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next step?
f/15
so me and my boyfriend have been going out for about 5 months and I really think our relationship is going really well. And well I was on the phone with him and he told me that he wanted to go further... and well we've made out and stuff but I don't know what is the next step without it getting to weird...so any advice?
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First of all, I would ask what he means by going "further?"
In my perspective, going further would mean that he wants to have sex with you. Before you consent to having sex with him, you should ask yourself this one thing. Am I ready for all of the consequences that can occur if we decide to have sex, this can mean possible pregnancy, the risk of STDs, the feelings of attachment that girls tend to feel towards their boyfriend after sex.
If you can't say that you're ready than you're not, do not try to let him convince you otherwise. Too many young girls make the mistake of having sex, and they end up regretting it.
If you are ready to have sex, I would say at your age always use protection. If your parents are more open-minded, tell your mom that you and your boyfriend are talking about sex and you would like to go on the pill. She may or may not get angry, she may also appreciate the fact that you're being responsible and going to her before making a life-altering decision, how she feels about this is completely up to her. If you absolutely feel like you can not go to your parents, I'm pretty sure that Planned Parenthood will give you protection for free. Check out their website to find a location that is close to you: [Link](Mouse over link to see full location)
Also going for an STD test is important too, if the condom breaks you are still at risk for an STD. If you feel like you're ready but you can not tell your boyfriend that you want to be tested before you go any further than you are not ready to be having sex.
Remember if you decide to not have sex and he dumps you, or you decide to have sex with him and he breaks up with you the day afterwards, he's a jerk and he was just using you. You'll find someone who will treat you much better.
Good luck with this and I hope that I helped you make the right decision for you.
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Yeah I also think the "next step" in his eyes is sex. You don't say where you are but having sex at age 15 may be considered illegal/statutory rape in your country/state, so bear that in mind when you make your decision. You don't HAVE to "go further" if you don't want to, he should respect your decision whatever it is. There is also no harm in asking him what he means by going further - if you have a good relationship you should be able to ask!
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he must mean getting in your pants and i know that sounds bad but only do it if you are comfortable! the guys usually make that move so you wont have to worry. only do things with him if you truly love him bc you will remember it the rest of your life!
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