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who's the a$$hole ?
alright well there is this guy jeff who i used to date. after a bad break up we became really close friends, we told eachother everything and always laughed and had fun together. well he started talkin to my like everyday about a differant girl he liked, and honestly i didn't mind that much. i even gave him advice on rlationships, good advice. but if i said one word about a guy he always got mad and aggrivated. then one day he told me he liked me alot and would love to be my gf, so later on i asked him out. he said "i love you so much i can't stand a break up so friends with benefits???" well that was lame so i said no, just friends. then he got mad because he said i told him i liked him then asked to be just friends.... even though he did the exact same thing. well we forgave and forgot and he started talking about another girl and he asked who i would probably date because he heard that i liked some guy from my friend. i told him that i liked josh and he asked me out and i said yes.... jeff got mad and started calling me all these names and being so rude! i told him he was a selfish emotional loser... harsh but i was mad. then we forgave eachother and he said i love you i am sorry. now he is being really mean to me, always getting mad over nothing and if i get mad back he sucks up to me. so i told him that i was done with him, and we should just never talk again. after hearing him sob for a while i am beginning to think that i am the bitch? am i the mean one, or is he out of line?
p.s. im 14 f
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This guy is totally out of line. Friends with benefits? You guys are 14 years old! If he's a true friend, he'll support you in your relationships just like you support him in his. He's just being a selfish jerk.
♥ Brooke
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hey,
your not the mean one b/c you help him out, you give him advice and things like that. Hes the stupid one. You have to listen to all the girls he likes and you give him advice but when you talk about another guy he gets mad, thats not right! Good that you pushed him away......hes selfish and only thinks about himself. Look at the way he acted when you told him that the other boy asked you out and you said yes.....imagine when Jeff calls you and you are talking to Josh and you tell Jeff that you will talk to him later b/c your talking to Josh or you are going to go out with Josh....imagine all the things hes going to say to you then......granted he will ask you for forgivness and act like nothing happened.......you dont need all that drama in your life.......Hope i have helped. If you need anything else just ask me. GOOD LUCK!!!!!
Gorda1224
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this jeff guy sounds like a total loser you did well to move on
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I believe this Jeff guy is the one out of line.
You did what you had to.
~Long Lost <3
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This could sound mean, but... why are you even asking this question!? Re-read it... now think about it. You should have an answer.
If not, here it is. He's the one who's out of line! He's being selfish and a bit of a loser. I don't know even how to explain this one. If he's gonna be an ass, get rid of him. If he's going to cry about it, so what? He deserves it.
Someone needs to teach him a lesson, and that someone should be you. Tell him he's out of line, and if he's going to keep acting like this, then a friendship is out of the question. Don't put up with other people's crap. It's not worth it, and you don't deserve it.
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He's out of line. He has no right getting mad at you for dating. Especially if he is dating himself. If he can't handle just being friends then you might have to distance yourself from him until he can. :)
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no your being strait up with your felings and thats great you dont desereve to be put through this crap hes deff outa line <3
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you are deff. right i mean if hes goin to treat you like that and expect you not to do the same back the its def. not worht it or iff you feel like a bitch you can be like treat others the way you want to be treated and just talk it over and tell him if you dont change than we realy shouold never talk again..hope i helped
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he seems like he is too self centered to deal with just because he was a good friend of yours he still shouldnt try to take so much control over you like that. You have your own right to like and go out with whoever you want and so does he. So what you did... i totally agree with; maybe that will put him in his place and make him realize so to be so selfish. So dont even second guess yourself you did the right thing
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He's definitely out of line. I don't know why you broke up with him, but obviously there was a reason behind it. For him to want a sexual relationship without at least offering you a commitment is stupid. If he's a true friend, he'll support you in your relationships just like you support him in his.
You were right in your assessment that he's being selfish. He wants you around to help him with other girls and provide sexual release when he doesn't have a girl around. You're not being a bitch by wanting something more from this relationship.
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OKAY WELL iT DiFEENATLY SEEMS TO ME THAT iS HE THE ASSHOLE ! iTS LiKE HE CAN LiKE OTHER GiRLS BUT YOU CANT LiKE OTHER GUYS ! YOU DiFFEANTLY MADE THE RIGHT DESCIO0N ABOUT TELLING HIM THAT YOU SHOULD NEVER TALK AGAIN . i WOULD HAVE DONE THE SAME THiNG , AND WAT YOU SAiD TO HiM WAS HARSH BUT HE DESERVED iT CUZ WAT HE DiD T0 YOU WAS EVEN WORSE ! DONT WOORY HiS THE ASSHOLE HERE ! G00 DLUCK ! AD i H0PE EVERYTHiNG W0RKS 0UT ! ♥ X-0H
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He is completely out of line! He has been out of line before! He will continue to behave badly!
This guy is not your friend, he is a user and he is hurting you. He is telling you whatever he feels like to keep stringing you along, when you like him, he is all into some other girl, and when you like someone else, suddenly he is a possive asshole.
Please stop doubting yourself and letting him hurt you, stop supporting him when all he does is drag you down. It is very easy for girls to get traped in these kind of relationships, remember you have every right to get mad at him when he is a jerk. He WAS being a selfish emotional jerk!
If you wont cut this guy outta your life (which I seriously think you should because he is only preventing you from dating other guys who will treat you well) at least stop taking his feelings so seriously, because he obviously has no respect for yours.
Edit after feedback: You go girl! Stay strong and take care of your good heart :D
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