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Feeling very worrisome about my future...
I am a junior in high school. Although everyone says it's time to get serious once one reaches junior year, somehow I don't know how to adjust to it. I can be very lazy and seem to be pretty "chill" about this year. I don't seem to give a crap for the life of me and I just can't get my mind focused and out of the "summer zone", the zone where I just don't care about anything.
I feel so shitty. I feel like already I am going no where in life! At all! I don't know what I want to do after high school, and I just feel so lost. I realize everyone probably feels this way sometime in high school or later in life, or even earlier, but I just feel so...ugh. I don't even think I can afford college.
Not that I am putting excuses on others, but my childhood was very difficult. My father was never there to teach me or tell me about life in high school, and I was never raised to be independent, anyway. Half the time, my mother was going crazy, and she sunk down into a deep depression, as was I when my father abandoned us. Up until freshman year, my life was very dramatic and lonesome. I don't know anything about financial things, or even living on my own for that matter. I feel like a sorry excuse for a teenager and like I will never be able to live on my own and handle myself. I am very forgetful, lazy, and indecisive. I have difficulty paying attention and I try to stay focused and get what I need done, but I don't have much motivation. I'm smart at times and I have so many goals, I also love to write and stuff, but I never figured out what I want to do in life.
I need some guidance. I feel scared to go to my parents about this, and I just can't find anything to ease my worrisome thoughts.
I'm sixteen, and I'm a female.
Thank you.
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Well lets start off with the fact that not everyone can live without guidiance at their 16th.
You should be able to live with out guidiance after 21 (biological fact) so its no big deal you cant live without guidiance
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First, as far as how you feel about yourself, those are pretty normal teenage insecurities. You're still learning how the world works and the rather slippery foundation your parents have "given" you only makes that uneasiness worse.
I was someone who partied my way through high school. However, I also read a lot on my own, including the daily newspaper, so by the time I hit college I still had a good foundation under me. So your position isn't hopeless. But because you will need to become independent in a fairly quick time frame, you're going to have to make plans, which should include junior college to start. A general education degree that someone suggested earlier is totally useless. You need a hard major such as nursing, engineering, biology or biotech, chemistry or finance because those will lead to jobs that pay really well.
Take the bull by the horns. You'll be okay as long as you have a work ethic.
So what you need to do at this juncture is starting to do a lot of self education because high school really misses a lot of things. Hope fully your school, though, will have a good writing program as mine did because you're going to need that, like an advanced english comp class or something. You will also need a foreign language, too. Learn Chinese.
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I'm going to ask my boyfriend after I finish writing my answer to see if he knows of anything else that you can do in order to get help for financial assistance for college. I know that there are things such as grants and financial aid that depend on your family's economic situation but I really don't know too much about them. I know for one that you can call social services when it gets closer to start college and they will offer you financial services. You may also want to talk to your high school guidance counselor because they're trained to help you in such matters.
In order to keep you motivated, set little goals for yourself... it works for me. I know that you say that you're very goal-oriented which could help you A LOT, but are these long term or short term goals? For example you can say, "I want to get an A on this paper," or "I want to get an A on this test." Experiment with study techniques until you find one that you like and that works for you, this will also help you when you get into college.
Here's a link that will help explain your learning style more to you, as well as offer some great study techniques: [Link](Mouse over link to see full location)
As far as not knowing what you want to do after high school that's completely normal, I personally suggest that you go to college even if you just get a general education degree because it will enable you to get better jobs. Trust me I have been spending the past five months looking for jobs, for a lot of job descriptions a college degree is either listed a plus or a requirement.
If you decide that college is not for you for whatever reason than take up a trade, such as hair dressing, dog grooming, certified nursing assistant, a pharmacy technician, etc.
I wish you the best of luck and remember you have the rest of your life to figure out what you want to do!
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I know right now it's tough and it seems hopeless but you have to push yourself sometimes. We all do things that we don't want to but sometimes you have to push yourself in order to get the things you want.
When I was a junior in high school I had no idea what I wanted to do and guess what I've been out of high school for 5 years and I still don't know. That's okay. I'm trying to figure out what I want I'm still young I'm not married and I don't have kids. I have the freedom to figure out what I want and explore. In high school I feel the pressure they put on students is that you have to know what you want and guess what not everyone does and thats ok. I use to sit near this girl in class when I was in junior high and she had goals and always knew what she wanted. Fact of the matter is that there are very few people like that.
Think about the positives and think about you possibly would want to do. Try out new things and maybe work in retail see if you like that or maybe work in healthcare and see if you like that. Whatever you find appealing "attack it" and go for it and do the best that you can Life is like a mini mall of opportunites that awaits you. Believe me you're not alone and I'm sure if you ask your peers how they feel most of them would be able to relate to what you're feeling. Think about it, if money weren't an issue what would you want to do?
As far as your childhood being difficult, we all go through struggles in our lives its how we overcome them. We are all dealt a hand of cards in our lives its how we play them that matters. I understand how you are feeling all to well and I'm working on making myself happy. I'm not where I want to be but I'm getting surely but slowly I'm getting there.
"Life is a journey, not a race"
Think positive and believe me I know its hard but you'll get through it and eventually things will work out. Good luck! :)
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u need a goal tht u r rely excited for "the secret" movie/doc rely helpful.sumthng tht gives u a reason to slog it out for.
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