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Hey there!I'm Meg(or Megan).I'm 13 yrs old.I live on beautiful Cape Cod(except when it's the summer,and the tourists come,LOL!).I love to give advice,and my friends say I'm really good at it.My friends came up with this crazy idea that I should go to this site and give other people advice.Whaddya know?I love it!I also think it's good practice,because I want to be a child phycologist someday(I know,isn't that wierd?I'm already starting to think about the future!)I also love music.I mostly listen to Country music like Kenny Chesney(isn't he so hott?),Big&Rich,Gretchen Wilson,and Rascal Flatts.I also listen to some alternative like Weezer,Hoobastank,Jack's Mannequin,and Simple Plan.I know,those are two totally diverse genres!Remember:If you need some good advice,just ask.I will usually get back to you in a day.

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i have pretty big hips, and a bit of a belly.which bathing suit type would be best for me, to hide my hips and belly?links with examples would be very helpful.

thanks!!

The bathing suit that would be the best would be a bathing suit top that is like a tanktop and the bottoms would be like shorts.

I'm really tired of my current friend group. They are all fake, not trustworthy,inconsiderate, they always talk about their friends behind their back...they probablly even talk about me. I've talked to them about this problem but they just ignore it, and continue.

I started talking to a new girl at school this year, and we really got along well. We never hung out or anything because she has her own friend group so i was afraid to...

I want to invite her over this summer though and hang out with her. The problem is im really shy and it's kind-of hard for me to talk to new people that i want to like me...and i really really want her to like me.

My question is how should i invite her over, what should we do, what should i talk about, and how to I relax and continue conversation... and have fun =]

thankie thankkkkies!

-Anna, age 15

Find out what she likes("I love country music!How about you?"),then talk to her about it.You could invite her to go to the movies or the beach.Just ask her straight out if she wants to do something with you.Good luck!

My friend is really selfish. I mean, she's my best friend but she's so damn selfish. Like, when I go to her house, she eats stuff right in front of me. She never asks if I want anything. And she doesn't let me play her Nintendo DS. She's really spoiled too. It annoys me so much because she has all these things that my mom would never get me. And I want to play a freaking video game and she's so "NOOOO! PUT IT DOWN! I DON'T LIKE IT WHEN PEOPLE PLAY MY GAMES!" It's like, shut the f up! I'm so tired of it. What should I do?

I know alot of people like that.Just stay away from her,that's all I can say.

okay, there's this gorgeous boy I know. He's completely flawless, and I have a big thing for him. One of my friends tells me that he actually likes me. Naturally, I was thirlled, but there's on problem: HE WON'T GO OUT WITH ME!! There's a lot going on with him, I guess. I mean we still flirt, hang out, etc., but does this mean I should lay off him in terms of flirting? the things have nothing to do with me [more-so family], but does that mean I should leave him be for now? thanks

If you both are doing the flirting(not just you)and you guys still hang out(even while he's trying to work out his problems),then I don't see why you should stay away from him.Be patient while he works out his problems.If he likes you,he'll ask you.

hey my names maddy
my two best frends are guys
one has a girlfriend who im frends with and ones single
ever since i met them, both of them have liked me on and off but they dont know i know that..
i like both of them in that way aswell just not alot and i hav too much of a single life now to drop it all for a boy
what do i do when eventually one of them asks me out? i dont want to loose my best frends.... but then again i like them...

The thing about dating your friends is that if you break up,your friendship will probably never be the same.So,ask yourself this question:Am I willing to give up a good friendship?When you answer that question,you will have also answered the other question.

i no this is weird to ask but
i get perinoid at times and like i freak out
and im scared one of these days someone is gonna come into my house and i no its bad to say but i dont want it to happen. even tho all the doors are lock and everything thing but if someone came in would my dog be sure to hear the person??
sorry i no im weird like that
but i just need answers

I used to be just like that.What I did to stop thinking about it was thinking about how many days have gone by without anything happening.If you have an alarm system,you could check it and you might feel better knowing that if anything did happen,the alarm would go off and the police would come.

lol..i didnt know wat category to put this under but here it goes... im 14/f & i am emo. people think that emo people are freaks. but we are not! we think of life in a different way. my problem is that people are making fun of me. thay call me a loser & stuff like that. i really dont care what people say but there is this girl that keeps on bugging me. she keeps on telling me that she is gonna jump me & stuff. i already told her that i didnt want to start a fight with her. but she wont listen. she is still bugging me.& its getting too far because she has been threatening me. how can i make her stop? thanks 4 your help. =]

There's really nothing wrong with being an emo.You're off to a good start,by telling this girl you don't want to fight her.If these threats are major(like,"I'm going to kill you!"),then you need to tell someone.Even if the threats aren't major,you still need to tell someone.If she still keeps bugging you,just tell her.Be like,"Hey (insert girl's name here),you are really bugging me.Just stop it!"I know this sounds lame but if it can work for me,it can work for you!

ok im over weight and my family and friends are always like "loose weight" and ive tried the no junk food and exercize and thewhatching calories and non of this seems to work what should i do?

First,go to your doctor.Your doctor can determine if you need to lose some weight or if you are fine.If you do need to lose weight,here are some tips:You don't have to cut out junk food completely,just eat it in moderation!Also,you can trying trading in junk food for healthier versions(like frozen yogurt instead of ice cream!It tastes the same!)Have 3 small healthy meals a day(breakfast,lunch,dinner)and 2 healthy snacks(pudding or granola bars with bits of chocolate is okay)DO NOT skip meals!Try only to eat if your hungry.If your only a tiny bit hungry and you need an energy boost,just grab a snack.It's good that you're excercising,but just remember that you won't get thinner overnight.It usually takes 4-8 weeks to see a difference.Also,try to keep your routine fun so you don't get bored.It's also good that you're watching calories,but also watch the fat content too.My last tip is:Get enough sleep!The less sleep you get,the more you crave junk food.Wow,that was long!Hope I helped!

I really hate my uncle's girlfriend. she isn't nice and i think she's making my whole family treat me wrong. And I'm the one whose wrong when i try to stand up for myself to them or tell them the problem i'm having. how do i deal?

Woah!She sounds like a witch!Okay,you need to talk to your uncle...alone!Make sure you talk to him when he's not busy or doing something.Just be like,"Uncle bob,I really don't like the way your girlfriend is treating me!"If he continues to make you sound "wrong" because you stood up to her and told him the problem you were having,just give it time.Hey,a relationg ship can't last forever right?

Is this something wrong with me?

It's not a constant thing, but I have some real problems with anger at times. For example before.. Mom and I were in the car and I was crying.. been bogged down by stress, friends issues, and a recent breakup. Then I totally lost it because I felt she wasn't listening to me. I started throwing everything everywhere and kicking and screaming, telling her to listen to me. she tried to act all "calm" about it and even tried to change the topic and ignore what I was saying. I got mad and told her to stop being calm and lose the tone. I got even madder, and then something snapped. I put my fingers in the car window, and pushed the button up until my fingers got caught and kept doing it till I screamed in pain. I also bit hard into my hand in anger and the marks are still there.

I have never done anything like that before. Mom and I haven't spoken since. I feel terrible about what I did. I have no idea what got into me. Is there something wrong with me, or was this just a one-off thing, like losing control for a moment? I feel really ashamed because my mom is good to me, and I went and did something like that. What should I do? Is this a serious problem that requires serious help?

thanks

I would say this:Go to the doctor!And,talk you your mom.Tell her why you acted that way,and tell her you need to go to the doctor.She will understand.

so theres this girl and we were friends for a long time since 5th grade .. but this year we kinda stopped talking.. idk why but the people who we hated in september now shes BEST friends with them.. and it made me mad in the begining but now it doesnt bug me.. so we made plans sometime in december when we were close and we had a great time and lauging and everything and then the next day we went to the mall and had fun again.. but then after that we started talking less and less everyday.. we were in the same math class and lunch table and we hardly talked to eachother..i felt like we werent hanging out and talking much so i decided to try to become better friends with her again by asking her to go to this carnival by my house and she said yes so i went to go pick her up except my sister(one of her friends but they dont do anything out of school) and her best friend(my sisters best friend) went too! so this girl who i invited wasnt even hanging out with me just talking to them because shes better friends with them and i was like in myhead.. uh hello i invited you ! so then when we got there they ran off and me and this girl started walking around but we ddint really have enouigh money to buy those bracelt things so we didnt know if we should buy tickets.. so for like 20 minutes we were like in dead silencewalking around.. and it was really awkward cause everytime i tried to start a conversation or laugh or something she would just be like..yeah..whatever and keep walking and so then i said how bout we go get more money from my mom and buy tickets and so she said yeah.. and so we went on the rides and laughed a couple times but it was still awkward around her.. i thought she was ina bad mood that night or something but then when we ran out of tickets on our last ride.. my sister and her friend came right behind us and i was left out again because im not really friends with the other girl either. idk if i should keep on trying to be friends with this girl or not..it seems like evry time i try to talk to her or hang out with her its so awkward sorry that its long..

You are obviously trying really hard to be this girls friend,and it sounds like she couldn't care less.Heres's what you do:Sit her down and confront her about this.Tell her how you feel about it.If she still doesn't care,maybe you should just move on.

Hey. My name is Giovanna, im 13 and i reallly need a new screenname!.id like it if it had something to do w. california and/or summer.you know, along those lines! thanksss soo much!
giovanna

caligurl(or girl)
californican
summer_angel

Those are some!

my boyfreind and i met on canada day when i was visiting poeple in reddeer it was great he was great and we connected great and all but londg distance is hard do u have any type s to make it easier or should i dump him because of the distance

You don't have to dump him because of the long distance.But keep in mind,long distance relationships aren't for everyone!

okay. sunday im going to my first overnight camp. it will be until wednesday. how many shirts/shorts? any other tips? should i bring my new razr? PLEASE HELP
I RATE !!!!!!

please do this ASAP

DO NOT bring your phone!You should bring at least 4 shirts,3 bottoms,and some shoes.Don't forget to bring toiletries.

im really mad. lately ive been missing my clothes. i went to my BEST friends cabin with her last weekend and when we got back i realized that i was missing a pair of my pants and then today i go to wear one of my newer tank tops and thats missing and then one of my cami's are missing. i brought all these to the cabin and now theyre gone when i get home? im positive that i didnt leave it at her cabin because we were in the tent together the whole time and i would of seen that i left it in the tent. i kind of think that my friend took it or something because what else could of happened to it? i go to her cabin with all my clothes and now when i come back theyre all missing?..i asked her about my jeans and im like did you take them on accident or something and shes like noo i didnt see them when im unpacking. this is REALLY making me mad actually i started crying because also before that i lost one of my brown tank tops. theye all missing all my clothes. also i went swimming with her yesterday and she doesnt have a swimsuit so she had to borrow mine but she never gave it back she just went home with it on so how do i get that back too now? what should i do? when i asked my mom about my tank tops and if she washed them shes like no..maybe your friends arent that trustworthy? i cant go to my friends apartment because her mom is weird and she doesnt like people going in there..i havent even been in there once so there is no way i could actually go look myself. what if my friend is lying to me and has all my clothes? what should i do. because its making me really mad..and also my parents too we dont have the money to go replace all my clothes. and my friend is also suppose to go on vacation with us in like a couple weeks but now im kinda pissed at her but i cant accuse her because i cant prove she took them but where else could they have gone??

well thanks for taking your time...

Just ask her straight out if she stole them.Yeah I know that might sound obvious,but that's what you have to do.Just be like,"Hey,did you take my (insert clothing item here)?If you did,can I have it back?".If she says she didn't take it just say,"Well,I've looked everywhere,so you must have them!".If she still denies it,she doesn't have them.

ok, i have an online friend who i've been friends with for 6 years now and i sort of have a crush on him and i think he does too...he's just an amazing guys but lately he's been moody with me and just an ass sometimes...sometimes he'll be so sweet and tell me sweet things like he likes me and that he wants to be my boyfriend and then the next time we chat, he's such an ass and denies everything he said the last time we talked!

what is that about???? can someone explain?? is he just playin with me? should i just stop talking to the guy?

I guess i should point out that he's never had a g/f, would that have anything to do with it?

ok thanks in advance for any advice given :)

This guy is definatly a waste of your time.If he's nice one minute and rude the next,he's obviously not going to be a good boyfriend.Here's what you do:Talk to him.Tell him how his attitude is making you confused.If he won't tell you why...drop him!

Ok, here is my problem. I have a group of friends. We all were pretty cool with eachother until this year. One girl was acting annoying etc. etc. and making some huge mistakes. My other friends got made at her and talk about her everytime I come over because they are dissappointed and mad at her because she made mistakes, especially a huge one. I agree with them on some topics, but not on others. The friend who makes mistakes is still my friend...but sometimes she goes and makes a white lie to me every now and then and it makes me uncomfortable. I can not side with her or else I'll lose some of my good friends, but I cant side with them either because I do not agree with everything they are doing. I am being used and pestered by the annoying friend sometimes. I try to talk to her about it....but I never can say the things I want to say right. I need help! What should I do?

--Stuck in the Middle

First of all if this girl who makes mistakes is your friend and your other friends talk about her,you should definatly tell your friends to stop talking about the girl who makes mistakes.Second of all,you need to tell your friends that you don't agree with some of the things that they are saying about the girl who makes mistakes.Then,you need to tell the girl who makes mistakes that you are not comfortable with her "white lies",and you need to tell her you don't like being used and pestered.If you want all this madness to stop,you need to say what you feel.

Okay this boy just asked me out and I said yes. I'm 13 and I'm in 7th grade and he's 17 and he's in 9th grade. That's a 4 years age difference so I'm not sure if I should keep going out with him what do you think? I know he loves me he said he said he will respect me and he doesn't care how old I am. He doesnt want you know what, and he's really sweet. I'm sure he really likes me. What do you think of this?

I think you should dump him,even if he doesn't want,"you know what".He's 17,and your 13.He's more mature than you(even if it doesn't seem like it),and he's had more experience.So yeah,you should get rid of him.There are plenty of nice guys out there who are your age.

I was logging on to my computer and my dad's screenname was on and i found some porn on his recent go-to sites. It made me really really mad. *&& said something about an escort [[yeah I know what that means]] it really hurts me. I want to confront him *&& my mom about it, but I know i'll get yelled at for my parents thinking i just went on his screenname at this time they wont believe me, because they recently grounded me from myspace. Please help me ! thank you

Just tell your mom.She may be mad at first because you were on your dad's screename,but if you tell her how you feel about it,she won't be so mad.

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