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i know what ap classes are, but what is ib? ap in other countries in high school when you are foreign exchange student-ing?
IB stands for International Bacheloreate. This is a program that takes the place of a regular high-school education, except instead of just graduating high school, you complete one year of university at the same time.
It is an international program in that the curriculum is the same no matter where you live, and exams for anyone in the program are all graded by the same people (ie, not your teacher). However, they probably do have some schools like this where you live, and it isn't just for boarding school students. In fact, a normal high school exchange student probably couldn't exchange at an IB school because the curriculum would be very different.
This program is good if you want to get ahead in your university education and don't mind some extra stress, but it's bad for people that like to relax/have an extra year of high school/ want to take more non-academic courses.
How can I lose five to seven pounds in two weeks to a month? Will slimfast and a lot of exercise help a lot? Thankss!
You can do this with the exercise and without the slim fast. Be sure to eat lots of leafy greens, nuts, proteins, and whole grains in your diet and you'll be fine =]
My boyfriend has cheated on me 3 times...he says that the reason for what he has done is because of me...keep in mind i never have cheated on him..
HIS REASON FOR CHEATING ON ME HE SAYS IS BECAUSE OF THE THINGS I DO TO HIM..WHICH IS WHEN WE ARGUE AND HE DOESINT LET ME TALK AT ALL I HANG UP ON HIM AND WHEN HE CALLS ME OUT OF MY NAME I HANG UP ON HIM AND DONT ANSWER HIS CALLS..ALSO WHEN I GO OUT WITH MY FRIENDS OR ANYTHING HE IS SO INSECURE THAT HE CALLS ME EVERY TIME I GO OUT AND STAYS ON THE PHONE WITH ME...WHILE HES STAYING ON THE PHONE WITH ME HE STRARTS QUESTIONING ME AND STARTS ACTING VERY INSECURE HE STARTS NAGGING ME NAGGING ME OVER THE PHONE...WHILE IM WITH MY FRIENDS...HE SAYS THINGS LIKE YEA LET ME CALL YOU LATER GO BE WITH YOUR FRIENDS OR WHAT YOU DOING WHO WAS THAT IN THE BACKGROUND. I GET MAD WHEN HE DOES THOSE THINGS SO WE START TO ARGUE AND HE ENDS UP GETTIN ME SO FRUSTERATED THAT I HANG UP AND DONT ASNWER HIS CALLS FOR THE REST OF THE DAY...THEN WHEN I CALL HIM HE GETS MAD AT ME FOR IGNORING HIS CALLS. THEN I GET BLAMMED FOR CHAETING ON HIM AND GETTING THOUGHT OF AS A CHEATER...HE IS THE ONE THAT MAKES ME NOT WANNA TALK TO HIM WHEN I GO OUT AND HAVE A INNOCENT TIME WITH MY FRIENS BECAUSE ALL HE DOES IS BE MEAN AND START ARGUEMENTS WITH ME FOR NO REASON..SO OVERALL HE SAYS THAT HES CHEATED ON ME BECAUSE OF ME NOT ANSERING HIS CALLS WHEN I GO OUT...BUT I HAVE MY REASONS ITS NOT BECAUSE IM CHEATING ON HIM OR IM HIDING SOME GUY FROM HIM ITS BECAUSE I CANT EVEN HAVE A GUD TIME WITHOUT HIM NAGGING ME AND BIENG INSECURE,,,,SO I WANTED TO KNOW IS HIS REASON FOR CHEATING ON ME A GUD ENOUGH REASON FOR SLEEPING AND DOING THINGS WITH OTHER GIRLS?? ALL HE DOES IS BALME ME FOR HIS WRONG DOINGS...I FEEL LIKE HE DID WHAT HE DID BECAUSE HE WANTED TO,,,,I LOVE HIM A LOT AND I STAY WITH HIM BECAUSE I LOVE HIM BUT HE DOESINT SEE THAT....IM CONFUSED AND DONT KNOW WHAT TO DO...
Calling you all of the time to make sure he always knows where you are and who you are with are signs that this guy is controlling, possibly even abusive. Someone in a relationship should be able to trust the other person. If you haven't given him any reason to not trust you, that's his problem. How he deals with it should not be to try to control you by always wanting to know what you are doing all of the time (this is unrealistic). "Punishing" you for hanging up on him when hello, what girl wouldn't, is manipulative and unacceptable. Besides, if all he does is start fights and not letting you hang out with other people by calling you all of the time, he really doesn't deserve you anyway.
my boyfriend and i have been going out for 7 months and we are so in love with each other we go out every 26th of every month as if it was anniversary wise.we have sex alot but for this past month we havent had sex cuz we barely see eachother. i have a attitude problem i get irritated quick and i get mad quick and i dont know why.. is it because i be stressed? or what
The people that are hurt most are most often the ones we love most. Human fact. Because you know that your boyfriend will love you anyway, you feel like you can sometimes take you your frustration on him because he won't leave you because of it. You're probably letting out most of your anger on him, also, because you bottle it up. What you need is some sort of anger outlet/hobby, or a way to deal with your problems more, instead of getting mad secretly at other people.
A good way to solve this problem temporarily is to explain to your boyfriend, when you lash out at him, that it has nothing to do with him, and more to do with you being stressing and bad at handling it in general. In the long term, if it is a big problem, counseling/therapy is always an option.
i love my boyfriend dearly. but somehow i think i got my views on sex mixed up. he cheated on me early on in our relationship and now i feel like if he doesnt want to have sex with me then i must not be pretty enough, or good enough for him. i get really upset when we are laying in bed and he just rolls over and goes to sleep instead of having sex with me. i must be too fat, or too ugly, or he doesnt like my hair, or i just dont turn him on. i dont know how to get past this... i love him so much but i am extremely hurt every night that we do not have sex and i dont know how much longer i can stay in a relationship where i am hurt soo much.
You should talk to him about this. One day when you are both calm/ relaxed and not hurrying anywhere say something like "Lately we haven't been having sex. When this happens I feel like maybe I'm not pretty enough or good enough." or "I miss having sex with you." or "Sometimes I feel like there's something wrong with me that maybe I'm not turning you on. Is this true?" The trick is to not be offensive and go with the "I feel" statements.
In all honesty, there is probably nothing wrong with you. When someone loves you, it doesn't matter how fat/thin/ good you are. If anything, he's probably stressed out or less horny right now for some reason. Maybe the passion of first getting together with you has worn off. In any case, it's probably best you get these worries out in the open instead of them causing you to keep blaming yourself.
And also, when that time comes where you feel alone with him seemingly ignoring you beside you, remember that you can also make the first move. If you want to have sex with him and cuddle up to him/let him know at night, he probably won't refuse.
hi... i've been suffering for a long long time and i am still not sure what's wrong with me... i am 22 now and this has started when i was 9.... i've had severe depressive moods and then i'd go back to just being "normal" or not depressed... i usually try to hide this from everyone but the things happening inside me are too painful for me to bear anymore... but i've noticed a pattern ... and so researched it and what i found was that it could be bipolar disorder... everything seems to fit... when i am depressed i feel unworthy of anything and that i am stupid (mental iq is below average), a failure, have no skills, and i endure horrible memories of times when i was so sure of myself and ended up embarrassing myself ... other times i'd feel so "high" that i could do anything and that my family is the reason i am not successful and they are in my way and i need to escape them and so on and so forth.... but nothing seems too far fetched... but if it weren't for my parents unusual extreme rules i would be partying like an animal with people i don't know and probably risking my life somewhere...
simple incidents really kill me inside when they're over: once i took one cooking lesson and then i bragged that i did it and so i got hired for a job to cater for an elementary school party because i convinced them of my "skills" and i ended up ruining everything and presenting horrible horrible food... no one said anything but i feel so bad... the principle even sent me a thank you present and card..... when i am depressed this comes to haunt me and i can't show my face to my family or anyone in the city... literally i stay in for days.... and at one point i was at the verge of suicide... this is really troubling me and i don't know what to do... i am so self conscious, i don't know what my skills are, who am i, and i don't know what's wrong with me... my parents follow an extremely religious school of thought and they do not believe in psychiatry or psychology (and barely medicine (!) if it weren't for extremely fatal issues) i don't know what to do because nothing i say can convince them... i am not sure what is wrong with me but it is really getting in the way i live my life... how do i get diagnosed and what do i tell the doctor about this? i mean i can't just say i have bipolar! i went to a counselor and he told me that i have severe anxiety and so i got medicated (secretly behind my parents backs!) the medications only made me sleep heavily and get more depressed... the reason i think i was prescribe those was because i usually go to him when i am in a state of depression and hallucination (i sometimes hear voices) and extreme paranoia that would show both on my mental state and physical! i would talk about threats realistic and unrealistic and i think that is what scares him most....i really don't know what to do and i really want to stop these daemons in my head! sometimes because they take over me completely i just become aware of where i am and what i am doing after periods of just not being there... like my mind was somewhere else while my body was left behind for a while.... people tell me that i talk to them or answer back but i can't really remember except sometimes it's like i am looking at myself from the outside....
I am so sorry this is long but i am really confused and scared....
help
Jemma/22
The kind of help you need right now is something that is stigmatized against, and possibly a little harder than another kind of physical health issue, but that doesn't mean that that kind of help doesn't exist - not by a long shot.
Don't worry about "defying" your parents on this one. You're legally an adult and responsible for yourself; furthermore, your well-being is wayy more important than you being the girl that always makes decisions based on your parents' thought-schools.
Go to a counselor or therapist if you are looking for counseling and/or your regular doctor or psychiatrist if you also want to seek out medication. And while you are there, a few things to remember:
-- You actually can go right up to your regular doctor and say "hey, I think I'm bipolar". They have a legal and professional responsibility to cover your health, and with this comes your mental well-being. It isn't uncommon for people to receive treatment for a mental illness from a family doctor.
-- Each individual medication you will try has around a 60% effectiveness rate. While it is very unlikely that the first meds you tried were terrible and didn't work at all, you shouldn't be discouraged. Treatment for mental illness is sometimes frustrating as it can take a while to find the right meds, and therapy is always a gradual treatment method. This doesn't mean you should ever give up; this means you have to be patient with the process. As well, some medicines, in the way they react with your body, will have more side affects than others. It is possible to find meds that will leave you bed ridden and exhausted, but there are likely many medications with little or no side affects. You need to be persistent in finding a drug that will work for you. With luck, it will be the next one you try.
--There are also many types of psychiatrists/therapists/doctors. Some are terrible. Some are wonderful. Some you will like and get along with and some you won't. Whenever you can, you should shop around to find someone you feel you can talk to and trust (especially for therapy, when it's success in part depends on this).
--Cost - depending on where you work and where you live, certain things are covered for you financially (yay!). You should do a little research to see what they are.
-- Other methods of treatment are also available. It's always worth a try to do a google search to see what's out there. On the list is definitely diet, and exercise. Running around makes endorphins, which makes you happy. As well, little things like getting enough sleep, surrounding yourself with as many loving people as possible, and taking time to yourself each day can help loads.
-- finally, stigma. Like your parents have already shown you, mental illness is kinda shown in a bad light. Always remember that you are not alone. A giant chunk of the population has suffered through something similar at some point, though they may or may not admit it. for more info visit this link: http://www.nytimes.com/2008/05/11/fashion/11madpride.html?_r=2&partner=rssuserland&emc=rss&pagewanted=all&oref=slogin&oref=slogin and this link: http://trouble.philadelphiaweekly.com/
Whatever you do, though, don't give up. Remember that whatever you feel scared and and confused about now will be something you can look back on in the future and feel so much tougher for having gone through it.
I will have been with my boyfriend for 3 years come early July. I love him a lot and he claims to feel the same. Things in his life have been pretty rough lately, so sometimes he's depressed.
I have begun to notice that the only time he is happy, smiling, or laughing is when he is with his friends. I can't even remember the last time he was happy to be just with me. This really concerns me, as I feel it's kinda important to make him happy since I'm his girlfriend.
I'm always wondering if he would just be happy with someone else and if I should move on. I don't want to lose him, but I love him enough to let him go if I can't make him happy like he needs to be.
I know that I need to talk to him and I'm the only one that can fix this, but I need help on what to say. I need help understanding why he does the things he does. A guy's perspective would be really helpful right now.
These are just some of the strange things he's been doing lately:
-Earlier this week we went out with a big group of friends. He ignored me the entire time. He didn't hold my hand, put his arm around me, or even speak to me. He didn't even offer to pay for me (which is unusual for him). He was occupied with his friend and this girl the whole time. I confronted him about it and he said he just didn't want to make anyone feel uncomfortable. (So apparently he doesn't care if I'm uncomfortable?)
-He turned 21 in January, but he never drinks. Never. But today his friend asked him to go to the bar with him, so he broke plans with me to go hang out with his friend. He had a good reason to go spend time with his friend (he's moving out of state), but he didn't invite me to hang out afterward. Not to mention the fact that he never goes to bars (his friend likes bars, but they have never gone together). Why would he want to hang out there all of a sudden?
-If he ever comes over to spend the night with me after an evening of hanging out, he just wants to go right to bed. But if I give the slightest hint that I want to have sex, all of a sudden he's awake. This makes me feel like the only quality time he wants to spend with me alone is if we're having sex. I'm thinking about stopping the sex altogether until things get better.
I'm just at a loss of how to fix this. Normally, if these things happened individually, I wouldn't give this stuff a second thought. But since it's all happen within a few days of each other, it's really starting to get to me. Suggestions?
I really do think that you are overreacting with these things. Him paying more attention to other people around him in a group really isn't weird. It can be uncomfortable, but it's probably him trying, and failing, to get the balance right between talking to his girlfriend and his friends (and failing). It may be strange for him to a bar with his friend (and rude to cancel plans), but the fact that the friend is moving is probably the reason. And if he's tired after an evening out, sex being the thing that wakes him up from that isn't even that unusual.
On the other hand, if you are genuinely getting the vibe that your boyfriend isn't happy with you, it's pretty important that you talk about it. Tell him that you might be being paranoid, but you are worried that he doesn't seem to be that happy when he is with you. I'm not sure that any of these could be use individually as examples on their own, but you may, for example, say something to the effect of "I like having sex, but lately I feel distant from you, and want to talk more." You should ask if he needs some space, if he is in an awkward mood for whatever reason, or if you are imagining something that isn't there. Ask (in a non-nagging way) if anything is bugging him. Really, we don't know your boyfriend, so the best thing to do is talk to him about this as honestly as possible, even if you're not sure of what to say. You may want to approach the him feeling/ acting depressed as well, because there might be something that he is genuinely stressing about that has nothing to do with you.
Well Im in 8th grade and hes in 6th grade. Im 13. Hes 12. He really cute. Well last night was our last school dance. I thought i should ask him to dance because he wont be at the dances next year because ill be at the high school and i would have to wait for 2 years. Well one of my friends boyfriend is his friend. So my friends ask him to ask the guy i like if he would dance with me. He said yeah and he asked me. He asked if i had a boyfriend and why i didnt have one and stuff like that. Then he asked me out and i said yeah. But now i dont know if he actually likes me or if he felt sorry for me. WHAT DO U GUYS AND GIRLS THINK?
Heres another thing. Im not that good with boys...as boyfriends....i can talk to guys who are my friends easliy but im shy around my boyfriends....usually he has to start a conversation because i dont know what to say...what should i do?
You're in the eighth grade, he's probably flattered that you like him! Yes, there is always that possibility that a guy could date you based on suspicious motives, however, in this case, with the whole pity assumption, I'd say you're being paranoid.
Good luck!
And as a side note, if you're having trouble talking to this guy, try to talk to him as though you were talking to a friend. After all, friend and girlfriend/boyfriend conversations are usually not that different, if we take away the commitment, the attraction, and such. Try just saying anything at first instead of worrying too much about saying the "right" thing. Try to relax (even though it may be hard) and bring up topics that might relate to both of your lives. You know, school, the dance, friends you have in common. Have fun!
Im 13 and ive been having erections every day scince i was 10, well not every single day I even get erections over unfit girls in my class. I know the basic science stuff to do with hormones but should I worry?
You don't need to see a girl who's fit or attractive to get an erection - it's not unusual for you to be getting them for no reason at all! And no, there is nothing unusual about this. =]
13/f
ok i have this problem where i like to masturbate i only do it like 4 times a week but i want some tips like what is good to use and what feels the best...i dont want to go out and buy a sex toy by the way
Two of the best places to touch would be the clitoris, located just where the inner two flaps part at the top, and, of course, your vagina. There is no right way to masturbate. A lot of it is feel as you go, and up to personal preference.
A good site to find tips on this subject, and lots of other sex-related subjects, is www.coolnurse.com
ok so everytime i eat anything, i bloat like crazy. but its not even bloating, its like my stomache seriously gets bigger instantly and i gain more weight.
im so scared of eating anything besides like fruit or something healthy.
i hate that it does that, especially since summer is right around the corner.
i really dont want to look like a whale when im at the beach.
does anyone know what i can do to keep weight off and not look so huge?
any exercises i can do at home that are fun and easy?
thanks so much everyoneee
It's natural for people to be a few pounds heavier at the end of the day than at the beginning. Whatever you are noticing is probably more due to paranoia than anything =].
That said, healthy eating is fairly easy to do once you get the hang of it. Reduce the amount of fried and processed food you eat, and eat lots of whole grains and leafy greens. Replace the amount of chips and soft drinks you eat with water, milk, and nuts/fruit/sticks of cut up veggies (or, you know, things that look healthy-ish and tasty from a local food store). Do some sort of aerobic exercise for 20-30 minutes three times a week.
Probably, for exercise, the best thing you can do is join some sort of club or team, so that you'll have more motivation to work out. But in any case, at home, some easy things to do at home are crunches in front of the tv, dancing around to music, walking a family pet, ect. ect.
Remember that people's weight naturally does this throughout the day and that you are your own worst critic.
My boyfriend's friend says That my bf's
Really loud and obnoxious with his friends
But quiet around me. is this good or bad?
Most people act differently depending on whom they hang out with. If you are quieter and less "obnoxious" so to speak, he'll adjust the way he acts accordingly. It's not good or bad, that being said, it's kinda cute that he's showing this other side of himself to you =].
k im a 17/f and i hooked up with this guy who i liked. & he's in 2 of my classes. well i found out he was using me. he only want ed to hook up with me just to see my boobs and feel them up. (and he's really arrogant and full of himself, buff and he's a football player)well anyways i told some of my friends and i guess word got out & he found out & he's really mad at me. i tried to apologize to him but he wouldn't listen to me. because one day i told him i needed to talk to him & he said no. and i've been really upset. & i can't seem to ignore hi since he's in 2 of my classes and he's loud and always getting attention and everyone is always laughing at his jokes. (even me lol cuz well i still like him)
Your move on telling all your friends he's this huge bastard probably gives him the message that you want nothing to do with him. Apologizing to him is something that you shouldn't bother doing unless a. you know for sure now that you were wrong about him and b. you want to get back together with him.
If he's an arrogant jerk you should probably just leave it at that - I mean, the way you have it now, you won't even have to use up energy on a messy break-up.
If you were wrong - and I hope you realize that not all boys who hook up with you fairly early have the intention of using you - try apologizing via email or written letter if he won't talk to you. Explain that you were completely wrong, you are so sorry, you shouldn't have told that to your friends... tell him that you freaked about the feeling up part, and you should have handled it more maturely - something like that.
If you've already told him all this, you've already tried, there's not much you can do, is there? Take a deep breath and move on.
alright so last night my boyfriend and i finally spent the night together after 2 months going out...im 16 and so is he, and he like wanted to have sex witch so did i.. and i like reached down to his pants and he like grabbed my hand? and wouldn't let me do anything.. so like.. it was really weird, we didn't end up having sex though because it got awkward after that and i just lost the motive to do anything i guess you could say hah. i think he is insecure about his penis im not sure if its because he is a virgin and im not... or what but i tried telling him it didnt matter but he changed the subject.. how can i approach this and tell him i dont care how big he is or not without him changing the subject. I think he feels bad but he wont let me tell him its ok.. its an odd situation but any advice on what i should do will help thanks.
[[please don't lecture me that were to young or something stupid like that]] thank you.
Reassuring him about size and whatnot is helpful - don't get me wrong... However, don't forget, as well, that after two months, he may not be ready to have sex! The stereotype that guys are always ready and that it's up to girls to decide when is not necessarily always true. Try talking to him about him, saying something like "Are you comfortable with me touching you down there? I don't want to do anything you won't want to do 100 percent." and see how he feels about everything. Remember that size may not be the only thing he's uncomfortable about.
Take some of the focus off the physicals the next time and have a few dates where nothing is expected. Maybe you'll have sex, maybe not, but regardless, try slowing it down until his comfort level seems equal to yours.
Is dry-humping bad if you have a tampon in? Like, if he went a little bit in me kinda but with shorts and stuff on is that not good if you have a tampon in?
Nothing would happen. If he "went in you a little bit", the tampon might rise up and hit your uterus. This may cause some discomfort, but would not actually harm you in any way.
I haven't been good at math because I have a really bad foundation due to bad teachers! I'm a junior and I am in algebra 2. I'm taking summer school for the first semester though..
I don't like my class because:
the book is so choppy. Bad examples.
The teacher's tests are much harder than the homework. They're so different.
I really don't think I can survive trig! I don't want to take it, but I'm going straight to a four year and hopefully/most likely getting a scholarship for track.
Is there anything else I can do? if I don't take it, will the colleges really turn me down? All my other grades are good.
Teachers must give tests based on the government's requirements of the school curriculum. Teacher's technically can teach whatever the hell they want.
Flip through the text book, and check out the "challenge questions". Try and see if you can learn the curriculum yourself when the test is totally different than what you are learning.
If self-teaching is hard, and you need some help with the challenge questions, see if you can enlist a tutor, other trusted math teacher, study group, parent, or family friend to help you out.
Will colleges look at your math grade? A lot of this depends on where you are applying, and what program you would be going into. In my area they would look at your top 6 grades in grade twelve (so no), but I don't know where you plan to go yet.
You do need grade eleven math to get a diploma, so I suggest you stick with it. Unfortunately, you may have to learn many things on your own, so get used to doing math every day and hang in there!
Hi..... My name is Sydney and I got a question. I am 13 years old and I need to lay in the tanning bed. I go to this place called tanic tan and it's really cool... but I would really like it if you would tell me some good tanning lotion and stuff.... oh and can me laying in the tanning bed at this age effect my having children in the future... i lay about 10 minutes 4 times a week. THANKS!~!~!
It's bad for you at any age. Exposing yourself to the ultraviolet rays of a tanning bed not only harm your skin (you'll get more wrinkles as an old person), but mess up the structure of your cells, meaning you will be prone to skin cancer. Tanning beds don't directly affect your ability to have children, however, something like cancer could potentially stop you from having any.
Yes, a lot of people do it, and you won't notice any adverse health affects right away. However, the sunless tanning lotions (preferably the ones with DHA as an active ingredient) are probably a safer alternative, and they are probably cheaper as well =]
My bf wants to have sex but i'm scared.... i want to..... but its just that... i dont know... can you just please help me... please.
If you are scared, DON'T HAVE SEX!
If you don't want to, there is absolutely no point.
It doesn't matter what your boyfriend thinks. Both people have to be ready for this to be pleasurable or in any way good for your relationship.
what are some jobs that have to do with fashion besides being a fashion designer?
backstage help at fashion shows
fashion photgrapher
journalist/editor for a fashion-related magazine
retail (clothing/shoe store manager)
fashion illustrator (draws in-style clothing)
model
runway coach
costume designer for plays/movies
advertising agent for a fashion label
CEO/manager/marketing director of a clothing company
Remember as well that there are many non-fashion-related jobs that employ skills that help in the fashion industry. For example, if you were interested in clothing design, you would also probably like work relating to costumes.
Think of the things you naturally do in your spare time, and the things you're good at. Then see where these things take you =]
i got my period in 8th grade in feb. im in 9th now.
its was really weird at first, and heavy.
recently it was coming on a regular schedule & it was pretty heavy.
but for two/three like "cycles" its been messed up. or i think it is.
like my discharge gets like really dark (like period colored) at the time that im suppose to get my period. like it stains my underwear, but it wont leak thro. im thinking like maybe that is my period.?
i dont know.. is that possable..that its my period?
its like discharge but dark. and it comes at the time im suppose to get my period.
hellpp
It's normal to get light blood flow in between periods. It's also normal too get "wacked" periods at your age, even if it was regular before.
It is possible, if you have been dieting and or exercising heavily, that your periods are getting smaller due to loss of body fat.
Probably, though, what is going on with you is normal. If you are worried, as well, going to a family doctor to get it checked out doesn't hurt.