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I'm just some girl. I don't really stand out much unless I'm on a stage. I'm not loud unless I get angry. And I don't love unless its proven to me first. I've been hurt almost beyond repair by people I've loved and trusted. But I can only grow from that. I live my life by my own accord. I love my parents more than anything, they have given me an amazing home to grow up in, someplace I want to come back to. I have a boyfriend who has been my best friend for a long time, he's helped me get through a lot. We've been each other's rock when times got hard.I have my dreams and aspirations, and while some may not come true... the most important things is to know I've tried my hardest. I trust my intuition more than I trust any living person. My gut has never failed me, but unfortunately, I have failed it.
Someone once told me that I don't live in the "real world", that I live in a box - fortunately for that person, they never lived my life. My life is real to me, and me alone. I've been through a lot... I've been hurt, I've laughed.. I've seen life, and death... tears of sadness and tears of joy. I've felt every emotion known to man. Hatred, Love, Sadness, Joy, Ultimate Bliss, Anger.. So don't judge me until you actually get to know me. There's more to me than just about anyone knows. Even my closest of friends.
I'm the "Dear Abby" of all of my friends.
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so a year ago my mom moved like an hour away to live with her boyfriend now husband....and i moved in with my granny cuz i didnt want to move that far from everything...and my sis moved in with my dad....well eventually i moved back in with my mom its been about 4 months and I HATE IT ...my granny said that i can move in the downstairs apartment at her house. but i know im gonna feel bad my sis says i shoulddent becuz our mom left us blah blah blah
I don't know how old you are, but I am going to assume you aren't like any younger than 12. First of all, does your mother WANT custody of you, and if thats the case, why did she not make you move in with her when she moved? If the answer to that question is, she knew that you didn't want to leave your life behind and have to move into this man's house, then she understands how you feel. I think you should sit down with your mother and tell her how you feel. Both of you deserve that. Your mother will hopefully understand how you feel and give you her blessing to move in with your grandmother. And if your mother does not understand where you are coming from, depending on how old you are, you can make the decision on your own. Otherwise, I'm sorry to say, you might be stuck in a tough position that you will have to live out until you are 18 and then once you reach that age, you can move out. Hang in there. Your sister is right, your mother was the one who made the choice to move out, you are allowed to not like where you live right now. As I said, hang in there. And if you need any more advice, please feel free to drop me a message. I hope I helped you.
ok so last year i went out with this kid Ben right but he cheated on me now hes having a baby with the girl he cheated on me with. He called me about a month ago and told me he missed me and i told him my feelings i still had for him so i've been talking to him ever since and i kissed him a couple of times. and i dont know what to do cuz hes still with the pregnant girl and i know i shouldent even be talking to him but i need an outsider opinion.
P.S i ve also been seeing this other guy whose 22 im 16
I believe that he has a responsibility to the girl he got pregnant, and especially since she is still carrying his child, I don't think you should be pursuing(spelling???) anything with him. He hurt you in the past, and anyone who cheats on their significant other, in the way this Ben guy did, should not have a second chance at being with you. Its not fair to you, and its not fair to the woman who is carrying his child. You will inevitably get hurt if you end up going back to him, and potentially YOU could get pregnant in the long run, too. There are so many things to think about in a situation like this, and that is what sucks so much. You have feelings for someone who you know isn't right for you. I might sound cliche, but there are so many other guys out there who will treat you so much better AND they haven't gotten other people pregnant. Keep that in your mind and stay strong. My suggestion is to move on. Any baggage that he carries (aka his child) would be placed upon your shoulders too if you ended up back with him also.
Hang in there, hun. If you need anymore advice, please feel free to leave me a question in my site, ok? I hope this helped.
SODAS! I took up Mountain Dew and I put on alot of weight drinking it and I tried to stop it but its like going threw withdrawl. I get headaches and everything, I throw up and my stomach hurts and this always happens when I stop drinking it. I'm starting school soon and mountain dew wont be available as it will if I were home. What can I do?
My suggestion is, instead of stopping yourself from drinking it at a complete halt, slowly get yourself to drink less. That way your body can adjust to the new amounts and possible you can ween yourself off of it. This takes patience, but it might just work. I hope I helped. Good luck.
Okay, the thing is, I'm confused. I know this is going to sound stupid, but I need to ask. People are always asking about tips on kissing and making out. I've never done either of those things, but what gets me muddled is the whole 'it comes naturally' thing. I mean, is it really based on instinct, or should i be worried about my first time doing all those things? (I'm having a hard time getting my point across here, work with me). People ask things like 'where should i put my hands' and 'what kind of kiss' and 'how do you french'. Are those things that you really need advice about, or do they really all come naturally and people only fret because they haven't done them? Is it better to have people tell you how-to's so it'll go better, or is it all going to come together anyway? I hope you don't find me too silly for asking, I'm just(like I stated before) confused! Thank you to all who choose to answer
Oh boy, I remember being scared about kissing. But I never asked anyone else for advice for it, because I wanted my kisses to be personal. Well, the wait was worth it. The confusion died down. Everything just came so naturally. Your hands automatically go to wherever is right for the moment. Your eyes close. And if its the right person, you travel with the kiss. A kiss is something that does not require advice. Because advice gets thrown out a window in the moment. You don't think when you kiss someone, so its pointless to ask for advice.
I hope I helped.
What is a good line right before u kiss someone. bc im not a brave enough person jsut ot do it i need a line.
If you need a line, I have to say... You shouldn't be kissing anyone. Just go right out and kiss someone. Spontaneous works so much more than a line. Lines are incredible turn offs... Sorry...
I hope I helped in some weird way..
OK I REALLY NEED HELP. i am a girl and i have questions i will rate 5s no matter wat. ok well here goes: when i masturbate i usually rub it with something like a pillow or blanket. i don't really like to finger, i don't find a lot of pleasure in that. is that weird? please be honest. second thing: i don't know if i orgasm or not. it feels really good and i know that i'm "done" but i don't know if i actually Orgasmed or not. what's the feeling? does a bunch of stuff come out? more than the wetness before? how do i tell
Warning: this answer sounds really dirty, and there is no polite way to word this. Ok, well here goes...
Masturbation doesn't just have to be with your fingers. Hence the creation of vibrators and dildos that people use. Different women "get off" in different ways. You have no idea what some people use, and I am not about to write in here the things I have heard about. About the whole orgasming thing, I've never heard of their being a specific way for a girl to "finish", I've heard that its different for every girl. Some girls let out more wetness, some girls don't. When you feel "done", then I'd assume you have had one.
I hope this helped. If you have any more questions, feel free to ask.
whenever i use a tampon or take it out theres this extra skin.. its not like u can pull it off its thick.. n i dont kno what it is and im worried.. i dont wanna go see a doctor tho! Help me i rate high!
All womens' bodies are different. Some skin is, well, thicker or more stretchy than others. The skin you are talking about sounds basically normal. I don't think its anything to worry about. However, if you are still worried about this, talk to your mom about it. Tell her what you "found" and tell her you don't know why you have skin there or what it could be. I'm sure she may tell you the same thing I did, however, just to be on the safe side... I'd talk to her about it. Talking to a mom can always help. She's been in situations like that before so she can help you.
I hope I helped. If you have any more questions, please feel free to leave one in my inbox. Good luck, hunni.
Hi well ok see me and my friend were the bestest of friends then all of a sudden I start liking this boy , and he likes me but my friend said that she wouldn't get mad at me, well I called her and told her the news about us going out and she threw the phone across the room......
What do I do?>?? Plz Help me.......And Fast
Unfortunately, people are like that. Apparently she liked him (you didn't mention if she does or not, so I'm just assuming.) And now she's jealous that you have something that she wanted. I think the best thing you can do right now is to, just sit down with her and talk about what happened and that you didn't mean to hurt her. Remind her that she said that she wouldn't get mad at you if you started going out with him.
Hang in there, hunni. Things do get easier. Don't change your mind just because someone else doesn't agree with something you want. I hope I helped. Leave me a message if you need any more advice, hun. Good luck.
ive noticed that alotta people have questions on people they believe they are in love with and so on but sum of the people are realli young and i dont think that they notice that being in love and loving sum1 are 2 totally different things....well thats what i think i was just wonderin other opions on bein in love and just lovin sum1
The thing about just loving someone is... that "just love" can eventually turn into being in love with them... and sometimes it can turn back into just loving someone. It can fluctuate between the two.
Hey. I'm friend with a lot of guys in skool. they hate ehrn im not around. all they do is talk to me and stuff. i dont like any of them but, im a girl. should i hang out wit otha girl or stay friends wit the boyz?
Oh goodness, you are talking to a female who does not like to be around other girls because they are basically VERY petty. Girls fight with each other about everything and the world is a competition with them. I grew up a total tomboy, and I didn't have my first REAL BIG crush on a guy until 5th grade, because guys were just my best friends.
I am now a senior in high school and my three closest friends are guys. I trust them 100% however it takes me ages to trust a girl because well... Because of Petty Competition lol...
It is totally alright for you to have mostly male friends. So my advice is, do what YOU feel is most comfortable. Don't do something just because you think other people find it weird.
Hope I helped. Send me a message if you need anything else, ok? Lovies, SammyPie
At my school, I'm like the only one who doesn't know anyone in my class. I don't want to be left out. I want people to notice me. How can I get some people to look at me and say she looks like a nice girl or something. I want to get to know some people. I'm trying to take advantage of this! Thanks! -Charlee
I say your best bet to get people to notice you is to volunteer in class, and then when you have breaks from class, talk to the people in the class and let them know you exist. Make them WANT to get to know you.
Hope I helped. Good luck!!
Ok, so I'm friends with this guy. He's funny, smart, cute, he's got it all... but he smokes. Now, I consider myself a pretty good friend of his, and it hurts me to watch him basically killing himself with every cigarette he smokes. I talked to him about it and he insists that he is not addicted, could quit if he wanted to, and only does it when he's with his friends for "social reasons." I know in fact that he smokes at home and everywhere else. How can I convince him to stop destroying himself?! What would you do in my situation?
Wow... That is a really hard position to be in, and I fully agree with you that he is slowly killing himself. But I am afraid that your words won't do him very much because in situations like this, words aren't convincing enough. Just keep on trying to tell your friend what you feel about his smoking, let him know that you are doing this because you care about him and you can see that he is more than just smoking for "social reasons." He may not be too fond of your input into his personal life, but you are doing the right thing.
I hope I helped, and I hope you succeed in helping your friend regain years back onto his life. Hang in there. Send me a message if you need anything else (or to just keep me posted on how things are going.) Lovies, SammyPie
Ok...so i'm really popular and everyone thinks i'm hott and i really want a boyfriend...but none of the guys give me the time of day...WHAT AM I DOING WRONG! PLZ HELP!
Popularity and 'hott' isn't what will get you a boyfriend. Its personality. If your personality is great and not conceited, then I don't see whats wrong. Maybe its your age, or maybe its your maturity. I don't know. Sometimes its the guys fault not the girls. lol
hope i helped (which i dont think i did lol)
when you use the common application to apply for college, is it okay to print it out and mail it to the college instead of doing it electronically??
Why not just get the regular printed application and send that in?
how do you heal a sprained wrist?
Keep your wrist elevated and wrap it with a bandage to keep it all together. I've had them before and they suck. But moreso than anything else, try not to do too much with that wrist.
Hey Guys! Well I just moved into a new house and I have painted my room pink! I love the color! Just to give you an idea its the color of peptobismol! (lol.) I love all colors (especailly pink and black) and I was wondering if anybody had any ideas on decorating (please dont leave me any messages saying do what u wanna do. i want real ideas) Tell me anything from shelves to posters! Whatever helps! Thanks in advance! -Sonnie
Pink and black are good color mixers. So maybe if you put black shelves in your room and put black furniture in there, it would all pop out.
Hope I helped.
This question is gonna be long so moderators, please don't delete this question. I need to explain myself a little bit before I can explain my question. I'm a 14 year old girl, I'm 5'6, and I weigh 113 pounds. For all my life, I thought I was ugly or below average looking. I have never had a boyfriend but now I think guys are gonna start liking me and then I might get a boyfriend. Well lately, I've been getting great comments like I'm hot or really pretty. Today, I went to the beach with my mom and my sister because we had "to bond more" lol yeah right. When I was walking to the car to go home, a few African Americans and white guys hit on me lol. They said "Damn girl you're fine and you gots a nice ass and legs". After what happened today, I'm feeling more confident about what I look like. I'm going into the 8th grade soon and I think I might get a few boyfriends during the school year. I am done growing in height wise and I think my beauty phase is coming in lol because now people think I'm hot and stuff. Ok for my question, do you think I might get my first boyfriend this year because of what has and is happening to me? If this question isn't too difficult for you, I would really appreciate it if you can answer it. Thanks
I don't think its the "beauty phase" that will start getting you boyfriends, I think that its your newfound confidence. Let me explain, before you said you always thought of yourself as "ugly and below average looking" so you never had a boyfriend because of your low-self esteem. But now that your confidence is higher, you probably walk with your head higher and carry yourself better. Confidence is one of the top things that attracts people to you. Keep your confidence, and I am almost 100% sure that you will have a boyfriend.
Good luck, hunni. I hope all works out for you.
I'm an 18 year old girl who has had a string of bad relationships. I'm seeing this guy, who I really care about and love spending time with. The only thing is that every time I feel myself getting close to him, I pull away because I'm scared of getting hurt. I've been hurt in the past and used to self harm and was very self-destructive. I want to be as involved in this relationship as my boyfriend is but I hate feeling vulnerable.
Does your current boyfriend know about your past relationships? If not, I think you should sit down and talk to him. Let him know that you're scared of getting hurt again, but you still want to keep this relationship and make it stronger. That way, you can both build up trust in each other.
Hope I helped. If you have any more questions, feel free to leave me one.
in 1 year i have to choose between field hockey and soccer b/c the 2 sports take place at the same time!! I do not wantt o choose but i have to so what do u think i should choose or what woule be a good way to choose?
Thanks for the Help!!
Make a list of pros and cons. Which sport are you better at? Which one do you enjoy more? Which sport do you get more field time with? How long have you played each of those sports? Which of your friends play which sport?
Consider these questions when making your decision. Good luck. I hope I helped.
Ok this might sound so waird but....All my friends have done weed that i basically know or wanna try it theyre not pushing me into it but i wanna try it to like REALLY badly but i have second thoughts all the time like what if my parents found out and i dont wanna be llike that i wanna be a good kid well atleast i try to i dont know what to do!!!!
I say that ESPECIALLY since you are having second doubts about trying it... don't. Its a simple answer and its easy to say "No, thank you." You don't want to get possibly addicted and hurt yourself. Weed is illegal and you could potentially go to jail for smoking it. And also, you could hurt yourself badly by smoking it too (sick, etc) Also, weed has no real benefits. If you can't enjoy life without getting high, why bother getting high? It will just make things worse. What your friends do is their business, but what you do you can make a decision for.