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friend getting bullied
i just started junior high a couple months ago, and i made a quick friendship with these two girls that i really like. ok heres the story. one day, this popular 8th grader was being a bitch(as usual). i tried to ignore it, but my friend flipped her off and called her a bitch. now, all the 8th graders have been turned against her, and people write abunch of nasty stuff about her on formspring, and send her mean messages on facebook. the other day, the one that she flipped off confronted her on the hall, and i dont know what she said o her but she came out crying. i feel so bad for her, and i just want them to stop being so mean. she even said that she might transfer schools if they don't stop! I'm scared that if i confront the girl about it, she will turn on me next. i know that sounds kind of selfish, but im just too scared to. is there any way that i could talk to her without her being mean to me?
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I think that you and your friend need to go to the principal I know you guys dont think its cool or till cause more problems I used to think the same way but bullying can lead to suicide or murder crazy stuff can happen and it needs to be delt with weather you dont think its this serious or not yours friends obviously hurting.
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It's all fine and dandy to tell teachers or the principal about what is happening, but they likely won't do anything about it unless they directly see the behavior themselves.
The only things your friend can do is either beat the crap out of the popular girl (there could be blowback from that not just from fellow students, but the legal system, so that's a pretty precarious route to be sure. Unfortunately, it is also likely the most effective way to get her to slow her roll) or your friend could just say, "think of me what you want, but that doesn't mean she isn't a bitch." Don't back down and stop taking shit so personally. The opinions of a bunch of secondary school students are meaningless anyway. So stop lending them any credence.
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I think instead of going to the girl that this is more something that you should confront an adult about, let them handle it. Sometimes teachers and principals don't realize whose being mean to who, until someone brings it to their attention.
Tell them that you really don't want to be a tattle tale, but you have something to bring to their attention. Tell them what's going on, print out and hand in the formspring pages that have very nasty comments on them. Let them know how it's affecting the girl, and they will handle it in the best way possible.
DO NOT worry about being a tattle tale, this is the best way to handle it because they know how to deal with this kind of stuff better than you do because they're older and more experienced, and as you said this girl could just as easily turn on you. Nowadays bullying and cyber-bullying are considered very serious, because a lot of people have committed suicide as a result. I don't worry about this with your friend because she sounds stronger than that, but it's always the safer thing to do.
I wish you good luck with doing the right thing!
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