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Q: heres the long story semi short. I used to work with this guy that I spoke to but we were never exactly close, and I had transfered to a different store and never got to say bye to him, he was asking around on what happened to me and everyone told him I had school, anyways, he had came to my store to drop something off and was surprised to see me. we exchanged numbers and spoke, we hung out, kissed, bought me food and visited me on my breaks on his night off and what not.. he gave me mixed signals and the whole bit.. we then had a blow out and stopped talking last January. I had moved across country 2 weeks later, and was gone until August. In March is when we had our birthday's and I didn't want to tell him happy birthday on his exact day so I waited a week later and texted him "hey", I got no response and the next week was my birthday and he texted me on the exact day and said "u back?" and I went "huh?" and got no response back.. I came home, and a week of being home I was having a car issue and I needed a quick answer so he was the first one I thought of..so I texted him.. with no absolute intentions of being friends again. but he is a car freak so it kind of worked. haha..anyways, he started talking to me again, and I told him that I had no intentions on being friends again. He found it a tad painful..and we kinda talked about the whole situation.. things started falling back to how they used to be..and he was all flirty with me.. calling me and texting me when I didn't. Everyone around me knew I was confused on what I wanted..and wasn't sure if I wanted to be friends with him or not, and he was going through some major stuff.. and I tried to stick by him while dealing with my stuff and adjusting to being home after being on my own for 7 months.. and well I purposely pushed him away last week...and we blew up into a whole big fight again..and he tried to hurt me by calling me a slut and a dumb bitch and another 4 letter word that I won't repeat (but you can guess what word it was). and in the process I just laughed during the whole fight through text message because he was finding a way to hurt me when he knew I wasn't any of these words that he was calling me..

5 days later (yesterday).. he texts me "hi" and I go "can i help you?" and hes all "oh sorry" and im like "?" and hes all "its tj", and im all 'why are u talking to me?" and i got no response.. and hour later i asked him again.. and he said it wasn't him that said it, and i asked him why is my number still in his phone (though clearly my number was in his phone while i was gone and we didnt speak for 7 months), and he never responded and finally he said that i was an asshole and that he never wanted me and that he had a girl and i just didn't get it.. and i snapped back that he had kissed me after he told me "friends dont kiss", and he told me to eff off.. and again I never got the reason of why does he still have my number..and well decided not to respond back to him..

On monday I had decided to change my number to get away from him and my ex.. (and ironically this dude texts me the next morning when it wasn't him?) anyways, my new number goes into affect the 27th because I had submitted applications for new jobs so I can't change my number just yet..my friend and I were discussing how it would be a good idea 2 days before my number changes to text him and tell him my last piece on how I really thought of him as a brother more than anything, I'm going to take 2 weeks to really think about what to say before I say it.. but do you think I should go with it and speak my last piece and then have my number change, then we have no accidental calls or texts anymore and we have no form of contact unless one of us has to go to the other store for something? and what do you think I should say? by the way he's 32 and i'm 21..
First of all I don't think that I like this guy by what you said, to me it sounds like he has a lot of issues. I think that you're being very smart by changing your number and not contacting him.

If you think that it's important to change your number to avoid calls and texts from him than I would suggest that you do so. If you feel like it's necessary to say anything to him about this tell him that you really don't want to talk to him, wish him good luck and tell him that you're changing your number and you would perfer not hear from him again... if you can think of a nicer way to say that then do so.

Make sure that if you have any mutual friends at the store that you both work in, or worked in that you tell them not to give him your phone number in case he asks for it.

In the unlikely chance that he gets ahold of your phone number again, you could probably call your phone company and block him from contacting you.

If you do pass each other in the store and he says hi to you, be friendly and say hi back, try to keep the conversation as short and sweet as possible.

Q: Our 16 girl wants to date a 20 year old man who dropped out of High School, doesn't have a job, lives with his mother and is not very intelligent. Our girl is in middle college and gets straight A's.

This all started 3 weeks ago. She lied about his age and the nature of the relationship. One week in we discovered the truth and decided that we had to intervene. After speaking with both of them about how it was not only an immoral, but possibly illegal relationship, he was quick to point out the legal age of consent in our state is 16. We told them to wait until she's 18. He seemed rather upset, so the next day I went to his social network page where he had posted the following:
"me plus you equals violence, creepin up behind you I'm stalking you silent, dressed in all black I'm the nighttime assailant, grab you by the neck and stab you with my nine inch, knife, quick like, I end lifes, no strife, i mean i need just one swipe, and then I wipe, your existence away, I'm the evil son, so let me in to play." I also found older posts of murdering people and my favorite" My penis is a weapon".

Though her mother was with me on keeping them from dating, she is now thinking supervised visits is a better option to divert a possible Romeo/Juliette scenario after we discovered that there were over 1400 texts between them in 9 days. Her thinking is the more time they spend together, the more likely the girl will be to discover that the price charming is really a toad. I think a forced separation is in order complete with GPS activated on her cell phone so we know where she is at all times (she has a car).

I am very saddened by all of this because I had a close relationship with her. I have spent a long time explaining why dating him is a terrible idea and that we are really looking out for her and trying to protect her. Since I was the person who told them to stop, I am now the worst person in America. I know after a period of time she will someday be able to appreciate what I am doing, but for now she thinks I am mean and stupid. It would be helpful to be able to give her reason's on why dating a 20 year old man is not a great idea since my reasons have not resonated with her.

I am totally stumped on what to do in this situation and welcome some new ideas.
I agree with WingYang about what you should do in this situation. At 16 years old, you think that you know everything and unfortunately most could careless about what their parents have to say. She is at an age where she is rebelling, and if you tell her that she can't see him she will continue to see him behind his back.

The situation will only get worse, fighting about this with her will only strain her attitude towards you even more.

Back when my sister was 16 she started dating a guy, who was two years older than her, my parents weren't exactly big fans of his. However my dad knew that if he kept her away from him that she would eventually run away, Because of that he decided that the best way for her to realize what kind of a person he was, it took years but eventually she did. Hopefully your daughter is smarter than my sister was.

At age 26, ten years later, my sister regrets this relationship very much.

I do support the supervised visits idea at least until you get to know this guy a bit better, and know that he's not going to harm your daughter.

Q: Is anyone on here in a LDR? I'm with this guy that I really like but I'm going across the country for college and just wanted other peoples opinions on it.
I am in a semi-long distance relationship with a great guy who lives a state away from me. I'm starting a new job next week, and I can definitely see it working out. We've been together for six months and he's the most caring of all of my boyfriends.

However he is not all the way across the country, it's not as expensive to see him and it's relatively easy. With him being across the country, the only way that I can think that you're going to get to see him is if you fly there. Have you looked at air rates, are they affordable?

Do you plan to work when you're in college? If so, are these air rates something that you can afford on the typical salary that you're going to make? Chances are at a part time job you are not going to make enough money to make it affordable for you to fly across the country.

Also when you enter college you are going to meet several new people, and with him being so far away you're going to drift apart. When I was a senior in high school, about two years ago, I actually overheard a teacher talk to these girls about her husband who she met in college, when she was dating another guy who was long distance. She said that long distance can work if you really want it to.

Do you really want this to work? Because you're going to have to take a few factors into consideration, such as the opportunities that you could have to date other guys in college who would be closer to you and you could have more of a relationship with, whether your relationship is strong enough to last and if it would be actually be affordable for you to see him.

I wish you good luck with whatever you decide to do :).

Q: My boyfriend is my best friend! We've been dating for almost two months but we have been good friends for about six months. We're inseperable and have a strong trust and chemistry with each other. I've only had sex twice, and so has he, but we both feel ready to go to the next step. My boyfriend has always been very patient with me and he is so sweet. I have never felt more comfortable with anyone like I do with him. I'm not very experienced with sex and I'm a little nervous. We're planning to do this on Friday, and we will use protection. I'm just scared I won't be satisfying. I never enjoyed giving oral and I'm very sensitive, and pretty tight... So I don't know if I will please him like I want to. I am so in love with him, as he is with me, and I just want to have an enjoyable, passionate sexual experience with him without being nervous... Any advice?
I think that every girl is nervous about her first time after being sexually inexperienced, which you mentioned you are because you only have had sex twice, so I would suggest that you relax. Gr8Fruit's right about telling him that you're nervous about your first sexual experience together. The two of you have a special chemistry together and want to share something special. You should keep that mind when you're getting nervous about this.

He's probably not expecting for you to be "amazing" in bed either, you mention that he's only had sex twice. I'm not going to tell you that your first time together is going to be amazing. Unless the two of you are experienced with sex, it's going to take a while to learn what you like.

Remember if your first time isn't mind-blowing you just have to learn what the two of you both like. Communication is number one in a sexual relationship, including with matters about sex.

Just be careful, which I see that you are being, and enjoy your first sexual experience with him :).

Q: We use condoms and I'm on birth control and he goes inside me (with the condom on). Should i be worried about pregnancy?
In most cases cumming inside of you is fine when he's wearing a condom. Although it's recommended by experts that even if you are on birth control or condoms, it is a good idea to pull out. That being said, unless a condom breaks (and he'd be a douche to not pull out and tell you this) and you miss your pill you probably don't have anything at all to worry about.

Q: I have been dating this really sweet guy and he is my first boyfriend. I have realized i really dont have those feelings for him even though i thought i did. Either i have to end it. He has told my friends he really really likes me and i dont know how to break it off with him. I feel so bad. How can i let him down gently
Breaking up with someone is always hard to do, I've honestly never been the one to do the breaking up. The closest I ever came to being in that situation was asking one of my ex boyfriends if he wanted to break up. I don't exactly know how to tell you to do this in a way that's not going to hurt him.

But I would definitely break up with him face to face, I had a boyfriend who dumped me out of the blue in a instant message. What he did was cowardly and it really, really hurt.

And the best thing to do is to give him the truth, that way he's not wondering why. Tell him that you thought that you really liked him and now that you're getting to know him and your relationship is progressing, you think that he's a really nice guy, but you just don't see it going anywhere because you don't have the same feelings for him that you once thought you did.

Q: 15/f

Well......There is this guy me and him are Best Friends even after we went out. He is a year younger than me but we diceied to give it a shot. We went out for like a week we wouldnt do anything like hold hands or kiss that kind of stuff because my cousis were down and they were ALWAYS around us. When we were going out I aksed why he liked me and he said the sweetest thing "I liked you the very frist day i meet you" That was sweet. But now he is going out with this girl a year younger than him and im mad because he said the only reason he is going out with her is becuase she will 'put out'. The only reason we didnt do anything was because of my family it isnt my fault.
So....my question is How do I deal with this i really like him.....and i wanna go back out with him but he is goin out with a girl 2 younger than me and 1 year younger than him.
This is not going to be what you want to hear, but I'm going to tell you why everyone (including me) has the same feelings on this issue.

I'm going to repeat what everyone else said. I know that this guy is your friend and you have a huge crush on him, but he really doesn't seem to be worth, for a few reasons. Let me spell them out for you:

# 1 - He expected you to put out after a week and broke up with because you weren't, I am 5 years older than you and my youngest boyfriend (and current) is 7 years older than you are, the oldest boyfriend I have had is 12 years older than you are. None of them expect for girls to put out to them after a week, in fact they were decent enough to wait until the girl was ready.

# 2 - It sounds like he's using the girl that he's dating right now for sex. At thirteen, you are still very naive when it comes to things like this, in fact at fifteen you are as well. If a guy is using his current girlfriend that's a good indication that he's going to use you.

This guy made it clear to you, he just wants sex and even if he didn't he has a girlfriend.... I hate to tell you this because I'm sure that it would have irritated me to hear this at fifteen as well, but it means that you back off.

P.S. There are several guys out there more worthy of your time, just don't 'put out' quickly to them. You will be much happier if you date them for a while, before having sex.

Q: im 13/g and u just found IM being used. so there was this guy that was my friend and stuff. and i trusted him.so just yesterday i found out he was just acting like my friend.like, this other girl (my BFF) asked him if he just like me as a friend and he said" don't tell her this, but not at all". so know i am extremly upset. i mean i trust him with my LIFE! should i beat the carp out of him?
Warning: My advice is probably not something that you want to hear, but most people around my age will probably the same thing.

When I was your age, I went through a similar situation however I kind of brought it upon myself. In eighth grade there was this guy that I was friends with and I felt like he wasn't too interested in really talking to me. I asked one of my friends to IM him asking me if he thought that I was boring, he said yes and I told him "Why don't you go f*** off?" When I said that, he told me, "If you're so sorry, why did you tell me to go f*** off?" And he held a grudge against me for a really long time. I kind of ended up regretting it all of eighth grade, and I spent most of my eighth grade year depressed over that fact, I had already had depression and it just added to it because I actually did have a huge crush on him.

I hate to tell you this but you did kind of bring it upon yourself when you got your friend to ask him if he liked you as a friend, I mean now at least you know. However there are some things of truth that we really just don't want to hear because they will hurt us.

I am 20 years old, seven years older than you, so I am a lot older than you now and my best advice is to be the bigger and better person. Don't resort to his same immaturity of what he said to your friend, yes if he didn't even like you as a friend he shouldn't act like one. However through the course of your life you are going to meet people who will act like your friend, when they're really not.

Just avoid him as much as possible, and if he tries to talk to you either ignore him or act fake nice to him. Do yourself a favor and don't let him get to you, beating him up would be letting him get to you and make you look the bad person.

Five, ten years down the road, when you're out of junior high and have finished high school he's not going to mean a single thing to you.

Q: so there was this guy i liked for two years (freshman and sophomore year) and then i stopped liking him whenever he got a girlfriend junior year. we were friends before i started liking him. then he found out my feelings for him and avoided me completely. but starting last year after him and his girlfriend broke up, he stared to warm up a little more to me. giving me his number and even wished me happy birthday. at the beginning of my senior year i said i didn't want a boyfriend because i had no time to keep one because i was so busy and i said i was over my crush and just wanted a friendship with him. but now my crush came back all tan, really cute, and a new and improved muscular body and i can't help but ogle him. and now he's starting to be more of a friend to me like joking around with me and talking to me and i won't admit this to any of my friends but it's hard for me to not like him when our friendship is going back to the way it was freshman year. i missed my friendship with him whenever he avoided me and i'm happy to have it back but at the same time, i feel like i'm getting those feelings back for him and i don't want that because 1. i'm afraid that i won't give him the time he wants 2. he just thinks of me as a friend 3. i would actually want to tell him about my feelings for him and try to make it work but then he might go back to avoiding me and i really don't want that. what do i do about this? please help. what do i do about this situation with him i'm sorry this is so long but i really needed to say all of this.
First make sure that you are really interested in this guy. I agree with the other responder to this question, if he avoided you because he found out that you have feelings for him he may not be worth it. However we don't know him, so we could be completely wrong as to what happened. It could be that one of his girlfriends knew that you had feelings for him, and got jealous, and told him to leave you alone.

I would make an effort to try to get closer to this guy, call him on the phone and hang out with him. Really make sure that this is a person that you would want to date, because you still sound a bit uncertain.

If something is going to happen between the two of you it will, and it will either work or it won't.

Good luck!

Q: I am with a wonderful man whom I love very much. We are in a long-distance relationship but he is endlessly sweet, thoughtful, and loving to me. We talk every day on Skype. In most ways I feel I could not ask for a better man. But. He has been hurt by many women in the past, and he's told me many times about how for 20 years he put a wall around his heart and did not love anyone, nor allow anyone to love him, for fear of getting hurt again. He tells me that he was miserable before I came along. He also says that if I were ever to leave him, he would put the wall back up around his heart, would be miserable again, and would not even try to love anyone else for the rest of his life. (He is 50, so this is conceivable, and knowing him, I believe it might actually be true.) Although we are close and can talk about most anything, I would not marry him yet, because we just don't know each other well enough. I love him because he is a good soul and there is no one with a kinder heart, and don't plan to break up with him, but I still don't like feeling pressured to stay with this man forever or else always carry the guilt of breaking his heart and ruining his life. Is this normal, or am I being a jerk, or what?
I'm probably quite a bit younger than you, I'm only 20, so I don't know how much my advice is going to mean to you. But I think that it's perfectly normal for you to feel this way. It sounds like he's putting a lot of pressure on you about staying with him.

I would actually talk to him about this. Explain that you think that he's a wonderful person, you want to stay with him but you feel very pressured by some of the things that he says to you sometimes. Let him know that for the time being that you have no intention of breaking up with him but you also don't want to feel like you're trapped.

If he really cares about you he'll understand and back off a little bit. This could also be a sign of a controlling relationship, if he puts anymore control on you than you really have to get out because controlling relatoinships can also get very abusive.

Q: a couple of days ago, a friend of a friend sent me a message on facebook. I expected another inaporiate 'whats up ma?" or "hey you look good". Instead i got a shy greeting from Brian. Ive seen him around before though we've never held a conversation. Well sooon enough we started talking some more as friends and we say hi in person now.
i get butterflies everytime i see him..could this be atrraction..??
i havent felt this way in a whilr...
help?
16/f/junior 17/m/senior
Getting butterflies is definitely a sure sign that you like someone. Although I would suggest that you talk to him a lot more before you pursue him.

Instead of just saying hi, try to bring up a conversation with him. Is there anything on his facebook that the two of you are both interested in, does he play a sport? You could maybe talk to him about that.

I'm a bit older than you and I make sure that before I decide that I like a guy that I talk to him. Just because he's cute doesn't always mean that I'm going to like his personality, or that our personalities aren't going to clash.

Good luck!

Q: Im 15/F i never understand when people say he didn't finish in me or he used the pull out method. what does that mean!? like im guessing it when you guys fu*k and then he stops but i don't get it?
At first I thought that you were asking for advice about the pull out method and whether or not you should use it, thank you for the comment that you put in your additional info. I use the pull out method but I don't suggest that anyone much younger than me use it or people who are relationships with sexually inexperienced men.

The pull out method is considered as another contraceptive, like birth control pills or condoms, etc. It's when you have sex without a condom and pull out before the guy cums. Other than that, nothing else more to it.

Q: I have a teacher at school who has been very helpful and understanding since my freshman year. I am graduating at the end of the year, and would really like him to know what kind of affect he has had on me. Trouble is, I know a lot of students tell him at the end of the year how influential and great he has been with them--- and I want what I say to be memorable and stand out.
I planned on just going with what feels natural, and telling him after school one day after I've graduated how much I appreciate him and how he has been like a father-figure. Is that saying too much? I also planned on giving him a copy of my senior picture with a quote about teachers on the back.

THOUGHTS? Thanks so much. God bless!
When someone has done something special for me, I always write them a letter to let them know how they have impacted my life. When I was a senior in highschool I was all about joining the military, it didn't work out for me but I wrote a reflection essay about it. My mom showed it to my recruiter who held onto it for a long time. You could try writing a reflection essay about what exactly this teacher has done for you.

I also think that what you're planning the day of your graduation is also very special, since it comes from the heart.

Q: My friends are good to me but i feel like they dont like me.When i message them,they won't reply.So i just thought that they don't have credit and leave it but my heart always feel suspicious and telling that they dont like you.I sometimes hurt them but i always ask sorry if i did.None of my friends actually understand me.They think what am i doing is just to show off or pretending.Sometimes i will be sad,they dont understand the situation but think that im pretending or im too arogant.I dont know what to do???? I want care but none close to me.I couldn't find a friend who really understand me and and always be honest to me.What should i do? i always feel lonely..
Have you brought this up to them? If they are really your "friends" they will be more or less understanding to you, and try to make an effort to show you that they really do care about you. I will tell you that sometimes when people messages others, this has happened to me and I've been guilty of doing this as well, the person isn't responding because even though they are signed on they're not really there.

If you find out that they are phony, try joining a club about something that you're interested in. When I was in school, we had a numerous amount of after school activities I really don't know what your school has to offer.

If you can't find any after school activities that you'd like to be involved in, you could volunteer in something and you might be able to meet other friends that way. Go to http://www.volunteermatch.org for more information.

I think that it's very common that many teenagers feel like no one understands them, I felt that way too at one point in my life. So, the whole no one understands me thing is probably just a phase.

Also what are you doing that makes your friends think that you're showing off? You didn't mention that in your answer, it could possibly help us quite a bit.

I wish you luck with this!

Q: i just started junior high a couple months ago, and i made a quick friendship with these two girls that i really like. ok heres the story. one day, this popular 8th grader was being a bitch(as usual). i tried to ignore it, but my friend flipped her off and called her a bitch. now, all the 8th graders have been turned against her, and people write abunch of nasty stuff about her on formspring, and send her mean messages on facebook. the other day, the one that she flipped off confronted her on the hall, and i dont know what she said o her but she came out crying. i feel so bad for her, and i just want them to stop being so mean. she even said that she might transfer schools if they don't stop! I'm scared that if i confront the girl about it, she will turn on me next. i know that sounds kind of selfish, but im just too scared to. is there any way that i could talk to her without her being mean to me?
I think instead of going to the girl that this is more something that you should confront an adult about, let them handle it. Sometimes teachers and principals don't realize whose being mean to who, until someone brings it to their attention.

Tell them that you really don't want to be a tattle tale, but you have something to bring to their attention. Tell them what's going on, print out and hand in the formspring pages that have very nasty comments on them. Let them know how it's affecting the girl, and they will handle it in the best way possible.

DO NOT worry about being a tattle tale, this is the best way to handle it because they know how to deal with this kind of stuff better than you do because they're older and more experienced, and as you said this girl could just as easily turn on you. Nowadays bullying and cyber-bullying are considered very serious, because a lot of people have committed suicide as a result. I don't worry about this with your friend because she sounds stronger than that, but it's always the safer thing to do.

I wish you good luck with doing the right thing!

Q: I am a junior in high school. Although everyone says it's time to get serious once one reaches junior year, somehow I don't know how to adjust to it. I can be very lazy and seem to be pretty "chill" about this year. I don't seem to give a crap for the life of me and I just can't get my mind focused and out of the "summer zone", the zone where I just don't care about anything.

I feel so shitty. I feel like already I am going no where in life! At all! I don't know what I want to do after high school, and I just feel so lost. I realize everyone probably feels this way sometime in high school or later in life, or even earlier, but I just feel so...ugh. I don't even think I can afford college.

Not that I am putting excuses on others, but my childhood was very difficult. My father was never there to teach me or tell me about life in high school, and I was never raised to be independent, anyway. Half the time, my mother was going crazy, and she sunk down into a deep depression, as was I when my father abandoned us. Up until freshman year, my life was very dramatic and lonesome. I don't know anything about financial things, or even living on my own for that matter. I feel like a sorry excuse for a teenager and like I will never be able to live on my own and handle myself. I am very forgetful, lazy, and indecisive. I have difficulty paying attention and I try to stay focused and get what I need done, but I don't have much motivation. I'm smart at times and I have so many goals, I also love to write and stuff, but I never figured out what I want to do in life.

I need some guidance. I feel scared to go to my parents about this, and I just can't find anything to ease my worrisome thoughts.

I'm sixteen, and I'm a female.
Thank you.
I'm going to ask my boyfriend after I finish writing my answer to see if he knows of anything else that you can do in order to get help for financial assistance for college. I know that there are things such as grants and financial aid that depend on your family's economic situation but I really don't know too much about them. I know for one that you can call social services when it gets closer to start college and they will offer you financial services. You may also want to talk to your high school guidance counselor because they're trained to help you in such matters.

In order to keep you motivated, set little goals for yourself... it works for me. I know that you say that you're very goal-oriented which could help you A LOT, but are these long term or short term goals? For example you can say, "I want to get an A on this paper," or "I want to get an A on this test." Experiment with study techniques until you find one that you like and that works for you, this will also help you when you get into college.

Here's a link that will help explain your learning style more to you, as well as offer some great study techniques: http://www.studytechniques.org/

As far as not knowing what you want to do after high school that's completely normal, I personally suggest that you go to college even if you just get a general education degree because it will enable you to get better jobs. Trust me I have been spending the past five months looking for jobs, for a lot of job descriptions a college degree is either listed a plus or a requirement.

If you decide that college is not for you for whatever reason than take up a trade, such as hair dressing, dog grooming, certified nursing assistant, a pharmacy technician, etc.

I wish you the best of luck and remember you have the rest of your life to figure out what you want to do!

Q: f/15
so me and my boyfriend have been going out for about 5 months and I really think our relationship is going really well. And well I was on the phone with him and he told me that he wanted to go further... and well we've made out and stuff but I don't know what is the next step without it getting to weird...so any advice?
First of all, I would ask what he means by going "further?"

In my perspective, going further would mean that he wants to have sex with you. Before you consent to having sex with him, you should ask yourself this one thing. Am I ready for all of the consequences that can occur if we decide to have sex, this can mean possible pregnancy, the risk of STDs, the feelings of attachment that girls tend to feel towards their boyfriend after sex.

If you can't say that you're ready than you're not, do not try to let him convince you otherwise. Too many young girls make the mistake of having sex, and they end up regretting it.

If you are ready to have sex, I would say at your age always use protection. If your parents are more open-minded, tell your mom that you and your boyfriend are talking about sex and you would like to go on the pill. She may or may not get angry, she may also appreciate the fact that you're being responsible and going to her before making a life-altering decision, how she feels about this is completely up to her. If you absolutely feel like you can not go to your parents, I'm pretty sure that Planned Parenthood will give you protection for free. Check out their website to find a location that is close to you: http://www.plannedparenthood.org/

Also going for an STD test is important too, if the condom breaks you are still at risk for an STD. If you feel like you're ready but you can not tell your boyfriend that you want to be tested before you go any further than you are not ready to be having sex.

Remember if you decide to not have sex and he dumps you, or you decide to have sex with him and he breaks up with you the day afterwards, he's a jerk and he was just using you. You'll find someone who will treat you much better.

Good luck with this and I hope that I helped you make the right decision for you.

Q: I just moved out of state to live with my boyfriend of two years. We just got in an argument and he was yelling at me, while putting his hand in my face. Out of reaction, I lightly slapped him.
He slapped me back on the head, then threw me off the bed.

I know hitting should never be tolerated in a relationship, but it's not exactly easy for me to pack all my stuff up and go home.

What do I do? :/
I've lightly slapped my boyfriend before, playfully. I think that slapping someone playfully is different than them actually hitting you. He has never hit me back before as a reaction. Someone who would hit you back after you lightly slap them has severe anger issues. Do not blame yourself because really you didn't do anything wrong.

I would say get out of that situation as fast as possible. If he hits you again or if you have any bruises on you, report this to the police. I actually talk to this girl online whose boyfriend used to hit her all the time, she hated him but didn't know how to end it, she was afraid that he would hurt her and her other family members, and one day he tried to kill her. She was too afraid of him to report him, because of this she now has it on her record that she tried to kill herself (she's Canadian) and it has to do with a mental health thing.

Move back home if you can't afford it financially see if a friend or a family member can possibly help you, explain the situation to them and that you'll pay them back as soon as you get a job and can financially afford it. If that option doesn't work for you for whatever reason, find a woman's shelter nearby until you manage to get on your feet (I don't know what your financial situation is like).

I would also recommend that you seek counseling afterwards, you're already partly feeling like it's your fault. I have a friend who I talk to from online and she was in an abusive relationship and it affected her so much that she had to go to counseling.

Good luck with whatever you decide to do!

Q: So recently I started talking to a man a few years older then me. Well, my question is do men care about stubble in the pubic region? On the mound mostly. I am very prone to ingrown hairs and such so i cant get it completely smooth. Yes I get that if hes a good guy he wont say anything. I just want to know from men's point of view.
Please & Thank you
I've talked to several of my boyfriends about this topic, they accepted pubic hair just as long as the girl had the necessary regions of her body shaved, such as her leg hair and arm pit hair which I'm sure you have shaved.

However in high school I overheard a conversation between several boys in my class that said that it grosses them out if they're doing stuff with a girl who doesn't shave her pubic region.

I'm not sure if it was an age thing, considering that all of the guys that I've dated have been over 21 and these were high school boys or if it depends on the guy, the best thing to do is what you feel most comfortable with. I always shave my pubic hair because I hate all types of body hair, it grosses me out.

Like you stated before, if he says anything he's a jerk and he's not worth your time.

P.S. I heard that sex feels better if the pubic region is cleanly shaven :).

Q: there is this guy that i have liked for over a year now. We are friends and he knows i like him, but is a little shy. How do i ask him if he even likes me? I'm desperate! HELP ME !!!!
Some people may view my advice as risky because it can make friendships awkward. You guys are already friends, you didn't state your age but the fact that the two of you are friends means that he enjoys talking to you and being in your company.

The easiest way to tell if he likes you or not is to be the one to make the first move, find a way to tell him that you like him. Either you will find out that he likes you or you will find out that he doesn't.

Life is short, so what do you have to lose? A lot of wonderful relationships have started because the couple started out as friends. It builds a foundation because the two of you already know a lot about each other, such as your flaws, your opinions on things, etc.

Good luck and if you have another questions feel free to ask me.

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