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Ok i have this ex... *ben* Well ben dumped me after 2 days.. we were perfect for each other. Well I have told everyone that i dont like him but its so hard to get over ben.. i mean we had the same likes/dislikes/initials/personalities.. EVERYTHING! it was a dream come true... anyways, its hard to get over him and if a girl flirts or likes him i get mad. And i figured out that 2 of my friends like him, and i got pretty pissed.. they dont know though. Is the rule of never liking your friends x's true? Like if they break up with you? Im so confused i dont know if im being selfish or normal! sorry this is long
please help!
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Sometimes, being exactly alike doesn't make people perfect for each other.
You've got to understand that Ben probably had a reason to break up with you, and you gotta respect that.
It's ok that you're having trouble getting over him. When you like someone it isn't easy for it to just go away. Just allow yourself to realize that he isn't your guy and you shouldn't get jealous or angry. Try to convince yourself that there are plenty of other people who will be perfect for you. you're still young.
Just like you can't make yourself get over Ben, your friends can't stop themselves from liking him. forgive them. you aren't going out with him, so they are more than welcome to crush on him. In regards to the "rule" it really depends. It's fine that they like your Ex. and if they don't know your true feelings, then they dont think they're doing anything wrong... You need to tell them that you still aren't over Ben, and they should be sensitive to that fact. If one of your friends does get the opportuinty to go out with Ben, then you need to let her be happy. Or she could sacrifce that relationship so you would be comfortable. Whatever, just talk to your friends.
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"after 2 days"
is this a fuckin joke? i say anything that you can physically SLEEP THROUGH isn't worth the trouble.
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I know who you feel. I still like my ex and its been over a month since he dumped me. I found out from my ex that my best friend liked him and I had to pretend that it didnt hurt but he knows me well enough(my older bro and his older sis have been dating for over a year so..) to know that knowing that did hurt me. But my friend doesnt like him anymore. After two days you cant tell if your relationship is perfect. But even if you dont have a chance to go out with him again, you could try to be friends with him. That's what I did and its working out pretty well. But whatever you do, dont lose a close friend just because she like your ex. Good luck.
**hope i helped**
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Of course there is no rule of whether or not you can date your friends Exes... It all just depends on the what the friend feels about it. I mean you cant stop yourself from liking someone even if they did date your best friend.. I am not saying you shouldnt feel jealous or mad when they do like them.. but try not to take it out on them.. Just try to move on and find another guy that actually likes you back..
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There is no rule of liking your exes. That is a stupid rule, and people should get over it. Now, you are being pretty stupid. You can't tell in two days how "perfect" you are for each other. You (and every other couple) thinks it, but had it been a month, two months, six months, whatever...you would have seen the ugly side of him. Just get over him, it can't be that damn hard.
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