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Oh, don't worry, he totally likes you. In fact, he likes you so much that he's going to propose to you (even if you're only thirteen) and you guys are going to get married, and live together happily ever after forever and always and have ten children in the country with the best jobs ever until you die at an old age together in your sleep!If you know that's not how life works, and you want some real advice, you have my undivided attention. Ask me anything, and I'll try and figure it out for you (unless it has anything to do with geometry).
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my bf && i have pretty much made if a habit to talk everynight past midnight. i have my cell on vibrate (i have free min) & he calls from his house. we hadnt gotten caught after 3 nights of that but today when my dad woke me up, he saw the phone on my bed & asked why so i said it vibrates at night b/c i was still half asleep. i dont know what else to tell him if he asks! ok so we are on a plan that we share and he pays...will the time & number of the call show up on the bill? please help! any info is important!!
Usually, only outgoing calls on your cellphone show up on the phone bill.
Why aren't you allowed to be with him? That's the stupidest thing I ever heard of. He sounds sweet, and your both the same age.. what's the problem?
Confront your parents. See what they say, because some parents are actually cool about thier daughters dating (others aren't, but take the chance.)
I have liked this guy for four years and in the beginning we were friends but one thing led to another and he found out i liked him and stopped talking to me. Two years passed and we didnt talk we couldnt even look at eachother in the face and i felt miserable because i didnt understand why he stopped talking to me. This past year i turned sixteen and invited him to my sweet 16 party . I told myself that if he came i should still wait for him but if he didnt forget him but he came to the party and we had a pretty good time together. Ever since the party i can't stop thinking about him and no matter what i feel like theres not going to be any other guy for me. To me he's not like any other guy he is so sweet and nice.... please help me with this problem... should i give up or talk to him or what?? please answer
He's so sweet and nice. You told him how you feel, and he was so immature that he couldn't handle it and decided to stop talking to you. That's so sweet and nice.
This is a classic movie plot: Guy ditches girl, girl waits around and he doesn't talk to her for two years, but then, because she decides to torture herself by inviting him to her birthday party, they start to kind of talk again.
Ever hear of that movie? I didn't think so. People don't write about that kind of thing when it comes to romance. Love is supposed to inspire you and make you happy. You shouldn't have to wait.
And you will find that one day, but if you keep limiting yourself to this one guy, you're going to miss your chance.
My boyfriends aunt like hates me. Now we can't hang out because of her and i really love him and he really loves me ut it's so hard because we'll neever see each other. I never even did anything bad or wrong she just hates me for some reason.well maybe because i broke up with him 2 times for VERY good reasons. What could I do to let her let us hang out? Or at least see each and hang out somewhere! thank you!
Ask your boyfriend what the heck you did to make that old fart hate you (in nicer words, of course.)
If there's really no reason, then he should tell his Aunt to buzz off. He's old enough to choose his own girlfriends, and even though family is important.. well, it's technically none of thier business who he does and doesn't date.
is it wrong if you are 15 yrs old and have a 25 year old boyfriend??everyone tells me that its wrong..
Well, the law says it is, so I'm gonna go with that.
He can't find any girls his own age, ey? That means he's either a pervert, or there's something wrong with him. Steer clear of guys like that, because most of the time alls they want is sex. It's exciting to date an older guy, but it's also dangerous.
Remember that.
Well out of nowhere me and my ex bf got into a conversation..and he told me he missed me and he wanted to hang out..but i saw in his profile tht he loved some girl. So then i showed that to him and hes like "oh thats been there forever you know that" and he took it out. When i went on away message he put it back into his profile. Today he hasn't even talked to me once. It was so weird. What is going on??
He missed you... as a friend.
Obviously, if he's going around writing about how he's in love with some other girl, then he's not in love with you.
If a guy really likes you, he won't leave you hanging. He'll want to make sure you don't become confused or frustrated. He'll want to make sure you don't give up on him.
Taking a qoute out from a book that I read, and love:: He's just not that into you.
So it's time to move on.
i have a boyfriend that ive been on and off again all summer long and i think that i finally realize that he is using me and he doesnt really care about me, and yesterday he kept getting in my pants and i kept telling him not to and he seemed mad at me and kept doing it,i think its time for us break up,wat do u think??
I think it was time for you both to break-up for good when you broke up the first time.
This guy is a jerk, and he obviously doesn't respect you or your morals. Tell him to get lost.. and stay that way.
He isn't worth your time (or your summer)... if he keeps breaking up with you, the truth is that he's out there looking for someone better. Then, when he realizes he can't find it, he comes crawling back.
Don't be the fool.
I need help, i like this girl and i wanna know how do u talk to her on the phone like wat to say to here. I rate 5's
Talk about normal stuff. Like your day, or work or school or friends or whatever you both have in common. Ask her questions about herself, and tell her a little bit about yourself.
Talk to her like a normal person, and try not to sound nervous or distracted. It ends the conversation quickly.
can any one help me ok this is my problem
i dont know how to make conversation with guys on the phone they like always want to call but what do we talk about
what should i say to make myself not sound boring?
What do you have in common? Talk about that. And then just start talking about random things around the room you're in, your family, school, your day, work, friends..
Ask him questions about himself if you come up for a loss.
Do you think that it is wrong to talk to an ex while dating someone else? I am with this guy right now and he doesnt trust me so he went into my cell and checked my text messages and found that an ex had been text messaging me. We are in a big arguement now about weather or not its ok to talk to an ex. Please help
I think it's ok. I talk to my exes all the time, and you know what? My boyfriends suprisingly don't go checking my text messages.
It's an invasion of privacy, and against the law. If he can't trust that you're not going around telling your exes you love them by text messaging, then maybe you should consider not being with him at all. Just think about what would happen if you talked to your ex in person.
alright well there is this guy jeff who i used to date. after a bad break up we became really close friends, we told eachother everything and always laughed and had fun together. well he started talkin to my like everyday about a differant girl he liked, and honestly i didn't mind that much. i even gave him advice on rlationships, good advice. but if i said one word about a guy he always got mad and aggrivated. then one day he told me he liked me alot and would love to be my gf, so later on i asked him out. he said "i love you so much i can't stand a break up so friends with benefits???" well that was lame so i said no, just friends. then he got mad because he said i told him i liked him then asked to be just friends.... even though he did the exact same thing. well we forgave and forgot and he started talking about another girl and he asked who i would probably date because he heard that i liked some guy from my friend. i told him that i liked josh and he asked me out and i said yes.... jeff got mad and started calling me all these names and being so rude! i told him he was a selfish emotional loser... harsh but i was mad. then we forgave eachother and he said i love you i am sorry. now he is being really mean to me, always getting mad over nothing and if i get mad back he sucks up to me. so i told him that i was done with him, and we should just never talk again. after hearing him sob for a while i am beginning to think that i am the bitch? am i the mean one, or is he out of line?
p.s. im 14 f
This could sound mean, but... why are you even asking this question!? Re-read it... now think about it. You should have an answer.
If not, here it is. He's the one who's out of line! He's being selfish and a bit of a loser. I don't know even how to explain this one. If he's gonna be an ass, get rid of him. If he's going to cry about it, so what? He deserves it.
Someone needs to teach him a lesson, and that someone should be you. Tell him he's out of line, and if he's going to keep acting like this, then a friendship is out of the question. Don't put up with other people's crap. It's not worth it, and you don't deserve it.
Well i broke up with my bf after we dated for 7 months i felt like i wanted to experience more things so i broke up with him.. and now im dating him again and i dunno if i rly love him in my heart i see us starting a family together but i kinda feel like i want some1 new but im not for sure.. wat should i do??
If you're not sure he's the one, then he's probably NOT the one. I think that once you meet the person you're going to be with for the rest of your life, you should have basically no doubts. You should immediately know that you'd do anything to be with them, and vice versa. But that's just the hopeless romantic side of me.
If you seriously want to meet new people, then tell your boyfriend you want to take a break. This could be difficult, but if you're meant to be together, have faith in the fact that you'll end up together. If not, well, then you will eventually meet someone new.
It's hard, but sometimes you have to be away from a person to realize how much you actually care about them.
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Me and this guy have been friends for like over a year now and i have had a huge crush on him. I have told him about and left it at that. We are always hanging out. He tells me more stuff then he has ever told anyone. He is like a best friend to me. He flirts all the time with me and he is always holding my hand and cuddling with me but then he always is saying that he just wants to be friends well he dont act like it at all and he has gone out with my best friend and after she dumped him i started getting closer she tells me its fine and we talk all about it but i just think i need more advice everyone says he likes me but then he does the same exact stuff to other gurls and im just really confused about it if he does like me what should i do? please i need your help
If you told him, and he didn't do anything about it, then he probably just doesn't feel that way about you. He even said he doesn't feel that way about you.
If he does all of that 'stuff' with other girls, then it probably means he's just being who he is.. a flirt. It's probably only because you're his friend that he's sparing your feelings and NOT dating you.
Okay well im going into the 8th grade and last summer i had a huge crush on this guys.. lets just call him "Jermey" but the entire time i liked him he was so mean to me and always said bad things to me and then during the 7th grade we became best friends. He tells me everything and he truts me and he told me a lot that he liked me but i had finally stopped liking him. But then he told me that somedays he really really really liked me a lot and other days i was just his friend. Towards the end of the year i started to get boyfriend/girlfriend feelings for him again because we kissed a few times and he told me how much he liked me and if it werent summer he woul go out with me but now it is summer and ive only seen him like 3 times and i dont know if he still likes me the way he used but i still like him completly.. no questions about it. I know he's interested in other girls too now, but when he's around me i can tell that he really likes me a lot and only me even if he wont admit it. I saw him yesterday but we didnt talk.. we both seemed really nervous and im worried that he doesnt like me anymore but i dont want to ask him if he still likes me because that would kind of be cheesy.. Please Help!
Wow, I answered another question like this. I think you're the same person, right? Well, I'll answer it anyway.
Why would you fall for a scumbag like that? If he treats you like crap, have the dignity to treat him the same way. You shouldn't have to put up with that.
And then you became best friends, which is kind of crazy.. even if he says he wants to be with you, it doesn't exactly sound like it. He may kiss you and tell you he likes you.. but he sure doesn't act like it. If he really liked you, he'd want to see you and want to date you (ONLY you, not other girls). Summer or not.
I apologize in advance because this is going to be pretty long. I'm a sixteen year old girl and I've been single my entire life up until now. I met this great guy at work, and we both liked each other. Our first date was absolutely perfect. It was more of a date to make things official seeing as we already knew a lot about each other. He gave me a red rose, we held hands in the mall, cuddled in the movies, and he kissed me goodnight in the rain. It was perfect. With this being my first relationship ever, I'm freaking out. I know you're not supposed to kiss on the first date, and I wasn't exactly ready for it either. I know that in a relationship, a guy is going to want something "more" than what I'm willing to give. My morals are that I don't want to go past kissing wiht a guy until I'm married. I'm not ready for anything sexual...I'm only 16! Everyone has told me that before you love someone else, you have to love yourself. That could be an issue with me, since I'm full of self-loathing and I have no self-esteem. I can't understand how a guy would pick me in the first place. My internal conflicts are seriously creating a huge dilemma for me and I don't know what to do anymore. This guy made me so happy at first. I could not stop talking about him and I was so happy for once in my life. But now that things are moving faster, I'm freaking out and instead of smiling all the time, I cry. I don't want to give up something like this...what I've longed for my entire life. At the same time, I can't just ignore my issues. I need help. Please tell me what to do. :'( Thank you so much.
You're worried because your first relationship is too perfect? I wish I was worried like that.
Look, if the guy hasn't actually gone farther than you want to, then he hasn't ruined your morals. You shouldn't go around comparing him to other guys who want to go faster. Some guys want to go slowly.
If he wants to go faster than you, tell him you don't want to go that far. If he cares for you, he'll understand and back off.
Myabe because he likes you? You're not that bad of a person so don't tell yourself you are. So you have problems to work through, every relationship has them. You can work through them, and still keep him as a boyfriend.
If you seriously think you need help, try a psychiatrist. Because you deserve to be happy!
okay heres the downlow. Whenever my boyfriend is around girls he always flirts with them, even if i'm right there. then when i talk to him about he'll either say i never did that or oh i'm sorry i won't do it again, but he never changes! I don't know what i should do. Part of me wants to break up with him and another part of me doesn't! So what should i do!!??
I'm 13,Female
Did you ever see that movie where the girl deals with her boyfriend flirting with other girls, and 'accidentally' cheats on her four times and when he breaks up with her for the other girl, she sits around and waits for him to come back, because she knows that being treated that badly is worth being with him. Then, when he comes back, they get married and live miserably after and have children that are infected with the AIDS virus. No? That's because people don't make movies about that. Romance is supposed to be happy and lovely and wonderful.
Ok, maybe that's a little extreme. But this guy doesn't respect you, much less care for you. Why be with a scumbag who isn't as good as his word? You deserve honesty, and someone who will respect what YOU want in a relationship.
my life is just screwed up right now with guys i fall to easily for them and then i just get hurt at the end how will you know when you have found the one? how could you trust guys when so many has hurt you in the past most of them try to sweet talk you but how do you know if what they are really saying is coming from their heart?
i need as much as advice you guys could give me ♥
You'll know-- you'll feel it in your head and in your heart when you've met 'the one'.
Until then, you're just going to have to experimentally date assholes.
My advice is not to fall for the sweet talk. Guys will never ever tell you how they really feel unless they actually care about you. Look at how they act to see if it's coming from thier heart. If he calls you when he says he will, is always on time for dates and such, wants to see you and no one else, is constantly showing you how he feels, and he's not pressuring you.
It's a lot to expect from a guy. But if he really cares about you, he'll show you and tell you. If not, dump him.
Ok, there's this girl I like who doesn't like me, until I can get her to like me, I don't want to be with any other girls. Unfortunately, during Dungeons and Dragons at camp today (please, no nerd cracks), there was this girl who I think was trying to get me to like her. For example, my character died, and she was like "It's okay. You and I are the only not-mean people here." Also, I never see her talk to any other guys in the group, putting aside group discussions, like marching order and etc. Is she trying to pick me up? She goes to my school also, unfortunately that other girl also goes to my school. I really could care less about this new girl, but I really think she's trying to get me to like her. What do I do, and how do I tell her that there's someone else? What if I'm wrong about her? I'm really confused, and please, none of those smart alek answers, I rate ones for people who tell me "just bang her" or anything equally unhelpful or smart alekey.
-Dakmor
Not every girl who talks to you is trying to get with you. There are some girls who just want to be friends with guys (I am one of those girls.)
As for this girl that you like so much... Let's just say that this dungeon and dragons girl IS trying to get you to like her. And you don't like her at all. Sound familiar?
That's because you're doing the same thing to the girl you like so much.
If you want to know what I think about this girl you like, here it goes. I think you're wasting your time. I think you should give other girls a chance. It's romantic, that one true love and all, but sometimes you just have to let go. Accept her feelings, and let go of your own.
You don't tell dungeon and dragons girl that. If she's interested, she'll find out whether or not you like someone. Until that point, just be her friend.
If you're wrong about her, then you're wrong about her. You can change the relationship if you want to, and she lets you.
OK so there's thig guy I like. I've liked him for like3 or 4 years. Now he met this girl whos like completley gorgeous and they make out and stuff like all the time. I think he might like her. I think he knows I like him, but what do I do?
If he's already going with another girl, don't throw yourself at him. Why lose your dignity along with him?
If you want to know how he feels about this girl, ask him. If you want him to know how you feel about him, tell him. You can't keep a guy in the dark, or keep him guessing.. it's not fair. And because of that, he'll probably move on.
You can do whatever you want. Personally, I would ask him how he feels about the girl.. and if he doesn't like her... I'd tell him that I like him.
My boyfriend and I are going to seperate schools next year and I think its going to be hard to stay in touch alot but we both really want to stay together because we love each other alot.. does anyone have any tips that will keep us from drifting apart?
My tips: phone, internet, hanging out.
He's going to a different school, not a different country.
You can still see him after school... and even if you were going to the same school, you could both wind up in completely different classes, and you wouldn't see him anyway.
His going to a different school gives you even more stuff to talk about with him.
There is a chance you'll break up though. And if you do, well, it wasn't meant to be.
Alright well there is this boy name Craig and we've been best friends since the middle of 7th grade and now we're going into the 8th grade and i mean i've always kinda liked him and after we becamse good friends he would tell me that he likes me but other days he would say he didnt like anybody but he always flirts with me and stuff and during the last week of school we kissed a few times and he told me how much he liked me but he doesnt want a girlfriend for the summer and i was getting my hopes up for next year (thinking maybe he'd ask me out) but now because its summer we've only seen each other like 3 times and i saw him the other day and we didnt talk to each other and i think it was because we were both really nervous but i dont know if he likes me anymore.. i know that hes a flirt and hes intrested in other girls but it seems like when me and him are alone that we both really like each other a lot and nobody else, things have changed because its summer but i think when school starts again things will be back to the way they used to but im not sure and i dont want to ask him if he still likes me because i dont want to be embarressed if he says no but my friend asked him if he liked me and he said he didnt know!.. I'm confused. Please Help!
If he doesn't know, then he doesn't know. It would make sense. He's interested in other girls... doesn't that bother you in the least bit? And you kissed this guy?
I hate to break it to you, but if he really wanted to date you, he would. Summer or not.