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Is this a real reason or just an excuse BEEN WITH HIM FOR 3
My boyfriend has cheated on me 3 times...he says that the reason for what he has done is because of me...keep in mind i never have cheated on him..
HIS REASON FOR CHEATING ON ME HE SAYS IS BECAUSE OF THE THINGS I DO TO HIM..WHICH IS WHEN WE ARGUE AND HE DOESINT LET ME TALK AT ALL I HANG UP ON HIM AND WHEN HE CALLS ME OUT OF MY NAME I HANG UP ON HIM AND DONT ANSWER HIS CALLS..ALSO WHEN I GO OUT WITH MY FRIENDS OR ANYTHING HE IS SO INSECURE THAT HE CALLS ME EVERY TIME I GO OUT AND STAYS ON THE PHONE WITH ME...WHILE HES STAYING ON THE PHONE WITH ME HE STRARTS QUESTIONING ME AND STARTS ACTING VERY INSECURE HE STARTS NAGGING ME NAGGING ME OVER THE PHONE...WHILE IM WITH MY FRIENDS...HE SAYS THINGS LIKE YEA LET ME CALL YOU LATER GO BE WITH YOUR FRIENDS OR WHAT YOU DOING WHO WAS THAT IN THE BACKGROUND. I GET MAD WHEN HE DOES THOSE THINGS SO WE START TO ARGUE AND HE ENDS UP GETTIN ME SO FRUSTERATED THAT I HANG UP AND DONT ASNWER HIS CALLS FOR THE REST OF THE DAY...THEN WHEN I CALL HIM HE GETS MAD AT ME FOR IGNORING HIS CALLS. THEN I GET BLAMMED FOR CHAETING ON HIM AND GETTING THOUGHT OF AS A CHEATER...HE IS THE ONE THAT MAKES ME NOT WANNA TALK TO HIM WHEN I GO OUT AND HAVE A INNOCENT TIME WITH MY FRIENS BECAUSE ALL HE DOES IS BE MEAN AND START ARGUEMENTS WITH ME FOR NO REASON..SO OVERALL HE SAYS THAT HES CHEATED ON ME BECAUSE OF ME NOT ANSERING HIS CALLS WHEN I GO OUT...BUT I HAVE MY REASONS ITS NOT BECAUSE IM CHEATING ON HIM OR IM HIDING SOME GUY FROM HIM ITS BECAUSE I CANT EVEN HAVE A GUD TIME WITHOUT HIM NAGGING ME AND BIENG INSECURE,,,,SO I WANTED TO KNOW IS HIS REASON FOR CHEATING ON ME A GUD ENOUGH REASON FOR SLEEPING AND DOING THINGS WITH OTHER GIRLS?? ALL HE DOES IS BALME ME FOR HIS WRONG DOINGS...I FEEL LIKE HE DID WHAT HE DID BECAUSE HE WANTED TO,,,,I LOVE HIM A LOT AND I STAY WITH HIM BECAUSE I LOVE HIM BUT HE DOESINT SEE THAT....IM CONFUSED AND DONT KNOW WHAT TO DO...
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Calling you all of the time to make sure he always knows where you are and who you are with are signs that this guy is controlling, possibly even abusive. Someone in a relationship should be able to trust the other person. If you haven't given him any reason to not trust you, that's his problem. How he deals with it should not be to try to control you by always wanting to know what you are doing all of the time (this is unrealistic). "Punishing" you for hanging up on him when hello, what girl wouldn't, is manipulative and unacceptable. Besides, if all he does is start fights and not letting you hang out with other people by calling you all of the time, he really doesn't deserve you anyway.
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dump him. If he has enough reason to cheat then maybe he should've just done the mature thing and broken up with you. His reason is lame though, he is not letting you have any space. Don't let him flip the script on you and make you think it might be you, it's definately not.
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I got cheated on back in high school by this guy I'd been with for 2 years. It's funny, because it wasn't his absent nights, walk-away phone calls, or un-answered questions that made be question his loyalty-- it was him always accusing me of cheating, the same way that your boyfriend is doing to you.
While reading this, I had all these similar memories of flashing through my head-- and I may not know you, but our cheating little boyfriends, might as well be the same person.
He's insecure about you going out, because he knows what he can get away with when HE goes out. If he can keep his cheating habits a secret, then he has reason to believe that you could do the same exact thing to him.
When I asked my boyfriend way he cheated on me, he didn't bullshit me. He looked me right in the eye and said that I was that "good girl" that would always be there no matter what, and that all the other chicks were just chicks.
There is NEVER a good excuse to lie and cheat to someone. EVER. Even besides the cheating habits.. he sounds like a real jerk to me-- and you sound smart and definitely ABLE to do so much better then this kid.
Keep your head up, and my inbox is always available to help you out in anyway that I can.
Remember, I can relate to you in a lot of way, and I may understand your situations more then you think I do.
Take care!
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