about you if they care what your looking at and saying online, they WILL find out if you have sex. pplease dont do something your gonna regret. and

Well I dated this guy for about two weeks before he left for a working vacation in California. He was my first boyfriend, first kiss, and first guy I almost fell in love with. Everything seemed so perfect until he left.

He stopped calling or talking to me online. I thought it was because of the time difference being a pain and he was working a lot and catching up with friends. Well, he was gone for about a week and, long story short, I found out that he was hanging out with this girl and talking about hooking up with her.

I asked him over MySpace if he wanted to date other people while he was gone because I was fine with it considering we'd only dated for about 3 weeks. He said he wasn't dating other people and had no intention of it. Time went by and the girl he was talking to kept IMing me and telling me some stuff. I didn't want to believe her, but it was obvious that he was lying to me.

I made myself miserable and cried for days. I was physically sick over it. I finally broke it off with him because he was 1) ignoring me and 2) acting like everything was fine and 3) treating me like I was the bad guy for not trusting him when it was so obvious he wasn't telling the truth. I wanted to be friends with him still, but it's obvious that's not what he wants.

I thought he was serious about me. Everything he did made it seem like he was REALLY into me, and it's possible that he could have been the whole time. But something happened between him leaving and now and he became a totally different person and is now officially dating this girl.

I'm trying really hard to get over him and I'm not crying and stuff over it anymore because I know it had to be done, but I still can't stop thinking about him and every time I do I get sick to my stomach. It just won't go away and I feel sick all the time unless I'm out with my friends. And I can't do that every day.

How can I get over him? All I want is to stop thinking about him and feel better, physically. Is there anything I can do? Will breaking up always be like this? I'm so consumed with this. Help!

well moving on isnt something that happens over night you have to make sure your really ready to let go. but untill you are its okay to think about him and miss him theres nothing wrong with that he had a big piece of your heart and obviously still does. so dont throw yourself at every guy trying to replace him because then your just forcing yourself to see how impossible he is to replace. and then when your ready you'll meet someone knew and hopefully then you'll be able to give your heart away to this new guy;; hope i helped

Recently, I found out that my boyfriend of 6 months is getting kinda bored with what we do. The farthest we've gone is making out and that's the farthest we will go. And then all he talks about with his friends is how he almost spent the night with some hot chick. I don't want to break up, but it upsets me that I'm getting old or something. I don't know what I'm doing wrong. We do kinda make out a lot when we see each other, but what else are we supposed to do?

just because your boyfriend is bored with you.. please dont be pressured to do things that your not ready to do. if you feel like you've been going out for long enough, then i would maybe start doing other stuff like giving him a handjob..letting him finger you or w/e but if you dont feel like your ready...dont. you'll regret it so much later, its not worth it. If your boyfriend really does love you..he wont break up with you becasue of it either.. good luck keep me updated =]]

ok i dont kno if i put it under the right category..sorry! lol..but anyways i have a problem with my nose..its peels ALL THE TIME..AND ON TOP OF THAT ITS SHINY..I DONT GET IT..PEELING USUALLY OCCURS BECAUSE THE SKIN IS DRY AND THEN AGAIN MY NOSE IS SHINY WHICH MEANS IT HAS MOISTURE..does anybody know how i could fix this...?

i would try oil of olay (idk if i spelled that right lol) but it works really well. after that i would put some liquid cover up on it..so it doesnt look as shiny.

i was going out with this boy before and we broke up, a few weeks later he got with one of my friends, but now we are goign back out but i can't help to think what he thinks when he sees her or really what happened between them two..what can i do to not be so jealous of something that happened 8 months ago?

okayy well i used to be in the same situation. my bestfriend and my boyfriend went out and now that im going out with him i feel like they probally still have feelings for eachother. i just learned to realise that if my boyfriend wanted to be with my friend..he would be, but hes not hes with me. so his feelings are obviously stronger with me, than with my friend. hope i helped =]]

i am taking your advice with d and i need your opinion and J. at the pool party he was like touching me and pourng water on my head and when i went to swim away he grabbed my legs andd pulled me in and i was like j stopp your gonna drown me and he stopped and laughed and then he was like do you want to be my chiken partner and i said yes (AND I FELT BAD THAT D WAS WATCHING BUT HE WAS TOO SHY TO ASK ME SO THATS HIS PROBLEM) we hung out and he has been my friend for a long time and he tells me everything about who he likes and originally he liked my frend C and now he doesnt but he has always liked this other girl but he knows he cant have her because shes with someone and he only likes her because shes pretty and i dont kno what to do and cant tell if he likes me please help

it seems like your friend really likes you..but it also seems like your probally making your bf feel like crap. i mean how would you like it if he was playing chicken with another girl and you had to sit there and watch..not very good im guessing. so if you dont like your boyfriend as much as you like your friend (i dont know if this is how you feel but it seems like it is) then i would def break up with your boyfriend.

I like this guy and i think he likes me back but I am not sure. Anyhoo I was wondering if there are any flirty things i can do or say when I am with him to hint that I like him.

Thanks

go to myjellybean.com
go under guys
and then flirting guide
its amazinggg

ok so my 100$ dollars was sitting on my dresser and then i looked later on today and its not there. ive done looked everywhere, i threw everything off my dresser , and went through it AND my drawers , ive looked under my dresser and any place i thought it would or wouldnt be. my dads mad at me cause i lost it , and my mom is sad because my dad blamed her. my boyfriend lives with me too but i doubt he took it. i need major help finding it , i know theres not much anyone can do , but help in any way shape or form! :] thanxxx

okayy no offence to the girl below me but i deff. wouldnt ask your boyfriend if he took it. you dont just think $100 dollars is your when its not..so he either stole it and is going to deny it once you ask him (which i doubt) or hes gonna think you dont trust him (which would be really bad) soo i hope your money turns up =]]

my boyfriend and i live very far apart. a while back i introduced him to a friend. while i was in a group home, he cheated on me with her, and once when i got back. we have been off and on the past year. and before that we were together 3 years. i go on his myspace to make sure she don't leave him comments. and i leave him one. he had her on his top friends for a while, and finally took her off completely cuz i made him. im worried she is going to do something to mine and his relationship again. how can i get her to leave his and my relationship alone and get him to stay away from her.

wow you derserve soo much better. if hes gonna hook up with one of your friends then why would you want to be with a guy thats gonna treat you like that? yeahh i would be extremely mad at the girl who did this to you..but its him you need to be mad at..im sooo sorry that this happened to you. please keep me updated id love to see what happens =]

theres this guy that i really like..i think he likes me too but i don't wanna ask him out cuz thats weird..how do i make him ask me out?

Attract the type of guy you're looking for by emphasizing your best features and downplaying negative qualities. That means making the most of what you have, both physically and mentally. For example, if you don’t like your flat chest but you’ve got wicked muscular thighs, show off your best assets in cute minis that put the attention on your great legs. If you're not much of a comedian in class, but you are a caring type of person, go out of your way to be helpful to others and let that compassion shine. Boys can sense when a girl is desperate for a boyfriend, and it makes them run in the other direction. Most boys want to hook up with confident girls who seem like they don't need a boyfriend to have a good time. If you appear to be happy, self-assured and fun to be around, guys will take a second look at you. Yes, boys like good-looking girls, but beauty only gets you so far. Most boys with any dating experience know that it's better to date a fun and interesting regular chick, than a boring as mud beauty queen. Flirting really is a girl's best friend. Once you've set your sights on a cutie, take things to the next step by learning to attract his attention with flirting. This can help you become friendly with him, and you can learn to send the subtle signal that you're interested in becoming more than just friends.Love can surface in unexpected places and at unexpected times. Keep your eyes open wherever you are and learn to look beneath the surface of guys. Remember, the right guy for you is somewhere out there, and he's looking for you too!

have fun

ok well i used to go out with this guy sean. I went out with him for about a year, and we were always off and on, maybe bc we lived so far apart and we didnt get to see eachother that often. Soon after we broke up, i started to see a kid named brennon. ( i went out with him too wen i was off and on with sean ) he was ok. Sean was better. So me and sean havent talked in 2 years and now he suddenly texts me and wants to get bak together and so does brennon. But for all this time ive been crushingg on brennon... what should i do ?

i think you should go out with brennon. you and sean obviously have grown apart..and after two years its not going to be the same as it was. plus if you guys were on and off and had problems the first time you dated..its possible it will happen again =]]

Why would a guy that you work with flirt with you for months and stare at you constantly, and smile when you walk in the room; but then when you finally show an interest in him he freaks out and barely talks to you anymore? Does that mean he lost interest? Or could there be another reason for this change?

well usually when a guy finds out you like him..and he feels the same he'll get really nervose and not talk to you..so this is a good sign =]] have fun.

i need flirting tips fast cause i want to flirt with these boy that i like but idk want to do

okay well first of all if you worry too much about what you're saying and how you're saying it, you'll seem distracted and not very interested in the person you're talking to. Instead of being wrapped up in yourself, focus your attention on the guy who's talking to you. Don't think ahead to what you're going to say next! Really listen to what he is saying and respond with thoughtful answers that show you've been listening.Don't let fear of rejection or bad experiences from the past make you paranoid about a conversation that's happening in the present. Try to relax and focus only on the person you are talking to. Remember that he is probably more nervous than you! If you have to, fake being perfectly at ease and it will turn into reality. The best flirts are girls who can do it without expecting anything to come of it. Guys love flirting with girls who seem like they could get anyone they want. Develop that attitude! Try to think of flirting as an enjoyable activity in itself, without always worrying about the final result. It's kind of like shopping - you can have fun cruising the mall and trying on clothes, even if you don't end up buying anything. Of course, your ultimate goal is to score "the perfect outfit" - but don't be in a rush, or you'll scare off guys by seeming desperate. Practice flirting with guys you aren't that interested in, and soon you'll be able to flirt with the guy you adore and still seem casual. good luck!!

how can i get my eye makeup to look like avril lavignes in her video for girlfriend?

also how can i get my hair to look like this

http://republika.pl/blog_sq_178295/2047408/tr/darcy.jpg
??

well i cant help you with the eye makeup but as the hair its hard to say without knowing what kind of hair you have..if your hairs straight i would try curling the ends diffrent ways soo it'll look sorta wavy..or you could scrunch it a little. if your hairs curly try blowing it somewhat straight and curling the endss. hope i helped =]

ok so my absolutely lovely girlfriend is out of town for three weeks. what are some ways that can stop me from missing her so much?

hmm..i would try to do stuff to take your mind off her..and call or text her often..send her stuff like flowers and a letter or something..she'll love you foreverr. haha =]

Okay. So theres this guy..D..we dated in the past. An recently we broke up. A couple weeks after we broke up I started missing him..dearly. He came over today. We, kinda, had sex. This wasnt the first time either. I know I should be trying to get over him. But I love him. So So So Much. The Problem is..he doesnt want a relationship but he also says he doesnt want to lose me. I want him to be happy. I just love him soo much. I don't know what to do.. help me..please

are you sure you really wanna be in a relationship with this guy i mean hes pretty much saying i wanna have sex with you but i dont want a relationship..but i would talk to him say something like i really love you but i dont wanna mess around with you if you dont want a relationship..because i do. hope i helped

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