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Q: First time I've ever had to do a book report for a NONFICTION book, and it's not even in ENglish class! Grade 12. My book is related to Mono and other infectious diseases so I'm not really sure what are some possible thesises I could use or how to come up with one? thanks!
Well, first off what sort of report is it? Are you simply narrating the contents of the book you've read? If so, distinguish the most important aspects of the book and order them from least important to most important. (An English teacher once told me that you should put your best paragraphs at the end, it'll stick in the reader's mind.) Then, start writing your introductory paragraph and find a thesis statement that sums up what you're about to say.

Or is it an analysis paper? Are you supposed to study the effects it has on something? If that's the case, figure out the things the disease has affected the most and elaborate on those things in your body paragraph. Then write a thesis to match the body.

Either way, it will probably do you some good to do a little research first and figure out what your body paragraphs are going to be. Your thesis will come relatively easily later.

Good luck with your paper.

Q: So I have these two friends, lewis and tommy. tommy I like and just started hanging out with the past month. And lewis I have known for about a year and we tell each other everything, including how much i like tommy. now lately lewis has been kinda grrr whenever i talk about him and i was like ok whatever, and then a few days ago they call me threeway and both tell me that they both like me. . . they are best friends and have been since 7th u see my dilemma. also tommy says he likes me but doesnt wanna do a relationship.....lewis says he likes me but im not for sure how i feel about him yet...but either way they are best friends and i dont want to be the one to wreck their friendship....yet i feel a little awkward about the whole situation...are things gonna change? Will i still be able to talk to lewis about thing? will we be able to stay friends? i have been thinking a lot as you can tell. please help.....any help you can give at all small or big would be greatly apreciated. thanks
Well, to being with, Tommy has already told you he doesn't feel ready for a relationship. That's your clue right there to not pursue him. As for Lewis, you need to just tell him how you feel about him. Tell him you love him to death as a friend and don't want to lose your friendship; but you aren't sure if you feel the same way he feels about you.
There's nothing wrong with choosing not to be with either one of them. Especially if you feel guilty coming between their friendship. Plus, you don't want to wind up dating one while having feelings for the other.
I would simply explain to both of them that you respect them and their friendship too much and are choosing not to be with either of them as more than friends.

Q: I am fifteen, a girl, sophomore. Here's the story. I met this guy the summer before my freshman year. People told me he was a player and just wanted to use me but no, I saw something different. And so we started talking and he was funny and sweet and nice and I started to like him and he liked me back. We started dating and it was great. He was my first boyfriend and my first kiss. I have never been happier than i was those first four months. He made me feel so special. But he is sixteen at the time, a sophomore, and I was fourteen, a freshman. And he told me how the girl he was with before, well he fingered her. This scared me. I thought, I dont wanna do that stuff, I'm not ready but he assured me that our relationship meant more to him than the physical stuff. But things started changing. We would hang out and be making out and he'd try and slip a hand down my pants but I'd always pull it out. We never talked about it but it kept happening. Finally, I let him finger me. Next he started asking for handjobs and I would say no but... I gave him one. I didn't know what was happening at the time but I started to get sooo whipped. Anything he told me to do I'd do, just in general. I was going through some rough times with my friends and parents so he basically became my life. He was the only thing I thought was going well. I couldn't lose him. He told me he loved me. And I told him we were too young but eventually I said it back. And I began to feel it to. I really did love him in all of my twistedness. But he began to grow distant and the more he pulled away the more I clung to him. Thigs were falling apart but I couldn't let go. He forced me to look him in the eye and he told me he loved me. So when he asked for a bj I did it... I trusted him. He dumped me four days later in a text message. I asked how he could say he loved me on day and then four days later not want a thing to do with me. He said we were never in love. He said we were too young. We dated all school year, broke up on the first day of summer. It was the worst summer of my life. He told people how far we went; that I put out. I told him I hated him. I said horrible things to him but I still wanted him back. He moved on quickly. It broke my heart to see him flirt with other girls and hear rumors of his hook ups. It tore me to pieces. In the middle of the summer he said he wanted to apologize for how he handled everything, that he was an ass. (all in text of course). But I wouldn't accept his apology. School starts again and I yelled at him. For such a stupid reason... He ignored me and I sent him nasty texts. I felt bad after and tried to apologize but he said he doesn't care. He doesn't wven want to be friends. And I think I still love him... It's been eight months since we broke up and not a single day goes by that I don't wish he wanted me back too. I think about him 24/7. I texted him the other night because it actually wasnt until a few weeks ago that I noticed how clingy I was in our relationship. I used to blame everything on him but I know I had a part in our relationship failure and I wanted to apologize. It was in text. He said he appreciated it and we had a nice little conversation but I texted him a few days ago and he said yup and then didn't reply... He knows I want to be friends and he kind of knows I still like him (I think) but I don't think he wants a thing to do with me. But I'm miserable without him. I don't understand. It's been so log since we broke up and Ive done the hook ups, the hanging out with your girls, the finding new hobbies, I even went a week pinching myself whenever I thought of him. I dated another guy but I broke up with him recently because I know o still want my ex. I just don't know what to do. I'm desperate right now and I want to be happy again but I feel like it's neve gonna happen. I know I'm young. Don't tell me that. That's not going to take away any of this pain and I want it gone. I just need help on getting through this. And not a lecture.
Oh hun, I've been there. Thankfully, the man I loved never saw me enough to get physical. But, I promise you; even if he were to take you back your relationship wouldn't last. Unfortunately, you fell in love with someone who isn't worth your time. I'll see if I can give you a few tips on how I got over my boy.
-Firstly, stop blaming yourself. Maybe you were clingy, maybe you were this. But that's not your fault. A real man, a man worth your effort, will communicate with you about it. If he had cared, he would have explained how he felt about how you were acting in a respectful way. Key to a strong relationship: communication. Remind yourself that all he did was use you and persuade you into doing things you didn't think you were ready for. Even if he has apologized to you, it's doubtful he means it. He just wants to seem like a good guy and not the scum that he really is. It isn't your fault; it's his.
-Secondly, give yourself a mourning period. Say, four days. Let yourself cry, wish for him, curse him, watch sappy movies, curl up and eat your comfort food. Then after your days are up, swear to yourself not to let him get under you like that again. Don't let yourself cry over him, remind yourself he isn't worth it. He never will be. Not for you.
-Thirdly, cut off all connection from him. And I mean, delete his Facebook, his phone number, throw away any pictures or gifts he's given you. Completely remove any aspect of him in your life. I know it sounds hard. I was torn up over my ex for over a year. But after I wrote him a letter explaining to him I was never going to speak with him again and removed all memories of him, I felt instantly better. If there's nothing there for you to physically look at or holdon to, it'll be easier to forget about him.
-Fourthly, make yourself busy. I know you said you've hung out with your girls, found new hobbies, etc. Try again. But the hobbies don't have to be new things. If there's something you've always loved doing, do it. Don't give yourself enough down time to even think about him. Learn to not only love spending time with others but spending time with yourself as well.
-Finally, if you need to, write yourself a reminder of the reasons why you're amazing on your own.. without him. Put it somewhere you can see it every day and read it. You DON'T need him. You're better than him and better than the poor relationship he put you through.

I promise you, you will get over him in time. You just need to stop holding on and hoping for him to change and want you back. You can do it. I got over my ex after roughly a year or so of heartache and have been with my current boyfriend for almost 3 years and I've never been happier.
I know it seems bleak now, but you CAN move on.

I hope this helps you and if you need any more advice, feel free to ask. :)

Q: i am 20 years old and received a misdemeanor citation over the summer for minor in possession of alcohol. i was not arrested, but went to court and had to serve 6 months probation and take an alcohol class along with paying fines. i am currently in school and have been a waitress for 4 years, but am looking for a clerical/front desk position for a doctors office or something similar. most of the applications ask if i have been charged with a misdemeanor or felony and to explain. i have cleaned up my act since getting caught but i still have this charge lingering in my face when it comes to finding work. my probation will be over next month, and the 2 other girls who got caught and i are all getting first offender through our PO and this should be off our record by mid-january. because of this, im not sure whether to check yes or no on the application. i dont want to risk lying and have it show up on a background check, but i dont want to say yes and then it be off my record within a month. any help here?

also, as far as i know the charge is already supposed to be on my record as a city ordinance, meaning that supposedly no one outside the county where i got caught (which i don't live in now) is supposed to be able to see what it was, so it could just show up like a speeding ticket would.
First and foremost, contact someone and find out exactly how the charge currently appears on your record.
Secondly, if you have any doubts, you need to say yes. Luckily, there's that explanation portion. Just explain that you made a mistake, were drinking underaged, but that the offense should be off of your record by mid-January. If it isn't off of your record now, then by telling them no, you are lying.

Good luck with your applications.

Q: everytime i like something or i think i look good in a picture or i get excited i either
rub both my hands together really fast or itch my forehead with 2 figners relaly fast

why do i do this?
it was relly bad when i was younger then it stopped now im 18 and its back and really bad
its so weird.
what is it?
why do i do it?
how do i stop?
Well you can try what the person before me said. But only if you really feel like it disrupts you in life.
Otherwise, my advice would be to embrace your quirk. When I get scared my arms go up to my sides and flutter back and forth. If I get extremely excited I smile really big and make and "eee" sound.
Your quirks are part of what make you YOU.So what if you rub your hands together or scratch your forehead? It makes you special and the people that love you will think it's cute or won't care.

Having little habits is an important part of learning to love yourself. And that's the best trait you can have. :)

Q: i'm 18 female and my parents and boyfriend and best friend are all talking to me about the future. At first it was ok but now i feel like its gotten way out of hand and i feel like i'm about to lose it!

my parents are talking to me about college (which is fine because i already know what college i'm going to) but then they were talking about moving and studying abroad and studying international school and living there when i'm older like 2 or 3 years from now.

my boyfriend was talking to me about our future together. at first that was fine because i thought it was cute that he wanted to stay together when i was in college. but now he's talking about marriage and where we would live and kids etc. i'm freaking just a kid still!!! i feel like i'm so overwhelmed with him talking about the future and i haven't really given it a thought but it hurts my brain to think about the future

my best friend was talking to me about college (that was fine because we were discussing which colleges we were going to) but then she started talking about how when we are older we could travel together and get an apartment together and be roommates and do everything together. at first i was fine with it because she is my best friend and we are like sisters and i can't imagine life without her.. but now its just weird how we are basically planning our future..

i dont know if i'm overreacting but i just feel so overwhelmed with everything. i do have a lot of stress in my life, so that could be a factor. but i just feel so stressed and anxiety and i wish i could scream at people! help what do i do?
You need to tell everyone how you're feeling.

Granted, take it from someone who's trucking out this whole college path alone; but tell your parents you want to take everything one step at a time. If you do want to study abroad, yes you need to start looking/planning now, but if they're moving too fast with it all tell them that you appreciate their help and confidence in you but that you need to let the big step of college set it for a little bit.

For your boyfriend, if you love him and want to be with him, let him know. Tell him how you feel. That you love him and love that he wants to stay with you but that you're far too young to be thinking about marriage and children. If you're thinking you want to move on and meet other guys, then you should tell him that as well.

And finally, for your best friend. You need to let her know that you love her to death and can't imagine not having her. But that you feel like the two of you need to live your own futures and explore your own destinys. You can stay best friends without being with each other forever.

Communication is key and I promise it will make you feel better.

Q: I have a history of being in bad abusive relationships and I think I have finally found the one guy who will treat me good. I want to make sure that were as happy as we can be. I was just wondering if anyone has any tips on how to make a relationship last. He is a really great guy and I love him to death and I don't want us to end up like half od the people in the world who fall out of love. I don't want to be just his friend. I want to always feel the way I do now. He is the best thing that has ever happened to me and I don't want to ever lose him.
Unfortunately there is no special formula to making a relationship last.
Just be yourself with him. If he's treating you well and you think he may be 'the one' so-to-speak, then there's clearly something that drew him to you to begin with. Don't try to change yourself or anything like that.
Also, try to keep the spark going. Don't fall into doing the same routines over and over again. Every once in a while do something spontaneous. Or surprise him with a gift. Or go do something both of you have really wanted to try to do. Or volunteer somewhere together.
Also, be sure to always communicate with him. If he's truly a great guy, he'll want to know how you're feeling and have an open line of communication. If you're ever having doubts, if you're upset, if you just want someone to share your thoughts and dreams with.. or if you just want to tell him you love him, do it.

Warning though. Eventually, you'll move out of the "honeymoon" phase. You won't always feel as head over heels as you do now, but as long as the two of you are honest with each other and love each other, the next stage can be just as fun.
A relationship takes work and there is no guaranteed method for maintaining one. You can just do your best to appreciate what you have now.

Congratulations on falling in love. :)

Q: Hi there :)
Okay so for my boyfriends present for christmas I decided to get cute n creative seeing as money is tight.
Im making him up a box with his favourite things after shave chocolate,a photo frame with a picture of the two of us plus 100 reasons why I love him written on baby blue paper his fav colour.
I'm also making a c.d with some cute love songs cos we don't have "our" song yet.
So what are some really cute love songs?
I have some the more famous ones I'm looking for something more modern? if anyone has any suggestions at all that would be great! Thank you
Personally, I'm a sucker for Josh Turner. Some of his good ones:
"Your Man"
"Would You Go With Me?"
"All Over Me"
"Why Don't We Just Dance?"

Although, his songs tend to be directed more towards women; but I used them for my boyfriend and just told him to change out the lyrics accordingly.
I also like
"I'm Gonna Be (500 Miles)" by the Proclaimers.
"I Want You" by Bob Dylan
"A Thousand Miles" by Vanessa Carlton
"Us" Regina Spektor
"You and I" by Ingrid Michaelson

Those are just a few of my favorites. Good luck with your CD!

Q: do bananas really help cramps go away?

I personally haven't tried it (bananas make me throw up, literally) but I know people who swear it works. And I sometimes will drink a banana smoothie or something of the like.
Bananas are rich in Vitamin K, a vitamin that when low can make cramps worse. Also, when you're cramping your muscles are releasing lactic acid which potassium helps to combat. Bananas are also very rich in potassium. I've heard bananas combined with the calcium in warm milk are great as calcium is a muscle relaxer.

Sadly, bananas do not work for everyone; but it's worth a shot. :)

Some other tips:
Take a pain reliever (ibuprofen or something) a few days leading up to your period.
Avoid caffeine and cold foods/liquids. Consuming cold things can tighten your muscles making cramps worse. Try drinking herbal tea.
Exercise. Nature's natural pain reliever.
Use a heating pad or warm water bottle. Or take a warm bubble bath with lavander/chamomile oils. (though the bath itself is likely to be effective to)
Stretch. One effective stretch is to lie on your back and pull your knees in toward your stomach but keep your feet on the ground.
If they're too unbearable there's always the option of heading to your doctor and seeing about birth control.

Hope this helps and your cramps are alleviated! (:

Q: my ex girlfriend is goin out with my real close friend and im not mad about it but idk how i feel about it and maybe it does bug me but i cant tell for sure and im now single but i dont know if i should stay that way because ive been through 2 girlfriends back to back and its nice hanging out with my friends and not worrying about some girlfriend but i feel lonely and i keep getting bummed but then again i like to be kinda freaky like i wear mask and stuff like that and i do random crazy stuff to people i dont know but i dont know if i can just rely on my friend to help me but there is a girl who is 2 years younger than me and lives far away and we kinda like each other but ill never get to meet her so idk wat to do ...please help me with whatever you can,thanks.
Believe me hun, if you have doubts about being in a relationship you shouldn't be in one. Especially if you're still feeling bummed about your ex in anyway. Take some time to feel better without having a girl around.
Go out with your friends. Get a hobby. Find something to make you love being just with you.
You can't love someone else if you don't love yourself first.

As for this other girl, it's only fair that you tell her how you're feeling. Be honest with her. Unless you're madly in love with this girl, it isn't worth getting torn up about.

Q: so im 17 yrs old from canada. im in a long distnace relationship with a guy who is also 17 and lives in the usa. 9 hrs and 36 min away from me. We talk every day on skype and have been for 10 months. We love eachother to death! we have so many things in common and even our birthdays are right after eachother. My family knows about him as well as his about me. my dad has talked to him and i have in ways talked to his. He plans on coming up here in the summer for a couple weeks to see me cause we have never meet in person. ...he just hasnt got the ok from his parents yet...and i really hope they say yes.

What im really askin here is, its the hardest thing i have ever done, parents arent really for it and some friends arent eiether which make it hard. Is there anyone who is in the same situation and still together...married maybe? What was it like meeting for the sametime? awkward? and advice? I really want to get peoples advice who are or were in a long distance relationship. Thank you so much for your time!
Mm, I haven't been in that specific situation, but I did meet my current boyfriend of almost 3 years online. We happen to live in the same town, though not everyone was a fan of our relationship, particularly because he's almost 4 years older than I am. And our first meeting was excruciatingly awkward, but we'd only been talking for a couple weeks. And once we started walking around things eased up and it was great.
However, I have a friend who met her fiance online as well. They talked online for several years and when they finally met it was the most incredible thing she'd ever experienced. They now live together and are getting married this summer. As long as you're completely honest with each other in who you are when you talk online, you should be fine meeting in person. I guarantee it will be a little bit awkward. You'll both be giddy and nervous and excited. But you'll get through it.
As for if your relationship will last, only time can tell. You're both very young and you'll be going through a lot of changes as you go on to college, etc. The best thing you can do is listen to your heart.

Q: 20f

How can you tell a guy you have your period. Lets say they started touching you, wanting to hook up do you basically tell them no because you have your period without grossing or freaking them out even though they shouldn't be in the first place or even without making it awkward.
You can either be blunt about it and tell them you're on your period. A guy that gets grossed out or freaked out over something like that is immature and probably not someone you should want to hookup with anyway.
Or, try a more subtle approach. Now, guys aren't going to be able to read your mind; however, a few simple words and they'll get it. Mention that it's "that time of the month." More than likely he'll take the hint.
If you really want to hookup with them, you might want to throw some reassurance in there aswell. Tell him you'd really love to hookup but it's not a good time.. then that you'd love if you could make it up in a few days or something.
If you don't actually want to hookup with him, then just say so.

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