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boy trouble....again IM being USED!
im 13/g and u just found IM being used. so there was this guy that was my friend and stuff. and i trusted him.so just yesterday i found out he was just acting like my friend.like, this other girl (my BFF) asked him if he just like me as a friend and he said" don't tell her this, but not at all". so know i am extremly upset. i mean i trust him with my LIFE! should i beat the carp out of him?
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Maybe give some free advice about: Friendship?
What you should do, is just not talk to him whenever possible, because then your feelings will never go away and if he doesn't like you at all, then he wouldn't talk to you. However, if he does, just act normal or you could talk to him about how you feel, or about what he has said. He's not really worth your time if thats how he is treating you. Maybe talking to you face to face will have a different response - guys sometimes can be secretive about how they really feel, blocking out the truth, or just trying to block out all of their feelings all together. Talking to him about it, may hurt you more, but at least then you know that he really isn't worth it and you know to move on from him. To your face, he might just be super nice, but then tell him that you know, and maybe he can explain why he said that. Your choice if it's a good excuse or a bad excuse. But always give them a chance(:
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Warning: My advice is probably not something that you want to hear, but most people around my age will probably the same thing.
When I was your age, I went through a similar situation however I kind of brought it upon myself. In eighth grade there was this guy that I was friends with and I felt like he wasn't too interested in really talking to me. I asked one of my friends to IM him asking me if he thought that I was boring, he said yes and I told him "Why don't you go f*** off?" When I said that, he told me, "If you're so sorry, why did you tell me to go f*** off?" And he held a grudge against me for a really long time. I kind of ended up regretting it all of eighth grade, and I spent most of my eighth grade year depressed over that fact, I had already had depression and it just added to it because I actually did have a huge crush on him.
I hate to tell you this but you did kind of bring it upon yourself when you got your friend to ask him if he liked you as a friend, I mean now at least you know. However there are some things of truth that we really just don't want to hear because they will hurt us.
I am 20 years old, seven years older than you, so I am a lot older than you now and my best advice is to be the bigger and better person. Don't resort to his same immaturity of what he said to your friend, yes if he didn't even like you as a friend he shouldn't act like one. However through the course of your life you are going to meet people who will act like your friend, when they're really not.
Just avoid him as much as possible, and if he tries to talk to you either ignore him or act fake nice to him. Do yourself a favor and don't let him get to you, beating him up would be letting him get to you and make you look the bad person.
Five, ten years down the road, when you're out of junior high and have finished high school he's not going to mean a single thing to you.
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Yeah do it girl X)
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