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I really need to start taking my own advice.
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So me and my boyfriend started dating on Christmas. We used to talk non stop on the phone. But now..we're just kinda silent. And I want to talk to him..but I dont know what to talk to him about. We still like each other..and he still come's over all the time. But..we just have nothing to talk about..we're so different. He's all sporty..on the football team..that kinda thing. And I'm more of a stay at home person..I sit and listen to music..watch movies..I'm into the whole photography computer thing..but even though we're so different..we get along great..but we have NOTHING to talk about..which I dont really understand.
Any suggestions?
Hey there :)
This can be really frustrating, so I'll give you a few ideas to help you out.
1. Talk about his life. Football? Ask him stuff like, ... how long has he played? Does he plan on playing it in the future? As corny as it sounds, try to ask him about his interests.
2. Family, talk about his family. Ask about them. :)
3. Tell him funny things that have happened to you. "Haha I have a story to tell you. One time I was at the mall and I ran up to hug my mom, but it turns out it was some random lady. She ran way screaming!" Just lame stuff like that. :)
4. Talk to him about your interests.
5. Go out and do something! The best way to start conversation is be reminiscing. So go out bowling, and later you can laugh about how one of you got five gutter balls in one game. Things like that work really well.
6. Talk about things you do have in common. Do you go to the same school? Talk about things like that.
Good Luck
Kymmy :)
My boyfriend doesnt call me when I ask him too. He always yells at me about something. He hurts my feelings 24/7 and expects me to wait on him hand and foot. I do everything for him and yet that still isnt enough. everything he has iv bought it. I feel worthless and I get stressed out with him and we get into screaming fights because he wont let me do what I want but I have to let him do what he wants. He used to be friends with this guy and I cheated on my boyfriend with him like 2 years ago. I know it was wrong and I admitted it but this "friend" of his keeps lying to him. and everyone thinks im the liar. What should I do?
It sounds to me like your question has already been answered in itself. This guy is a jackass, you don't need an advice site to point that out.
Yeah, its going to be hard- I get it. But this guy doesn't need to be in your life. If you're in a relationship and a guy makes you feel worthless-get out. No body deserves to feel like they're not worthy, especially when it comes to love.
You can't change peoples' minds if they assume you're a liar. They've heard what they've heard. Now, you can just focus on always telling the truth until things blow over. Eventually, one day you can tell people "Yeah, the guy took things too far and made up some lies. It sucked a lot, but its life and I'm glad you trust me again."
Good luck
Kymmy :)
We have been together 10 months. After 3 months we told each other we love each other. 2 days ago he told me he didn't know whether or not he was in love with me anymore. he still wants to be with me, and let me just say that saying i'm madly in love with him is an understatement. should we end it or wait this out?
This is a personal call.
A random stranger on an advice site can't magically give you an answer that's going to make everything perfect in this relationship again. Not to be rude, I'm just giving you a realist expectation for anyone's answer.
My personal opinion, give it a little time. Maybe he's just hit a rough spot, no need to get hasty and dramatic and throw everything away on a whim. I'd say 2-3weeks.
There is always the "break". Personally, I'm not a fan. With my breakups, I've experienced that I have to be completely isolated from the guy in order for me to find out if I really want another shot or not.
So, like I said. Give it a little time. 2-3 weeks, see how things are. If he's still undecided, you should call things off. It wouldn't be fair for you to be stuck in a one-way relationship. No one should be put in that situation.
Maybe once you two spend time apart or with other people, it'll become more evident what you both desire. To be together-or to move on?
Good luck.
Kymmy :)
okay so im 17/f and sometimes i just get reallllly horny and obvouisly masterbate. this i kind of a weird subject but anyways one night i got super horny and instead of just rubbing my clit or using my fingers i used a brush to stick up me. after i did it i started thinking that maybe that was a bad idea?! if it was dirty or somehing could i get infected or something??! sorry if this was gross
There's always the risk of infection or germs whenever you put any foreign object comes in contact with a part of your body. You should be fine- try not to stress over it. If some obvious sign of infection comes up, just visit your doctor. They're professionals, they'll understand your story, and most likely prescribe an antibiotic.
Next time, try washing off whatever you use before you use it and after. Hot water and soap works nicely.
Good luck.
Kymmy :)
im always wearing a sports bra even when im sleeping and i was wondering if it was binding down my breast from growing?
I saw this on Tyra once- the doctor on the show said wearing a bra to bed would not stop breast growth. In fact, wearing a sports bra could help curb saggy-ness in the future. I think you'll be fine, I know I am more comfortable sleeping in a bra. However, once in a while I'd sleep bra-less just to let your chest breathe.
Good Luck :)
What are some good songs about missing your ex boyfriend? He's in jail right now..but he was my first real relationship. I prefer any slow songs, rap, rock, etc.
Thanks so much :/
Like the first answer said, definitely try some Avril Lavigne. The Day You Slipped Away, When You're Gone, and Keep Holding on are all great choices.
You can also try some Secondhand Serenade, Fall For You and Vulnerable are really good. They always make me cry :(
Lifehouse has a few good ones too, try Broken or From Where You Are.
Good Luck :)
do you have to where a brace or something hwne you have it? and how old are you?
I'm assuming you mean for Scoliosis, and no I don't have to wear a brace. My curve is big enough that I'm supposed to but they caught it after I had finished growing so they said why bother. I'm 15 now, but I have had it since I was 12. I'm eligible for surgery because of my back pains and severe curve, but I am very into volleyball. Having the surgery would take me out of the game and I'm not willing to do so.
well i think i have something wrong with my back. i can crack my back usually every 20 minutes. and it sometimes hurts randomly. i cant go to stores long without sitting or ill like die. now im cant go to sleep because the pain in my lower back hurts to much. no matter what position im in it hurts. please help!
I have this same problem and I have Scoliosis.
I'm not saying you have it, I'm simply stating that I have all the same symptoms and I suffer from Scoliosis. I recommend stretching your back muscles several times daily and your hamstrings as well. When your hamstrings are stronger, they can take weight off your back relaxing those muscles.
Try not to crack your back either, it may feel good but unless done by a doctor it isn't good for you.
I recommend seeing a chiropractor if at all possible.
okayyyy so when me and my boyfriend make out its really wet. (as in spit) the actual kiss is good but it always seems like its abnormally wet compared to like movies and stuff. is this normal? or do we need to change how we kiss?
Wet, messy kisses can sometimes just totally ruin the moment. On the other hand, some people enjoy them. Either way, its totally normal.
If you'd like to calm down the messy-ness, try this. Swallow before you start kissing, try swallowing while kissing to. You can easily pull your lips back for a second to swallow then continue. When using your tongue, try not to shove your spit in with your tongue. Thats pretty hard to explain, but just be aware if things are starting to get really wet to try swallowing a little more often.
If you're comfortable with it, you can ask your boyfriend to swallow a little bit more to help out.
Good luck.
what are some nice things you can say or tell to ur bestfriend im a girl shes a girl
and my 2nd ques is : What are some things you can tell ABOUTT your best friend?
=]
You could tell her you love how easy it is to talk to her, her attractiveness, her talents (such as sports, singing etc.) her style, her qualities (such as being a good friend, trustworthy, responsible)
I can tell my best friend is mature. She's responsible for her actions, she is funny we can always have a good time together. She's easy going, beautiful, smart, kind, everything I'd want to be in a person.
sorry if this sort of detailed, or gross!
okay so i cant use a tampon ive tried A LOT though.
so today i was in the shower and i guess i used my finger to feel around and see if maybe i was putting it in wrong
so i accidentally stuck my finger up this hole, it mighta been the right one.
but on the tampon package it says put it in towards your lower back
but it felt like my finger was going more towars the front.
alsoo, i guess like when you put a tampon in and take it out and stuff it just seems like itd make you get a little "pleasured". why doesnt it if it doesnt? or do you? because idk.
it just felt..odd when i used my finger
My first time using tampons, I practically took the whole box trying. I strongly recommend getting the plastic kind like Tampax Pearl to help with the putting-in process.
Stand with your legs pretty far apart, somewhat squatting. Your vagina should have two "lips" (also called your labia) that hang down somewhat. When you separate these two by gently pulling them apart, the hole in the middle is where you put the tampon in. Sometimes it helps to get a little water on the plastic applicator if it doesn't want to slide in easily. Push the applicator in at an angle towards your anus. Keep pushing until your fingers touch your vagina then push the tampon in through the applicator. Pull the applicator down and wah-la, you're done.
And yes, you might feel somewhat pleasured by removing the tampon. Thats normal, sometimes it might even hurt a little.
Good luck :)
I don't know why but I break out alot before i get my period, does anyone know how to stop it from happening? thanks
Its hormones, not fun I now :(
A couple days before your period is supposed to come, you can cut out on the sugars and sodas, that could reduce the chances of a breakout.
However, don't try any excessive washing before though, that will only make your face produce more oil.
Just continue to use your usual face wash routine. If you don't have one, I suggest you start one with an exfoliator, wash, and toner.
Good luck :)
When guys finger me.. what am i suppose to do? i mean we make out while he does it so do i make noises? or what do i do with my hands?
Honestly, you can do whatever feels natural. I know it feels really awkward for a while, you're not sure what you're supposed to do, but try not to act it so much.
If you're enjoying it, give him a little feed back. You can talk sexy, you know that hot, dirty stuff. You can moan, you can giggle, honestly, anything is fine. Don't do it if he's doing something you don't like, that'll make him think you want him to continue with whatever it is he's doing.
You can run your hands up his body, on his neck, on his face, through his hair. Personally, I run my hands through his hair, I think its sexy.
Good luck :)
whats a pep rally?
ok forget that umm what things can i do to avoid DRAMA in high school?
i had some drama in my middle schoold years and i want to avoid it so uhh i need advicce
i want answers from people with experience and people with no experience because they did the advice theyre about to tell me.
thankss
Pep rallys are when your whole school gets together in the gym/cafe/auditorium usually before a big game or event. Typically, there is cheering, dancing, teams are intoduced, games are played etc.
Avoiding drama: Its nearly impossible. I will tell you a few hints, talk bad about no one. You can never know who to fully trust, so keep your gossiping to yourself if you're really serious about drama. Stay out of drinking, drugs, sex and boys in general. Say only nice things and don't express your opinions.
Sounds like a lot of rules that suck? Well they are. If you wanna actually enjoy your high school and live it up, drama is going to happen. Usually its not serious, so try not to get too worked up about it.
:)
http://www.target.com/gp/search/602-8787071-3262249?field-keywords=chi+straightener&url=index%3Dtarget&ref=sr_bx_1_1&x=14&y=9
which original 1" CHI Were you talking about on this target page?
The one at the bottom of the list, the black and gold one.
This one:
http://www.target.com/CHI-Ceramic-Style-Flat-Farouk/dp/B000F1EXIE/sr=1-11/qid=1217607218/ref=sr_1_11/601-3710204-0472152?ie=UTF8&index=target&rh=k%3Achi%20straightener&page=1
:)
where can i buy a chi straightener besides online?
and which CHI straightener is the best? I heard that there are different kinds?
p.s. do you think thet the conair inifiniti straightener is pretty goood?
Target now sells the Original Chi, which is what I highly recommend. I have now had 8 different flat irons, and the original 1" Chi has worked the best for me and a lot of my friends. You can also get them at beauty stores and salons: Ulta, Sally's Beauty Supply etc.
I had the Chi Turbo, it was awful. It got my hair straight, but for some reason it had felt around the outsides of flat iron and it would cause my hair to get very, very staticky.
I did have the conair infiniti once, I hated it and returned it within a week. It might just be because I have a lot of hair to straighten, but it was awful when I used it.
Good luck :)
my parents sent me to bording school so i wound stop haveing sex and i had sex at school and i have missed my period 6 weeks and i am getting lager i am pritty small what do i do i am 16
I'd recommend three pregnancy tests to get a pretty good idea if you're pregnant. If you are, I'd try to get to a doctor or planned parenthood to get a for-sure answer.
From there, if you are pregnant you can decide if you want to keep it, abort, or put it up for an adoption.
I'd recommend talking to your parents somewhere in between there, but I understand that talking to them probably isn't your favorite idea right now.
Good luck.
alright so heres the deal me and my bestfriend are both not bad looking girls so we're confused on why no boys are asking us out, all they want to do is hook up, while we're looking for relationships. We've seen girls that arent that pretty even get boyfriends, so we have no idea whats going wrong.... do you have any ideas on how we can get boys to i dont know actually go out with us? haha thanks.
This exact problem has been driving me crazy lately as well! I think I've come to a conclusion.
If you give the boys the option of a hook up, that's all they're going to want.
Think about it: Making out, sex, or whatever you do with him, WITHOUT having to worry about your feelings or without commitment. Its practically a guy's dream, especially if you're in high school.
It really sucks, its really hard to wait for a guy that actually wants a relationship, but you have to do it to an extent. When you talk to guys, be flirty and be sweet. But if they ask to hook up just be like "Nah, I'm not into that." You can keep flirting with them if you're still interested, and eventually if the guy really likes your personality and you, he'll ask you to be his girlfriend. He'll have so much more respect for you, trust me.
Let me know if you need anything else!
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im 13 and about 30 pounds overweight.
i want to lose 10-20 pounds by august 27.
problem is, i just like to eat. sometimes i even eat when im not hungry.
and i dont like heavy exerccising.
any tips? please help..
easy excercising would be fine.
Hey there :] I love exercising and working out, so I think I can help.
First off, you have to be dedicated. Don't go extreme, especially if you're only 13, but make sure you stick to it every day! :]
1) Drink a lot of water. And I mean a lot! I have a large water bottle (a little over 30oz) that I refill about 6 times a day. A lot of people don't realize it, but drinking water makes you feel fuller and really helps clean your system out. Having that vital liquid really helps you lose weight a lot quicker. [Hint: keep the bottle with you at all times, that way when you see it you drink it even when you're not thirsty. I read that once you're thirsty you're already entering dehydration]
Oh also, try to stay away from those tricky Vitamin Waters and Gatorades. My sports trainer told me they're loaded with other preservatives, so they're actually pretty bad for you. You're best bet is ALWAYS water!
2) Cut out the sodas and candy. I know I know, its so hard. I'm a diagnosed caffeine addict! But you have to do it. Don't let up either, once you let up one time .. you're pretty much garunteed to do it again. Diet sodas are fine calorise-wise, but try not to get too hooked on them.
3) Get your green on! (and other colors too) Yeah, eat some vegetables and fruits. Try having a banana when you walk into the kitchen. This habit was super hard for me to pick up, but I started to really like the taste of fruits and vegetables. Eventually, eating chips and cookies just started to make me feel sick. Summer is an awesome time to get those ripe fruits too!
4) Get moving! Every morning before you even get out of bed, do some crunches! You can do anywhere from 10-50 just to get your heart pumping in the morning. There are always cardio options: bike riding, running, running stairs, etc. Personally, running stairs is my favorite because it really works those legs, its a quick and tough workout, your heart really starts pumping, and you almost always have good access to stairs unless you live in a ranch-style home. Don't forget some muscle toning steps along the way too (crunches, leg lifts, free weights, squats, push ups are all excellent)
5) Have confidence! You know you can stick to it if you just try! If you mess up once during the day don't think "Oh, I already messed today up .. I can eat whatever I want and restart tomorrow." No! There are appx. 21 major meals a week, one mistake won't hurt but you can just keep giving in!
Good luck and let me know if you need more help!
http://www.aolcdn.com/red_galleries/audrina-patridge-400a091107.jpg
See how her one side is like out. OKay thats what both of mine look like, but mine is fatty tissue. I have a flat stomach, but my hip area seems to be getting bigger. What are some exercises I can do to help them get smaller. I guess it would be love handles, but its main the sides, and not my back area love handles haha. thank you!!
oh, I already do exercises. Im in gymnastics, I'm a cheerleader, and we do crunches and what not. I did run track, so maybe from not running I'm getting them now?
ideas?
thank you!!
Gah, I have the same problem. Well, had. I started this exercise and its working pretty dang well, I just have to keep going with it.
Stand with your feet shoulder width apart and hands down by your side. Lean to your right and touch just below your right knee with that right hand. Don't bend forward to do so and don't bend your knees. Then do the left side. Touch below your left knee with your left hand.
Do 25 each side, 50 total.
You won't feel much while you're doing them, but the next morning my sides are always sore.
Good luck :)