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I'm here to help people and everyone is welcome here. Feel free to ask me as I can give you an honest opinion. Feel free to email me and discuss what you may need to express. I don't sugarcoat, I'm may be brutally honest. advice
I have paid a sponsorer to sponsor me 14000$ but no w he doesnt pick the call nor call us.Every penny we gave him was hard earned money this man have cheated us what shall we do with this person if I am from NSW.
I dont have his address just bank details and phone numbers.
Oh sweetie you are in trouble. This man cheated you and you've been scammed. Thousand of people are scammed in Australia every year. It's pretty tough to locate a scammer however You must immediately get in contact with the cops. Report the scammer to your higher authority or to the local prosecutors.
Call the scammer with his numbers and the authorities can locate wherever he is. Unfortunately, the chances of recovering your money back is quite not good.
However you can trick the scammer back. Msg him or call him that you want to send more money to him just to sure that he can sponsor you more and continuesly. Yet you are doing this for letting him get into the boat and hook him up to the prosecutors. However this is really risky. My mom did this when my sister was scammed when the guy promised her to process her papers and she gave money but weeks after the guy didn't do anything and went away. So my mom reported to police and she made a negotiation to scammer and told hom to give more money to process the papers faster. Then luckily the cops hooked him up. But unfortunately the money wasn't able to be back.
I think this idea would help somehow. But to tell you that it's risky. You need to report the scammer then fall him into a bait.
Lastly, you need to educate yourself for that matters to avoid further risks. The sad fact is that the scammed were not able to see their money again. But let us not lose hope. We must pray that the money will be back, somehow you must take an action also.
I hope this will help. Godbless.
'Blueheart'
I seem to have the most acne for my age. The thing is I eat healthy compared to other kids ( not too many processed foods) and I exercise and wash my face and use organic facial scrubs with nytric ( idk how to spell it) acid. I guess I am sorta stressed but not put under the pressure that other kids are. WHAT IS GOING ON I had a clear zit free face last year and now, well now there's acne on my forehead and both cheekbones. I have tried using salt it doesn't work and the the acid stuff just prevents . My parents won't let me get prescription because my moms against drugs( she thinks everything can be solved by eating vegies) WHY ARE ZITS POPPIN UP AND HOW DO I GET RID OF THEM thx 😘
I'm experiencing your problem too sweetie and it's really tiresome. Uhm well I apology for late answer cuz it's hollyweek and i abstain using net.
Alright, let me tackle first the causes of your acnes. Sleep deprivation, stress, dehydration, anxiety, pollution and allergies.
2nd, to prevent or get rid of zits, you can safely use organic products. However be aware of some of the ingredients of it as it can cause you allergies.
One of some ingredient of some facial products is the Nitric Acid. I started to avoid this when I found out through my studies that it is not good for the skin.
Nitric Acid is not good for you because it is corrosively toxic that burns your skin while you are under the sun and also it causes burns.
Here are some natural solutions for pimples and I've been using these til now.
Eat alot of vegetables especially green leafy ones. Consume alot of fruits especially orange as it has citric acid and vitamin C that are good for skin. Also, blend a green banana (if no green ones you can have any other) with any kind of tomato(I prefer globe tomatoes coz its high of vit C and tomatoes have lycopene which is anti-oxidant). Blend them in a blender and then apply to your face for 30mins before you sleep then rinse thoroughly. Do it atleast twice a week.
Also don't use astringents for facial toners because your skin is still very sensitive. I prefer using mild toners and toners that is appropriate for your skin and age.
Also you must drink milk everyday especially before you sleep as it helps to regenerate your skin cells in face. Keep hydrated always and drink plenty of water to flush away toxins in your body. Drink also green tea and why not drink tomato juice?
Keep your hair away from your face as possible and also sweetie, if you are using make-ups, use the ones that have natural ingredients. Sleep 9-10 hours a day. Do regular exercise (yoga) and observe a healthy lifestyle.
And also sweetie, I'm hundred percent agree with your mom that you must use all natural and eat veggies. Refrain synthetic drugs for your acne and avoid pills for getting rid of zits as your still way too young. All can be solved for natural ways. ;)
I hope this still will help. Goodluck.
'blueheart'
I'm of shy nature, but I love making videos. I personally think I've got good ideas to entertain people with bad movie reviews, sketches, top 10, etc. The only thing is... I'm scared that people end up mocking me and/or dislike me.
I know you cannot be loved by everyone, but I'm scared I get more hate than appreciation. I really want to do this though, should I take a risk or being a liked youtuber is excessively hard?
Don't be afraid to be beyond your limits. Yes, no one is loved by everyone. But you should not be afraid if you'll get more hates than likes. Post the video first and you'll see. I can sense that you are creative and thoughful so your videos would probably get likes.
Being a youtuber takes alot of efforts. And I know you can do it. Don't be afraid. There's nothing wrong in trying. Jist be positive and think that you can do it.
Who knows, you'll inspire people because of your creativity. I'ld be glad to see your video if you want to.
I hope this would help. Feel free to ask me.
Goodluck and wish you the best.
'Blueheart'
Hi guys I need some advice on how to get reads on wattpad. No matter what I do I can't seem to get anybody to read my stories. What did I do?
wattpad: hospitalforsoulz
If you want to get more views or reads on wattpad, here are some advice that I can give. I hope this may be helpful.
You need to spread the links of your stories or poetries on any other social networks you have. If if you have no such accounts, you can create.
Here are some alternative way: on facebook for instance, "hey guys! I have created a simply interesting story. Check this out (link provided). And for sure you'll have reads. And on twitter, put a hashtag of the title of your story then the link.
You need to make friends on follow people on wattpad too and comment on their stories then give some compliments and then post your link. You can message your followers or people to read your story, they might be interested in it.
All you need it is to post you links in everywhere.
Goodluck and I hope this will help. Feel free to ask me.
'blueheart'
So i liked this girl since august, we used to flirt alot during that time until she got a boyfriend and i was friendzoned. After the break-up i talked to her a lot, but im not sure she'll like me back. We like to get touchy sometimes, maybe hug, or write on each other, but sometimes i think its cause i badly friendzoned. Im leaving in 2 months and i'll probably never see her again, but we are good friends at it'll be awkward if she says no. I just need some help please.
You've said that you talked with her a lot after the break-up, that is the great sign that you have a great possibility not to be friendzoned. You are leaving in two months, how far you'll be from her? If you're world apart, there's a little possibility to date her.
As I felt that you are very close to her like flirting always. Why not tell her how you feel. Tell her that you like her. She might not like you back, but at least you've expressed your feelings towards her. You comfort her after the break-up, so it's possibile that she felt your care and felt how much she means to you. Don't be afraid to show up your feelings. Who knows she liked you already before but just afraid to tell it off coz she maybe thought she would be friendzoned.
You can escape being friendzoned. Start to do the move now and express what you feel before you leave. She maybe miss you and maybe express what she feels too.
The articles on wikihow which dragonfly gave would be helpful. Follow your heart but let your brain navigate you. Hope it'll be fine.
'blueheart'
I am writing a story about a *very cute* little girl. This other girl, Ovi (aw-vee)is trying to kill her, because a demon (Need a name for him/her too) promises her eternal life, and if the little girl lives, Ovi dies. Well, it's a little crazy, but you get the picture. Anyway, I need a name for the little girl (Like a kind of normal name, not a crazy name like Ovi), and a name for the demon (I'm thinking it should be a boy, as all of my characters are always girls :p). Any suggestions? Thank you in advance.
Hey sweetheart i love your imaginations. I'm writing fictional stories too. That's really cool story.
I can't fugure out what should be the right and best name for the cute girl coz I can't firgure what type of girl she is. Well I have suggestions and descriptions of girl.
Daniella-if the girl is cute and smart. And strong type of girl who is independent and who's not afraid or dare-devil. She can be adventurous girl and friendly but she is just boyish type but she's pretty.
Blue-she is shy type of girl and spends her time reading books and loves to help other people. She is calm and she needs someone to talk to whenever she feels sad.
Blairrah-gurly type and loves pets.
Misty-quiet type of girl and myHearsterious one
Heart-the girl who hate fights. She is shy, mysterious and always discover new things.
You can choose what type of girl and also the names listed above. That names also were being used in my fic story.
Now the demon: you can make a twist in the story too. As you've said that Ovi wants to kill the girl, and why not the demon would save the girl at the end? I mean you can put a twist. At the end the demon made frnds with girl and the girl taught the demon how to be good and they became bestfrnds. Why not? Im just suggesting coz i see that yous story is wonderful.
All boys i can suggest:
Kev- the demon who is teenager. Quiet and quite mysterious.
Lexeus-the dark avenger. Teenager. Playful and smart.
Dev-the darklord. Who kills anyone who annoys him. But he has mercy for girls.
I hope thia would help sweetie. You can ask me if you want. Keep writing stories as it 'll sharpen your brain and widen your imagination.
'Blueheart'
I am a high school senior and I cannot imagine any more of this hell. Sitting in a classroom being lectured about irrelevant information is not in any way fulfilling or satisfying to me. The idea that I am stuck going to class every day for the next portion of my life is almost too much for me to handle. The "core curriculum" sounds like death and I do not want to spend the entirety of my young life being lectured and assigned readings over western civilization in the precolombian times.
I thought this feeling would end once I graduated HS but I know now that is not going to be the case.
I want to go out and make a difference in someone's life. I want to travel, photograph, listen to music, meet people, and just make something of my life. I cannot handle irrelevant classes and busy work for 4 more years without going insane and becoming clinically depressed.
Not going to college is not an option so don't suggest that.
Why you think it sucks going to school is because you didn't balance your studies and social life. You still have time to do want you want like making a difference and travel this summer. Com'on man two months left and you are going to escape from that misery.
Life ln college is totally different from highschool.
Yeh, western civilization sucks and we don't need to learn that thingy literally as we won't apply it to real world. But you have nothing to do with it except being a magnet on your chair and listen or else do more stuffs instead of studying.
Everything should be in balanced. Balance your studies and social life. Improce yourself and make a difference by joining extra-curriculars by vonlunteering and donating to charity. Your life sucks but you can still spice it up sweetie.
Don't be yourself, you xan evolve.
'blueheart'
I have a paper due in five weeks for my Globalization and Development class. The object of the paper is to talk about a group in a developing country and describe the struggles they face. Such as.. The Hutus and the Tutsis.. Women in Arab countries that have to cover every inch of skin. I wrote about child brides and talked about the struggles these girls face and how they are being stripped of their lives at a young age. However, when she gave me back my first draft, she told me that I was talking about a social problem and not a group. So, if any of you could help me out in picking a group to write about that would fall into three of these nine categories: of gender, ageism, marxist, modernization, dependency, imperialism, nationalism, economic development or globalization... that would be stellar.
Thank you so much!
As you've said you wrote about why Arab women cover every inch of their skin. Approximately all of the women in Arab countries do that. Doesn't that still qualify as And belonged on gender issue? Yes, That's a social problem but of about gender. You just tend to specify the problem and that tend to lead to social problem. I think there's nothing wrong between the topic you are focusing on especially about child brides and Arab women.
Why not tell your teacher about it and reason out on about that topics.
I want to ask her why it's wrong pointing out that two issues whereas the problem is correlated to gender but just specified into social problem.
Hope this helps.
'Blueheart'
Why am I so shy?
I am from India.I am very shy , I know that's a disadvantage but I can't stop being shy. I am not confident. I can't speak out in public. I can't sing out loud. Dance in front of anyone except my teacher and the other children who learn. I know I sing good, everyone says I do. But the thing that keeps me hidden is shy, lack of confidence. I want to sing , dance , speak out , like my other friends do. They don't sing, dance good but still they do it confidently. I want to open up like everyone else. Even in my school, class,if a question is been asked, I know it but I'm scared it will go wrong, so I don't answer. I want you to suggest me that what should I do to overcome these obstacles. Or what my problem actually is. Thank you.
I know what you feel sweetie. I've been struggling that kind of barrier when I was high school. The reason why alot of people hide themselves in the public because they aren't able to cope with other people. Because they think that they can't get along with them or they think they will humiliate themselves. But NO it's not. I don't believe that those people who are shy have lack of mental ability which is one of them is confidence. I don't believe that they lack of mental abilities because they are talented but just lacking one great factor which is confidence. Like you, you are talented as I can feel it from you but you aren't confident because you haven't enhanced your skills as you were still younger.
I know you are good and talented and you want to express yourself. But you can't because you are afraid of showing it. You are better than anybody, why not show what you got and show others you can? At that way you can achieve opportunities which can lead you to success.
You can enhance your confidence in many ways. Here are some tips which I used to boost my self-esteem.
Stand in front of the mirror and talk to yourself about your skills and talent. And then list all of them.
Probably your fashion style varries on your confidence (being too conservative and almost hide face). I don't mean that you should change your style but I'm just saying that you must have an appropriate sense and style that would blend in you as you are still young sweetie.
You should be able to be competitive enough. You must compete with others and never get upset if you fail. If you are competitive enough, you will be able to adjust yourself and be able to cope with others. Learn to compete as I know that you have something inside you. You are intelligent and talented. I want to motivate you because a lot of youngsters today waste what they got because of pessimism and lack of confidence. I want to make you achieve what you are dreaming. I know that you are dreaming to be a singer in school or outside life. Go achieve it and learn to compete with others.
Once you are competing, you can meet failures and success. But at first I would tell that you can meet more failures and less success. That's just how life goes on. Once you fail, never mess out your dreams. Never surrender and never think that it would be over to hang on.
another is that you need to speak up. Don't be aftaid to speak up in front of the poeple and of your classmates. Sweaty palms, racing heart, magnetized in your chair and even the feeling of having a stone on your throat are normal feelings. Even me, I can say that I'm confident enough but still I can feel those whenever I negotiate with poeple. It's just normal. You know what is not normal? It is when you won't do any effort how to get rid of them and you won't try to speak up. Like if you're in middle of class discussion and your teacher asks the class, you kbow the answer but afraid to raise your hand then you'll tell your seatmate what's the answer and she would speak it up. That's the time you'll lose the opportunity and end up like a total weak. I know that you experienced this one. And i know what you are imagining when you read this paragraph because i can feel you coz i've been struggling the same as you before. Time to speak up honey.
Then improve your posture. Don't slouch as it would indicate you are afraid of people.
Improve the way you speak. Minimize the expression like uhmmmm...youuu knnoowww, errrrr...reaaly? And constantly hmmmming. As much as possible, be straight forward and direct to the point.
Walk with your face higher than your shoulders. I hope you know what I meant. Don't look down if waljing in corridor. I know it's awkward to walk where you don't the people.
Make friends, help and compliment. As it will make you feel good of yourelf as the same time you are helping others and you are slowly leaving a mark of your confident and great shadow.
Most of all, widen your social circle. Learn to socialize and blend this others. And as much as possible, be humble.
I have some links that would be more helpful.
http://www.pickthebrain.com/blog/10-ways-to-instantly-build-self-confidence/
http://wikihow.com/Widen-Your-Social-Circle
those two sites will help you more.
Feel free to express yourslf and you can ask me whenever you have questions. I hope this would help.
'Blueheart'
Okay so bare with me. And pardon my language too. But anyway, my dad and I have always been good friends, but recently my parents got divorced and my dads been kind of a jerk lately. I am a gamer, and I always have been. A few years ago, i bought myself and xbox 360 (with my own money) and I play it a lot. My parents somehow got the bright idea that they could take it away even though i bought it with my own money, i buy my own games, pay for my own live etc. But they take it away because i get bad grades and all, and i can kind of see why..? But I dont think its right. But my dad (ever since the divorce) has been a real jerk about the xbox, and he complains i spend too much time on it, and that i dont focus enough on school. He blames the xbox for my bade grades. I simply disagree, i just straight up dont care about school. Homework is dumb, I come home for me time. Not to do shit from school. But hes blaming the xbox for my bad grades, and Im getting really pissed the hell off that hes such a jerk about it. He acts like he owns the thing. Im frustrated as hell with him, and i'm getting to the point where im beginning to want to go live with my mum instead of him. He and I are becoming less of friends, and we fight almost daily. I love him (hes my dad) and I want to be great friends with him, but I hate when hes an ass to me about my passion, and takes it away from me. Its like me ripping his camera away from him and saying "oh well you didnt finish that quarterly review project your boss wanted you to complete, so no camera for you for like 2 months." and its slowly waisting my money away, and really beginning to piss me off. I want to maintain a good friendship with my dad, but its hard to do when i begin to hate him more and more every damn day. What the hell do I do?
I can feel you sweetheart. But I can say that you can't blame your dad for being such a total jerk because of course he is jus after for your own good. Yeh, my 2nd and I are too close before. We play sports together and go outreach programs but he changed because he has to go business trips and when he comes home he would blame my skateboard for having a low grades. But we are still very close because we talked and I managed to talk with him despite of his business.
I am telling you a part of me because I want you to know that your dad minds your own good. It's not the divorce of why he became a total jerk but because of he just want you to grow up according to what he wants you to be and he's molding you to become responsible. Playing games is not a hindrance only if you take studies and games in balance and also games should be on moderation. Don't be addicted to it as it will ruin your studies.
Your closeness between your dad can be bring back if you'll follow him. Study, obey him and play. That's just life of a gamer.
And also a great fact is that playing rpg can make you smart coz your brain will sharpen especially if you think of strategies. So keep up but in moderation sweetie ;)
i hope this would help and feel free to ask me. :)
'blueheart'
I'm from Chile. I have a crush just on Internet and we didn't even see each other in personal because she lives in Australia. We are world apart and we are both 17. I've known her for 7 months and we kept chatting and she even stays up late just to talk with me. I love her so much. She is really nice and sweet and known her family as she described. I can sense that she loves me too because few weeks, she told that she likes me. Idk if just for frnds only. We even had a fight then it led up to telling she doesn't like me coz i'm stupid and I told her that I don't like her too. But of course ik it's joke. I can she loves me. Should I do the first move and tell her how much she means to me?
You are infatuated with an internet friend and probably she is too. Don't rush your feelings sweetie. Be calm and don't think too much as if she would like you if you woukd express your feelings.
Why not tell her that she is your bestfriend? At least at that way you could keep her close to you and at the same time that would serve as a partially constant barrier between you two.
It's better to speak up your mind and express your feelings. That would tell her how much she means to you and how important she is. But keep in mind also the disadvantages for that like for instance, she'll stop chatting with you or avoid you. Think of those possibilities for at least you'll be guided and at the same time you would be reminded of what you should do.
Remember that Love, LIke and Lust differ from each other. Don't be too sure yet if she really love you and you feel the same for her.
I would say that it's not love you feel but it's like or an infatuation. Butterflies in stomach when you see her online or your heart is racing, that's not a sign of love. It's an infatuation brought by a magical feeling talking with her as she always makes you feel you are great and worthy.
Infatuation is a start of love if both of you would be lucky enough. You both are world apart and still too young. Keep a barrier between both of you until you'll be grown up and meet each other. Who know's probably it would be the time to express your long-time unspoken feeling towards her.
I'm almost as old as you. But haven't been inlove or infatuated online but i like someone. So literally, that feeling is just too basic. You're way to young. Don't stress yourself thinking about her. Go out and have girlfriends coz you are still at your "mind flourishing stage". All you have is to enjoy while you keep her close with you.
Make her your princess and probably someday she'll be your queen. I hope this would help sweetie. Godbless you.
Feel free to ask me.
'Blueheart'
My 2 year old Yorkie found an almost gone thing of Ceramic Tile Adhesive and ate some of it, is he going to die or something?
What your dog had eaten will complicate to its stomach. Maybe he's going to die if not treated immediately. You need to go to a veterinarian as soon as possible.
I am 14years old student today I got my report card my cgpa was very low. I don't know why it always happens to me i want to become a lawyer. my friends and family don't understand that i also don't like scoring low marks . For them i will be nothing if i don't score well . My sister is going through a lot after scoring low arks in 10th. i don't want to suffer. i don't know what to do so i choose this option the best . no society tension no parents tension . sorry my English is not my first language
I can feel you sweetheart. I've been experiencing that today. I'm graduating high school tomorrow. I should be running as an honour student as what I'm used to for the past years. I got really high grades and expected to graduate with honours. But someone stopped me and became the hinder. She was math teacher who screwd everything just because I did a small prank. My parents who are both teachers want me to b achieve high grades. But I fail and got low grades and I was almost kicked in school. But to tell you I'm a good student and smart but just failed. And they keep on blaming me and telling me I'm not good enough and comparing with their students who were my honour schoolmates. And jeeo on offending me earlier. I almost wanted to die and I'm crying because I'll graduate tomorrow without making them proud.
The purpose why I'm telling you my story is that for you to realize that your situation is even better than me. It's not too late for you to achieve higher grades next grading period. I know you are smart and you can cope up easily. But the only thing matters is that you are pressured of making your parents be proud of you. I can feel you. You aren't happy of what you are doing because it pressures you emotionally. Yoy are desperate now. But suicide is NEVER EVER a good decision for intellectuals to think of. You are not just an intelligent. You are an intellectual who has great values and great thoughts in your mind. Think it as a competition, im sorry to tell you sweetheart that think every moment as a comoetition is because I just want you to standout and evilve from yourself you get used to. Think every possibilty as a challenge, for you to take failures and acceot them with an open. With these thoughts, I just want to mold you to be a good intellectual who has an open mind and accept failures and take it as an ingredient for your great success that awaits you in the future.
Don't let yourself be hidden in the opinions of others like for instance, your parents think you aren't good enough for them or you never made them proud. Don't take it as an insult or offense though it is, instead take it as words of wisdom that would motivate you from evolving yourself as a successful intellectual that your parents and other people should be proud of.
Don't waste your time thinking of things that will bother you. You are too young sweetheart and I can say that you are at the stage of flourishing mind. So your mind is still floating of thoughts and you are vulnerable about critisms and wide opinions. Your emotions are unstable yet you are becoming mature.
My whole clan is almost teachers and my parents wanted me to but I spoke up my mind and made my own choice to be a doctor. (i've experienced a trauma by a teacher). Your choice will be up to you. But as much as possible think it twice and think it positively. Don't let them decide what you must do if it's pressuring you. Don't stess yourself.
My tips about studying are: you must study whenever you have free time but to the point of studying in the middle or late at night. It'll make you forget what you've studied.
You must sleep as much as you can. Refrain from sleep deprivation because of studying.
Eat alot of veggies and fruits. And don't eat heavy meals because it will led up to hearing loss.
Drink alot of water and workout.
Most importantly sweetheart, you must evolve from who you are today. Take every possibilities as challenge and competition. And never be jealouse of othes because you ahave more than what they have and you are better than what they are. You are comfortant. "I AM COMFORTANT, I'M (yourname) AND I CAN DO MORE".
I hope this would help. I'm willing to help and you can reach me whenever you want. Stay happy, don't stress-out and evolve.
Goodluck sweetie and Godbless!
'blueheart'
Warning, this might get long. But I really need advice!
Okay, I'm homeschooled(a sophomore) and I don't have many friends and am really shy...
Two of my friends are (what I'll call them) Amanda and Daisy.
Amanda, met her like, 5 years ago. She's really funny and can be nice and we have a lot of common interests. I live in a small town in rural Wisconsin and when I first met her she had just moved here from a richer Chicago suburb. She was spoiled, kinda stuck up and pretty much a controlling brat. She'd buy me food then spit in it and make me eat it, call me dumb and stuff, make fun of me to her other friends while I was there, do stuff I'd ask her not too because she thought is was funny when I was mad and many other mean things like that(still sometimes does).
I kept being her friend through it all though I did get mad at her for many things. I often wonder why I did, but she was pretty much the only person who hung out with me at the time. It was to the point where I couldn't stand being in the same room with her for more than an few hours and a lot of the stuff the did I was so used to I didn't even notice it anymore.
I told her how mean she was a few times and either nothing changed, or it was better for like a week then was bad again.
For the last year or so she's been better, But still does some of those things. And I tend to resent her for it sometimes... but don't really say anything. She's been different lately, doing things I never thought she would do, like cheating on her boyfriend.
Her dad is an alcoholic, and cheated on her mom and her home life is not the greatest....
As for Daisy, I've known her since we where in diapers, our older brothers where good friends and we when to the same church. But from the age of like 7 till 6th grade, we never hung out much. Then started again when she became Amanda's friend.
She treats me good and we get along pretty well. She also stood up for me whenever she saw Amanda was being mean to me and also resented Amanda and stuff. I really enjoy hanging out with her and we have a lot more 'country' things in common than I do with Amanda.
Her father also drinks and also doesn't have the best family life and attempted suicide last year, but she survived and went to counseling.
Those two have had a lot of fights and are no longer really friends, Daisy tells me She hears Amanda at school talking bad about me and does stuff, I really don't want to believe it but I can see it being true. Though I've had my mom and some other adults tell me she is minipulative and can see her minipulating me and Amanda.
Amanda got mad at me a few months ago for something really stupid and stopped talking to me for a month. Then We started talking again and We hang out a bit, but not nearly as much as we did.
Last weekend, Amanda wanted me to go shopping with her and I couldn't because of chores and yard work. So I said, "Maybe next weekend".
This weekend: Daisy came over on Friday and stayed the night. On Saturday Daisy was still here, and Amanda called, asking if she could come over for a few hours and she did and we all got along pretty well. She then asked me if I wanted to see a play with her today(Sunday).
But for some reason I didn't want to. My mom later told me that Amandas Family had gotten in a huge fight(our parents are friends) and her dad called Amanda a mistake and that she shouldn't have been born. And that she had notices how she was sadder and more depressed than usual.
But even after that....I still didn't go to the play. I don't know why, but I didn't. After Daisy left a few hours ago, my mom yelled at me for being rude to Amanda and that it was wrong for me not to go, and I know it was...but I don't know why.. I want to be a good friend to both of them, I want to stop being selfish... I just feel so guilty...
Sweetheart I really don't know what advice you want. Yey I got a lot of things to advice. I know you are having trouble brought by your friends and you are affected by their troubles in their family and as I've felt, you became the sandwich between them. First, let me start pointing out their attitudes then I'll go further.
Amanda, she is a type of girl who brags but I know she has goodness in her. The fact that brought her into her nasty attitude is that because of her parents and her family. There's a thing that is missing on her. And that are attention and sympathy. She lacks attention from her parents because her parents are not going well. She needs attention for a sympathy because no one understands her. She is just being a mean girl because of the things that are not into her. Eventhough she always do some stupid stuffs to you but still always there for you or to hang with you is that because she thinks that you are a friend that can fully understand her and please despite of bad things she done. I believe that you are good and understanding and you are someone who people xan trust to and it's because of your great keen understanding.
Secondly, Daisy. She is the girl who can understand you and stood for you now matter what. But the only bad thing is that she manipulate people and worst, she manipulate friends. As you've said she has also a family that's not really going well.
These girls are just being affected by their families and lack things that their family didn't do while they're still at the stage of a flourishing mind. You are affected by these two ladies because you care alot for them. But just in my point, do they care about you too? Especially Amanda. Yes, they do care about becasue they stll hangout with you, but only that? I mean I don't want to sound like that is your treatment for them is biased coz sometimes they hurt you. The thing that I'm greatly pointing out is that you are the one who is suffering from your frienship. I would say that you should avoid amanda because she is not treating you as a friend and spitting the food and let it be eaten by you is inhumane. But you should not avoid her because she just needs someone who she can lean on. But never ever pleased her everytime she does stupid tjings or tell nasty words. But let her feel that she is important and there's someone who can understand her no matter what.
And for Daisy, you should let her feel that you are there for her. Express her about how you feel especially at the time of she's becoming manipulative. Show her that you are strong enough to standout. Show the best in you but as much as possible, don't be too avaible and good sweetheart or else they will abuse it.
I would tell you a very wonderful thought that is contrary to popular belief. " Don't be yourself, you can evolve". Get of from the self you used to. Evolve because you can and do your best whenever its possible and no matter how impossible. Get off from the self who is weak, you are comfortant and you are strong from within. I xan sense myself from you because i've been in an unhealthy friendship before. If you really think that you're friendship is poisoning you, better off to be alone for awhile abd friends friend who won't bother you alot. You are too young and you can find more nicer friends. Don't let yoyrself be burried in the darkest sirrow of your frienship.
I hope this helps. Quite long. Take care sweetheart.
'Blueheart'
Are hiroscopes real or is it just a state of mind if u believe in them or not
Horoscopes aren't true at all. It's just in you whether you believe them. When I was younger, I've read a horoscope and it said that I should be careful at that night coz badluck will hunt me and I should be awake all the time to stop badluck coming. So then I did was I never slept the whole night and the next day. I was badly sick then.
Never believe horoscopes. It'll just ruin you ir your health. But there's also nothing wrong from keeping yiuraelf in touch with it, to be at least you are widely aware.
Horoscopes aren't facts of life. Not even scientifically proven. I'm skeptic person.
I hope this help a little my dear.
I'm a 13 year old girl and I call everyone darling, love, honey, etc. They've gotten use to it, but I'll call strangers that too on accident and I get funny looks sometimes. Or if the person doesn't know me well they'll think I'm flirting. Is it ok? Should I try to stop doing this? It feels like I'm being old fashioned or something.
Side note: I talk funny, too. I say words like therefore, no slang, and grammar that's so proper it sounds weird ( because people have become so used to using abbreviations and contractions, whereas I don't use any of that (I don't use it when I speak anyway.) It sounds even weirder because I'm so young.
I also use that sweet words to my close friends or people who are younger then me. I'm 16 and I feel that it'way to respect them and make them feel they're important and special. But calling that to strangers accidentally is weird and strange, but when you call younger strangers like that it would make them feel that you are well-respecting them and also it would make u older enough and reaponsible as being shown on how u say or call them.
It's not flirting. It's just a way to respect others and to show them your friendliness. So you should not stop it unless people or stranger would find it offensive or annoying.
I hope this would help my dear ;) feel free to ask me.
So I'm 15 and I want to be pregnant... I don't know what to do...btw I'm single. For the past couple months I've wanted to have a baby... I need some advice! Please help!!!
you're way to young to have a baby. You can even stand on your own legs. Probably you should have a baby when you're physically, mentally and emotionally mature enough.
You are seeking for pleasure. Well not an option is to have a baby. You can babysit if you want to.
i love pets but i'm afraid of getting bit or scratched. What should be the best pet for me?
fish is good for you coz fish won't touch you so u will not get scratched or sth like that
Me and him started dating a week ago. In less than a week, he's already said "I love you". I don't think he meant it but it's honestly kind of scaring me because I don't want to get hurt. We haven't really talked about it and I don't really want to, but what should I do? He seems like a really nice guy and I want to keep dating him, but I don't think he actually loves me and the word scares me. He also kinda expects me to text back kinda fast so does that mean he's clingy or just shy? He's a really shy guy. Advice much appreciated thank you
As I've noticed in your question, the man you are dating said that word in text. Saying that kind of word in text is kinda insincere. If he truly loves you and he meant it well he must say it to you in person and should express why'd he loves you and how much he loves you. Well, words can't express how deep is the love. But he must let you feel that he loves you not only by saying sweet words.
I have friends, but I'm not really close to anyone. I also have problems trusting people enough to have a significant relationship, especially guys. I guess part of it is that I have seen my parents get divorced three times and I just have this fear that once I trust someone enough to love them, they'll go away. It's happened all my life. Anyway, the result is that I'm nice to everyone, close to no one, and pretty lonely because I kind of emotionally isolate myself.
How do I get over my fears and trust people?
you are afraid of being left bcoz of your experiences yet you are also afraid of loving and trusting someone.
It's because of your experiences you're being introvert. You are lonely bcoz you won't let yourself go beyond your limits. The thing that I meant is that letting go of your bad experiences. Get over from your past. Don't let yourself be hidden in the dark shadow of your side. Forget them and open your heart for trusting people and loving people. i know that it's not easy to do it bcoz i know I also experienced your part.
Start from a very easy thing. Try to trust yourself and love yourself. In that way, you can feel self confidence and you can stretch further from yourself you used to be. 2nd is you need to love and express it, by that way you can be able to feel safe and achieve happiness from oneself.
i hope this would help