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helllloooooooooo!! i got bored one day and my friend had told me about this site so i thought i should sign up!! so here i am full to bursting with advice for stuff!

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is it okay.. im 13/f 5'6" and 125 or so punds maybe 130 should i lose weight? i want t flat stomach and my thinghs are pretty big how do i lose that weight?

dont worry your not fat..im 13/f 5'6" and im about 140...but if you do want to lose weight you should try to cut back on snacks and sugary/fatty foods and eat more fruits and vegetables. also try to drink 3 glasses of milk a day it actaully does help you lose weight. and of course...excercise is a must crunches will help with your stomach and running will help with you thighs. also yoga is an awesome choice for flattening your stomach and its also relaxing and yoe'll be more flexible after! good luck!

"hope i helped"
~*skippy_pebbles*~

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hey...well ive always been...skinney i guess you could say. but now im growing up and getting more and more scared everyday i will wake up chubby. i tryed thrwoing junk away... but all the other girls at my school eat snack paks and other crap. and all they sell at school for lunch is junk. i feel weird cause in the morning i pack healthy..then regret it cause all the other kids have fatty foods.
how can i stop w\ the junk
and make for a brigter future?
-Scared

first off..congrats on your healthy eating!! you shouldnt change your eating habits just because of what other people are eating, because what you're doing is right! what you can do is just keep going on eating healthy a little junk food is okay every now and then of course. but if you keep eating the way you do you dont have to be worried about waking up chubby.

"hope i helped"
~*skippy_pebbles*~

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13/F

I'm getting contacts tomorrow, and I'm kind of worried about it. I'll have to take them out every day, and I'm kind of scared I won't be able to put them in correctly, rip them, or hurt my eyes. My mom is finally trusting me with contacts, so I REALLY want to be able to make her believe I'm ready for them. Can anyone please give me steps on how to put them in and take them out?

-mystical_breeze
Ox

Thats how i felt before i got my contacts. But if your getting them from an eye doctor(which you should be doing and not ordering them off the net) then they should show you how to put them in. and if they dont then you can always ask them to. when i got mine they showed me how to put them in and take them out and then made me do both myself before i left. and there might be instructions on either your bottle of contact solution(its what you soak you contacts in every night) or the box the contacts come in.

"hope i helped"
~*skippy_pebbles*~

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ok so this is like my 5th period and i've never had cramps really bad. today im having really bad cramps. whats the best thing to do, to stop the pain? its unbarable!

--->luvsu

yea i know how yea feel and i hate it when cramps get that bad. what i do since i never feel like taking some kinda medicine is find a position on my bed where the cramps dont hurt and then stay there. theres always a position where theres no pain and when you find it...its awesome lol

"hope i helped"
~*skippy_pebbles*~

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Ah I once again am having guy troubles, it always seems to happen again over and over. But this time I seem to like a really cute guy, but he is really popular. I don't know if I should fight or if I should just let him come to me... or if I should just stop liking him...HELP ME PLEASE

this happened to me!! dont wait for him to make the first move!! just go and ask him out. but dont stop liking him cause he might turn out to be a really great bf but if u dont ask then you'll never know and you'll hate yourself for it!!

**hope i helped**
~~skippy_pebbles~~

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Hey, I'm the person who posted the question about triplets and quarter notes in the song "Wishing You Were Somehow Here Again" from the Phantom of the Opera. My friend listened to me sing the song, and she said it sounded too uptight and exact. She said that I should swing it a little to sound more natural. What is swinging and should I do it for this song?

I love that song! Swinging would be like instead of 2 eight notes, it would be a dotted eight note and a sixteenth note. But dont swing it. Try to make the notes flow together more. The song is a love song, you're singing about the one you love, so you'd want it to flow together and looser. Be creative with it and change it to make it sound better.

**hope i helped**
~~skippy_pebbles~~

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I'm not allowed to date....but i have a boyfriend..but if my dad finds out he will like kill me!!! i dont know what to do!!!!!!!!

You can have a bf without dating. I'm not allowed to date yet either, but I did go out with a guy once, and my parents only found out cause I broke my promise and told my brothers gf. If you really want him as your bf and you're sure you're ready, then just dont tell alot of people. If your dad asks just say you're only hugging and holding hands. good luck!

**hope i helped**
~~skippy_pebbles~~

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I moved away from my hometown in 5th grade, now im in 8th and i want to get ahold of some friends that i left behind. i have a myspace account and i tried that but theres just to many ppl. uhh is there any other way i can get ahold of some long lost buddys?

Have you ever an online phonebook? AS long as you know last name and parents first names, then you should be able to find someone. Or if you have one of your friends phone #. Myspace is a good idea but there are a lot of people so you should try something else until you find them. Once you find a friend then you can tell them about your myspace and hopefully find more friends. Good luck!

**hope i helped**
~~skippy_pebbles~~

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I'm married, and my husband and I rent a house from my parents. I'm 20, and my husband is 21. They've been pretty generous by offering us the house over other renters, and giving us a lower rent. They insist of holding a copy of the house key for emergencies, which is fine with me.

Here's the problem. Lately, they've been letting themselves in without knocking. After my husband and I come home from work and put the baby in bed, we tend to sit around...not completely clothed. More than once now, they've caught us like this; once just walking around naked and twice being intimate.

But maybe worse, they let themselves in when we're not home. I don't think they mean any harm, but they come in, look around, borrow our stuff, and clean.

I'm afraid that they'll find something they don't like and kick us out. I feel that we're adults, and we pay rent, so we deserve some privacy. Am I right that we should have privacy? If so, how should I go about talking to my parents? I don't want to make them feel bad, since I think they're just trying to help.

You're 20 and you're married, you deserve some privacy! You should think of your parents just like you would if it had been someone else renting out the house. Would you like them barging in without knocking? Just confront your parents and tell them that you want more privacy, tell them that you're a married adult and privacy is what you deserve. Ask them to knock before they come in, and not to come in when you're not home. You shouldnt feel bad, they helped by giving you a house, they arent helping by looking through youre stuff and barging in unannounced.

**hope i helped**
~~skippy_pebbles~~

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Im 15 female and ive never had a boyfriend before. Im not going to say im ugly becuase people will just say "youre beautiful inside" blah blah. But my question: Will a guy still want to go out with me if i dont want to do anything past makeing out? Well at least him doing to me..or until i feel more comfortable with my body.

So am i considered prude?
Will I ever get a boyfriend if i feel this way?

you're gonna get a boyfriend it might just take some time. If you cant find a bf that is okay with not going past making out then, well the dating world just sucks for girls. even if you think that you're ugly theres a guy out there who'll think you're beautiful! if my friend says that i look pretty i'll SAY awww thank you, but THINK girl, what is wrong with you! But I promise that there are guys who'll want to date you and be fine not going past making out. good luck!

**hope i helped**
~~skippy_pebbles~~

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Okay I LOVE to tap dance. But I have a sort of large body composition which does not look good in those short, tight clothes. What should I do? Do people like dancers with a little (Or a lot)of meat on their bones?

Dance your heart out! I take jazz classes and I'm the biggest in my class and all we wear are tights leotards and shoes! But as I see it, the more I dance the smaller I will be and be proud of how I look in those tights. Who cares if people dont like dancers with a lot of meat on theirs bones, cause the only thing that matters is how well you can dance.

**hope i helped**
~~skippy_pebbles~~

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so i think i shood get a x mas present for my g/f
i dont have much money so i need sumthin a little cheap
ive got like 30 bucks to spend so itd be great to get her sumthin

I dont think that you'd have to get anything really expensive. I know if I had a bf I wouldnt want him to be broke just cause he got my something. My friend gave me an old ring, and she says its really cheap, but its my favorite ring. Maybe if theres something of yours that she really likes, maybe like one of your shirts or something. Good luck!

**hope i helped**
~~skippy_pebbles~~

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Im making a list for my boyfriend for christmas..


100 reasons why i love you

can you help me get a few?

Awww. Thats so sweet! Here are some that I would write:
I Love You Because...
After a bad day at work you bring the smile back to my face

Sometimes you're the only one who I can talk to

You make me feel special/loved

You tell me I'm beautiful when I look horrible

You're the only one who'll kiss me in the rain

You're not upset when I cant see you because I have to study

You've never tried to change me

Well thats all I can think of right now.

**hope i helped**
~~skippy_pebbles~~

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Ok i have this ex... *ben* Well ben dumped me after 2 days.. we were perfect for each other. Well I have told everyone that i dont like him but its so hard to get over ben.. i mean we had the same likes/dislikes/initials/personalities.. EVERYTHING! it was a dream come true... anyways, its hard to get over him and if a girl flirts or likes him i get mad. And i figured out that 2 of my friends like him, and i got pretty pissed.. they dont know though. Is the rule of never liking your friends x's true? Like if they break up with you? Im so confused i dont know if im being selfish or normal! sorry this is long
please help!

I know who you feel. I still like my ex and its been over a month since he dumped me. I found out from my ex that my best friend liked him and I had to pretend that it didnt hurt but he knows me well enough(my older bro and his older sis have been dating for over a year so..) to know that knowing that did hurt me. But my friend doesnt like him anymore. After two days you cant tell if your relationship is perfect. But even if you dont have a chance to go out with him again, you could try to be friends with him. That's what I did and its working out pretty well. But whatever you do, dont lose a close friend just because she like your ex. Good luck.

**hope i helped**
~~skippy_pebbles~~

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I am a thirteen year old girl, recently a friend of mine on the Internet "Rob" told me that he was bulimic and anorexic because he was overweight. Rob's girlfriend had convinced him to stop throwing up...but today after Thanksgiving he said he did this again. I found his phone number and anonymously called his mom, I told her what was going on and she said she would discuss this with his father. I don't know if I did the right thing by telling. He asked me not to tell. I have never even met him face to face, just on the internet. Im scared that I messed up terribly and now I am feeling really guilty. Please help me decide what the right thing is to do. -Worried about Bulimic Friend-

You did the right thing! Even if he was just making it up its better to tell his parents since you dont know if it was a lie. I have an advice book and here if what it says about the side effects of bulimia:
"Bulimia can cause major, irreversible damage to your lungs(food particles get trapped in your lungs and irritate them), kidneys(throwing up drains you of vital body fluids), heart(you're at rick for arrhythmias-irregular heartbeat, and more. In sever cases bulimia can cause death."
"Bulimia can give you bloddshot eyes, a puffy face, and gnarly teeth(stomach acid erodes tooth enamel."

I found this site and phone number for bulimia help:
www.aabainc.com
(800)445-1906
I hope your friend is okay.

**hope i helped**
~~skippy_pebbles~~

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I'm 13 and about to audition for a musical. We're supposed to prepare a song and a monologue. I've gone through an array of broadway songs. Finally, I listened to "Wishing You Were Somehow Hear Again" from the Phantom of the Opera. It's beautiful! But before I get the sheet music, I need to know; is it a difficult piece? Vocally demanding? I'm in a very advanced chorus, which means that I can sing a lot, but there's no real way of telling whether this song is too overreaching or not just by listening, you know? If anyone has had any experience with this piece, could I have a few tips?

And PLEASE do not say "go see a vocal teacher/go take a voice lesson/idk lol hope i helped." Even though I'm in an advanced chorus, I can't afford a voice lesson. I know that puts me at a disadvantage, but that's JUST LIFE.

I have the sheet music and it's really easy. But you need to be able to sing really high notes and have a good range. I've only had two years of choir and I was able to sing that song in my first year. Good luck!

*hope I helped*
~~skippy_pebbles~~

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Okay me and this boy have been friend FOREVER
and now he is saying that people in our school are saying that we are going out, and were not.
And so now everyone thinks we are and i am like WERE NOTTTTT OKAY and so now he asked me should
I go out with him??????
he is cute but he's not that cute HE IS REALLLLLYYYYYY NICE!!!!!!!!

If you really like him and want to go out with him then go for it! But dont be pushed into a realationship just because you think that you have to. Only go out with him if that what you really want or then it could ruin everything. Good luck!!

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~~skippy_pebbles~~

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hey ok well i am 15 and i am in love with ym best friends little sister. i have known her my entire life and i have never thought of her as more then just like a litte sister i guess but her bro is like rele protective of her how do i ask her out without making him pissed and risk hurting my relationship with either of them or theirs with eachother she has been acting wierd around us when i am over there adn she doesnt hang out with us as much and she has a bunch of guys that r just friends that r over there all teh time too adn i feel weird like i suddenly become all protective like her bro! please help

This has nothing to do with her brother! You have to remember that. If you want to ask her out, go for it. If she doesn't like you like that then do your best to make things normal again. If her brother has something against the two of you being together, then talk to him. I'm sure that if you tell him how you feel about her that he'll change his mind.

**hope I helped**
~~skippy_pebbles~~

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hii. i think i am fat i weigh 141 and i dont like the way i look so im thinking about becoming anerixic for just a few weeks to shed some pounds. But i heard it can be dangerous

Well, I don't know how tall you are, so you might me just fine. What you should do is cut out soda and as much sugary stuff as possible. Drink alot of water and juice and stuff like that. Instead of fatty and oily foods, try fruits ,vegetables, or half calorie things. Also, try not to eat a big meal twice a day, but eat small things every two or three hours. Every night you could try doing excersises like push-ups, crunches, jumping jacks, running, and really anything else that gets you moving.

**hope I helped**
~~skippy_pebbles~~

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Okay me and my boyfriend were together for about three years, he is 20 and im 18. We were friends for two years before we dated anyways. we broke up because we had respect issues and didnt agree on certain things in the future. he tried getting me back many times...but about three weeks ago he finally gave up. a week ago i saw he had made a myspace...and is now talking to so many girls and gettin their numbers and meeting them up. its really heartbreaking for me because we've only been broken up for about three months max and hes already moved on and talking to all these girls...and im constantly sad now.
how can i move on...not miss him...not be hurt? and i cant stop myself from not going on his myspace cause i get curious of who hes talkin to...help me! i wanna get over him! and plz dont suggest..sleeping with someone else for now cause im not like that.

I know what you're going through cause I'm going through the same thing. What I do is hangout with my friends. Except for me, I feel my best when I'm hanging out with my guy friends. Cause when Im with them, I feel safe, like nothing can hurt me. My email is skippy_pebbles@yahoo.com if you wanna talk.

**hope I helped**
~~skippy_pebbles~~

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