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My boyfriend
I'm an 18 year old girl who has had a string of bad relationships. I'm seeing this guy, who I really care about and love spending time with. The only thing is that every time I feel myself getting close to him, I pull away because I'm scared of getting hurt. I've been hurt in the past and used to self harm and was very self-destructive. I want to be as involved in this relationship as my boyfriend is but I hate feeling vulnerable.
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Let your bf know about your past and tell him that you dont want to be hurt. but with you, Make sure that you are comfortable with him and just let your relationship take its course....go with the flow.
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Talk with him. If he really cares about you, he will listen and be patient with you. It sounds to me like you will probably be more comfortable discussing your issues one at a time, instead of dumping them all out on the table at once. All relationships have one partner feeling closer than the other from time to time, and no one wants to get hurt from a relationship, so that is normal. No one is worth harming yourself, though.
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if ur afraid of gettin hurt then maybe u should try being single for awhile and c wut happens maybe being taken isnt the ryt way to go for u ryt now. hope i helped =] x0xo
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well never self hurt yourself nothing is worth it, you mAY OF Had bAD RELationships in the pAST BUT IF YOU LOVE THIS GUY THEN DONT HOLD anything bACK BECUZ YOU NEED TO BE WITH PEOPLE THat you mAKE YOU FEEL GOD
SINCERELY asklANE
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Does your current boyfriend know about your past relationships? If not, I think you should sit down and talk to him. Let him know that you're scared of getting hurt again, but you still want to keep this relationship and make it stronger. That way, you can both build up trust in each other.
Hope I helped. If you have any more questions, feel free to leave me one.
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hey well if ur afriad of getting hurt in relationships then take a break from them!! ...everyone gets hurt in relationships and that is mostly becasue they fight over stupid reasons....when you guys are in a fight you need to be the stronger and better person and call him up and say sorry to him...or even if you kno ur right in an argument just tell him that you were wrong so that it would make him feel better....arguments are what makes all relationships stronger but the problem with couples these days are that if they have one argument they break up! if you fight way wya to much then that means you guys are spending way to much time together! so also you can cut back on the amount of time/days you are seeing him...couples do get in fights but its the stronger and more forgiving person that makes them better..!
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well you go with your instinct...you might care about him alot but does that mean you are going to be with him the rest of your life...maybe you never know...but if you are not comfortable tell him that you are uncomfortable and don't want to get hurt...good luck
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i kno whurr yu`r coming frum...becuz every person i let in my lyfe somehow hurt me...if yu think that it will be w0rth it to let him cl0se to yu... then open up...buh if yu suttin is tellin yu not too...maybii yu aren`t suppossed to let him..then again he culd be tha one...so0o jus think real hard if yu are willin to take that risk again -haley
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